Exercise! - Pilates Users - Does it Really Work?

06-27-2002, 03:44 PM
Hi everyone! I've heard a lot a Pilates lately - even seen infomercials on it - and have been wondering if it really works as well as is claimed. It looks interesting but unfortunately is not taught in healthclubs in my area. If anyone has tapes and uses them and they actually work, I'd love to hear some feedback.

One other thing too, I'm looking for good upper body (specifically arms) videos that I can do at home. Right now I have an upper body Kathy Smith video with weights and some tae bo tapes that semi-focus on the arms. Again, any tips or feedback would be great.

Thanks in advance,

06-27-2002, 04:50 PM
I practice Pilates 2 times per week. I does not burn many calories but boy does it tone - especially the abs. I started seeing results after 6 classes. My healthclub does offer it but you can do it just as easy with tapes. I use the STOTT Pilates series and they are very good. I got mine at Borders Book store. there is also a book called "The Pilates Method" which I recommend by Brooke somebody or another. (not a big help on that I know!)

Pilates is very much a fusion on yoga and calisthetics. The key is to hold your tummy muscles in tight while doing the movements.

Good luck - hope you love it as much as I do!

06-28-2002, 01:21 AM
You might want to check out Shape Magazine for the arms exercises. They do a nice focus of exercises for different body parts each issue. Might take a trip to the library to see if they have back issues and while you're there - check out the video collection. Might have some exercise videos you can sample to find one you like.

I started Pilates with a Denise Austin Video - Mat Workout based on the works of JH Pilates. I usually find Denise too perky for me, but this is a good beginner's video. It's not a high intensity workout but since it works the deep muscles in the abs and legs, after you're done, you feel it. This is one type of exercise where form is critical, critical. Pay attention, go slow and do it properly.

My health club didn't offer it either and a bunch of us ganged up on the club director and told her we wanted to see this offered. They brought in an instructor from the outside and we had to pay for the class but it was worth it. Any trainer worth their salt should be Pilates certified - beware of those who take a weekend training camp and then think they can teach it. You also might want to check out other health clubs or the YWCA. Many places will let you come in as a non member and pay per class. The instructor we got was actually teaching Pilates at a local junior college in the Phys Ed dept.

I was pretty impressed with it. Even after 3 weeks of doing it 3 times a week for 30 minutes, I saw results. You stand taller, hold your abs in and it improves strength and tone. It's a nice balance to a cardio and strength training program.

06-28-2002, 12:43 PM
Wow - thanks for the replies ladies!

The infomercial that I saw was for Winsor Pilates and it was endorsed by multiple celebrities. Normally, I'm not taken in by infomercials and especially not ones endorsed by celebs but for some reason this one reeled me in. I guess just because the exercizes themselves looked challenging and like they would actually work. I checked out the website and decided to give them a try. I'll get 3 different videos as well as a 10 day recommended meal plan. It cost $40 and I figured this was comparable to what I could buy in a store. So, I should get them in a couple weeks and then I can get started.

I am curious though, does it matter how overweight you are before you start to see results? I have about 40# to lose and more than lose the weight, I want to lose the inches. The worst part is that I'm hourglass shaped and have flab throughout - particularly at my lower abs. I don't mind doing the work, but I want to see and feel results relatively quickly. Will this program work for me?

Thanks again for the info, take care, and good luck with your personal challenges!

06-28-2002, 11:10 PM
Hi Sassypie,

Here's my 2 cents worth on your questions and a few tips that you didn't ask for but I hope you might find useful.

You asked if you have to be in good shape for Pilates. I was 70 pounds overweight with body fat all over when I started it. It's a strength exercise. Like any, you start out huffing and puffing and groaning. Over time, it gets better as you get stronger. However, as always, if you have medical conditions - your should consult your doctor before starting any new exercise routine.

Maybe I'm reading too much into your posts, but I get the feeling you might be looking for a quick fix. Pilates alone won't do it. As I said before, you need a solid nutrition plan (eating the right foods in the right portions), an exercise program that balances cardio fat burning like swimming, running, walking, etc 3 times a week for about an hour ALONG with twice a week strength training working the major muscle groups - shoulders, chest, biceps, triceps, abs and legs - a solid routine can be done in 30 minutes. This advice is both from practical experience and the advice of a personal trainer that I've been working with. It does take time but you will see results and build habits that will ensure long term success. Pilates fits in more on the strength side tho it mostly focuses on abs and the lower body. It should be part of your plan, not all of it, ok?

My last piece of advice has to do with eating before a workout. I always HATED eating before exercising - mostly because I was eating the wrong stuff and it made me feel sluggish and tired. The program I'm on now DEMANDS that I eat no more than an hour before I work out. I eat 2oz of protein (chicken, fish, turkey or egg whites - hard boil the eggs, eat the white and toss the yolk). 2 oz of protein is about 1/2 the size of your palm without counting your fingers if you're medium boned. Or about the size of your index and middle finger put together. I also eat 1 cup of a COMPLEX carb - med potato, rice or oatmeal - no butter of course - sweet potatoes are especially good carbs but no butter or brown sugar on it!. Pasta and bread are SIMPLE carbs and don't count as this carb requirement. Finish that off with 1/2 cup of fruit - stay away from cherries, watermelon, grapes - a 1/2 medium banana is best or eat a small plum, peach, nectarine, kiwi or 1/2 cup berries - strawberry, blueberry, raspberrie. The reason for this combo is - the protein feeds the muscles you are going to be working on, the carb and natural fruit sugar supply energy to your body to fuel your workout and give you endurance and stamina. Just remember - no fats, no white or refined sugar. It has to be natural foods. I didn't believe it until I tried it myself. I used to get pooped out midway through my work out and blamed it on being out of shape. What a difference eating this small meal made! I was able to go longer and felt stronger. And water, water, water. You can't get enough of it.

Beware of commercial protein bars, "diet" frozen meals and some "sports drinks". Many of them, while low fat contain alot of chemicals, high sodium and refined sugars. Not what you need! I keep reminding myself of the car analogy. If you put bad gas in your car the engine runs rough, the car stalls and the engine knocks. The same is true of your body. Just as you'd "gas up" before a road trip, make sure you fuel your body right. Don't worry too much about the calories you're consuming for the pre work out meal - keep it low fat, low sodium and remember that you are going to be burning calories for your workout. These are the kind that will be converted to energy. Skip the meal and go on an empty stomach and your body will use the muscle you already have to "feed" itself for the workout - sort of self defeating, don't you think?

Best of luck with your program. Hope you find success in meeting your goals!

06-29-2002, 12:59 PM
Hi Happy2bme!

Thanks for the advice and the car analogy especially. I guess I had never thought much about eating *before* a workout because I always thought I'd feel full and have a harder time moving around. Thinking of my body as a car though makes a lot of sense.

As far as looking for a quick fix (wouldn't it be nice if one really existed? - sigh) I know that it's not an option. I have come to terms with the fact that for me, diets don't work; and to be honest, I hate dieting and know it's not really worth the sacrifice and emotion that come with them. So I have promised myself that I will exercize and try to *take care* of my body rather than harm it. My biggest problem: I am a really picky eater and don't like to eat many of the foods that are good for me. Plus, I'm a complete and hopeless chocoholic - especially when TOM comes for his monthly visit! So, unfortunately, my eating habits always come into play.

Believe me, if I liked the goods foods and ate them regularly and exercized the way I am now, I'd have no problem losing the weight and keeping it off. It is frustrating knowing this, but I don't know how to *make* myself eat and like certain things when I just don't.

I am really curious though, you mentioned that watermelon, cherries and grapes shouldn't be used as the 1/2 cup portion of fruit and I'm curious why not? I absolutely love grapes and they keep me hydrated and are a source of fiber too (or so I've always thought). Is it just because they are simple sugars or is there another reason? Also, if working out in the am, what else can be used as a complex carb besides oatmeal? As much as I love it, eating it plain everyday doesn't sound like the best cup of tea - lol.

Thanks for all your help and advice - it's nice to have someone acknowledge and relate to what you're talking about. :)

06-29-2002, 06:04 PM
Hey there Sassypie,

You can eat grapes and watermelon and cherries - it's just that they are high in sugar and you should consider them like treat or snack foods and eat them in moderation. Look at the more low sugar fruits when you're eating for your workout.

As for complex carbs - that's probably the biggest restraint in my diet plan. Rice, potatoes (red, white or yams) and oatmeal are my choices right now. Gets kinda boring. If you work out in the morning you could have an egg white omlet for protein and "healthy" hash browns as your carb. However, I get up bleary eyed at 5am to go to a 6am water aerobics class. No way can I eat chicken or rice or potatoes at that hour of the morning so I find oatmeal or whole grain cooked cereal to work best. I usually have it with blueberries or a banana but you can also add unsweetened applesauce and a bit of cinamon for variety. Shredded wheat might be ok too but watch the sodium, fat and sugar in the cold cereals.

I wish I had been raised to think of eating as a means of giving my body fuel instead of using it as a reward and comfort mechanism. After all, I don't wash my hands because it's fun to play with soap - I wash them because they are dirty. I should eat to give my body nutrients but instead I was eating to make myself happy - whether I was hungry or not. Look at it this way, you have children. When they were infants would you have put a McDonald's shake in their bottle because it had to taste better than infant formula? Of course not! Maybe your kids are picky eaters now and they would be quite happy to live on a diet of chicken nuggets, hot dogs and kool aid. Would you let them eat like that or are you trying to push (maybe not always successfully) more nutricious things down their tummies because you want them to be strong and healthy and feed their growing bodies. Probably. So why is it that you care more about taking care of them than you do yourself? Just because you are a grown up is no excuse. In fact, you should know better - LOL.

