100 lb. Club - What do you think?




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better health3
06-24-2009, 07:24 PM
I am taking classes to become a R.N. I am morbidly obese and have 100 pounds to lose...the younger girls are vocally overcritical of my body...as if the mirror didn't tell me I am....huge for my height. "She's so fat, ugly, huge, disgusting....blah, blah, blah....Sometimes the comments really bother me. Other times I let it roll off my back. If I hadn't signed up for the equinox challenge, I probably would be more devastated. Ironically, my neighbor, the very next day noticed that I had been losing weight. I hate all these body/ self-esteem issues that the fat causes. I tried to seek out an ED specialist in the local area. Because I moved to a smaller town, there really aren't any resources except 1-2.5 hours away. Sigh. I have not been bingeing as much. I am nervous about my mid-terms and finals though. When you suceeders were first implementing changes, was there anything that helped you not to overeat, eat the wrong foods, or stopped you from bingeing yourself into a food coma?:^::?:


cfmama
06-24-2009, 07:45 PM
Helpful? I just said NO. I told myself that getting healthy was my ONLY option and every single other thing that went against that was out. Binging was OUT. Overeating was OUT.

I planned my meals AND my portion sizes. I still do.

For instance. Tonight we're having chicken pizza's. I am having:
1 medium whole wheat tortilla
3/4 cup boneless/skinless baked chicken breast
1/4 cup red onion
1/4 cup red pepper
3 medium mushrooms
2 T tomato paste
1/4 cup shredded cheese.

I will MAKE and EAT my pizza and not touch another bite. It's not an option to NOT do this. I just have to.

Read your sig line. Now REREAD it. And REREREAD IT again. Take it to heart.

RealCdn
06-24-2009, 08:41 PM
I'm still very much in progress, but...

- finding an exercise I enjoy and keeping active
- making sure I eat enough to ensure I'm not starving
- working on new ways to make things I enjoy eating
- taking it one day at a time


Hello Nurse
06-24-2009, 08:50 PM
I just have to say, those girls critisizing you are going to be terrible nurses. Where is the empathy? Are they going to treat their patients the same way? Wow, my nursing instructors would have crawled all over them if they even thought about talking that way!

Hang in there. I was at my highest weight in NS, and there are more people who will accept you as who you are than those that will judge you. Your patients especially will not care if you are big, little, green, blue or purple as long as you are a compassionate nurse! You will do great!

Trazey34
06-24-2009, 08:57 PM
uh those girls are going to be NURSES??? wow. I think they chose the wrong profession! all the women ('cept me) in my family are nurses and the patients are bad enough with their comments to ALL nurses, not just big, but I'm shocked at students doing that. I doubt they'll succeed in that job.

kiramira
06-24-2009, 09:02 PM
It's NURSING, not "America's Next Hottest Nurse"...those girls need to GROW UP and get some empathy...
Be the best nurse you can be. Study hard, and do the best you can with your diet and exercise. Tune the rest out, because it really doesn't matter. You won't remember these girls at your 20th Reunion...

Chin UP! Hit the books!! Take care of yourself!!! You'll be just FINE...

:hug:

Kira

MugCanDoIt
06-25-2009, 09:14 AM
Stupid immature girls need a wake up call. I hope you can find the strength to stand up for yourself and not take any crap from them. Be strong. Dont back down and know that you are a worthy person and deserve to be at school as much as they do. If they continue the comments, I would go to the dean of your school and complain. There just isnt room in our adult life to have to deal with the immaturity and stupidity of people like that.

bacilli
06-25-2009, 10:01 AM
Take a look at the progress and goal picture threads. There are some seriously inspirational pictures and stories there. If those ladies and gents can do it, you and I can too!

choirgirlhotel
06-25-2009, 10:41 AM
I, too, am appalled at these girls in your class. What are they, 12 years old? What a bunch of losers.

~Choirgirl~

Nada
06-25-2009, 11:05 AM
I have taken the slow road. I changed one habit a month until I needed to tweak my intake and decided to count points instead of calories so I went to Weght Watchers. So stopping a binge is a matter of looking at the points I have and budgeting.

