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Harps
07-31-2009, 04:04 PM
Hi there! I am new to this website and think it is really fantastic.
I don't expect many replies today seeing as its Friday and all, but I wanted to introduce myself and also put out a request for help!

Here's a quick rundown:
I have been stuck between 150-155lbs for the past year or so and I have seriously had enough! I am 5'5" and want to ultimately be somewhere around125lbs. But honestly I don't really care what the numbers say as long as I am toned and fit and right now I am flab and cellulite and extra skin because I have been up and down in my weight my whole life. It has left my body war torn :( I made lots of bad diet/health decisions in my past.

I have been going to the gym M-Th for about 1-1/2 months now with cardio and a bit of weight training and I honestly don't see much of a difference in my body at all. I try (the word here is "try") to maintain a good diet composed mostly of veggies, fruit, lean protien and whole grains during the week. However I eat like a bit of a monster on the weekends.:devil:
Basically this has kept me in a maintainence postion instead of a losing weight position (and I am still pretty much all flab WTF?!)
I need help on the weekends desperately!!!
Oh and I forgot the best part, I am married to a man who can and does eat whatever he wants and is tall and thin:mad:

I need help with the weekends and I need some good ideas for portion control. I feel like nothing I do is good enough anymore! I used to be able to lose (and gain) weight pretty quickly but since I hit 30 its become impossible to lose!

HELP!


OH- and I look forward to getting to know and supporting all of you!

x
Harps


mescelestus
07-31-2009, 04:27 PM
I love the Ted Nugent reference! I have been known to mess myself up, by eating poorly on the weekends, and there is nothing I can really tell you to help you with that...maybe just that you will start seeing the results you want if you keep your weekend eating under control. Is there particular that you eat or crave (like pancakes?)...that you can have a healthier answer to?

Harps
07-31-2009, 04:45 PM
Ha! Glad you like the reference :D and thanks for your reply.
Well, my biggest problem is that Friday and Saturday the husband and I love to get delivery. Saturday afternoons we like to go to an Indian buffet! I know it sounds horrible but I am obsessed with curry and it truly makes me happy to eat it, Indian food is like a drug for me (I know I sound like a lunatic!) I also drink alcohol on the weekend. Not ridiculous amounts but I do drink it.

The thing is, I have been overweight and yo-yoing my whole life. I am try to be strict during the week so I can enjoy myself on the weekend but I must eat more than I think I do all around. I don't want to give up my few vices...

ugh...I think I am way off in my portion sizes or something (thats not including the buffet, lol! I know I eat too much everytime:devil:)


Jokan
07-31-2009, 04:48 PM
OMG, that is my story...u most have stole it word for word. I hit Friday and it's like my diet is on a vacation but all through the week I am as good as gold. I really want this to be the weekend that I don't explode because we are taking the kiddos to a water park on Wednesday. Now here's the kicker...today is my daughter's bday party. Lotsa goodies and it falls on a Friday :( Well, if u happen to find anything that works for u please let me know!!!

beerab
07-31-2009, 04:54 PM
I'm not sure what kind of weight training you are- but you might want to work a bit harder at it? Try heavier weights? Since you are female you won't bulk up like a man, you should tone instead. Maybe get a trainer at least for a few sessions to see how you can improve? Maybe overall you aren't pushing yourself enough?

Harps
07-31-2009, 04:58 PM
OMG, that is my story...u most have stole it word for word. I hit Friday and it's like my diet is on a vacation but all through the week I am as good as gold. I really want this to be the weekend that I don't explode because we are taking the kiddos to a water park on Wednesday. Now here's the kicker...today is my daughter's bday party. Lotsa goodies and it falls on a Friday :( Well, if u happen to find anything that works for u please let me know!!!

Aw! Happy birthday to your daughter, how old? I haven't had the pleaseure of kids yet! The husband and I have baby fever but we have to wait about a year before we can try :(

I will def let you know if I find any good tricks. I mean its obvious what we should do, its just that I can't seem to close my mouth, lol!

wendyland
07-31-2009, 04:59 PM
Ha! Glad you like the reference :D and thanks for your reply.
Well, my biggest problem is that Friday and Saturday the husband and I love to get delivery. Saturday afternoons we like to go to an Indian buffet! I know it sounds horrible but I am obsessed with curry and it truly makes me happy to eat it, Indian food is like a drug for me (I know I sound like a lunatic!)

I totally understand the Indian food thing. It's so good. If you have a Trader Joes around, they have a couple frozen meals that satisfy my curry tooth. One is chicken tikka masala and the other one is paneer masala. I usually buy one of each and heat them up in a pot together. My husband and I split the pot and sometimes buy garlic naan to go with it.