So you are a picky eater. That's ok. But life is full of choices. I'm not crazy about doing laundry. I can skip doing laundry and eventually I'll wind up being either real stinky or I'll have to walk around naked all the time. So, I do laundry because I HAVE to do it. I'm applying the same philosophy to eating. You can continue on the path you are on and keep eating the way that you do ("I don't like alot of things that are good for me") and then you can watch a 40 lb gain go up to 50, 60, 100 lbs. Or you can resign yourself that sometimes you are going to have to eat things you'd rather not just because it's the right thing to do. And you can live with a diet and still be a picky eater. Just accept the fact that you will have to work much harder to find healthier ways to prepare the foods you do like to eat. The less foods you like, the more you set yourself up for failure by becoming bored after a while. I'm not a big turkey fan but I do like it with cranberry sauce. Maybe you can expand your eating plan to incorporate a food you aren't crazy about with other foods in the meal that you do like. Look at it this way too - it's HARD to overeat when it's something you don't like that much!

In reality, you really don't have to permanently do away with any food. The problem is that we don't have balance. We don't eat the stuff we should and we eat the stuff we should moderate way too often and in too big of a portion. Either find healthier ways to enjoy "bad" foods or eat them less often and you won't have to do without anything.

As for chocolate... sigh. I once too was a chocoholic. Had to give it up a few years back. After you get over 40 you get what they call adult onset acne. These ugly suckers are big and massive and they hang around your face for months. One day I looked in the mirror and counted 22 pimples on my face after a big time chocolate binge. I thought it was a cruel joke of nature that I should be 45, post menopausal and have to deal with teenage pimples! So I had to say goodbye to my friend. I also found that chocolate was a trigger food - the more I ate, the more I wanted. Don't get me wrong - I didn't give it up completely. Chocolate chip cookies (especially homemade) and M&Ms are the devil in my life. I can't resist them but limit them to only once every month or two. The 3FC website has a whole section devoted to Chocoholics Revenge. Check it out - you might find some ways to enjoy your chocolate in a more healthy manner.

And finally, you're quite welcome for the advice. That's what this forum is all about - a bunch of great people who have come together to share advice and support one another through the rough road of life. Welcome and don't be shy about sharing your thoughts...

07-01-2002, 09:20 PM
Ok, ok ok...I know, I know, I need to make better food choices - it's just really hard to do. I know that's just an excuse too - I wouldn't settle for that answer if it was coming from Jill Schmill - so I don't expect you to take it from me. I just wish I didn't want the bad foods *so badly* sometimes. Making the choice to not eat chocolate is always quite a challenge! I can always persuade myself and rationalize why I should get to have it. But I think the key is instead of allowing myself a treat once (or more depending on the week) per week, I'll try to stretch that time out to once every 2 weeks and then keep stretching from there. This gives me something to look forward to. I'll keep trying and you keep giving me a swift kick every time I start making excuses - lol!

I have to say though that I am SO excited to get the pilates tapes! I can't wait to try them out and see if they're anything like the other work out vids I have. If nothing else, it gives me a few more tapes to rotate in and (hopefully) not get bored so quickly. I'll keep checking back and let you know when I get them and what I think once I've tried them out. Good luck with your program and talk to you soon :)

07-02-2002, 12:39 AM
Well, you are human and so am I. After all that advice to you, what did I do today but go on a sugar binge. I haven't had any real sugar of any sort outside of fruit for the last 2 weeks. It started with 3 teeny tiny bite size Snickers (see I like chocolate too). My husband has a candy dish at work and asked me to pick up some candy. Even tho I put it right by the door where he'd have to fall over it, he didn't take it with him. I popped the 3 suckers in the freezer and umm were they good later. Much better than oatmeal! After that I had a can of Coca Cola - also my first in 2 weeks and I was a Coke freak. I finished off the evening with the last Klondike ice cream sandwich even tho I kept telling myself I should be crunchin' instead of munchin'. It's amazing how that sugar just feeds itself - the more you have, the more you want.

So, the moral of this story is... if you have chocolate each day, maybe you want to gradually wean yourself to every other day, then every third day, etc. Trying to stay away for a week just might send you on a bender too!

Keep in touch, am curious as to what you think of the Pilates.

07-02-2002, 09:42 PM
Hi Happy :)

Good point about stretching out treats too long during the start-up. I probably wouldn't be able to make myself do it anyway. As a matter of fact, I know there are 2 boxes of wanut fudge brownie mixes in the cupboard right now and the only thing from stopping me from making and eating them is that I'm lazy. Tell me *that's* not pathetic - jeez, the week before TOM kills me every time. I buy them during a weak moment and then they just sit there cause I know I shouldn't have them plus I'm too lazy to crack an egg and mix it up. What to do? I don't know if my laziness in this instance is good or bad :o

As far as your "binge", it sounds like you've done very well up to this point and shouldn't beat yourself up just cause you've had a small set-back. And don't feel like you have no room to give me advice because you do and I look forward to hearing it :) It's one day at a time and that's all you can do. Now you just pick up and move on to tomorrow.

Interestingly enough, even though I eat terribly and "treat" myself all the time, the exercize is really paying off. When I look at myself, I don't look as good as I would like but I definitely look better than I did. Even my dh tells me I feel tighter and more firm. As a matter of fact, he even told me I had a rip in my stomach - I about fell over cause he was right! My point is that as long as you stick to your program *for the most part* you can have results. It may take a little longer to get there and once you're there you may have to work a little harder to stay, but it can be done.

Don't sweat the sweet treats - just get back up and get moving! Talk to you later. :)

07-05-2002, 03:04 AM
Hi Sassypie,

Had to laugh at your post - sometimes procrastination IS a good thing. You are absolutely right about not beating yourself up. I learned a lesson from my sugar binge that will help me avoid future mistakes and that's what's important. (I have the same box of walnut fudge brownies in the cabinet. It's just too hot to heat the oven right now).

I bought my husband Krave Bars - I think they are new from Kellogg's - in the cereal bar section of the grocery and tried one myself when I was in need of a chocolate fix. They are pretty good and not nearly as sinful as chocolate candy bars. They are my friend when I will kill for chocolate and best of all, I'm satisfied with just one which I cannot say about regular chocolate candy.

You obviously must be more sensible in your treats to see such good results - congrats on finding a rip in your stomach - what a cool feeling! And again, you are right - you need to stick to your program AND focus on exercising regularly in order to really see results. I fell off the wagon for a day but hopped back on with more determination than ever.

Am working with a personal trainer now at the health club and I love it. Started going to hour sessions this week (was doing 30 minutes before) and I can't wait to see what I'll be like by the end of the month. I feel tighter already and I know there's muscle building under the flab.

07-06-2002, 01:35 PM
Hey there Happy!

I am soooo excited! I just got the tapes yesterday and watched them all (about 2 hrs). I wasn't feeling well yesterday so I just concentrated on the form and think I have a pretty good grasp on what I will need to do. It was interesting because I had no idea what to expect. The mood was real mello and the music that they chose was really calm. The instructor talks you through the entire time which is actually nice because she makes you re-think your form and focus on the muscles that you're working. I think it'll be a nice change from all the fast-paced workouts I currently have.

Those Krave bars sound great! I've never heard of them so I'll have to check them out next time I'm in the store. As for the treats that I eat - I eat it all! I absolutely love "turtles" or anything like them. My last weakness was Milky Ways and Heath bars; and it takes a lot for me not to eat the entire bag of peanut m&m's! :lol: But luckily (I guess) I only get the craving once/month and then it *usually* subsides.

I am a wee but jealous about your personal trainer. I live in a rural community (only 1000 ppl) and there's nothing around here like that. The closest thing is about 30 min away and they don't have any place for the kids to go. So, I'd have to find care 6 days a week, plus make the trek out there and back each time. That's just too much work and planning for me! It's easier for me to just work out at home and let the kids play or work out with me if they want. I guess you just have to do what works. Congrats though - I'm sure you'll get great results with him/her and your confidence will soar!

I'm gonna try the vids today and use them a couple times this week. Then I'll start rotating them in with my others so I have a system that works everything fairly equally. I'll check back in to let you know how it works. Take care :) .

07-07-2002, 04:57 PM
Hi Sassy!

I was surprised too at how quiet and calming the Pilates routine is. Both the Yoga and Pilates instructors at the gym said that people who are high energy types have a tough time accepting these as legit forms of exercise.

Do not be fooled by the mellowness... it's a tough workout! My husband said he never heard so much groaning out of me. But the quiet tone reinforces you to think about form as you have found. It's really, really critical that you do these correctly. I was also amazed that you can see results in as little as 3 weeks.

Glad your impressed! Hope you like it enough to stick with it, especially if you have to be trainer and student alike!

Now... I have to go dust off my tapes. Talking about this has motivated me to get back with the program myself.

Talk to you soon...

07-09-2002, 02:28 AM
Hi Sassypie,
Just wanted to say THANKS for starting this thread. I was thinking about getting back into this again and with all the talking we were doing, I dusted off the old tape and started back up again today.

