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Tracy
07-03-2009, 10:36 PM
Hi,
I was wondering if an one has any ideas for my dog. I live alone with Simon.I had another dog that died in Dec. He took a heart attack right in front of me,and I could not help him.The problem w/Simon is he seems to want another dog around, When he saw a litlle dog walking near our house ,he start crying.I try hard to keep him amused,taking him for rides,playing w/him. He used to love to play ball. Now,not so much.I just can't get another dog right now. Simon is 8 yrs. old. He is healthy. He had a checkup in May.The problem is getting worse.If you have any suggestions ,Please help,Thank You


mags
07-03-2009, 10:41 PM
It sounds like Simon is lonely. Can you take him to a dog park or have doggy "play dates" with friends or neighbors who have dogs? Or take an obedience class with Simon so he can make doggy friends?

EZMONEY
07-03-2009, 10:48 PM
I agree with Mags...sorry for your loss.


melwolfe
07-03-2009, 10:53 PM
I'm so sorry!

I know exactly what you mean. We had to put our older dog down a few months ago and it just about killed us. He was 13 and just stopped eating and wouldn't do anything, it was awful. So now the little dog who is only 1 1/2 years old is home alone all day and my hubby just refuses to get another dog even though I think we really need another for many reasons. My little Jack does get to play with my daughter's dogs though so it's not completely horrible but still you can tell he's lonely a good bit of the time.

Other than doggy play dates or dog parks I don't really know of anything else you can do either.

Tracy
07-04-2009, 01:41 PM
Thanks eveyone!:)

CurvyBlond19
07-04-2009, 01:48 PM
Hiya hun sorry for your loss.

Im doing a degree in canine behaviour and understand how difficult this is for your dog.
He is grieving too. Physically exercise him as much you can do. To me mental stimulation for dogs is crucial too, occupying the brain so they arent moping or at a loss in the house.

You can entertain him with new chew toys, these release endorphins like when we exercise and will make him feel better.

Also stuffed kongs, i stuff mine with dog biscuits, a tad of peanut butter, ham tiny bits of cheese etc.
With the kongs they have to work to get it out again occupying his brain and menatally focusing.

Hope this help x

Tracy
07-04-2009, 04:33 PM
Thanks Curvy Blonde,
He has many toys. I try to initate play w/him ,but he won't. I am going to look for what you said, when I go to the pet store.It hurts me so much to see him like this.:(

CurvyBlond19
07-04-2009, 04:37 PM
Keeping him occupied, taking him new places will help.

Also maybe look for a DAP diffuser or some rescue remedy to add to his water, many dog owners swear by this when their dogs are distressed.

Also when you think he is sad and you think he is down, encourage him to be fun and play dont fuss him and tend to him too much when he is down as you will feed his bad mood.

Be upbeat yourself, try anyway hun and enjoy him. xxxxxx

Tracy
07-05-2009, 09:32 AM
Thanks for the advice!I will try!:hug:

SunnyB
07-09-2009, 05:18 AM
Do you have a neighbor dog he could play with? Maybe a local doggy daycare? There is a site dogster.com that is kind of like friendster but for dogs. Maybe you could meet like minded owners who want to exercise their babies! Good luck to sweet Simon and you! :hug:

Tracy
07-09-2009, 03:18 PM
Thanks,Sunny. I will look into it!:)

L R K
07-09-2009, 03:45 PM
The problem is that he is picking up on how you are feeling which is contributing to how the dog is acting.

You have to let go of the past, live in the present and look to future. You are not helpinig your dog by feeling sorry for him because in turn it will only make him feel bad too.

If you project the feelings on happiness the dog will feel happy. If you project the feeling of sadness and unhappiness the dog will feel the same way.

Dogs do not dwell on the past, they only react to the present, so perhaps instead of seeing the dog as being unhappy, sad and lonely you should ask yourself "how am I feeling??" and there you will have your answer to all your problems.

Dogs need leadrship, that is what your dog is missing. It feels sad because you can't let go of what happened to your other dog not because it is mourning the loss of that dog.

As a leader you should let your dog know that everything is fine, then he too will be fine.

I hope this helps.

L R K
07-09-2009, 03:47 PM
Keeping him occupied, taking him new places will help.

Also maybe look for a DAP diffuser or some rescue remedy to add to his water, many dog owners swear by this when their dogs are distressed.

Also when you think he is sad and you think he is down, encourage him to be fun and play dont fuss him and tend to him too much when he is down as you will feed his bad mood.

Be upbeat yourself, try anyway hun and enjoy him. xxxxxx

I also agree with curvyblond, however I DO NOT suggest you try drugs as your dog doesn't have a "distress" problem, you also don't know what health affects might occur from them.

Tracy
07-09-2009, 09:13 PM
Thanks Lauren,
I do think some of it is because of me,but I think he just misses just having another dog around. I do appreciate your advice:)

betty grrl
07-14-2009, 02:32 AM
Maybe look for "dog walking" groups in your area. In Winnipeg, we have play groups for our dogs. This way we can socialize our dogs and they meet new friends. Maybe try meetup.com.

This might be a long shot here but there are so many older dogs at rescues and maybe seeing how he would do with another friend more his own age? Most rescues would bring the perspective dog to your place to see how your little guy would be with him.

I just lost one of my pugs to cancer in March. He was 9 (I only had him for 6 months-he was deemed unadoptable because of his attitude but it turned out he was the most loving little guy ever!). My boys (Pugsy 2 and Murphey 1), took it pretty hard as well. Murphey would lay in Sir's bed and both dogs would be constantly looking for him. They went through the greiving process in their own time and now they are fine.

You are in my thoughts and prayers as I know what you are going through.

Tracy
07-14-2009, 10:45 AM
Thanks Betty-grrl,I appreciate it:). I really need the prayers.Tracy

tjinaz
08-02-2009, 11:10 PM
Perhaps if You have the time, You could be a short term foster/rehab dog Mom for the local shelter. This would give Your little Man, the company He needs, the help they need.

giselley
08-09-2009, 02:39 PM
well, dogs have the intellect of human 2 year olds and interest in gossip and social life, more like teenagers. They live in groups and when you take away their friends, yes, they really feel it emotionally. I was told that the kindest thing to do is to actually take your dog with you to the euthenasia of the other dog and when the dog is dead to let them be with it and smell it for a while. They really understand when the dog is dead. It gives them a reason why it is not coming back. On the other hand when you just take the dog away and then come back empty handed, the dog has no idea what happened to his friend. That is what I have read in dog training books.

ajowens
08-09-2009, 02:50 PM
Get another dog!?

MarySnidget
08-15-2009, 03:46 PM
I think a dog park or a doggy day care would be your best bet or like tjinaz said, you can do foster care for a local shelter, but speaking from experience it is really hard to give those animals back, hence why I have two dogs and three cats. Sometimes the shelters will help out with supplies too like with food and toys, maybe bedding. My shelter allows me to get a bag of food when I need it and bedding. Most of the time the shelters will pay for all vet visits and shots.

cheerios
09-03-2009, 08:51 AM
Buy him a new toy and offer him more treats and allow fellow neighbors or family and friends to bring over their pets to have fun together.