But I wanted to say great for you going into nursing. Imagine how it will feel when you have gotten your degree and gotten to your goal weight. Then when you have obese patients you can encourage them and inspire them and empathise with them all at the same time. And you can talk to them about health issues related to weight from experience as well as "book learning". You're going to be a wonderful nurse. Think about that before you binge.

Lori259
06-25-2009, 11:15 AM
ouch~I hate when people say hurtful things... those girls suck!
anyways~just remember that if you stay on plan you will get healthier and feel better about yourself and thats all that matters to heck with what they say~I know it's hurtful but ignore them and be the better person.. & if you do goof up sometimes remember we all have and start back again the next day and never give up and since those girls attitudes suck so bad Maybe you will be the head of nursing some day and be there boss ~And then watch them kiss your butt.
I have always learned when someone is bullying it's because they have issues they do not like about thereselves.
I had a neighbor call me waddles everyday as a child when I got on the school bus so I believe all of us are not strangers to jerks!
So hang in there so for motivation remember you can have the last laugh!!
By the way ~you have lost alot of weight and maybe they are noticing also and just trying to goof you up because they feel so dang insecure about themselves and are afraid they will not have anyone to pick on anymore.

GOODLUCK

Numina
06-25-2009, 01:01 PM
Better Health 3,

I seem to recall from school, back when we still rode dinosaurs, that you know in advance the schedule of your finals and so on. If that is still the case, then you need to jump on HotMama's advice right quick and plan out EXACTLY what you are going to eat and when for that very stressful period.

See, you can't allow yourself to overeat just because you are in a stressful time --- life is going to throw you a TON of those times and you won't always have a warning beforehand. So, one of the really cool lessons you can learn from school is how to handle the rough patches, eating-wise. Make sure you have plenty of healthful things to snack on, make sure you are drinking enough water and make sure your meals and snacks are packed with lots of good nutrition.

As for those other snide ladies, you need to ask yourself why they are so interested in your weight? Either they feel a need to undercut your confidence (are you doing better than them in classwork?) or they are so insecure/scared/desperate that they need to hurt someone else to make themselves feel better. Either way, it sounds like a real WEAKNESS on their part to me.

Good luck!

Rosinante
06-25-2009, 01:03 PM
Like everyone else says: your classmates are poor excuses for human beings and a worry if they're really going into a caring profession; plus, you can carry on doing what you're doing and lose the weight you want: the road to becoming better than morons for those others is a lot harder and I bet they won't take it. I really admire you sticking it out without sticking one on them.

daniela
06-25-2009, 01:50 PM
Just want to say hi and to tell those girls, bc they aren't women, to suck it! They will alway be ugly (for being so nasty) but you CAN lose the weight!

better health3
06-25-2009, 07:58 PM
Thank you everone for your support. I do really appreciate it. Thanks for the pizza recipe too. I will try it out.

But I wanted to say great for you going into nursing. Imagine how it will feel when you have gotten your degree and gotten to your goal weight. Then when you have obese patients you can encourage them and inspire them and empathise with them all at the same time. And you can talk to them about health issues related to weight from experience as well as "book learning". You're going to be a wonderful nurse. Think about that before you binge.

One of the reaons I want to become a RN is to work with the overweight and obese population. I have experienced weightism in my health care throughout the years. I wanted to find out the damage that I am doing to my body living obese. Wish I would have known earlier, epecially about the ability of nerves that can't be regenerated once the damage is done. Yikes.

I will carry on. :hug:

EyeSing
06-25-2009, 08:44 PM
I love that you want to turn how you feel into something so productive!

I second what PP said about finding something you DO love. So much of losing weight seems to me to be about what you can't do, can't eat, etc., i try to find one thing I CAN do and enjoy it.

I'll plan to cook something with a new recipe; something I've never tried, like out of the blue, Jamaican jerk chicken! Or try something I've never tried, like one time I picked up tangelos or pummelos in the store, and didn't even know what it was - don't laugh! But that's how I learned to like lots of things, like asparagus, which I used to HATE and after many experiments, learned to love!

Or an exercise I really like to do, like swimming in the pool - even though I can't go very far LOL!

I think we spend so much time focused on can't can't can't we forget there is a whole lot more cans than can'ts! What do you think?

susiemartin
06-25-2009, 08:52 PM
Wish I would have known earlier, epecially about the ability of nerves that can't be regenerated once the damage is done. Yikes.