Ooof-duh! So much puffing during such a quiet routine but I'm glad I did it and I know it gets better over time.

You're an inspiration!

07-09-2002, 10:47 AM
Hi Happy!

It has been my pleasure to start this thread! Actually, if it weren't for you, this *thread* never would have made it very far! :lol: I'm glad that it has inspired you to get out the ol' tapes and get going again. As for me just starting out, I can definitely say that although it looks calm, easy and relaxing, it packs a huge punch in the abs!

I have noticed that I have what the instructor refers to as a "delicate neck". This means that when I have to hold my head up for an extended period of time, it feels strained. She suggests using a pillow but somehow, I just don't think I'll get the same effect. I am using my abs as much as I can to hold myself up there but it still feels the same. I've noticed this same neck strain in other ab workouts that I've done in the past and currently so I hope it won't hinder my progress too much with Pilates. Any suggestions?

My dh is on vacation this week so I'm not sure how much time I'll actually get to exercize as we have many many "projects" to attack. I could probably consider many of them as workouts - cleaning out the garage, basement, carpets, etc. - lol! So I'll try to post some; but more than likely I'll start up again next week. Hard to say I can make time to post but not to exercize, wouldn't you agree? :p

Take care, put some oil on those squeeky videos and have fun!

07-10-2002, 01:21 PM
Hi Sassypie -

I have the same problem with my neck. I really noticed it after I did the tape again. There's another Pilates thread on this forum with a girl named Deberino. She gave some good tips on the thread - question for Pilates Video users or something like that. So I asked her for any advice on the neck thing. This is what she wrote back...

I know about neck pain- I actually do Pilates to keep my upper back and neck pain manageable! But I don't have a bad disc - just bad posture!

Anyways, you can do most of the excercises on which you lie on your back with your head resting on the floor. maybe roll up a little towel and place under your neck. Your neck is trying to hold your body up because your stomach is not quite strong enough. If you are raising the head and shoulders off the floor think of lifting with your sternum (the area between your breasts ) if your neck hurts lift higher with the sternum ( visualizing this really makes a difference). the same visualization works with the bicycle crunches (I really don't love those too much) - try to touch your shoulder or rib cage to the knee rather than your forehead.

Don't do the rolling like a ball or the excercises where you are lying on your back and you lift your legs up and over your head and shoulders- these take a lot of control and it would be too easy to roll back on your neck even if you are not supposed too.

Once your stomach and back are stronger they will be able to lift your upper body without craning your neck and you won't have the pain. Fortuneately for you the stomach is the easiest muscle to stengthen! Good luck - let me know how you do. It breaks up my work day to check out these message boards!

I'm going to try this myself. Hope you don't work too hard on your vacation.

07-15-2002, 06:19 PM
Hi Happy :)

Wow, it's been a week :dizzy: I hate to say it but I'm actually a little bit glad dh is back to work - now things around here can get back to normal - including my exercizing! I did what I could, compensating all the hard *labor* and interchanging it with my workouts. I think I only did Pilates twice but I really do like it so far. It's one of those workouts that I can do even if I don't really feel like working out.

How often did/do you plan to do Pilates each week? My understanding is that each exercize which targets a specific muscle group should be done approx 48 hrs apart so that the muscle has time to rest. I've often wondered if this was true for the abdominals. If I remember correctly, the literature that came with the videos recommended the 20 min routine 3 days and the 50 min routine 3 days/week. The videos are repetitive so I would be working the same muscles every time.

I'm sorry. I know I ask an aweful lot of questions. It's too bad there's no one else in this thread to help fend me off. It's just that you either live and learn or ask questions first and I choose the latter ;) ha!

I hope you're doing well with your routine and that your neck is not feeling too strained. I'd better get going to work on dinner for the fam. Talk to ya later :)

07-15-2002, 07:49 PM
Hi Sassy,

Welcome back. I think we all know what it's like to have DH underfoot. My husband has alot more vacation time than I do and I mostly work from home. When he plans vacation time and I can't be off, I go into the office! I love him, but it sure does disrupt the routine!

Hey girl, don't ever, ever, EVER apologize for asking questions. My theory is that nobody knows everything and you only learn by asking questions. Payback comes later on in life when you're the one with experience and someone else asks something then you're the "answer guy".

There's another thread on this forum - Questions for Pilates Video Users. One of the participants - Deberino is who I asked the neck question to. She was very helpful, I don't know how long she's been doing Pilates - longer than me. We might want to jump over to that thread.

As for your abs question. All I can say is that sometimes too much advice is no good. I don't have kids but I remember when my sister was pregnant. She started reading all kinds of baby books as first time moms are prone to do but stopped in her 7th month because she said everything started to conflict with one another. I'm working with a personal trainer right now. He told me that abs were one thing you could do everyday since you use your abs all the time and they recover faster than other muscles you'd exercise - for those you definitely need a rest. However, he was referring to crunches and Pilates works the core or deeper ab muscles. When I was taking a Pilates class last year, the certified instructor said 3 times a week was enough to maintain fitness. We found it so tough at first I'm sure no one would have CONSIDERED doing it 5 times a week. Not seeing your tapes, I'm just wondering if the 20 minute routine focuses on abs and the extra 30 minutes for the 50 minute session works the legs. Then it would make sense for the 5 day sessions - work the abs every day, do the abs and legs combo every other day or so.

My suggestion would be to post a question to Deberino on that other thread. I've been watching that one too.

My final piece of advice would be to do Pilates 3 times a week max. You should also be doing some strength training and cardio for a well balanced workout. You don't want to focus on Pilates and short change yourself on the others. Even the Pilates teacher said to combine a cardio routine a couple of times a week with the Pilates work out - on different days of course!

I'm really glad you like it. Hope we can keep up the conversations...

07-18-2002, 03:01 PM
Hi Happy :)

I just love your name - what a positive attitude you must have!

Well, did Pilates yesterday and because of the other workouts I do I didn't have *as much* tension in my neck. I really tried to concentrate on keeping my core tight and strong so as not to strain my neck too much. It was better but I still have a long way to go.

Another little thing I noticed was that everyone had their toes pointed throughout the routine. I can do this on some days but on others (like yesterday) I kept getting cramped up. It makes it really hard to focus on form when your toes are in a knot - believe me! So...can you feel another question coming on? :p Any tips on keeping cramps at bay - particularly in the feet?

I combined Pilates with an upper body routine and it seemed to give me an overall better workout - hopefully, I'll know I'm right in a couple weeks/months. Slow but steady - that should be my motto :)

See ya later - have a great day!!

07-18-2002, 10:41 PM
Hi Sassy,

Ah, my name... When I was in my 20's I had self esteem issues (still do a bit) and I wished I was prettier, thinner, more outgoing, bustier, etc. When I hit 30 I realized I didn't need those things and I could hold my own with the best of them. 30's were fabulous. Then I hit my 40's and the body starts falling apart (early menopause, thyroid, fallen arches, creaky joints and argh - bifocals!). Add to that tremenous stress on the job, corporate downsizing and no time or energy for anything and most of my 40's have not been a very good time in my life. After getting downsized again the end of 1999, I started doing some serious thinking about my life and reading up on the topic of living the life you love. It totally changed my perspective. Since that time, I have landed a dream job, we paid off our credit debt for good and now I'm working on improving my physical self. I'm happier than I've been probably EVER. I'm going to college and I had to build a website for school. Was trying to come up with a name and everything I thought of was taken. I started thinking about all the years I had compared myself to other people and wished I was different that what I was when I realized that people who seem to have perfect lives very rarely do, in fact most of them have bigger problems than me. And I also realized that I was quite satisfied with my life as it is and that it wasn't so bad after all to be me. So that's how I came upon Happy2Bme. Now that I've put you to sleep, wake up cuz it's time to move!

The reason they are pointing their toes is that the idea of leg work is to elongate and work the entire leg muscle from the hip. It is possible to flex your foot and push the leg out from the hip but it's easier if you're pointing your toes. But like you, sometimes my foot cramps so if it does, I alternate between a point and a flex or between moves point and flex the foot a few times quickly to "shake it out". I've also been told too that potasium is good for preventing leg cramps. You should have a tiny meal before you work out - proteins (chicken, fish, turkey, egg whites) will help fuel and build the muscles you're working to strengthen, high complex carbs (oatmeal, rice, potatoes) will give you energy and so will a small piece of low sugar fruit (plums, peaches, cantalope, nectarines). The best workout food is a 1/2 of a medium banana which provides sugar and potassium. Orange juice is also a good source of potassium. And of course, drink water throughout your entire routine. I never would eat before a work out and now that I do, I find I have much more stamina. Whatever you do, don't eat pasta before working out - your body works too hard to process it. If I work out in the morning I have oatmeal (1/2 cup cooked) with a banana and 1 hard boiled egg white - toss the yolk - too much fat and cholesterol. Day or evening workouts I usually have 2 oz (about 1/2 the size of your palm) of grilled turkey or chicken, 1/2 cup of white rice and a small piece of fruit about 30 minutes before I exercise.