MugCanDoIt
07-31-2009, 05:04 PM
I can attribute my loss of only 1 lb this week to binging on the weekend. I guess I feel out of control after being on plan all week. I am striving for an on plan weekend for success on the scales. We can do it!

Harps
07-31-2009, 05:04 PM
I'm not sure what kind of weight training you are- but you might want to work a bit harder at it? Try heavier weights? Since you are female you won't bulk up like a man, you should tone instead. Maybe get a trainer at least for a few sessions to see how you can improve? Maybe overall you aren't pushing yourself enough?

Hi beerab! You may be right as far as not pushing myself hard enough. I suffer from panic attacks and anxiety so I tend to not go too hard at the gym because I of fainting/lightheadedness and then panic.

I do abs (set at 40lbs on the machine) and squats with a 5lb weight ball and leg lifts, push ups, I use an arm band for my triceps, just basic stuff for about 25-30mins and then I do the eliptical on level 5 averaging a 6 speed for 45-55minutes

thats my basic exercise routine. Personally I feel its not enough but I don't have time to dedicate myself anymore than I do, its already time consuming for me everyday after work! But perhaps you are right, maybe I need to be working harder while I am there

Harps
07-31-2009, 05:09 PM
I can attribute my loss of only 1 lb this week to binging on the weekend. I guess I feel out of control after being on plan all week. I am striving for an on plan weekend for success on the scales. We can do it!

thanks for the motivation! Its just so hard when my tall and skinny husband stuffs his face and loves to cook! He gets upset if I don't eat what he makes (I forgot to mention that!)

I hope you can stay on plan!

Harps
07-31-2009, 05:12 PM
Hi Wendyland!
You know I have bought Indian entrees before and they were alright. There is a vegetarian brand "Amy's". They are good, but nothing beats the resturaunt we have literally next door to us...it kills me...

We don't have a Trader Joe's. Is that a supermarket or a brand that makes Indian cuisine, cause I wouldn't mind trying it!

beerab
07-31-2009, 05:14 PM
If you are able to go and go and go then you aren't using a heavy enough weight. You should be able to only do 12-15 of whatever move at a time.

So for crunches say you do 12-15 and it's not difficult then up the weight, by the time you hit the 12th-15th rep you should almost be struggling to get that last crunch done. Remember to give your muscles at least a day break in between. I'd do like upper body one day, then lower body another day. :)

LostandLonley
07-31-2009, 05:32 PM
Honey, I totally feel your pain. From the weekend binging to the panic attacks and even with the tall, thin man in my life who is a great cook & DOSE NOT loose weight. I do pretty well Monday Thursday, but turn into gluttonous, junk food craving fiend Friday Sunday. To be completely honest, I have already binged TWICE today. I feel sooo horrible about it. I am going to try not to binge again this weekend. Good Luck this weekend Harps!

Harps
08-03-2009, 09:46 AM
Hi everybody! So I did HORRIBLE this weekend, but to be honest I kinda knew I would, I am a bit of an emotional eater and I had a rough week - I had a cold, an ear infection and it was my TOM, so I was like bring on the food!!

I ate fast food twice, the indian buffet and a slice and a half of pizza plus quite a few frozen alcoholic beverages. It was a banner weekend!!

Anyway, its a new week and a fresh start. I am going to try like **** to keep it together this week. The only good news I can muster is that I thought I had gained a bit of weight over the past 2 weeks, but it turns out I stayed pretty much the same. The gym does work for me, it works well,I just don't eat right, not right enough. Simple as that!

Thanks to everyone who replied and let me know how you did. Hopefully better than me!!

4girls
08-07-2009, 11:37 PM
I completely understand the weekend issues. I have a plan for tomorrow (Saturday). I made a plan to meet a friend at the gym and then we are going out to eat afterwards, but we have already decided we are going to the salad bar and getting it to go. Then we are taking our salads up to the park to eat and visit. When the weather turns a little cooler toward the evening I am helping my husband pour cement for our sidewalk (this has to burn a ton a calories because I know when we did the first section two weeks ago I was exhausted). Now I just need a plan for Sunday.
I have been really good about not buying junk food. Not having it in the house has helped and I have to drive 25 miles to the nearest store which also helps.
The only advice I can give is plan activities that will keep you away from food or at least the junk food. Easier said than done.

cher37
08-08-2009, 12:01 AM
...Well, my biggest problem is that Friday and Saturday the husband and I love to get delivery. Saturday afternoons we like to go to an Indian buffet! I know it sounds horrible but I am obsessed with curry and it truly makes me happy to eat it, Indian food is like a drug for me (I know I sound like a lunatic!) I also drink alcohol on the weekend. Not ridiculous amounts but I do drink it...

