South Beach Diet - Don't touch my food ! (bit of a vent)

First of all, my hubby has been home all week (driving me nuts, I might add !). I am totally not used to him being home this much, and bc of that, have my own routines, etc., so this is not helping.

My situation is this ..

He keeps getting into "my" food. I don't mean a couple bites or a few pcs of this or that, but serious eating. He eats a lot, and of course never gains weight. I really got annoyed and snapped at him because I went to have one of my turkey bites (I call them my saviour food ! lol) and there was none left.

Meanwhile, there is 3/4 bag of gardetto's snack mix, almost a full bag of munchies snack mix, cookies, and all kinds of stuff he could make to eat, but NO, he wants to eat my stuff.

I explained to him that I can't have that garbage, I can't make a peanut butter and jam sandwich, I can't eat 4 breads toasted with honey, but he can. I need the foods I am allowed to be there ready for me so that I'm not getting frustrated and eating something I shouldn't. I am determined to succeed this time, and that is why I have not been tempted by that stuff, but darnit, leave my turkey bites alone !

Am I being silly about this whole thing? Is it just another stupid obsession with food? For those of you that have other people in your home like spouses, partners, and kids, how do you handle this?

Sorry for the vent !
:dizzy:

In my home we ditched all the junk food. If it's not good for me to have, in order for me to be healthy, it's not very good for my partner to have either. Processed sugary foods just don't have a place in our home anymore :) We cut up lots of veggies and healthy snacks to have available for -either- of us to snack on or to offer to friends and visitors when they stop by :)

lucky you Eskinomad !

I would be quite content to not have that bad stuff around at all. Also because I would like to see him eat healthier too.

I thought it was fair enough that if he really wanted to buy that junk, then at least eat it instead of my good stuff lol

I don't think you're being silly at all. As difficult as it is to diet/eat healthy around someone else who isn't...being out of "good" food is just another road block. I feel for you!

Perhaps you can stock up on extra healthy food when he's around? He'd be better off eating your food than to eat junk. But yea, that'd drive me nuts too to have somebody eating my planned foods and not replacing them before they were gone.:hug:

I had a bit of a problem with this (not too much, cause luckily my husband and son weren't crazy about my snacks!) I had a basket that I put my stuff in and pointed it out and told them hands off! BUT occasionally my son would have friends over and my kids' friends know they can just get whatever they want without asking...I had to laugh and point out the basket and told them they would lose fingers if they touched my stash!

Next time hubs goes out of town, throw all that cr@p out and just keep healthy stuff around, then ya'll can share with no problems.

Make him sleep on the couch! :rofl:

Make him sleep on the couch! :rofl:

Oh geez no! That'd put him closer to her food at night! Better to make him sleep in the bedroom so she can keep track of him! hehe

I have the same problems with some of my food - cheesesticks, SF pudding, etc. But most of the time my kids think my food is weird and they say they won't touch it with a ten foot pole (beans, kale, Greek yogurt, almond butter). You can't really criticize him for eating the healthy stuff vs. the junk food. It is better for him. Maybe if he just asks you first, so you can plan on having enough for yourself when you need it.

I ran into this problem with my refried beans and now the veggies at dinner. I'd so rather DP ate the way I do so I'm buying less of the bad stuff and just making more of the good stuff (1.5 lbs of dried beans each week just for refried beans!).

Sorry for the vent !
:dizzy:

Don't be sorry about the vent!!! That's what we're here for! If your house is like my house, trying to make him stay out isn't going to work.

My DH is a buff, and normal weight food junkie. He has tons of snacks but Murphy's Law says that he will eat what I don't want him to eat.

I try to accomodate some of the healthy things he's going for like the chicken, or ff pudding. I am trying to replace the total junk (doritos) with something healthier (Barbaras Baked Cheese Puffs) ONLY because I am committed and totally temptation free at this point. :shrug: I wouldn't be really thrilled if I thought I was going to get up in the middle of the night and eat the whole bag.

My important and expensive foods like Ezekial Whole Grain Cold Cereal ($4.95/box)which he can eat in one sitting, FFSF Fudgesicles, etc are HIDDEN WELL. He will not find them. I always have several FF puddings hidden in the frig and an extra pack of turkey in the freezer. In our house, it's part of my "planning ahead".