That's a great idea about combining the Pilates with the upper body workout. Takes care of the whole package! I started to notice a difference with Pilates in only 2 weeks. I found without really thinking about it directly, a thought would pop in my head to stand straight, throw those shoulders back, pull the abs in. The first difference was in my posture and that alone can make you look 10 pounds thinner when you don't slouch. I'm still working on the neck strain thing too. Just remember there's workout/muscle fatigue and then there's plain old PAIN. Always stop immediately when you have pain.

I'll be looking for your picture - Sassypie the Amazon girl!

07-19-2002, 07:18 PM
Howdy Happy :D

I'm glad you have a sense of humor - you made me lol with the last sentence of your first paragraph. As for how you came up with your name, I think it's great. Really, I mean how do we grow as individuals if we don't go through struggle and hardship at some point in our lives? I think most people experience a phase (for some it's longer) of self-doubt and insecurity. We almost need to have that phase in order to find ourselves and become comfortable with who we are. I think women have placed so much emphasis on what we look like that *how we feel* doesn't even factor into the equation.

I'm going to be 30 in January and to tell the truth, I'm loathing it. I really don't feel 30 and wonder where all the time has gone. However, if you look at my life - married, 2 kids, dog, house, 2 cars, etc., you see that I should be *at least* 30. Ever since having kids I have struggled with my weight. I never really commited to a healthy routine. I find it interesting that I will feed my girls more nutricious foods than I will eat. I think part of it has always been apathy. I want to do something about it but never have made the solid commitment - until NOW.

Turning 30 and wondering where all the time has gone has really prompted me to look at who I am and why I'm here. I'm trying to figure out what makes me happy and what I need to do to be a better person. It's a journey everyone needs to make at some point in their lives - I hope to one day very soon be able to say "Happy2bme" and I commend you for making the journey and really working to be a better person. I hope you didn't have to sacrifice too much along the way. :)

Btw, thanks for the tip on toe pointing - it's one of those minor things that can end up being major if not corrected early. And also btw, if you knew what I looked like you would NEVER use the words "Sassypie" and Amazon" in the same sentence! I am only 5ft tall!! :lol: That also made me lol when I read it cause I was thinking if you only knew...

Talk to you soon - have a nice weekend. I probably won't be back til Mon - busy weekend ahead :dizzy: Bye!

07-20-2002, 03:32 AM
Hey Sassie,

Well, I'm 5 feet tall too so we'll be Petite Amazon Women - even more of a novelty :lol:

I hear you on the 30 thing. I'll be 50 in 2 years (aaaaaaaahhhhhh - birds have just fallen out of trees as the scream heard round the world was sounded). I've been having a problem with that for a year now because I am just too cool to be 50. My mom's 50 - really she's 76 but I think of her as 50. That's going to be a tough pill to swallow. The only thing that makes it tolerable is that I don't have to work 40 more years but the way things are going with the economy, that's a possibility I don't want to think about. Like you, I've been reassessing myself. Bad enough I have to be old but I don't want to be sick and lumbering on top of that. So, I'll try for the sexy buff chick mature woman image like Raquel Welch or something or maybe I'll just be the bag of fun that I am now, just wearing a smaller dress size. I give you alot of credit for coming to this point while you are so young. It will set you up for a lot of great things in life ahead, believe me. And will set a great role model for your daughters. The point you're at now, it's so easy for life to slide by unnoticed as you're busy with raising a family, establishing a career or whatever. I kind of think of it as sometimes we look back and wish we could turn back time and change things. I'm taking that chance now so I won't have feel that way 15 years from now.

With that, it's off to bed for me. Major committment to some serious housework this weekend. Hope you have a good one too, catch you later on in the week.

07-21-2002, 09:06 AM
Hey there Sassypie!

I was doing Pilates at a specialised fitness centre, where they mainly teach Pilates. I was only going twice a week, this was about a year ago, but i was still eating lots of junk and not practising the exercises @ home like i was suppose to. But iv recently started a whole lifestyle change and i will be joining back up there. I will still probably only go twise a week, as its pretty expensive, and im also joining up to a gym as well, and they teach pilates there too.

Im not sure if you can loose weight from it, but i do know it is excellent for flexiility and strength, which is why i would like to do it. It has become extreamly popular over here in Australia in the past few years, and nearly every fitness centre has pilates classes now! Give it a go, im sure you will find it a rewarding experiance.


07-24-2002, 01:44 PM
Good Day Mates :) (Hardy har har!)

Flutter - nice to meet you! Australia huh? I just love Aussies! So you're still doing Pilates and have been for a year - that's great! I would agree with you that I don't know if Pilates is really geared to help you lose weight so much as it is getting stronger. I'm doing it in combination with many other exercizes - strength, weights, aerobics, kick boxing, etc. So any weight I do lose will have to be distributed accordingly and credit given to all. Nice to meet you and hope you stay in touch. :)

Happy - in one word, hysterical! I cracked up when I read your post! I hear ya and I completely understand. You know, I really feel like I'm already having hot flashes - there will be some times when my face gets all flush and I just feel so hot internally. It makes me wonder if I have a shorter biological clock than I thought.

I also find myself making noise when I bend over or get up from sitting. It's like if I don't make the noise, someone might hear my old bones rattling too loudly! :lol: I have to wonder why my kids can jump off a 2 ft block and be totally fine; but I will land all stupid on my knees and then be sorry later. Ugh! the perils of getting older. You know, they say you're only as old as you feel; and it's changing your internal dialogue that makes or breaks your happy and healthy life.

Right now, my internal dialogue is telling me to get off this computer, do my workout and go outside with my girls. I think I'll listen. :p Talk you later!

07-25-2002, 02:28 AM
Hi Flutter, nice of you to fly in. You're right, the BEST way to learn Pilates is with a certified instructor. It's the rage in the States too, but if seems to be offered more in the bigger cities. If you live in a small town, there's not much choice.

Sassy - Hot flashes already? My body decided to go into menopause during the hottest summer ever in Chicago. At the time I was also taking some popular supplement for fat burning that made you sweat even more. I used to stand in front of the freezer - could understand before Hormone Replacement Therapy why ladies would jump naked in the snow when one hit. Then my thyroid died and I'd go from being hot one minute to freezing cold the next. But I dropped the supplements, got drugs and life is good now. I always said tho, better a hot flash than spontaneous combustion tho I'm sure they feel about the same...

Yes your body will start to creak - quietly at first but it seems to get louder as your hearing goes which I can't figure out. I saw on the news years ago that they have determined that old age officially starts at 30. The "glue" that holds your joints together starts to detiorate at 30. Isn't life great? The best part is when one day you're running across the street and there's cars coming when all of a sudden your leg or ankle gives out and you have to do this fast hop thing to avoid getting mowed over by oncoming traffic because you can't step on your leg. We used to see this in downtown Chicago all the time and I would be rolling on the ground laughing when I saw it happen to other people. I am sick and twisted but I didn't mind if they laughed when it happened to me too. The other day I was leaning against the car doing stretches and lunges when I started thinking geez, this is a new car, what the heck is squeeking. It was my knee! And I don't know if there's much of anything you can do about it but to just keep limber. I have done alot of dumb things in my life but one of the classics was when I was demonstrating to a girl how you have to stand for a mamogram (it was her first and she was nervous) and as I got into that goofy twisted position, my knee gave out, I fell down and fractured my leg and tore the ligaments in my knee. I got to haul around this spiffy leg brace for my 40th birthday. Tho I did heal in record time - squeeky knees not withstanding!

I do agree with you, it's all in your head. I see lots of people who I'm horrified when I find their true age. I would have guessed them to be ALOT older than they were. It's especially great when I find out they're alot YOUNGER than me.

Today my trainer's special for the day was teaching me boxing. I must have made such a face when he suggested it, but he's really great so I'll give any suggestion of his a try. I was shocked at how much stamina that takes! It was fun tho tiring and I hope to do it again. Of course after 20 minutes of that he made me do a ton of crunches and 40 minutes of weight lifting. But he is the best motivator I've ever met, I'm fatigued afterwards and can barely turn the steering wheel to drive home, but I do feel pumped for hours and look forward to my sessions. So I am in awe of you that you do kick boxing!

In fact, I'm going to bow to your honor all the way to the bed where I'm about to flop out for the night.

Have a great rest of the week!

07-26-2002, 01:03 PM
Good morning :)

I am so impressed at what you are doing with your trainer! It sounds like he's gotcha by the heels though - 40 minutes of weight lifting seems like a lot! But if you can handle all that, then I should be the one bowing to you!

Boy this month has been a terrible eating month! I've had way more than my share of cookies and I pigged out on tacos the last 2 nights! I need to find an eating plan that works for my picky habits and work off of that. Do you know of any sites that simply list the fat/calorie contents of individual foods so I could mix and match what I like, rather than having pre-set meals that I will ultimaltely substitute other foods into? I'll have to go check on that after I leave here.

I think I'm going to alter my workout routines also. Right now, I have 3 days of only aerobic and 3 days of only target muscles. I only do Pilates once, maybe twice per week. I'm thinking I need to mix and match a little more but still give my muscles time to rest. It seems like I'm always really working my legs and not my upper body as much. The stomach seems to be at par. Decisions, decisions :dizzy: .

Well, I'm gonna scoot. I want to check on those sites and not be on the pc all day. I'll talk to you soon - stay strong my queen :p .

07-29-2002, 12:14 AM
Queen Happy to Princess Sassy...

