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Cotinga
06-28-2009, 08:10 PM
I found this site right just before I hit goal, and I lurked for about a year before I even registered. I quickly learned to look forward to Kaplods' posts, and I've found that I agree with almost everything she says. (About the only point of disagreement I can think of is that for me, junky food still tastes very, very good). I admire her wisdom, her willingness to share her experiences (and recipes!), and her willingness to jump in and say what needs to be said, even when it might be a bit painful. And, to be completely honest, I am envious of her self-awareness and apparent inner peace.

So, from a long-time lurker, first-time thread starter, thanks, Kaplods. You provide invaluable help to the members of this forum.


kaplods
06-28-2009, 08:50 PM
(Blushing). I appreciate the compliment.

It's not that I think a lot of junk food doesn't taste good, it's just that my tastes have changed enough to realize that some junk doesn't taste nearly as good as I remember it (Unfortunately, some of it still does).

However, it's easier to avoid "all of it," by remembering the stuff I used to like, that I don't like anymore, than it would be if I thought about the stuff that still tastes good to me. I can distract myself with all of the healthy food I now find amazing.

My concept of junk food though is changing too. I bought some "jelly puddings" in a grocery store (basically a milky, vegetarian jello - using seaweed instead of gelatin as the thickener, and using fruit juice and powdered milk or powdered non-dairy creamer for the flavor.)

I probably would have considered it a "health food," a year ago. Now, I realize that it really doesn't offer a lot of nutrition for the calorie - although 90 - 140 calories for 1/2 to 3/4 cup of jello is a better choice (calorically, anyway) than cheesecake (can't think about cheesecake very long, or I'm doomed).

They aren't entirely nutritionally bankrupt, but neither are the vast majority of fast foods. Even a Big Mac has some protein, vitamins, minerals.....

I just never new how many foods existed on the healthiest side of the spectrum.

Today hubby and I had to go to a buffet with his sister (well, no one pointed a gun at us and forced us to go, so we "chose" to go), and I went thinking I was going to eat off-plan, and just try to be sensible. If I finished without a bellyache, I would have called it success. Instead, I did really well (the fruit on the buffet looked awesome, and was). And maybe for the first time ever, didn't even a little bit regret what I didn't put on my plate. That was really amazing.

It's just really cool to look at a piece of fruit as a decadence. I used to think that was rather sad and pitiful - like mother's who gave kids dried nori strips as a "treat." Now I'm snacking on nori, and buying miniature bananas at 3 times the price of regular bananas (I think I may be convincing myself that they "taste better" than larger bananas, but they're definitely cuter, so money spent on cute stuff is always justified, right?)

Oh, by the way. I tried dragon fruit for the first time. Big waste of money. I'm glad I tried it, but it tastes sweet, but with no real flavor besides sweet - sor of like sugar water - actually sugar water may have more flavor. The texture was nice, but I like to taste my food when I taste it.

JayEll
06-28-2009, 11:10 PM
Yep, we all enjoy seeing Kaplods' posts! :bravo:

Jay


DCHound
06-28-2009, 11:26 PM
I heart Kaplods! :)

CLCSC145
06-28-2009, 11:28 PM
I wholeheartedly agree! Kaplods' posts always make enormous sense to me. :D

Smiling_Sara
06-28-2009, 11:45 PM
co-signed here too. :)

cfmama
06-29-2009, 01:01 AM
Ita with everything said about Kaplods ;)

And a **** ya on the dragon fruit. To me... it tasted like watered down kiwi. Meh.

kaplods
06-29-2009, 01:08 AM
Gosh, you guys are going to give me a big head. I'm glad my posts resonate with others.

Usually, my posts are a way for me to talk to myself, you know? It's not that I don't love each and everyone here, and don't want to help out someone else if I can, but often when I see posts and respond - it's not really to the posters that I'm speaking to, but to the part of me inside that feels exactly like the poster.

Sometimes I feel like a big imposter when people praise my advice (advice that I'm having so much difficulty following myself). I mean, I think "has anyone noticed how long it's taking me to do this, would they value my opinion, nearly so much, if they realized it's taken me most of my life to learn this stuff and I still can't master it to the point of actually losing more than a lousy couple pounds a month."

But, I realize that most of you do know, either because you've experienced it youself, or because I repeat it so often (have to add my disclaimer, to feel honest) - so then I ask myself "so really - who isn't listening - only me." Yeah, I talk to myself alot (you think I'd listen more).

I just got some advice from someone in my life to basically "poop or get off the pot," with my weight loss, and it really had me feeling crappy (forgive the pun). Self-doubt and recrimination were starting to rear their ugly heads, and I started second guessing myself.

