100 lb. Club - Sorry in advance

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07-20-2009, 12:28 PM
This has not been a good start to the week. I ended a 3 year relationship last week, my heart hurts so badly. It is my TOM, it is raining, and I'm so exhausted from crying, and only lost one pound this week. The most suprising thing is I have not tried to comfort myself with food, but without that, I am not sure what to do.
Thanks for listening....
Ok, now a question, have any of you just not been hungry? I don't have much of a desire to eat. I am on plan, but just don't really care that much about eating, don't feel hungry. I know that this can slow down my weight loss too. So at the momnet, I am sad and in a panic.

07-20-2009, 12:53 PM
scarlet , I believe your desire not to eat relates directly to your emotions at this time. You are hurting , in a lot of pain because of the breakup. I think your appetite will return as you start to feel better emotionally. I wouldn't worry about not feeling hungry .

07-20-2009, 12:59 PM
I broke up with a long term boyfriend in January and I know its tough. We are all here to listen and to encourage you anyway we can. Don't allow ending the relationship to deter from your long term goals. You will get through this, and you will be happier and healthier.

07-20-2009, 01:21 PM
My heart goes out to you because I know that the pain you are feeling is the most difficult pain to bare.

I agree with bargoo, your appetite will come in time. If you need extra calories, maybe some orange juice? or milk?

07-20-2009, 01:29 PM
I'm really sorry life is so tough right now. :hug:

When I'm tired/depressed/sad, all I want to do is eat (but I try to resist) but when I'm really devastated like the beginning of 2006 when I was being threatened with financial ruin and joblessness, and the end of 2006 when my old Dog died (that was one crppy year) I did lose my appetite.

For a couple of days, I wouldn't worry but then, even if you don't feel like it, I'd try to plan some healthy treats for yourself, much like you might plan a medication if you were ill.

07-20-2009, 01:57 PM
:hug: I'm so sorry. sounds like everything is in a jumble. you don't have to handle everything at once. let yourself take a deep breath, rest and/or do things you enjoy: movies, book, shopping, walk in park, whatever.

07-20-2009, 03:07 PM
Sorry to hear about the breakup, they are so awful. :hug:

Just hang in for now. Get through it. I wouldn't force yourself to eat if you don't want to, I think that's totally normal for a break up. Some people go the other way.

Things are still too fresh for you to be dealing with the breakup and dieting and exercise, etc. Just go one day at a time the best you can for that day and give yourself some time to recover.

I hope you feel better soon. :hug:

07-20-2009, 03:21 PM
I think the only time I was ever 100 percent uninterested in food is when I thought my husband was leaving me. (Didn't end up happening but I was devastated) While some people binge with depression others loose their appetite. Just make sure your getting in some good basic calories and don't worry about it but do make sure you eat something.

I know this time is hard for you and it's hard to be interested in ANYTHING but maybe can you take up a class or something to distract yourself?

07-20-2009, 03:33 PM
You don't have to apologize to anyone!

Just wanted to say I'm sorry you're hurting and let you know we're all here if you need to cry on our virtual shoulders. Just be kind to yourself. That's the best anyone can do. :hug:

07-20-2009, 04:12 PM

07-21-2009, 12:05 AM
Oh, Scarlett --- I am so sorry!

I wouldn't try to force myself to eat right now -- do what your body tells you to do while you deal with this pain. I guess I would say to take your vitamins and when you feel hungry, try to eat good-for-you things. This will pass, as all things must, but I know that isn't much of a comfort at the moment. Hang in there, lady --- there will be a healing to match this hurting.


07-21-2009, 02:25 PM
Thank you so much my wonderful chickies! I am still hurting, but slept 12 hours last night which is something I rarely do. I feel much better, and more like myself. Thank you again for all of your support.