I did some hunting on the Internet in regards to your quest for a site listing calorie contents of foods. Found a great one for the U.K. tho you'd have to do all your shopping there since all the foods they list are particular to their brands :lol:

This is the kind of thing that people decided they can make lots of money from. I only found one for free that was quite extensive
it's really tedious to page through but it may suffice. You have to scroll all the way down to the bottom of the first page to find the NEXT button to get your further. Good thing you're a picky eater!

That's why I like the plan I'm on. I made a list of the things I can eat grouped by category - proteins, carbs, fruits, veggies, etc. Then I list each meal and portions - for example 2 oz protein, 1/2 cup complex carb, 1 cup veggies, 1/2 cup fruit. I've got it posted by the refrigerator and I just look at the portions, check the list and make my meal from that. Of course this will not work if you eat packaged foods which I don't . But it does make meals easier to pull together. I just find that I have to cook my proteins - chicken, turkey, hard boiled eggs, ahead of time so I've got something ready as soon as I need it otherwise I overdose on low sodium tuna fish all week...

Talk about bad eating - seems to be happening to all of us on the forum over the past week. Today I went to a kid's birthday party to see out of town friends that I haven't seen in a long time. Food menu was kid friendly - 6 foot subway sandwiches, pasta and potato salad, ice cream sundaes, chips and guacamole, potato chips, cake and stuff like that. The most healthy thing there was the cut up melon and fruit salad that I brought. So I was hungry and I ate. Not pigged out but I did eat. After that, the only scale I can go near now is the big ones along the highway that weigh semi-tracker trailer trucks. Guess I'll be doing some extra exercising this week! Picked up the Walk Away the Pounds tapes by Leslie Sansonne today - heard alot of the ladies like them. I've been trying to get my walking time up to 3 miles and tho I made some really good music tapes to march to, it sometimes gets boring. Will let you know if these are as good as they say.

As for strength training, you shouldn't do that more than 3 times a week unless you want to alternate between an upper body workout one day and the lower body the next. Start working with free weights or pick up one of those stretchy rubber tube bands with the handles on it to give you more resistance if you feel you're not getting enough of a workout.

Have a great week and a better eating plan ahead - for both of us...

07-30-2002, 01:35 PM
Hi Happy -

Going to be kind of short today - having dog troubles at the moment. Just wanted to say thanks for the site. I haven't had a chance to look it up yet but I'll get to it. I did get to Kathy Smith's site and she has a board where you can ask her questions and she will respond to them - and quickly too, I might add! I asked her if it was healthy to work out abs every day and she basically said not if doing pilates due to the intensity. She said they shoud be rested just like any other strength-trained muscle. So, that was good to finally know - I don't want to damage anything!

I have decided to re-do my w/o routine so that it's more rounded and not so lower body focused. I have it all mapped out and should start next week.

Your eating habits are so much better than mine. I really need to sit down and list what I like and put them into categories like you have and then go from there. It's not that I can't find the time, it's just that I haven't made the time to find the time - lol! Oh well, procrastination only makes it worse; and Lord knows I am the Queen of Procrastination!

Have a great day and I'll talk to you later :)

08-01-2002, 02:25 AM
Hi Sassy,

Tooth problems for me this week. An abcess turned out to be caused by a bad crown which required oral surgery. Not at top pace this week but I'm plugging away. Have been doing much better on the exercise than on the eating, no real binges but I'm not eating the mix that I should. Work's been busy and my schedule has been erratic.

Hope your dog problems have been resolved.

Thanks for the tip on the Kathy Smith site. That's a good resource to keep in mind for the future. Better to get answers from an expert when you can.

Did you get your new exercise plan mapped out or are you still thinking about it? I kind of did the same and joined an exercise challenge which is helping me to push myself more than I normally would.

Hope things are going well, catch up with you later...

08-01-2002, 08:24 PM
Hi Lady,

Saw this while crusing the MSN Home Page. It's got some good info on diet and fitness and getting started. In the GETTING STARTED ON WEIGHT LOSS SECTION, Step 3 SELECT YOUR PLAN gives you groupings for particular calorie ranges. At the very bottom of the page there's a link for FOOD LISTS which gives foods broken down by category and portions for each. Looked like something that was pretty easy to mix and match to your tastes - thought I'd mention it if you think it might help. Just click on the link below and it will take you right to the article.


08-02-2002, 10:42 AM
Happy - what can I say girl? You are my hero!

That link that you set me up with is exactly what I needed! I'd checked out a few sites too but hadn't been satisfied with anything I'd found - there's soooooo much out there - you could be on all day! So thanks for lookin out for me - I truly appreciate it!

Now, as for your tooth - yikes!! :fr: that sounds painful! I hope you are recovering quickly. When I had my wisdom teeth removed a few years ago I ended up getting a dry socket and was miserable for over 3 weeks! Had to go into the maxilosurgen almost every day for new "bandages" - what a nightmare!! I am sending my well wishes your way in hopes for a speedy recovery :D .

As for my dog problems, they are never-ending! We have a beagle who will be a year next month and is STILL not potty trained! We've actually had her since Dec and have had nothing but trouble with her in that area. We've talked/met with so many people and she still doesn't make improvements. I don't think she wants to try is the bottom line. Either that or there's something mentally wrong with her, which (unfortunately, fortunately - whatever!!) doesn't seem to be the case. So, with school coming up and me going back to work and no one to be home with her all day, we're wondering if we need to look at finding her another home. The obvoius problem being that she's hard to break, I don't have high hopes that we'll find a good home for her. Stress, stress, stress! :stress:

On to happier topics... I did change my w/o routine and am planning to do 6 days/week (same as before), rotating aerobics and strength training. It'll look something like this: Mon - aero....Tues - upper body/pilates....Wed - aero....Thurs - lower body/abs....Fri - aero....Sat - upper body/pilates....Sun - OFF. So one week I'll do pilates twice and one week just once. That should be ok since I'll still be working abs on my lower body focus days.

Well, I've been on the pc long enough and I have tons to do! Get well soon and try to have a great weekend - in spite of that tooth!! Catch ya later :)

08-06-2002, 03:14 PM
Hi Happy -

How's that tooth doing girl? I hope you're recovering quickly and pain-free, of course! Just thought I'd pop in to bring our thread back up to the top so as not to get lost in the sea of other posts. TOM has hit me kinda hard this month and I'm not feeling like working out today. I'm supposed to do aerobics and I just can't bring myself to hop around for an hour. I'll get back into it tomorrow when I can do strength training again. The first day or two is always the worst! Soooooo, I hope you're doing well on your program (if you're able to do it, that is) and I hope to hear from you soon. Take care :)

08-07-2002, 10:02 AM
Hi Sassy,
The tooth is going ok, thanks. Got a temporary crown so that makes eating a challenge because after a few days it comes off and I'm so paranoid about swallowing it! :fr: But I have to wait a bit for the rest of the gum area to heal up so they glued me up again and sent me packing with some cement to get me through the week. Sure does make eating a challenge tho!

DH and I are going away to visit his family on the east coast on Saturday for 5 days so I've been running around this week trying to get ready for the trip among other things. Time's flying by too fast! Didn't get to exercise last night, just was feeling tired and achey. Today is workout with the trainer day so I'll be able to catch up. Wondering what he's got in store for me today :s:

I'm trying to be good this week because the vacation will be a blowout. Hard to resist lobster and all the goodies that await me. I'm also not known for making the best choices when eating out. Told DH I wanted to make sure we got some good walking in - preferably on the beach. He's gotten on the diet and exercise kick too which is good. He even asked me to pack him a diet lunch to take to work.

Gotta run for now, will squeeze in one more post before I leave on the weekend. Hope all is going well with you!

08-07-2002, 11:16 PM
Hello Again,
This will probably be my last post for the week. Leaving for mini vacation on Saturday and I'm trying not to do my usual running around like a maniac not getting any sleep the night before because I left everything to the last minute.

Worked out with my trainer today. He gave me a bunch of exercises to do on the road. We started out on the recumbant bike and I didn't last very long on that at all. Uses a different set of muscles than the regular bike and he said even well trained people peter out on it. So I asked then why are you making a cow like me get on it???? I couldn't even make 10 minutes on it so he let me get off and go to the "easier" stationery bike where I had to do 15 minutes to make my 20 minutes of cardio. Then after my legs were good and tired he made me do about 8,000 leg lifts. I asked him if I could stop when my leg fell off. When it was time to switch sides I told him the other leg didn't want to do it because it knew what was coming. :lol: I told him when my glasses fog up he knows I'm really pushing the limits and today they got so bad I couldn't even see him for a few minutes. (It gets really warm and I must be putting out about 200 degrees, especially when I'm pushing to make the last few reps of the last set - so my glasses steam up). Exercise video instructors are never this hard. But I kid around and I really do look forward to these workouts. I was mostly doing walking on the treadmill but I think I'm going to start doing more bike work because I felt like a real weenie that I zonked out so quickly.

I hope you got your eating plan straightened away along with your dog woes (we had a cat with the same problem). Enjoy these last few weeks before school starts - I know I intend to! Talk to you in a week - have a great one.

08-08-2002, 12:58 PM
Hey Happy!!!

I hope you have a wonderful vacation!! It's awesome that you have exercizes to do while gone too - so you make sure and do them at least once! Picture me standing in front of you looking like your mother - one hand on my hip and the other out in front, shaking my index finger back and forth :nono: (but in a nice way, of course!) :joker:.