Some of that was good - there are changes I want to make that I've been reluctant to, or maybe afraid to. That's a legitimate issue (for me to ask myself, not necessarily for this particular person to make, but it wasn't maliciously intended, just overstepping personal boundaries, I guess). The person isn't close enough to me to necessarily have the "right" to make those judgements (my issues affect my husband and family, so I accept alot more "well-meaning" advice from them, even when it hurts, because they have a stake in what happens to me). I'm still not sure why this person felt the need, given our casual relationship, to make such a comment - I'm reminding myself to give her the slack that I've often suggested other people do when in a similar situation. It's not "for her," that I'm needed to forget it, but for me, so that I don't feel that what I've accomplished is useless, even if I can't or won't lose any more.

In essence, I guess there's plenty of reason to "keep sitting on the pot," because in this war, even holding ground is better than losing ground. And that's what I really felt like this person was saying - that the war wasn't worth fighting if I couldn't win it completely.

I've won alot actually. I no longer have sleep apnea, many of my health issues are under better control. I can do more physically, I don't feel like I'm drowning when I sleep on my back - I don't feel like I'm going to explode after eating.....

I'm ranting and rambling again, aren't I? I'm so glad you guys are here, and understand the twisted workings of my crazy mind. This stuff is so crazy hard sometimes.

I heart you all too!

JasonsLea
06-29-2009, 01:14 AM
:hug: Kaplods, you rox my sox! :p

Your posts are some of the best, well-written of this board.

jelder227
06-29-2009, 08:00 AM
Hmph - a couple pounds a month adds up to over 20 lbs a year, and tends to STAY off! I was lecturing the teens about the benefits of slower weight loss this weekend. And now that I'm reaching a healthier weight and exercising more, I've actually bumped up my calorie count (which is harder than it sounds) by a few hundred.

I also enjoy your posts. Oh and I see you're from Wausau! I've spent several Thanksgivings in Waupun - not too far from there.

losermom
06-29-2009, 08:28 AM
Kaplods, you are many times the voice of calm reasoning for me. I do look forward to your well thought out posts. Thank you! Try to replace those ugly negative thoughts about the slowness of your weight loss with positive ones. You are doing great!

CJZee
06-29-2009, 09:56 AM
Kaplods, I love your introspection. You ferret out the WHY of things, not just the HOW and it opens my mind to new ideas and paths. I love that you are strong (stay strong!) and make your own way in life, influenced by others but always true to yourself. Thank you and ROCK ON! C.J.

ICUwishing
06-29-2009, 10:01 AM
ditto, kaplods - I always know when I'm reading a "hotter" thread that when I reach your name, I'm about to learn something. Please don't ever stop talking to yourself, and sharing those thoughts with us. :)

Thighs Be Gone
06-29-2009, 10:03 AM
Slide on over ladies, I like her posts too. :) Her ideas for food are..well...pretty amazing...her posts are well articulated and informative.

Kaplods, I am in Arkansas for a few days more..quite possibly the mother load state of the buffet. I can proudly say I can navigate them without problem. I pile plate after plate high with carrots, red onions, peas, tomatoes and the like. I tote my own dressing in my purse. I feel so proud as I walk past the fried mystery foods without wanting them.

Thighs Be Gone
06-29-2009, 10:08 AM
Kaplods, I love that last post overhead. How perfectly and beautifully honest. Thanks for that. I hearted you before, now more so.

kaplods
06-29-2009, 11:00 AM
WOW, you guys are wonderful. You've really re-charged my batteries.

It's funny, isn't it, how you can know something in your head, and believe the opposite in your heart? As much as I rant against the inaccurate cultural stereotypes and expectations of weight loss, I'm still a part of that culture and sometimes have those expectations and stereotypes.

I tell you all "1/4 of a pound in a week, is much better progress than you realize," and then I have to tell myself the same thing (and fight the urge to add a "but" statement that negates the achievement of the 1/4 lb).

There are just so many stereotypes or cultural norms of dieting, that are difficult not to accept as gospel. Like avoiding the buffets. It's good advice really, especially when you find yourself piling the plate sky high. However, a good buffet sometimes is the only "decent" restaurant option.

There were so many great choices, that I didn't feel like I was going to be eating lettuce, while my husband and SIL ate "real food." My only real complaint is that the restaurant is known for it's rather exotic salad dressings, and what do they put on the buffet salad bar - Catalina style french, blue cheese, and buttermilk ranch. Ok, where's the avocado ranch or the cilantro honey vinaigrette.

