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Minya
07-21-2009, 02:54 AM
My husband and I treated ourselves to Red Robin for dinner, I knew they had Boca patties and I could create my own sandwich. So we went. After ordering, the waiter came back and offered us a basket of french fries (fries basket's are refillable here) because we didn't order any appetizers. So I said "No" but my hubby said "YES"!! So here comes the waiter with a small basket of fries and I'm just sitting there wanting to strangle Brian (my hubby) and what do I do? I CAVED!

I was doing so well today and he had to say YES to the fry question! I ended up eating the french fries because my stomach was screaming at me and Brian was sitting there happy as a clam eating them....I'm so ashamed...

Because of that ordeal, I'm 260 calories over budget. T_T

But I don't want to give up because of one incident. Tomorrow is a fresh day and I can continue with the healthy habits.


Lila Leeds
07-21-2009, 04:21 AM
Eat, digest, move on. Don't beat yourself up. You lost the battle, but you will win the war.

JayEll
07-21-2009, 06:58 AM
I take it that your husband didn't hold you down and force french fries in between your clenched teeth? ;) So, be sure you don't make it "his fault." You are in charge of what you eat! :yes:

I've found that other people I'm out to dinner with often make choices that I don't like, but we all have to learn to deal with that. So, you had more fries than you had intended. It's too bad, but today is a new day. Next time you'll know not to touch the fries! :lol: Just go on with your plan--you'll see--the longer you stay with it, the better results and the easier it will get to follow it.

Jay


Heather
07-21-2009, 08:35 AM
I find in those situations that taking the first fry (or bite of bread) really is my downfall. I just have to abstain.

And while I agree with jay that hubby did not force you, it does make things easier if the fries aren't at the table. Maybe you could talk to him and find out what he was thinking (if he was thinking...). It's likely he didn't "need" the fries either! My hubby and I often agree to say no when they come with the free bread so neither of us are tempted.

you might have messed up, but you can learn from the experience!

annie175
07-21-2009, 08:37 AM
Yep, dust yourself off, and move on...one bad day does not spoil you healthy eating. Hugs

Mrs Snark
07-21-2009, 10:06 AM
Keep moving forward. Unfortunately, it is a fact of life that we have to learn how to eat OUR plan no matter what the others around us are doing. It is probably one of the most difficult things about adopting new habits and making them into a lifestyle.

You can do it!

beerab
07-21-2009, 10:08 AM
Meh it happens, next time tell him put the fries at the OTHER end of the table. It takes every fiber of my being to ignore them lol.

OR if I really want some I put a portion on my plate and that's it! I get no more than that portion- so I slowly savor it :)

AbbySinthe
07-21-2009, 10:11 AM
One day of 260 calories over budget is ok. :hug: Consider them some splurge calories and keep plugging along. Don't beat yourself up. You're going to have ups & downs but overall, you're doing great! You've lost 54 lbs! Keep up the good work xoxo

Rebound
07-21-2009, 10:22 AM
260 calories is nothing! Just say that you're trying out calorie cycling this week!

But all the other posters are correct -- it's HARD, but we can't expect everyone in the whole world to give things up just so that WE won't be tempted. My hubby is usually really supportive, but if he wants to chow down on chips and queso or order a dozen hot wings, it's up to ME to not eat them if I don't want to.

But really, 260 is nothing! You'll probably see an even BIGGER loss this week because you mixed up your body a little!

Onederchic
07-21-2009, 10:26 AM
First of all...breathe :D. You're only human. Most of us slip up on occasion. Considering the situation, it could have been a lot worse but it was 260 extra calories. That can be made up today by reducing calories or doing some extra exercises ;). You'll be fine. Just don't give up :D :hug:

Lori Bell
07-21-2009, 10:47 AM
Minya...

One thing I have learned here at 3FC is that EVERYONE makes mistakes. (Even skinny maintainers who have lost bunches of weight.) The difference in them and the difference in the old me was that one basket of French Fries would have meant the END of my "diet". It would have meant giving up...thinking of myself as a failure, and thinking I deserved to be fat because I didn't resist...THE END.