You are so lucky to have a trainer to watch/help you as you do your exercizes - form is so important and especially when we get tired it's nice to have someone put you back in line - even if it does hurt a little. I wear my glasses when I workout too cause I'm blind if I don't; and if I wear my contacts, I literally sweat like a fountain and would ultimately end up with burning eyes and crash into the wall or something! It's true - I've never seen another female sweat so quickly and so much - it's really gross and embarassing :o . What to do though, ya know?

Anyway, I'll miss ya and I'll probably post now and then just to keep this around the top. Plus it'll give you something to look forward to when you get back! Have a great time and just remember :nono:!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ;)

08-12-2002, 11:31 PM
Howdy Happy -

Just thought I'd pop in for a quick sec to get us back up to the top. Sure is lonely around here. This is when I wish there were more people who were interested in chatting with us. I find it interesting that soooooo many people are willing to check us out but none are willing to stick around. Do we smell?:?: There must be something going on - it drives me crazy not to know what it is!!

Anyway......I'm still doing the exercises but I'm getting to a low point with the motivation, I think. I'm finding that I'm procrastinating more and more - especially when I have to do aerobics. I would rather clean the toilet than do them :o !!! I need you to pump me back up!! I'm probably going to be going back to work soon and then I'll have an even harder time getting motivated to w/o. UGH!!! I need to get my priorities straight - I think I'm gonna go and do a little journaling so I can re-focus. Hope you're having a great time and can't wait to hear from ya :)

08-15-2002, 12:50 AM
Hi there Sassy and all you lurkers out there,
I'm back from vacation, full of clams and seafood and low on the motivation myself! Actually coming back is always a low point for me - hard to trade thinking about having fun everyday to the realities of job work, house work and diet work. It's also nice on vacation because I actually get 7 to 8 hours of sleep at night compared to my usual 4 when I'm at home - guess I trade sleep for hanging around the Internet :lol: DH has the rest of the week to goof off but it's back to the hamster wheel for me on Thursday. :(

Mr. Trainer gave me exercises to take on the road and I did take my stretchy band. I looked at it each day but of course did nothing with it except to repack it at the end of the trip. We did do some walking but nothing that really counted as exercise. I have a personal training session tomorrow and I know I'm going to cry or faint or both because I haven't done much of anything for a week but I don't want to weenie out and cancel so I will go and take my punishment.

I know what you mean about wishing there were more participants than lurkers around here. It's nice to talk to people. I've noticed about 1/2 the people who come over here post once or twice and then disappear. Don't know if they don't know how to get back here or what the deal is. I found out that my sister checks out this forum (Hello Seester :wave: ) - I asked her why she didn't participate and she said that she finds the threads interesting but because she's not on a diet or exercise program right now, felt she had nothing to contribute. So.. all you lurkers out there, why don't you talk to us?? I'd hate to think it's because we smell :lol: - you had me rollling on the floor with that one Sassy!

That's pretty bad woman when you'd rather clean the toilet than exercise! So.. how do we both get motivated again? School starts for me on 8/26 and tho I'm only taking one class, work is getting super busy and it's easy to get distracted away.

How about a challenge or pledge? Let's say you catch this post on Thursday so how about by Sunday you make a pledge to do a certain amount of exercising? I will pledge by the end of Sunday to get in at least 6 miles on the treadmill, 1 session of swimming laps, 1 training session and will do my crunches every day starting tonight (Wednesday) through Sunday. I'm really bad on sticking with the crunches... hopefully that will get me going again. Either that or I have to pull out the ugly fat pictures and take a good look again. What's your pledge? Don't let me down now! Have a great rest of the week!

08-15-2002, 05:41 PM
Ohhhhhh Mannnn!!!!!

A pledge? And at a low point too - is your nickname sergent? Ha ha just kidding! WELCOME BACK!!! Can I just tell you how *not fun* it is to talk to myself all the time! I have other places I post too (thankgoodness!) so I wasn't completely alone but boy, not much chat going on in the exercise forum period!

So no exercise on vacation huh??? (tisk tisk tisk). No, come on, I completely understand. It's always something that you *plan* to do and then you say to yourself, "I'm on vacation! I can exercise like crazy when I get home.", and then you get home and you haven't exercised in a week and you just don't feel like getting back into it. Blah! I haven't been on vacation and I still don't feel like it but if I don't do it, who's gonna? So YES SIR! I ACCEPT THE CHALLENGE SIR! HERE IS MY PLEDGE LIST SIR!

1) I will complete 2 sessions of aerobics and 1 1/2 sessions of strength training by Sun.
2) I will not eat the brownies that I begged my dh to make for me last night :o :o :o . I will let dh or the girls have them instead. (I'm really bad - I know!!)
3) I will drink at least 3 liters of water daily by Sun.
4) If I have pop, I will only have one can or less daily by Sun.

Enough already!! That's all I can do! I have a feeling the one that will give me trouble is #4 - I love my coke! Glad you're back and I'm glad you did this too! Now that I've committed, I can't and won't back down - til Sunday then!!!

08-16-2002, 02:10 AM
Drill sargent? Hardly :lol: I am in some serious need of motivation myself! I think I left mine under the dirty laundry or something... School starts for me in a week and a half - I don't want to go. I was working on another project at work and am seriously behind in my primary duties and there's NO TIME to get anything done. When I get that way I just get all goofy and I tend to drag my feet even more. The evenings just fly by :angel: I don't even know where they go anymore. So.. you drill me and I'll drill you!

If you pass up those brownies this week then you indeed are MY hero. I have a hard time resisting chocolate chip cookies and brownies.

So young lady... lets get with it now. Looks like the forum may be down from Friday at midnight until Monday morning so we're both on our honor here to meet committments.

I may have to swap out my walking for the exercise bike. I've got a big old blister on my foot that is hurting like the dickens and making walking just a no no. And :o I did weenie out on my training session today, but he will be waiting to greet me at the door on Monday.

Have a good weekend Sassypie!

08-19-2002, 10:52 PM
Howdy Happy -

Well?????????? How'd you do on your pledge? I did so-so... I did do all my exercise - that was that most important to me. I don't think I got all my water in - I kinda lost track mid-way through. I did eat one brownie just because I did BEG my dh to make them for me- I felt I owed him and me at least one :s: . And the pop, hmmmmm, the pop...well, I think I had about 4. So 4 pops in 3 days insn't too shabby considering I'm a popaholic! So, ok not great, coulda been better. I have made another one for the week (Mon-Sat). Here goes...

1) Do at least 40 min. exercise daily
2) Drink at least 3 liters of water daily
3) Have a max. of 1 pop daily (shoot for none)
4) Eat 3 nutricious meals and have healthy snacks between daily

So that's it. If I'm able to really do this right for one week, I think I can get myself to keep going. The hard part is not cheating! Actually, I've already blown #4 today. The girls were at Grandma's today and made peanut butter chocolate chip cookies :o . Yup - guess how many I've had so far? I don't even know - it's that many! I was reading the paper and eating them at the same time and lost track :o :o :o !

So now it's time to go workout and do upper body and pilates. I'll probably get sick trying to hold my stomach muscles tight. So much for willpower :dizzy: . I'll check in later in the week and see how things are going with you. If only I didn't love everything that is really really bad for me :?: ........sigh....... Talk to you later!

08-20-2002, 12:52 AM
Hi Sassy, you're posting late tonight...

So we had a pledge, huh? Well... :o I think I did the "un-pledge" myself. I have been in a funk since returning from vacation last week. College starts next Monday and just like a 7 year old - I donnwanna go!!!! :cry: I'm only taking one class but one night of class and 2 nights of homework (at least) will take a big chunk out of my week. I'm looking around the house and thinking of all the things I need to do and I just don't feel like doing anything. So I kind of didn't... I puttered around the house on the weekend, did some cleaning, and flitted between some things I wanted to do like go through my cabinets and toss out the little travel bottles of toiletries I bring home from hotels and never use and go through the 4 foot pile of magazines and catalogs that I'll look at "some day". And a squeezed in a nap or two. I don't know why I'm so tired lately, I think it's psychological rebellion because I don't want to do my chores. I didn't eat terribly but wasn't back on my diet either. Pizza on Saturday and a decent dinner on Sunday. I finked out on my personal training session on Thursday and figured Sunday night I'd better do something so I didn't pass out on Monday's training session. Told DH I was going on the treadmill and he suggested a walk outside. He agreed to slow his pace down a bit so I wasn't clutching my chest, gasping for air and wheezing and we set out on a nice evening walk. It was a great evening, a few white clouds in the sky with patches of clear sky. All of a sudden I felt wet on my head. Thought it might have been a wet tree from sprinkling but all of a sudden it starting raining like crazy. We're both looking up at the sky and it's clear overhead, just the stars shining. We couldn't figure out where this rain was coming from??? It rained on us all the way back and stopped about 10 feet from our door. Since I am such a sweetie made of sugar:s: , I didn't want to risk melting so I was done for the night - hubby went trotting for another 1/2 mile. I figure we got in about a mile or so.

