Weight Loss Support - Visiting 3FC won't make you lose weight.




Primm
06-14-2009, 08:54 PM
In a previous life, about 10 years ago, I did Weight Watchers. I turned up religiously every week to be weighed in, I took notes about what the lecturer was saying, I recorded every gram of food that passed my lips, I cooked my low-fat, high-carb meals every day and I walked.

But I didnít really lose any weight. Because I missed the most important part, and that was restricting my intake. Yep, I counted my points all the way up to the 50ís and beyond (I think from memory I was supposed to stop at 23).

I remember being disillusioned. I remember thinking ďIím on a DIET here, people! Why arenít I losing weight?Ē Well guess what? All the self-talk in the world reminding yourself that you are dieting, and recording your intake, and weighing yourself every day, isnít going to do the slightest bit of good if you arenít actually following the program!

Doesnít matter what the program is. For the purposes of this exercise Iím now counting calories. But whether youíre following WW, Jenny, MRC, Atkins or some other guru, the truth remains. You have to eat less than you expend if you want to lose weight. Itís physics, people! And you canna change the laws of physics, JimÖ

Coming to 3FC every day, in itself, won't make the pounds melt away. What it WILL do is provide you with the support and encouragement you need. Seriously, I've tried this weight loss thing over and over again. But it wasn't until I discovered this wonderful community that I started taking appropriate action to get my weight down, and most importantly, NOT let it bounce back up!

Thanks everyone... :hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

So now Iím doing it right. With the expected results, funnily enough! Iím today - officially - 85.1kg! Thatís a total loss since I started this journey over 12 months ago of 12.9 kg, or 29.4 lb for those of you who still speak the old language. Thatís nearly 30 lb, people!

Check out the link to my blog (<<<) for some pics. Be prepared to be surprised!

Cheers chickies.


seagirl
06-14-2009, 09:30 PM
Great post.

One thing I like to remind myself is that reading exercise magazines and 3FC and weightloss blogs and yoga magazines isn't going to do anything but make my butt flatter and wider.

It's actually when I stop reading and start doing that I lose weight and tone up.

And congrats on losing a typewriter!

kiramira
06-14-2009, 09:39 PM
DRAT! ANOTHER weight loss strategy out the window! I've found that for me in the past, the amount of weight I lost was INVERSELY proportional to the number of diet books and magazines I bought!!! :lol:

Thanks for the reminder and the post -- it IS hard work, and if one says anything different, he/she is probably selling something...

Kira


Tracy
06-14-2009, 10:00 PM
I know just like joining a gym w/out going won't help
Drinking diet soda w/ a ton of junk food
Joining Jenny Craig,Nutrisystem or any other plan ,and not following the rules
I guess the only way is what we learned way back when, burn up more calories than you consume!That's pretty easy. Right?:lol:

munchievictim
06-14-2009, 10:01 PM
haha. While 3FC is definitely a more positive mind excersize than a lot of stuff on the internet, it's true, sitting in front of a computer, any computer, is hazardous to the size of your butt.
However, 3FC is one of the best weight loss tools I've found. This site has done more to revolutionize my way of thinking than had ever been done before. I'm grateful to all the chicks (and ducks) on here, just for being here to relate.
:)
now let's all get up and go jog around the block.

caryesings
06-14-2009, 10:09 PM
I am a long time lurker on this site and just registered so I could comment. I laughed out loud because I recognized an old behaviour of giving myself credit for working out if I went to the gym but couldn't get in because parking lot full!

Now I still don't go to the gym if the lot is full but drive to the other branch which has more parking and work out there.

seagirl
06-14-2009, 10:10 PM
I just did 25 minutes of yoga from yogadownload.com which has free (and non-free) yoga downloads.

I used to subscribe to 3 different fitness magazines. It took so long to get through them I never had time to exercise! Now I just get yoga journal which inspires me to get on my mat.

dragonwoman64
06-15-2009, 01:42 PM
that's funny. the size of the fish really does bring to life how much that 30 lbs is, congrats on getting him off your bod!

I have a fantasy of having someone exercise for me, like a proxy (I get the benefits, proxy does work). still some critical details to figure out on that one...

peccavi
06-15-2009, 02:26 PM
Fantasy continues with having someone else absorb some of the calories I eat!

Gretchenpdx
06-15-2009, 05:29 PM
True (but I also agree with you that message boards can be a great source of support and keep the motivation up when it lags).

Jacque9999
06-15-2009, 05:32 PM
Coming to 3FC every day, in itself, won't make the pounds melt away. What it WILL do is provide you with the support and encouragement you need. Seriously, I've tried this weight loss thing over and over again. But it wasn't until I discovered this wonderful community that I started taking appropriate action to get my weight down, and most importantly, NOT let it bounce back up!