WONDERFUL NEWS... It does not mean any of those things. It means I have to keep going and try harder to keep myself out of the situations I'm prone to I screw up in. It's not over, it's not the end, it's a BUMP in the road....(One you hit on purpose, but never the less a bump).

Take back the control NOW. You have done fabulous in your journey so far, don't give up. PLEASE. You are a winner....now WIN!

mayness
07-21-2009, 11:06 AM
Eating an extra 260 calories will lead to you losing 0.074 lb less than you would have this week. Yup, less than a tenth of a pound. (A pound is worth approximately 3,500 calories.) I'm betting your scale doesn't even measure increments small enough for you to notice that.

Minya
07-21-2009, 03:34 PM
Lol, I guess I freaked out, but when I hopped on the scale this moring, it barely moved, so I'm happy that yesterday didn't affect me much. :D

Gela
07-21-2009, 03:43 PM
I'm glad to see the scale didn't move much. Today's a new day to keep plodding along. I must say last time I went to Red Robin I would have been thrilled to end that day 260 over lol.....darn those fries ;)

jendiet
07-21-2009, 03:47 PM
I don't think it is a mistake. I think you could afford 260 cs. And it was a special occasion. Do you eat out often? I would have ate the fries too. Better that than obsessing over every fry I see for the next week until I lose it and end up at Mcdonald's with a supersizer.

jendiet
07-21-2009, 03:48 PM
260 cs is .07 lb equivalent. You see? you will probably naturally make it up through the rest of the week.

Lori Bell
07-21-2009, 04:03 PM
I don't think it is a mistake. I think you could afford 260 cs. And it was a special occasion. Do you eat out often? I would have ate the fries too. Better that than obsessing over every fry I see for the next week until I lose it and end up at Mcdonald's with a supersizer.

Oops, sorry. I get myself in trouble when I call indulging in junk food a mistake. Of course eating french fries is totally acceptable on a weight loss journey. :ziplip:

CandieRae
07-21-2009, 04:34 PM
I have only been on my diet for 5 weeks and I've gone off plan a handful of times. I've still lost almost 16lbs. So no biggie, hon! Would I make a habit of it? No. But eating a few french fries this once will NOT affect your progress. And don't let it discourage you. If I would have gotten mad and given up after the first slip up, I would only have lost 5 lbs.

Minya
07-21-2009, 04:42 PM
I don't eat out too too often, we enjoy going to Wildflower where I can get my veggie sandwich and subway - mmm veggie delight, mostly around 300 calories when I eat those.

Today I'm going to pick up where I left off, just kind of procrastinating on my workout XD

Thanks for all the "pick-me-ups" guys, I needed it today. I think I'll do my shred in a few minutes. :D

mandalinn82
07-21-2009, 05:03 PM
One thing I have learned here at 3FC is that EVERYONE makes mistakes. (Even skinny maintainers who have lost bunches of weight.) The difference in them and the difference in the old me was that one basket of French Fries would have meant the END of my "diet". It would have meant giving up...thinking of myself as a failure, and thinking I deserved to be fat because I didn't resist...THE END.

WONDERFUL NEWS... It does not mean any of those things. It means I have to keep going and try harder to keep myself out of the situations I'm prone to I screw up in. It's not over, it's not the end, it's a BUMP in the road....(One you hit on purpose, but never the less a bump).

Take back the control NOW. You have done fabulous in your journey so far, don't give up. PLEASE. You are a winner....now WIN!


This.

Whether "Junk food" is a mistake is an open question. What I consider a mistake is mindless eating that I don't plan on and do without thinking. There's a difference, IMO, between deciding I'm going to get a burger and fries, working into my calories (or even deciding an event is special enough to me to NOT work them in all the way), and enjoying them, as opposed to planning NOT to, seeing them there, and eating them without having a plan. Doing the SECOND is what makes me feel like I lost control, and from the OP, I'm guessing that's what you were feeling too. :hug:

But Lori is absolutely right...there's no reason to do anything but learn from it, get back on plan, and keep trucking ahead. It's a blip, it's a minor event, and it's something that happens to everyone. What doesn't happen to everyone is getting right back on track, and that, IMO, is what separates successful long term losers/maintainers from those who struggle more.