First off, I want to say that I did notice that the boards go a bit 'dead' on the weekends & that I think that this weekend warrior thread is in definite need!

Secondly, I can assimilate with you about the weekend food-fun-fair :dizzy: We, meaning hubby & me, have recognized that we tend to go over-the-top on the weekends and have started to limit our takeouts to 1x instead of 2/3x. Would if you decided to make a (lower-fat) curry recipe at home together one night?? Could be fun! Especially with a little bit of wine thrown in?! Little changes make a big difference! If I can offer a miniscule bit of wisdom - don't deprive yourself of things you love - just change it up a bit, so that it's healthier for you & enjoy!!!! :goodluck:

p.s. I'm sure I can wrangle-up a curry recipe if you want one :)

SunshineCA
08-08-2009, 04:29 PM
Hi Harps! :)

Welcome aboard! ;)

Harps
08-10-2009, 10:03 AM
First off, I want to say that I did notice that the boards go a bit 'dead' on the weekends & that I think that this weekend warrior thread is in definite need!

Secondly, I can assimilate with you about the weekend food-fun-fair :dizzy: We, meaning hubby & me, have recognized that we tend to go over-the-top on the weekends and have started to limit our takeouts to 1x instead of 2/3x. Would if you decided to make a (lower-fat) curry recipe at home together one night?? Could be fun! Especially with a little bit of wine thrown in?! Little changes make a big difference! If I can offer a miniscule bit of wisdom - don't deprive yourself of things you love - just change it up a bit, so that it's healthier for you & enjoy!!!! :goodluck:

p.s. I'm sure I can wrangle-up a curry recipe if you want one :)

Thanks Cher very good suugestions! I would love a curry recipe! We do make a Thai Green Curry at home which is sooooo good! But it has coconut milk and butter and oil. We cut it down a bit with light coconut milk, I can't believe its not butter and not too much oil...so I am not sure how "bad" it really is, plus we don't eat nan with it, just white rice. MMMM, I think we may have to make that again soon, lol!

How did you do this weekend?

Harps
08-10-2009, 10:04 AM
Hi Harps! :)

Welcome aboard! ;)

Thanks Sunshine!

Harps
08-10-2009, 10:11 AM
Ok, so I did alright this weekend, I only gained back half a pound!! BUT I did it the wrong way. I mean, Friday was good, a couple light beers and a normal low cal dinner. Saturday though...didn't eat anything until around 2pm and then had a Reuben sandwich with fries (and lots of Russian dressing!). That filled me up so much it was all I ate all day and then I had some drinks saturday night. Sunday I ate pasta and a small sandwich (turkey on light whole wheat).

All things considered I ate terrible food and in an extremely unhealthy fashion, but fortunately it didn't screw up my progress too much. I am back to being healthy and exercising all week. I am hoping to get down atleast 2lbs this week! We shall see...

How did everyone else make out??

rileyozzy
08-10-2009, 10:53 AM
Oh, I totally understand the Indian food obsession. We got take out this weekend and it was sooooooo good. I stuffed myself, but I let DH eat all of the leftovers. I usually would have stuffed myself the next day too. I do try to cook something Indian at least once a week, but nothing is as good as the take out. :T

cher37
08-10-2009, 10:02 PM
Hi Ladies :D

I did okay this weekend, except for last night, we went out for pizza hut & I gained 2lbs. So today I'm back at the exercising (walked 2 miles in 45 mins) & drinking my water.

Harps... which recipe would you like??? (I can PM it to you if you want)
1. Curried butternut squash soup
(147 calories, 2.4 g fat = 13.6% cal from fat)
2. Curried chicken with pineapple
(462 calories, 6.7 g fat = 12.7% cal from fat)
3. Indian-style red lentils with rice
(459 calories, 8.1 g fat = 16.3% cal from fat)
4. Grilled chicken breasts in mango-curry marinade
(263 calories, 2.6 fat = 9% cal from fat)
5. Malaysian chicken & sweet potato stew
(531 calories, 6.4 fat = 11% cal from fat)
6. Mulligatawny soup (Indian soup w. curried chicken, apples & rice)
(203 calories, 3.5 fat = 16% cal from fat)
7. Shrimp simmered in a curry-coconut broth
(393 calories, 7.4 fat = 17% cal from fat)
8. Tri-colored rotini w. currants & green peas
(326 calories, 4.4 fat = 12% cal from fat)
9. Tropical turkey salad
(181 calories, 1.2 fat = 6% cal from fat)

Harps
08-11-2009, 09:50 AM
Hi Ladies :D

I did okay this weekend, except for last night, we went out for pizza hut & I gained 2lbs. So today I'm back at the exercising (walked 2 miles in 45 mins) & drinking my water.

