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07-20-2009, 10:04 AM
I'm neding a little incouragment today. Seems I've been in the 230's for weeks and the scale won't budge. I had some pictures developed so I could "see" that I have lost weight, but I can't see it! I know by the scale I have lost 40 pounds, but I can't see it and nobody else can either. I just feel like quiting today. I wanna eat everything that is in the house! I-haven't yet- so far just a 6oz carton of yogurt. I don't feel like walking today- I just wanna go back to bed and pretend all this fat is just a dream...............

I know in my brain I have to keep going, but it seems my heart is not in it. I'd appricate a few words of encouragment if anybody has any to spare today!

07-20-2009, 10:13 AM
I do know how you feel. It took 50lbs before anyone noticed on me or I could see it in myself. Sigh.

All you can do is Keep Plodding. I'm convinced that's the only way forward in weightloss; kind of get the blinkers on (is that blinders in American?) and keep going. It's not heroic or even very comforting but it's the only way forward and sure as hck beats rolling back. :hug:

07-20-2009, 10:32 AM
You have come so far already! Please do not give up because you or others aren't noticing. You will get there and the only way is to keep going like Ailidh said. The proof is in the scale and the measurements if you take them....it's happening and one day people will suddenly start noticing! It's funny because it's like something clicks in people all of the sudden...I know for me it was a few pieces of sassy looking clothing I wouldn't normally wear and probably the way I carried myself. I was/am very proud of myself and you should be too....41 pounds is a big deal!

It took me about 40-50 pounds for others to notice....it'll be harder for people that see you every day to see it including yourself ;) In pictures I just look funky and still don't stand right lol maybe it was all the years I spent hiding behind one!

07-20-2009, 10:45 AM
Don't give up!! You have to come too far to stop now!

One thing that's really helped me notice the drop is the pictures I have been taking of myself. I have never done that before losing weight and I think it's so helpful to realize where you started and where you are now. I would totally recommend it.

Also, there are those times where the scale challenges us and refuses to move -- but when we just keep going it'll all of the sudden shoot down.

Stay strong Healthy!! :hug:

07-20-2009, 11:23 AM
maybe you could measure your waist, thighs, calves, arms, etc so you can see the weight loss through inches lost. you can do that today with measuring tape and measure in a couple of weeks. just another way to see the huge huge progress you are making! stay in there!

Judy Lynn
07-20-2009, 11:30 AM
I had a quick look at your blog and guess what I found in the latest entry?

A friend is coming over to help me change some of my clothing. After 40 pounds nothing fits right!

**Ahem** If you clothing needs to be taken in, then your body is most definitely changing! Way to Go! That may be another reason no-one has noticed. If you are wearing the same clothes, but they are fitting better people are probably reluctant to say anything.

Keep up the great work! One day you will walk past a store window and wonder who that cute chick is! :hug:

07-20-2009, 11:36 AM
I feel the same way today, but all of the comments here are right. You have done an amazing job, what you are doing is working beautifully! Just keep doing it. I also agree, take your measurements. I only lost one pound this week, is TOM, and I want to stuff myself with crackers. However, I lost 1/2 inch off my waist. There is a reason your closthes don't fit anymore baby!

07-20-2009, 11:37 AM
Yes, keep 'plodding' (love that).

Because seriously, in my exact experience you are stretching to the outer limits of where it's not yet obvious/hugely rewarding ... but it's about to be!

You will be so glad you held steady!

07-20-2009, 11:52 AM
Go to the store and carry around 4 10lb bags of flour. See how quickly you get sick of them. Regardless of whether you or others have noticed, your heart has noticed, your veins and arteries have noticed, your gallbladder and pancreas have noticed. Eating everything in the house will only make you feel 10x worse. In trying to make yourself feel better with food you will only be punishing yourself. You're 1/3 of the way to goal! 1/3!! That's terrific! Just keep on going and pretty soon you'll be 2/3 and that's aaaaalmost there.

07-20-2009, 12:04 PM
No one's ever going to notice if you give up. Keep going and eventually someone will notice.

I've felt how you do so many times and I did give up and I put weight back on and more besides and ended up 308lb. You'll never make it to goal by giving up. Don't do it - keep going. You can do it - you are doing it.

No one commented until I'd lost about 50lb. The next 10lb or so really does make a big difference.