Monday I was feeling tired and crabby but I was not going to wimp out on my training session again. I was 15 minutes late because I got stuck with a problem at work which didn't help my mood. But I did get there and we started out on the bike. It was really, really hot in the room with the cardio equipment and I was complaining while steam rose from my head - I could actually feel the heat from my head on my shoulders. It really got unbearable and I stopped short of my time because I thought my head was going to explode. Mr Trainer who is compasionate but pushes because that's his job made me finish out the 3 minutes to finish half of my session. I was biting his head off and snapping at him instead of just my usual whining. I did finish, wobbled off the bike and teetered over. I think I scared him. We went to just walk in the gym to cool down and I started hyperventilating. This has happened to me before and I know how to bring myself out of it, but it is kind of scary to whomever is around you watching it happen. Many times after we've done a strenuous workout, I've threatened to faint or scream or cry or just pass out and I'm wondered if he thought this time I was going to make good on my word. :lol: I did get my breathing back to normal, we went to a cooler room and finished with weights and the machines. I was in a much better mood when I was done tho he did take it easy on me the rest of the session.

While I was eating a quick lunch I turned on the TV. There was a woman guest who was born without arms. All she wanted in life was to live her life like everyone else - she just did with her feet what we do with our hands - she even drives a car. I watched a clip in fascination as she diapered her infant son with her feet. Unsnapped his one-sie, pulled up his outfit, pulled off the diaper, cleaned him up and rediapered him and resnapped the one-sie all with her feet! It was amazing. That sort of snapped me out of my funk. I thought, geez... here I am whining and look at this woman. I have nothing to complain about. I did have leftover pizza for lunch and tossed the rest away so I'd be done with it and had a cheeseburger and fries for dinner tonight. My reward for scrubbing the grout in the ceramic floor with a toothbrush to get the dirt out. But... I am back on the wagon and ready to continue like I should.

This time I am committed to my pledge:
- at least 3 times between now and next Tuesday on the Lifecycle for at least 15 minutes, hopefully 20.
- I have to walk at least 8 miles on the treadmill by Sunday to maintain my exercise pledge on another thread
- I won't be able to go swimming this week as I have to go into the office everyday for the rest of the week but maybe I can sneak in one session on Sunday.
- I will take my lunch and snacks to work so I'm not tempted to get takeout stuff.
- I will drink 2-1/2 to 3 quarts of water a day (was nice to sleep through the night a few times and not have the midnight potty run :sp: - I will miss that...)

As for the pop - well Sassy, up until I started my diet I was a dedicated Coca Cola junkie. On a good day I'd only have 3 cans, on a bad day sometimes I'd have 5 or 6. I thought I'd never be able to give it up. I missed it the first 3 days but after that I got away from it surprisingly. I'll have maybe a can or two a week and I often don't finish it. Doesn't taste as good as it used to and sometimes I noticed if I have one can with pizza, I'll want another right away. I think it's a sugar thing with me...

Anyway, enough for this chapter in my life. Good luck to both of us this week! We'll be Amazon women yet - Sarong measurements will be taken at 2pm on Sept 20. Have a good one!

I have also seen some of your other posts. You go girl on that Pilates!!!:cb: :cb: :cb:

08-23-2002, 06:23 PM
Hey Happy -

Sorry it's been so long since I've posted - this has been a very busy week! Oldest dd started school on Mon and youngest started today. I'm going back to work in a week so I wanted to "test" the evenings and see how things would run. So far, so good. The real test will come when I'm actually back to work for a few weeks and I start to crash - which I know I will do cause I'm a total type A :lol: . So, I've been on and I have posted, I just haven't made it over here - I'm sorry to have stood you up :( . I need to work out a system where I can make it to all my posts and just not be on so long with each one - I have a tendency to ramble (eh hem - clearing my throat) :p .

So anyway, hope you're feeling more motivated now than you were last week - sorry to hear about your hyperventilating episode - I can imagine that it would freak people out - that could be used to your benefit sometimes, you know? :s: I have done well so far this week with my pledge. I've had maybe a few too many oreos but otherwise, not too bad. Here's my pledge for this week (almost over) and it will be the same for next week too:

1) complete at least 40 minutes of exercise daily
2) Drink at least 3L of water daily
3) Drink a maximum of 1 coke/pop per day (Lord help me!)
4) Eat 3 meals daily with only healthy snacks if I have any
5) Be honest when reporting my food intake and don't withold anything - even though I will probably really really want to fudge the numbers to make myself look better - on my honor!

I gotta go get dinner ready so I'm gonna take off. I hope you're doing well and I'll try to get back before it gets too long. Take care!

08-24-2002, 03:04 PM
hi guys, I just finished reading all your posts, laughed my way thru most of them (including the part about you guys being smelly!!) & decided I would stick my nose in & join you!!!!
of course, now that you're both busy going back to work & school & all, I'm gonna assume it'll be pretty quiet on here & that'll get me off the hook!!!
I hope I can find this spot again to come back, but if not, please forgive me...tho I will try!!!!!!!
I post mostly on diettalk.com & have a daily journal going over there but I really enjoyed you guys so much & was thinking about starting pilates myself so here I am!!! I've gotten a few pilates tapes from the library but haven't actually done any....I'm also not as limber as I would like to be & find that my huge stomach gets in my way alot of the time...atz why I don't do too many crunches...but you guys have gotten me pretty motivated & maybe I'll give it another try!!
right now I do a workout video (mostly leslie sansone) every day & I have since june 19, to be exact....I might have missed 1 day the whole time & I really am very proud of myself for that!! I vary them between the step aerobic tape she has (I think it's the only 1 made that I can do the whole thing!!) and her 2 & 3 mile walks...I try to get out on my bike too as often as I can but riding alone is no fun so I have been slipping on that !!
I'm 45 & I think I am going thru some kind of menopause thing only cause my TOM is skipping some months & then hitting me twice a month for well over 5 days or so...no hot flashes so far & I'm not on any medication so we'll see what happens next!
anyway, I also lift weights, between the 5 & 10 pounders, every other day & also do leg lifts with 5 lb ankle weights....there are so many more things I feel I should be doing & I hope the more I learn the more I can vary the routine a bit! I had also started on weight watchers, but since I'm not a real great organized person, trying to figure out the points has been hard for me, so I just try eating lots of fruits & veggies, drinking water & trying to get in as much protein as I can (I recently gave up meat again, so occasionally it's chicken & tuna & salmon & lots of beans!!).
I've been out of work since december but I'm looking & once I find something I doubt I'll be online too much to write, but hey, with me ya never know!!!
we live in upstate NY (me & my sweetie & a dog & cat) & sometimes my son, who basically pops in to pick up some clothes for the week (he's been doing some freelance landscaping) so it's pretty quiet around here most of the time!!!
geez, I have been babbling alot, eh???!!!
but anyhow, I'll keep checking this out cause you guys are just full of good stuff!! I'm pretty motivated & I hope to stay that way!!!
take care!!!

08-25-2002, 12:06 PM
Well Hello MeAnBuji and welcome over to our little piece of grass here - hope you find your way back here again. I can give you some tips on finding this place again if you want.... Sassy and I are happy to have another person to talk to. Just be aware that we don't post daily so don't think we're ignoring you.

That is really awesome that you haven't missed a day of your walking tapes. Pass along to us some of that dedication, will you? Sounds like you've got a very great routine going for you. As for suspecting early menopause - that was the way it began with me. TOM got very erratic tho it still seemed to always time itself as a nuisance around holidays and vacations! After I skipped a few months and had it for 22 days straight :fr: I went to the doctor, got tested and they gave me the good news. Early menopause at 39. The hot flashes were never very bad but they set in eventually - hormones helped. I'm over it now finally but it's a process that takes years to peter out completely. My only suggestion to you is to start consider taking calcium supplements if you aren't already - you really start to lose bone mass at a fast rate at menopause. Keep up with the weights too as that is excellent for maintaining the bones!

Talked it over with DH and we decided to buy a new treadmill. He said he intends to use it himself. Costs an arm and a leg but I think it's a worthwhile investment. Of all the stuff in our basement, it's the one piece I use regularly. I'm excited as our old one is 15 years old and this one has a lot of neat features. I'll get a much better cardio workout - this is if this stupid blister on my foot ever heals. I've been limping along all week and I'm getting very aggrivated with it. We delayed delivery until the end of next month so we can do some cleanup/fix up in the basement. Speaking of which, I'd better get my keester in gear and go do some work. I was also cleaning out the cabinet and found that I have a Pilates tape from Living Arts that I never even opened. I have one of their beginning yoga tapes that I really like - it's good about showing beginning, intermediate and advanced movements depending on your level and I hope the Pilates will be just as good. I can't really do any walking right now so it's on my list after laundry and cleaning to try this out tonight.

Have a good week ladies. Will check back later!

08-25-2002, 12:19 PM
hi happy, thanks for the tips on the dreaded menopause!!! if this is the worst that it gets for me, I shall do no complaining, but it has managed to rear it's ugly head off & on for the past couple of years, so maybe I'm at the end of the cycle!! as for bad moods, I'm crabby all the time anyway so nobody would ever be able to tell!!! LOL!!!!
I hit the library yesterday looking for different exercise videos & found everything BUT pilates...so I'll keep a lookout, but I did find a book that I think I'll study & see what it alls about...I know that form is the key so I was hoping a video would be a little clearer regarding that, but the book is pretty detailed so I'll give it a shot!! I hope that video you found gives you a good workout, if so, pass on the name!!
I get so excited when I order new stuff!!! a new treadmill sounds awesome, especially since you actually use it & don't just keep it to hang stuff on like I did!! but mine was real old & really required you to dig in to get the rubber moving...not a user friendly item at all...yours sounds nice & I hope it brings you years & years of fun!! I love to go out walking but hate to go alone & my sweetie has really bad emphysema so he has to walk really slow & keep stopping. I don't mind when we're just out together for a stroll, but as a workout it just doesn't do it. that's why I like the videos so much I guess...at least till I get up the nerve to venture out alone!!!
well, so far it's beautiful out so I think I'll try getting out on my bike for a bit.... hope to talk to you soon!!!!!