Vent here all you want because if you discuss things like we sometimes do:frypan:, it may be more tempting to eat bad stuff.

i wanna know what turkey bites are! they sound tempting
*totally understands your rant thou* id be irked too

Oh! I know the feeling. Last week, while I was on Phase 1, my oldest son ate all of my fiber something or other cereal. I was planning to use that during Phase 2. There were tons of other cereal in the house but he decided he liked the taste of mine. Once that was all gone, he went back to the "other stuff", leaving me with nada. :shrug:

We pretty much share the foods but there are some things where I have to break out the good old Sharpie and tag my name on various items. My kids are used to the SB way and enjoy it. Our pantry has more SB legal stuff than junk food anyway. :)

Good luck with your DH. Before you know it, he'll be eating the SB way as well! :)

Thanks all for letting me know this is kind of normal, and I'm not alone :)

You all made me laugh lots.

Maybe I could put little mousetraps around hehe :lol:

anuh .. turkey bites are from Piller's. Not sure if you all have them in the U.S., but I'm sure you must, because normally, it's us in Canada that doesn't have what you guys have :) They're little smoked turkey sausages. They kind of look like little pepperette/pepperoni sticks. They're a bit smoked and seasoned and they taste soooo good. Nice to just grab from the package and snack on when you need something quick. They have 50 cals and only 3 grams of fat. I call them my "saviour food" because I've had a few times when I've let myself get too hungry and could easily grab the wrong thing, and I'll just grab one of those and then I'm good.

Check them out if you have them :)

That is exactly what happened at my house too!! DH decided he needed V8 juice, SF fudgsicles, hard-boiled eggs and my almonds!! :mad:

I got mad at first, then I was glad he was trying to eat healthier as well. So I just went shopping again and stocked up with more healthy choices for him (and the kids). If this is really going to work, the whole family needs to be a part of it, IMO.

I sooo get your problem here. Has happened to me too!

SO.. I went out and bought 2 rather large rectangular (stackable) plastic storage containers. Anything I don't want anyone else touching goes in there in the fridge. I also have one for non-fridge food. Everyone is well aware that if they touch the stuff in my storage containers.. there will be **** to pay. lol.. I have no problems whatsoever now. Maybe you want to try that, too?? :?:

Hope that helped!

i just looked them up..and found there website, they are only in canada.. but dang they look yummy

Of course you guys knew I'd post a picture. :lol:

http://www.pillers.com/images/products/turkey_bites.jpg

Of course you guys knew I'd post a picture. :lol:



And no one will give you grief over it too!

And no one will give you grief over it too!

:lol:

I hide things in places that they would never guess.
Old margerine tubs in the back of the frig.
Hiding things behind the veggies in the crisper drawer
always works.

My nut single serving packets go behind the coffee.

My hubby used to yell at the kids for touching his
"Atkin" food . I reminded him he may know what his diets foods are but the rest of us weren't on his diet and didn't know .

This has happened to me too, with my brother. Supposedly he's moving out next week (SUPPOSEDLY), so once he leaves it won't be an issue anymore. It drives me nuts, though, because instead of spending his money on Honey Buns, Cookies, and other junk food - he could spend HIS money on peanuts, veggies, and other healthy foods and eat his own.

\rant over

Ruby, I have had the same problem, and I can totally relate to it driving you nuts! When I started SBD, we only had SBD-safe snacks in the house for at least a year or two. Over the last five years, some things that aren't SBD-safe have crept in, and DH knows they are all his. In fact, he counts on it, as evidenced by his dismay and frustration the couple times I'd gone off plan for a weekend and was able to enjoy some of "his" stuff. :rolleyes:

On the other hand, there are times (especially on Phase 1), when I make something just for me and am ready to bonk him over the head for consuming it even though there are tons of other things he can have! :frypan:

It just goes to show that if you tell someone they can't have something, they just want it more...a lesson that can eventually help us. In the meantime, I'd do some serious tough love here. If he eats the last turkey bite, he gets to drive you to the store to buy more for you RIGHT NOW!!! If it's more frustrating to eat your stuff because he either has to make you more immediately or drive you to the store to get it, plus deal with your bad mood all the way there and back, he'll pick something else. In the meantime, if you are going shopping, you can ask him, "Should I get some turkey bites for you?"

That said, it's incredibly frustrating to me when DH wants to eat the stuff I order online for me even though they are really expensive and we can get inexpensive versions with sugar for him. So some things he just has to stay out of, period.

Hope you can find some good solutions. In the meantime, know that you're not alone! Planning to have things available when you get hungry so you don't go off plan is VERY smart! :idea:

Thanks again for sharing, everyone. It helps to know that you all understand.

I like the ideas of storage containers and hiding stuff too ! :lol:

It's funny, when I was consuming garbage, I could easily find ways to hide it from him, but yet I haven't done that yet with the good stuff. Go figure !

And, I don't mind sharing, as long as there is lots. It's when he eats the last 3 turkey bites in the pkg, and I go to reach for one and there's nothing and his darn cookies are sitting there :tantrum:

:) All part of it I guess.