You are absolutely right...just came back from a 25 minute power walk...gonna leave now and go do 35 on the Arc Trainer at the gym and then an hour of pilates.

TamiL
06-15-2009, 10:49 PM
I gain weight when I quit visiting this site! These forums provide so much inspiration for me. I am so motivated by reading what others are doing and especially when everyone posts progress pictures!

choirgirlhotel
06-15-2009, 10:54 PM
ha ha. That reminds of this time where I decided to make a list of the things I had to pack because I was moving. I started writing down the list and then realized - um...instead of sitting here writing a list, I could actually just PACK the stuff!!

~Choirgirl~

Primm
06-16-2009, 02:00 AM
Same here.

I totally disagree with the title of the thread.

:D I was wondering who the first person would be who didn't read the title properly and took offence!

So, yes, this place DOES help me lose weight every day. It is a God send, the best place I have ever found for weight loss support, tips, recipes, exercise help, and challenges.

Absolutely it helps! And I couldn't have got to where I am without 3FC either, which you'd see if you'd read the rest of my post.

The title reads "Coming to 3FC won't MAKE you lose weight". And it won't. You have to do the work as well. But it's right up there with drinking lots of water and reducing your intake as a tool in your weight loss journey.

:hug::hug:

munchievictim
06-16-2009, 02:12 AM
I would like to remark that, recently, 3FC messed up on my computer for some bizarre, unknown reason, and then my entire computer shut down and I was completely cut off for a couple of weeks. Without 3FC I seemed to completely lose my way. Now, I totally agree that 3FC doesn't MAKE anybody lose weight, totally agree with the op, but also totally agree with Steelslady, because if it wasn't for you chickies on here I wouldn't know where I was at half the time. I'm so grateful for this tool that we have, each other, that helps to keep us strong.
So thanks. :)
:hug:

Jacque9999
06-16-2009, 09:59 PM
I would like to remark that, recently, 3FC messed up on my computer for some bizarre, unknown reason, and then my entire computer shut down and I was completely cut off for a couple of weeks. Without 3FC I seemed to completely lose my way. Now, I totally agree that 3FC doesn't MAKE anybody lose weight, totally agree with the op, but also totally agree with Steelslady, because if it wasn't for you chickies on here I wouldn't know where I was at half the time. I'm so grateful for this tool that we have, each other, that helps to keep us strong.
So thanks. :)
:hug:

I was cut off for a couple days!!! I don't know how you lived without 3FC for weeks. I got around it by signing up again and used a different name and email. Finally got my old one back. It was frustrating, and yes 3FC doesn't make you lose weight but it does help with the process.

munchievictim
06-16-2009, 10:30 PM
I was wondering if anyone else had a problem!
I didn't live without 3FC, I just sat around getting fat.
Or, okay, I lived, but it was hard. I'm happy to be back, for sure. :)

kaplods
06-17-2009, 01:56 AM
When I first saw and read the first post, my first thought was "Of course," so I wondered why the OP was stating the obvious. Was it a criticism, or even a nasty dig to folks who were here and reading, but not losing? That was my initial impression, but wasn't sure any offense was meant, so I just avoided the thread and told myself I was probably over-reacting.

But it got me thinking, and I was drawn back to the thread, because I don't want anyone to think they aren't welcome here if they're not yet in an active stage of change. There's value in coming here, even if a person isn't ready to make changes yet, or if they've relapsed - even repeatedly. Don't be ashamed to come here just because you haven't fully succeeded - yet.

If you follow the stages of change model, someone coming here but not losing weight is at least already in the second stage and possibly the third stage of change - contemplation or planning, and that's a good thing.

For more info on a stages of change model, you can google and tons of sites are listed, here's one.

http://www.addictionalternatives.com/philosophy/stagemodel.htm

The stages of change are:

Precontemplation (Not yet acknowledging that there is a problem behavior that needs to be changed)

Contemplation (Acknowledging that there is a problem but not yet ready or sure of wanting to make a change)

Preparation/Determination (Getting ready to change)

Action/Willpower (Changing behavior)

Maintenance (Maintaining the behavior change) and

Relapse (Returning to older behaviors and abandoning the new changes)


Relapses and cycling through the stages is more common than linear progress with no regression (just a fancy way of saying, no one is perfect). It's not so much like climbing stairs as rock/mountain climbing, where you're likely to lose your footing a few times and have to cover ground you've already covered.
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Personally, I've been on 3FC much longer than I've been actively losing weight. I never expected 3FC to be a magic cure, didn't expect 3FC to do the work for me, but as a tool - even when I'm not losing weight, it's been awesome in the contemplation and preparation/determination stages, not just the action stage.

3FC has helped me through all of the stages, even relapse - and while I know that 3FC won't MAKE me lose weight, I know that without it, I'm much more likely to revert to precontemplation stage - ignoring the problem altogether.