08-25-2002, 04:58 PM
Hi Gals!! (notice the "s" ;) )

Meanbuji - welcome and nice to see that you did make your way back after all! Happy's right - please don't feel blown off if we don't respond right away - things are getting crazier around here by the minute and I can't be held responsible for the timliness or cohesiveness of my posts! :dizzy:

I think that it's great that you've been doing the walking videos consistantly - it can be so tough to keep it up sometimes - what's keeping you interested and motivated? I have been trying to keep myself interested, but sometimes it's just really inconvenient and it's simply the last thing that I have time to do. As a matter of fact, I said I was testing my "schedule" and by Friday, I was completely exhausted! I am going to need to re-tweak it so that I have a little bit more room to play with. Right now, every night is chocked full of fun things to do, like dishes, laundry, vacuuming, homework, baths, blah, blah, blah... I am trying to not have to do a lot on weekends, as this is the only time that we really have for "family time"; and therefore, every night is full of "stuff". Any suggestions ladies?

Happy - hope that pilates video is good and what an awesome find! It's kinda like going though an old purse and finding money in a pocket somewhere - love it, love it, love it! I can't believe you still have that blister on your foot - you poor thing! Have you tried using that New Skin stuff? I've never used it myself but they say it works like a band-aid but stays on like it's real skin. It's in the bandage section. Maybe this might get you up and going again?

As for my goals this week - I'd say I did excellent on the exercise, above average with the water (still need to drink more though), average with the pop - I'm almost out so this shouldn't be a problem next week unless I get sneeky :s: , and average with the eating - good with the regular food and need to do better with the desserts. I was honest all week and didn't withold anything - even though I wanted to sometimes - butI feel good knowing that I owned up to everything that went into my mouth.

Well, I should go. I don't normally post on weekends but I needed a BIG break from the family - things have been very tense here the last few days - I'll elaborate another time on this. I just needed the time to myself and now I feel a bit better.

Take care ladies and I'll check in later in the week.:)

08-26-2002, 01:08 PM
hey there sassy!!!

as for my my motivation & what keeps me going...me...plain & simple...I felt so much better when I was at my healthier weight, was happier, funnier, more assertive, less afraid...& when I gained the weight I got to the point where I didn't even want to leave the house!!! so I wanna be that person again & not be afraid anymore. I know it sounds stupid that I would let my whole life center around my weight, but I did & I do. I've lost about 20 so far, would really like to lose 30 more but even 20 more would put me back to a great weight, and I feel so much better & so much more in control again...what a great feeling!!!!
for me it's easy to find the time because there's really nobody here cept for me & my sweetie...no small kids going off to school & not alot of mouths to feed...but if I were in your situation what with school & dishes & laundry & all that, I guess I would make time to be with my family for dinner & homework but leave the dishes & laundry & do my exercise. I guess it's just a choice of making it a priority for your own good health & well being. just try to do as much as you can or even do some at lunchtime at work, like taking the stairs more or walking at lunchtime...it's hard, I know, but aren't you worth it?? to be better for your family you have to feel better & healthier first.
oh my god, did I just lecture you??!!!! I didn't mean to, honest!!! I got started & couldn't stop!!!! somebody slap me!!!! LOL!!!!
but seriously, reading what you wrote about the week you just had, I'd say you did pretty darn good!!!!
now try to relax & get some much needed rest!!! take care!!!

08-27-2002, 12:28 AM
Nyah, nyah. Sassy got a lecture! ROFL. MeAnBuji - you fit right in here just fine, so glad you stopped by. Actually you're right. I don't have kids either and it's alot easier to let things skip and make yourself a priority. I think Sassy should get extra points for having to deal with extra complications. :apple: and I should get an extra spanking when I don't put forth the effort because I have no excuses!

Well my foot is STILL a problem. Arghh. It's a blister that's deep in the foot under a thick callous and those take FOREVER to heal and it is.... Very frustrating, I miss my more intensive cardio routines. But! Even tho it is after 10pm, I did finish my homework for my college class tonight so I am going down to put in some quality time on that exercise bike. I may even pop in that new Pilates tape or do a short Limp Away, I mean Walk Away the Pounds. Maybe I'll just be a dancin' machine and wake up the hubby with my pounding.

Tomorrow is work with the trainer day and I am not up to speed yet for a demanding workout. But I will put on a brave face :hyper: :faint:

Catch up with you later...

08-28-2002, 02:28 AM
Ooof duh! What a workout. I can't really do walking right now and even the bike bothers my foot - it was healing and I went and got ambitious too soon and just set myself back. But creative Mr. Trainer said - No problem!

We did leg lifts. For 4 minutes. 4 different kinds of leg lifts. For 3 to 4 minutes each side. When it came time to switch sides my other leg didn't want to do it because it knew what was coming. Then we did crunches, different ones for timed sets rather than counts of reps. Couldn't neglect the arms either could we?:s: He even had me do a posture exercise. One whole hour of using nothing but my tubby body parts for resistance. By the time I was done I was drenched and sore before I even changed into street shoes. But... you know, it felt really really good. I had such a sense of accomplishment all afternoon and into the evening. I'm still happy :D My last couple of workouts have been not so good as I was not up to speed but I feel like I'm over the hump now. Just have to keep pushing...

Now, off to bed for me after a water and a couple of aspirins! Catch you later ladies.

08-28-2002, 11:06 AM
ouch!!! that blister really has to hurt!!!! thank god I don't have 1 of those...I am a picker, you see. I woulda had the callus chopped off by now, & woulda been diggin into that blister with needles already!!!! I know, pretty gross. my sweetie runs from me alot!!! I can't begin to tell you the damage I've done to his back already!!!!!

I just got a nice goodie in the mail!!! I ordered the leslie sansone 4 mile power walk!!!!!!! I have the 2 mile w/florine, who is the ceo of weight watchers or something & now I got the 4 mile!!!! should be a good workout for me!!!!

happy, I'm in awe of all that great stuff you're doing!!! I've been doing leg lifts w/5lb ankle weights & a 10 lb sitting on my thigh before I lift...can't do too many of those but boy, do I feel it!!! then I lift my inner thigh too!! what are some of the other ones that I'm missing??? I've been taking out books galore to find all kinda exercises, but my favorites are lower body cause that's where the big muscles live & you know what THEY can do!!! still not a big crunch girl, but I'm workin on it!!!
you musta been exhausted when you finished!!!!!

sassy, I hope I didn't scare you away!!! like happy said, it sure is easier for us to get these things done, without a house full of kids, so I know how hard it is for you....and I really do think what you've been able to do so far is terrific!!!!

well, gotta go eat my breakfast so I can do my new video!!!!!

have a great day, girls!!!!

08-28-2002, 06:59 PM
Hi gals -

Meanbuji - Noooooooooo!!!! You didn't scare me away, I've just been too busy to get over here! And your "lecture" didn't bother me at all. As a matter of fact, I need those from time to time so keep em up!

Happy - I didn't realize you didn't have kids. I guess I just imagined you as a SUPER SuperWoman! :lol: Sorry that blister of yours is giving you so much trouble but glad to hear that you have a good trainer :s: . You see, he and I have been chatting, and I told him not to go easy on you no matter what you said! Even if you started your little hyperventilating trick! "No problem", he said. "Leave it to me :devil: ".

Well, I start back to work on Tues. 8am -2pm. This gives me time to get the girls from school, run errands and get home at a decent time. Once I start, I will try to get here as often as I can; but my workouts will have to be done in the evenings in order to accomplish everything else on my plate. By the time I get done, I can't guarantee that I'll want to get on the pc :dizzy: . So keep chattin away - I'll catch up and interject when I really feel the 2 o' ya are gangin up on me! Until then.....stay strong and focused!!

OH, btw - dh and I are going to see The Dave Matthews Band this weekend - we are SOOOOO excited! We will actually have a whole day and a half to ourselves - which we desperately need! I'll letcha know how it was! Take care :)

08-29-2002, 08:47 PM
sassy, gang up on you?? NEVER!!! just watching out for your well being...it's fun to nag, ya know!!!???? LOL!!!!
Oh, you'll have a great time seeing dave!!!! isn't he awesome!!!!
well, this is just a quickie for me cause I gotta go make my chocolate sorbet...it's my sweet stuff that I add to my yogurt before I freeze it...a late nite goodie treat!!!!!
happy, how are ya???!!! keeping busy I see!! hope all is well with you...

have a great night buddies!!!!

08-29-2002, 11:25 PM
hi girls (WOMEN!! ;) )

I'm gonna start a new thread so that this one doesn't get sooooo long. I'll call it "Calling all Pilates Users!". Then every time we get to 3 or 4 pages, I'll start another one- k? Hope to see you there!

08-30-2002, 08:11 PM
sounds good to me!!!

I'll be on the lookout for it!!!!!