07-20-2009, 02:09 PM
oh, boy, I can relate to that. Sometimes I have such trouble seeing the differences, or letting what I see penetrate my dang brain. Logic (I sound like Mr. Spock here) completely refutes the idea that there's no difference in your looks after you've lost 40lbs. Sorry.

on top of my brain resisting seeing changes in my body, and the reality of how I look (both thinner and heavier, works in both directions for me) I think these tv shows like Biggest Loser, and all the dramatic before and after weight loss pics in mags and advertising has this weird programming effect that differences in significant weight loss will be HUGE (sometimes those pics represent 100 lbs, 200lbs, and more.)

reality check is that 40 lbs is significant and a great accomplishment. you're achieving your goals, don't let that need for speed overwhelm you (something I struggle with sometimes).

:carrot: 40 freakin' lbs gone!! :carrot:

07-20-2009, 02:21 PM
Yeah....what they said! Hang in there!! :dust:

07-20-2009, 02:43 PM
Everyone needs a boost sometimes-you are not alone. And I love that everyone here is so supportive. Forty pounds gone is something to be proud of and something to keep you going! GREAT JOB! :hug:

And I like the idea of going to the store and carrying around around 40lbs of flour.....that should give you a reality check of just how far you have come. You don't have to carry that around any more. How awesome is that??

I noticed someone's signature said "A year from now you'll be glad you started today".....so true.....you'll be so glad that you stuck with it!! :dancer:

07-20-2009, 03:30 PM
I think the mental struggle is the hardest part of all of this. Your mind likes to fill in the blanks so when it sees you (or when other people see you), the first impression is the same mental image you've always had. It's why people who have lost a lot of weight are often surprised when they don't recognize themselves or still feel fat. It takes time to override that image. You'll get there! You're doing so well, don't give in now!

07-20-2009, 03:32 PM
Thanks everyone! I went and walked today even though I didn't feel like it. We got our 3 miles in and then I came home and took a nap. I feel MUCH better than I did this morning. Whew.. So, I'm gonna keep on moving forward. I am so glad this forum is here. I know I would have given up a long time ago and I would not be at 40 pounds lost. I got to thinking that if I pushed myself out of this funk and worked hard I could probably lose a good bit more by this time next month. I think I got tired of working hard when the scale did not move, but it is not gonna move if I don't try. I might have to print out all these responses and carry them around for a few days.

You know this journey would be so much easier if it was just about eating the right foods and exercising, there is so much emotional stuff that goes along with it- urg I hardly know myself anymore!

Thanks everybody for being here!!

07-20-2009, 06:27 PM
I've been in that same place. I will tell you that giving up has not helped me or my health. Just keep going. You have it in you I know it. Before long you will see a dramatic difference.

07-20-2009, 07:34 PM
If you work your plan than IT will work for YOU! No one ever got anywhere by giving up... especially when they are WINNING! You ARE winning this war on obesity! Your body if nothing else knows that you have lost 40 lbs. Your joints, your heart, your blood. They know.

Keep at it. Visit often. You CAN DO THIS!

07-21-2009, 12:24 AM
. You know this journey would be so much easier if it was just about eating the right foods and exercising, there is so much emotional stuff that goes along with it- urg I hardly know myself anymore

Boy, you said a mouthful there! The eating and exercise are the engines that move us toward our goal --- no question! But NO ONE told me about all the other parts of this vehicle: the upholstery of weird little angers or the trunk full of tears that come out of nowhere or the insecurities or all the rest. And if I had to have all this stuff to make a car, why couldn't it be a Prowler or a Miata instead of a 1975 station wagon?? IT'S LIKE WE ARE ALL TEENAGERS AGAIN! Aaaarrrrrgh!

LOL! OK --- maybe not quite that bad!

I am glad to hear you stuck with your plan and are hanging in there. T'aint no other way to go to get to where we wanna get. Unless you can travel like this gal...:).....


07-21-2009, 01:25 AM
Good job on sticking to your plan and taking your walk, despite your funk. That's how this war is won, one small battle at a time.

I've lost 37 pounds and only a couple of people have noticed. Some days I feel thinner and other days I feel the same as before. In fact, I was thinking yesterday that I'd been stuck at this weight for WEEKS when in reality I've been here for about 8 days. I expect a downward drop of a pound or two any day. I don't lose weight very fast, so sometimes it really does feel as if I'm making no progress, but I am--thank goodness I have my charts and graphs to tell me that yes, I AM making progress!

Hang in there! You are doing it!

07-21-2009, 12:50 PM
Your doing so Well. Keep Up the Good Work! :bravo: Have you tried on some clothes in a smaller size? Have you taken your measurements? Sometimes we need NSV to help encourage us. I'm sure you feel better.

07-21-2009, 03:29 PM
I just saw your photo thread and I see a major difference! In fact it looks like you've lost a lot more than 40 lbs! You're doing great!

07-21-2009, 03:50 PM

o.m.g. That might be The Single Most Profound Thing I have EVER read on this web board. Wow.