Where would I be if I hadn't found 3FC. Those years that I was here yet didn't lose - would I have gained if I hadn't been here? Probably.

So to anyone who is here and not losing weight yet, don't beat yourself up or feel that you're doing something wrong. If you're not sure you can or want to lose weight or put in the effort yet, that's ok too. Soaking up the good vibes, and seeing that change IS possible, may be what you need now. Don't be afraid to try the next step, but don't get too discouraged if you aren't making changes as quickly or as dramatically as you would like. Change is difficult, for a lot of reasons. Not giving up has a lot more to do with success than making incredible strides. Weight management is a race that the tortoise sometimes does win.

Primm
06-17-2009, 04:32 AM
When I first saw and read the first post, my first thought was "Of course," so I wondered why the OP was stating the obvious. Was it a criticism, or even a nasty dig to folks who were here and reading, but not losing? That was my initial impression, but wasn't sure any offense was meant, so I just avoided the thread and told myself I was probably over-reacting.

I hadn't even contemplated anyone thinking of it like that, and I hope that no-one took it that way!

It was more a dig at MY old way of thinking. I really believed that if I told myself I was on a "diet", or was a WW member or whatever, and jumped on the scales every week, regardless of what I did in between meetings, I should lose weight. Even though I wasn't actually actively doing anything about it!

I apologise to anyone who got the wrong impression, especially you, kaplods. I have the greatest respect for you and the other "old-timers" at 3FC, and would never intentionally offend or insult you.

:hug::hug:

ETA: I thought there were enough "me's" and "I's" in the original post to make it clear this was about me and me alone, and my wake-up call. Maybe there weren't and I wasn't as clear as I imagined.

kaplods
06-17-2009, 05:35 AM
Please don't worry about it, as I said I suspected I was over-reacting. And in rereading my post, I realize it sounded a lot harsher than I intended it (what I get for posting well past bedtime).

It's the weakness of this media. Not being able to use facial expressions, body language, or tone of voice increases the danger of misinterpretation (and there's plenty of risk of misinterpretation even in face-to-face communication).

I'm oversensitive on some issues, and I always try to remember that my first reaction isn't always accurate.

Your point is a valid one - often when we aren't succeeding, we can overlook the most obvious of reasons. Personally, when I was gaining or wasn't losing I always knew why, I just never knew why the knowledge didn't seem to make changing any less difficult (it took me a lot longer to figure that out).

I think that there are so many factors in weight loss, that there's very little that can be said that applies to everyone, but I do think that the single greatest cause of weight loss failure is hopelessness - feeling that failure (or even worse, a success that isn't seen to be "good enough") is proof that success isn't possible. The blame isn't always the same "I'm just too lazy," "it's just too hard," or "it's genetic," it doesn't matter whether the reason is internal or external, when you lose hope, you lose initiative.

Hope is perhaps the most valuable gift that 3FC has to offer. By seeing the success (and the struggles) that others are facing, have faced, and even have conquered, gives me hope that even though it often seems like I've failed more than I've succeeded, failure is not inevitable.

Jacque9999
06-17-2009, 07:13 AM
I was wondering if anyone else had a problem!
I didn't live without 3FC, I just sat around getting fat.
Or, okay, I lived, but it was hard. I'm happy to be back, for sure. :)

GLAD YOU ARE BACK TOO!!! :carrot:

JayEll
06-17-2009, 07:58 AM
I thought the intent of the OP was clear, myself. No explanation needed!

Jay

Steelslady
06-17-2009, 06:46 PM
When I first saw and read the first post, my first thought was "Of course," so I wondered why the OP was stating the obvious. Was it a criticism, or even a nasty dig to folks who were here and reading, but not losing? That was my initial impression, but wasn't sure any offense was meant, so I just avoided the thread and told myself I was probably over-reacting.

Unfortunately, kaplods, I thought the exact same thing and responded instead of just leaving the thread like you did and thought it through a bit. I deleted my response, though I do think that others MAY take it the way that we first did and not be so inclined to respond if their newer to the board?

But it got me thinking, and I was drawn back to the thread, because I don't want anyone to think they aren't welcome here if they're not yet in an active stage of change. There's value in coming here, even if a person isn't ready to make changes yet, or if they've relapsed - even repeatedly. Don't be ashamed to come here just because you haven't fully succeeded - yet.



My feelings as well. It took awhile for me to jump back on the "I can do it AGAIN!" wagon this last time, but I read here almost daily, and sometimes all it takes is reading one post, or hearing from someone who has inspired you before, and back on the wagon we go. I remember one time I was embarrassed a couple of years ago and said so, and everyone made me feel welcome again and told me not to be foolish and that they were glad I was back. Without that support, Lord knows how heavy I would be right now, and what other medical problems I'd have!