Ok, just slapped my head in a "duh" (V-8 commercial style) momemt, I could have asked for a side of one of their specialty salad dressings." For as much as I remind everyone (and myself) to think outside the box of dieting tradition, I'm as likely to do or not do, based on what I've done or not done, in the past. Oh, wow - how completely stupid of me. The only thing that kept me from eating more salad (the salad bar really was awesome, there were so many naked, fresh raw vegetables and fruits) was because I was trying to be careful with the high calorie salad dressings (I admit that I'm not fond of a too-dry salad).

I even could have brought my own. I made an exciting discovery in a Dollar Tree store a week ago. Tiny little inch high, 3"x2" plastic food storage containers (like tupperware). They took me back to the 80's, when I would put an entire bottle of salad dressing in my purse. Oh, how I would have loved to have those, then.

Anyway, back on task. This website and all the people on it, are an amazing resource. I think it's very easy to isolate and hide when things aren't going well. I remember so well, avoiding WW and TOPS meetings and even doctor's appointments when I'd gained, because I didn't want anyone to "know."

Maybe it's the fact of not having to look anyone in the eye, but this is not only where I come to celebrate acheivements, but to vent about failures and struggles. Is this place awesome, or what?

DCHound
06-29-2009, 11:32 AM
but often when I see posts and respond - it's not really to the posters that I'm speaking to, but to the part of me inside that feels exactly like the poster.

God yes! I thought I was the only one.

Hey babe HOW'S THAT BOOK COMING??????? Don't make me send you any more threatening personal messages telling you to get off your can and WRITE, woman!!! :D

CountingDown
06-29-2009, 11:56 AM
I've said it before - and it bears repeating

Colleen's posts are awesome - she is one of those chickies that always takes time to help the rest of us around here :)

dragonwoman64
06-29-2009, 12:37 PM
Sometimes I feel like a big imposter when people praise my advice (advice that I'm having so much difficulty following myself). I mean, I think "has anyone noticed how long it's taking me to do this, would they value my opinion, nearly so much, if they realized it's taken me most of my life to learn this stuff and I still can't master it to the point of actually losing more than a lousy couple pounds a month."

I just got some advice from someone in my life to basically "poop or get off the pot," with my weight loss, and it really had me feeling crappy (forgive the pun). Self-doubt and recrimination were starting to rear their ugly heads, and I started second guessing myself.

In essence, I guess there's plenty of reason to "keep sitting on the pot," because in this war, even holding ground is better than losing ground. And that's what I really felt like this person was saying - that the war wasn't worth fighting if I couldn't win it completely.

I've won alot actually. I no longer have sleep apnea, many of my health issues are under better control. I can do more physically, I don't feel like I'm drowning when I sleep on my back - I don't feel like I'm going to explode after eating.....


I feel like many of your posts resonate with me (including but not limited to the above -- can you tell I hang out with lawyers??)

it's comforting to know other people are struggling with the same issues, that I'm not alone -- not that I want anyone else to struggle (!)

it is brave of you to stick to your guns, and voice your opinion, and to go through the process of figuring stuff out and sharing it with others, esp when it comes to diet and weight loss, which people can get very het up about.

in a nutshell, I appreciate what you do too, like so many other ladies/gents here.

midwife
06-29-2009, 12:57 PM
If 3FC is the University for Weight Loss, Colleen's posts make up Advanced Change Theory: The Paradigm Shift. I know they have helped shape my journey in a very positive way.

kaplods
06-29-2009, 04:56 PM
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Hey babe HOW'S THAT BOOK COMING??????? Don't make me send you any more threatening personal messages telling you to get off your can and WRITE, woman!!! :D

I am still writing regularly, but trying to pack for a move (and a trip to Illinois to visit my family). If I don't write first thing in the morning, I often don't "get to it." I find the best time to write is when I wake up a couple hours before hubby (which is most days).

time2lose
06-29-2009, 05:08 PM
An earlier posting of mine Kaplods has the attitude that I want so maybe I should read through several of her posts.

I hope that it is not bad to quote yourself. :)

Colleen, you have been a big inspiration for me, especially during the times when I get impatient and/or jealous of others who are losing weight so much faster than I am. At those times, I often look for your old postings to remind myself that this is not a race.

Buttercup
06-29-2009, 07:59 PM
:hug:I am also one of your fans! You have a wonderful way of putting your thoughts into words. It truly is a gift...as are you!

EZMONEY
06-29-2009, 09:10 PM
Colleen and I go way back....

C-Ya at Steak and Shake "AWESOME ONE"...

just kidding.....;)

'bout Steak and Shake!

kaplods
06-29-2009, 09:14 PM
Mmmm Steak and Shake chili mac. So good (as long as you eat it before the orange grease congeals.)