Damage to nerves:?:
What did I miss?

better health3
06-25-2009, 11:06 PM
I was referring to diabetes...once the nerve damage is done in the hands or feet, the damaged nerve won't go back to normal. :( Diabetes is serious with the potential retinopathy, possible kidney damage, nerve damage, and the cells aren't being fed properly.

Couch
06-26-2009, 01:59 AM
Firstly, I think you should psyche yourself up and tell those girls to grow up. Even better if you can find some data about obesity and people who avoid going to the doctor because they are afraid of being judged, and do a presentation on it to the class. It's ridiculous that anyone going into nursing feels it's ok to judge people on their size.

As for the binging, I think you have to find what works for you. I truly believe that weightloss is mostly about psychology. I mean, everyone who's overweight knows that their eating habits are causing their weight gain, but few are able to make any significant long term change to their behaviour. You've got to hack your own brain.

For example, I can't do cfmama's "just say no". Food for me is a way to rebel, and if I start to feel deprived, I get peeved and it generally results in a binge. What's worked over the last six months is to say yes to a lot of non food things, so as to avoid the feeling of deprivation. I say yes to paying someone else to clean my car and wax my eyebrows, I eat (healthy) takeaway when I can be bothered to cook, I buy expensive fitness tools and new clothes when my old ones are too big. I also go out to dinner with friends, (though I choose nutritionally valuable food, and I generally won't finish it) and I eat birthday cake (but within my calorie allowance).

Try to understand why you binge: where the "high" is from the binge, what your trigger foods or emotions are, how you manage to ignore the voice telling you to stop, and when and how during a binge do you regain control. Then start experimenting with strategies to avoid or limit the damage. I can now recognise when I feel the need to binge, and why, and I therefore generally avoid it. For example, after a horror of a day at work on Wednesday, all I wanted to do was go home and eat myself into a stupor. But instead, I went and bought a present for a friend, which often gives me a similar high to eating, and some hard mints to satisfy the desire to crunch something, and when I got home, I call my mum and ranted to her. Total damage of what would have been in the past KFC + chocolate + chips: 6 mints, or about 20 calories. Oh, and don't be afraid to waste food. I would force myself to finish everything I had bought so as to restart my diet the next day without any junk in the house. Now I throw it away, or put it away, or give it to someone else. I had chocolate in my fridge for three months, because I stopped when I didn't want any more.

Good luck

rowan108
06-26-2009, 05:57 PM
I can't believe that girls in nursing school said those mean things!! I was my highest weight in nursing school and I have to say the stress and pace of nursing school is tough on any diet. You need to ignore those girls and focus on you. When I was studying w/ other people in my class they would all have candy and junk food. I used to bring with me bottled water w/ maybe crystal light to flavor it, popcorn (we had microwaves in the break rooms) carrot sticks and fruit. That would help me because even if I binged it was on healthy food. You can always sneak snacks into the library at least at my school you could and no one was the wiser. Good luck and I hope this helped.

p7eggyc
06-26-2009, 06:40 PM
I would encourage you to try some strategies on lower stress days in anticipation of the upcoming tests and more stressful times of life. Some ideas:

Journaling
Meditation or guided meditation
Going for a walk
Finding a safe person to vent to (on &/or off-line)
There are some great, very short breathing exercises you can try for stress management
Learn a few yoga positions that relax you
Identify music that is relaxing to listen to
Learn biofeedback
Identify aromatherapy scents that relax you (I LOVE lavender)

I also would encourage you to keep a clean environment headed into those sorts of periods. Maybe you don't want/can't ban binge friendly foods from your house forever but banning/limiting them for those weeks would be a reasonable choice. I had a buddy on another healthy eating board that would put that sort of stuff out in the trunk of the car. Stopped her in her tracks and made her think.

Good luck on your nursing career and ignore the ignorant classmates. I would be inclined to say something like "what would your mother say if she heard that come out of your mouth?". LOL Nurses are the backbone of our medical world...they are the ones that have always taken good care of me and mine.

Peg

scarletmeshell
06-29-2009, 11:15 AM
To be honest, I think we should all band together and kick thier skinny asses!