Harps... which recipe would you like??? (I can PM it to you if you want)
1. Curried butternut squash soup
(147 calories, 2.4 g fat = 13.6% cal from fat)
2. Curried chicken with pineapple
(462 calories, 6.7 g fat = 12.7% cal from fat)
3. Indian-style red lentils with rice
(459 calories, 8.1 g fat = 16.3% cal from fat)
4. Grilled chicken breasts in mango-curry marinade
(263 calories, 2.6 fat = 9% cal from fat)
5. Malaysian chicken & sweet potato stew
(531 calories, 6.4 fat = 11% cal from fat)
6. Mulligatawny soup (Indian soup w. curried chicken, apples & rice)
(203 calories, 3.5 fat = 16% cal from fat)
7. Shrimp simmered in a curry-coconut broth
(393 calories, 7.4 fat = 17% cal from fat)
8. Tri-colored rotini w. currants & green peas
(326 calories, 4.4 fat = 12% cal from fat)
9. Tropical turkey salad
(181 calories, 1.2 fat = 6% cal from fat)


Oh wow! Thanks so much! Yes PM them to me :)
I will take the Curried butternut squash soup - god does that sound good!! and the Malaysian chicken & sweet potato stew to start! LOL I feel like I am ordering, this is great
:carrot:

Rebound
08-11-2009, 11:53 AM
Harps, sorry if I'm late to the party -- I don't know how I missed this thread!

I was wondering what sort of pre-planning you do to prepare for the weekend. Do you have your meals planned out ahead of time, or are you finding yourself in the drive-thru lane because you don't have anything to prepare at home? Are you out and about and eating out because you let yourself get really hungry, or are you staying in and eating because you're bored and the food is close to hand?

I think that if you really want to get a handle on it, you need to identify where your determination is slipping.

I am usually pretty good on the weekends, and I attribute it to the following things:

1) I plan out my weekend meals just like I do my weekday meals. I have, on occasion, prepared them ahead of time like I do the lunches I take to work with me. This takes away the most dangerous excuse (to me, at least) which is "I don't know WHAT I want to eat..." Weekend dinners are on the week-ahead dinner schedule already, so hubby and I both know what we're in for every night.

2) I make sure to eat something for breakfast, even if I get up late. I'll make it something small if I'm eating breakfast close to the time when I know I'm eating lunchtime.

3) If I'm out doing errands I make sure to consider where I'm going to be when it's time for me to eat. If I go too long I get cranky, and that's when I make the worst decisions. I'll make sure to make time to go somewhere that I know I can get something healthy, or have time to go back to the house for lunch.

4) I've finally figured out my trigger zones in the house. If I'm just having a lazy day and lounging around with the dogs and the hubby, I get hungry and want to snack if I'm in the family room next to the kitchen. If I'm upstairs watching TV in the bedroom I'm like a whole different person. If the weather is nice I'll go out into the backyard with a book and a blanket and the dogs and lounge around out there. (Eventually the dogs stop licking my face and go about their business rolling around in the grass, sunning themselves like lizards, or sniffing everything they can find to sniff.)

5) So if I want to be lazy I can -- I just do it in a different room/area. But if I want to get something done, I've realized that if I keep my hands busy I don't get hungry. Whenever I find myself drifting over to the fridge I'll go upstairs, pop in a video, and fold some laundry or clean out my dresser drawers. Or I'll stay downstairs and vacuum or organize magazines. Even if I just do something for 20 minutes I find myself forgetting about whatever snack I was craving before.

So anyway, this was SOOOO long! But maybe there was something in there that will help you. I firmly believe that you only need to get ONE good day under your belt, and after that every day get a little easier.

:) Sorry for being so long winded!!

Harps
08-11-2009, 12:36 PM
LostandLonely
4girls
MugCanDoIt
How are you all doing? How are your weekends going??

Harps
08-11-2009, 12:48 PM
Harps, sorry if I'm late to the party -- I don't know how I missed this thread!

I was wondering what sort of pre-planning you do to prepare for the weekend. Do you have your meals planned out ahead of time, or are you finding yourself in the drive-thru lane because you don't have anything to prepare at home? Are you out and about and eating out because you let yourself get really hungry, or are you staying in and eating because you're bored and the food is close to hand?

I think that if you really want to get a handle on it, you need to identify where your determination is slipping.

I am usually pretty good on the weekends, and I attribute it to the following things:

1) I plan out my weekend meals just like I do my weekday meals. I have, on occasion, prepared them ahead of time like I do the lunches I take to work with me. This takes away the most dangerous excuse (to me, at least) which is "I don't know WHAT I want to eat..." Weekend dinners are on the week-ahead dinner schedule already, so hubby and I both know what we're in for every night.

2) I make sure to eat something for breakfast, even if I get up late. I'll make it something small if I'm eating breakfast close to the time when I know I'm eating lunchtime.

3) If I'm out doing errands I make sure to consider where I'm going to be when it's time for me to eat. If I go too long I get cranky, and that's when I make the worst decisions. I'll make sure to make time to go somewhere that I know I can get something healthy, or have time to go back to the house for lunch.

4) I've finally figured out my trigger zones in the house. If I'm just having a lazy day and lounging around with the dogs and the hubby, I get hungry and want to snack if I'm in the family room next to the kitchen. If I'm upstairs watching TV in the bedroom I'm like a whole different person. If the weather is nice I'll go out into the backyard with a book and a blanket and the dogs and lounge around out there. (Eventually the dogs stop licking my face and go about their business rolling around in the grass, sunning themselves like lizards, or sniffing everything they can find to sniff.)

5) So if I want to be lazy I can -- I just do it in a different room/area. But if I want to get something done, I've realized that if I keep my hands busy I don't get hungry. Whenever I find myself drifting over to the fridge I'll go upstairs, pop in a video, and fold some laundry or clean out my dresser drawers. Or I'll stay downstairs and vacuum or organize magazines. Even if I just do something for 20 minutes I find myself forgetting about whatever snack I was craving before.

So anyway, this was SOOOO long! But maybe there was something in there that will help you. I firmly believe that you only need to get ONE good day under your belt, and after that every day get a little easier.

:) Sorry for being so long winded!!

Don't worry about being so winded, the more advice the better!
Basically the weekends boil down to the fact that my husband eats pretty good all week too, or he cooks all week, so he likes to get takeout and delivery all weekend. We don't have much money, so we just stay home usually and eat comfort food.

We only have a one bedroom apartment, so as far as getting to a "safe spot" that can't really happen unless I actually leave the apartment, lol ;)
(thats a great suggestion though, and when we eventually get a house I will put it into practice)

My husband, he's just not anal about food. He has no need to be. He does find my distraction with it rather irritating. I don't blame him, he has never experienced someone who is neurotic about food. Its weird to him and fair enough...He doesn't think I am fat. So he really thinks I am a bit loopy. He just never gave food a second thought, never had to, never needed to, never wanted to...
So, its hard to pre-program our weekend food, but I will try. He and I don't have many pleasures or money so I don't want to take his take-out away from him. I just need to make better choices with the options I am given. Period. And that is definately do-able :)

I really like all of your suggestions, especially about keeping busy. I guess the husband and I just have major meltdowns on the weekend, lol! We are LAZY by nature, and we use Saturday and Sunday to be as lazy as possible (i.e. keeping your hands busy to distract yourself...maybe I should take up knitting!)

This weekend we are going to a Mets game. Its my husband's first ever baseball game (he's Australian) so you can bet its going to be Hot dogs and all kinds of crap! I just hope I can find something psuedo healthy to eat! :p

cher37
08-11-2009, 05:45 PM
...This weekend we are going to a Mets game. Its my husband's first ever baseball game (he's Australian) so you can bet its going to be Hot dogs and all kinds of crap! I just hope I can find something psuedo healthy to eat! :p

... could you bring some carrot sticks, an apple, flavored mini rice cakes, & a couple bottles of water?

Harps
08-12-2009, 10:59 AM
... could you bring some carrot sticks, an apple, flavored mini rice cakes, & a couple bottles of water?


I could definately try and sneak in some food, but I know stadiums don't allow you to bring water which is no biggie. The food may not work if they look through handbags or pat you down. This is New York afterall, they have lots of security at sporting events, lol!

I'll pack it. If I have to toss it no biggie, I'll figure something out ;)

Rebound
08-12-2009, 11:09 AM
I could definately try and sneak in some food, but I know stadiums don't allow you to bring water which is no biggie. The food may not work if they look through handbags or pat you down. This is New York afterall, they have lots of security at sporting events, lol!

I'll pack it. If I have to toss it no biggie, I'll figure something out ;)

You're in luck! I just googled the Met's stadium, and there is a Subway. Totally on plan!!!!

:)

You're golden!

Harps
08-12-2009, 11:36 AM
You're in luck! I just googled the Met's stadium, and there is a Subway. Totally on plan!!!!

:)



You're golden!

Ha! That was a good idea! Thanks for that! :) no more stress then!