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06-10-2009, 03:52 PM
Do you ever wish that you could be one of those people who actually LOSES weight when they are stressed out or unhappy or sick or depressed?

If I'm stressed out or depressed, I want to eat. If I'm unhappy I want to eat. If I'm sick I almost always want to eat. Like during exams or before my defense I ate like crazy. Yet people in my lab LOST weight while getting ready to defend. Not me! Stress doesn't make me LESS hungry, it makes me MORE hungry. I got mono in college, as did a bunch of my roommates. All my friends lost about 10 pounds. I gained 10. My friends get unhappy and depressed and mope around in front of the TV. I mope around in the kitchen (in front of the kitchen TV...).

Why can't my stress cause me to lose weight at least! I've got enough of it to go around, it seems unfair that I can't get anything good out if it!

And I'm not even getting into the people who can "forget" to eat. As Kathy Griffin once said, "It takes a special kind of stupid to forget to eat."

Disclaimer: this is all in jest -- of course I don't wish wasting illnesses on anyone, much less myself! And it's not healthy to lose weight because you are too stressed out to eat blah blah blah. Just wanted to put this because I've not been here long enough to know exactly how "tongue in cheek" everyone is about stuff!

06-10-2009, 05:24 PM
I totally understand your frustration. My best mate lost 20 pounds after her ex left her. Stress for me is one of those blasted trigger times. When I'm stressed I eat- it's a comfort thing; makes me feel better.

And yes, I wish I could lose weight when I stress. If I did, I'd be a helluva lot lighter. But on the brighter side- some people gain it back. :devil: :devil: :devil:

06-10-2009, 05:28 PM
Yes!!! I really do wish I was one of those people!:genie:

06-10-2009, 05:47 PM
Gurl, I feel ya on this one! I am the exact same way.

06-10-2009, 06:33 PM
Yeah, I have often wished that. But I'm pretty sure that if I was that person, I'd wish I wasn't. Especially now that food for me is about nutrition and health, rather than something to fight against. The grass is always greener.

06-15-2009, 10:26 AM
I'm both. For general life stress, I eat. At the times of super-intense life stress, I lose my appetite. I'd rather be wanting to eat because I'm mildly stressed than losing weight via stress because stress big enough to cause me to lose isn't the kind I want in my life in as much as it can be avoided.

My son is an eat-to-live person and often forgets to eat. The hubs and I are still trying to figure out how in the world we could have produced this kid! We're all happy to be eating around here except my skinny, scrawny boy.

06-15-2009, 10:54 AM
Forget to eat??? That is just plain crazy talk.

06-15-2009, 01:32 PM
When I go through periods of anxiety or depression and I don't eat, I always wish that I could be rid of those things - and I would take 30 pounds gladly if it meant I'd be happy and not anxious.

But now I'm working on getting those taken care of, so that my weight loss can be on purpose and permanent, not dependent on my mood!

08-15-2009, 10:35 AM
I don't eat when I am stressed but yet I don't loose weight either...now that I am here and am loosing the weight I walk when I feel stressed and it really helps.

08-15-2009, 12:33 PM
My brother got that gene. I did not. His nickname is "Bones". Ugh.

08-15-2009, 03:23 PM
I think if we were those that do that - we wouldn't be here :D

I, too, eat to "feel better" when I am under stress. Yeah - forget to eat - not happening.

08-15-2009, 03:35 PM
Yep.All my friend who get divorces lose massive amounts of weight.Told me husband the other day to leave me........for 3-6 months.

08-17-2009, 11:35 AM
When it came to major break-ups...I had no problem losing about 40lbs in 6 months.
Now that I'm married...when I get stressed or upset...I eat.
Not long ago my DH joked about "breaking up" for 6 months...he hasn't mentioned it again...:lol3:

I really wish I had a fast metabolism! ;)

08-17-2009, 12:32 PM
This just happened to my best friend. She lost over 10 lbs. and didn’t know why. Then she was blaming it on stress. One day she called me crying because she didn’t want to lose any more weight. So UNFAIR!!! All I do is eat, eat and eat when I am stressed, it make me feel better :( and BTW she is one of the people who can forget to eat!!!
I can forget to breath before forgetting to eat :(

08-17-2009, 12:53 PM
This is what I think identifies 'naturally thin' people from the 'naturally fat'.

I've only every once in my life worried about not eating and this was after I returned to full-time work when I'd had my DS. Looking back I think the doctor was bemused by an obviously overweight late 20 something worrying about not feeling like eating and probably thought losing a few pounds would be helpful to me. Again in hindsight its obvious to me the I had post-natal depression but my doctor totally missed the symptoms even though I stressed to him just how out of sorts I must be for me not to eat. I can't describe just how distressing it was for me to not feel like eating anything and getting no joy out of what I was eating.

Like someone else said I'd have rather been 30lbs heavier than go back to the stress in my life at this time.


08-17-2009, 09:49 PM
I was one of those people (at a really, really bad time in my life), but the converse is that when I was happy, I put on weight. I'd rather be happy/thin-miserable/fat than happy/fat-miserable/thin! :)

08-18-2009, 08:53 AM
The reason we don't loose it is our metabolism is sluggish and after years of doing the eating for stress and depression it's the one thing that won't leave us, or mock us or make us feel worthless, so that is why I feel we turn to food for comfort. Yes I too wish I had a fast metabolism as well.

08-18-2009, 05:49 PM
Well, I can honestly say that I forget to eat when I am stressed. I frequently will be working away at my desk and wonder why the **** I'm so hungry...then realize it's 3pm and I haven't stopped for anything but a trip to the coffee machine or the little boy's room (to recycle that coffee, naturally). That includes stopping to EAT LUNCH. You know - the lunch that's sitting right beside me. So, maybe that does make me a "special kind of stupid". :D

But even if I forget to eat while I'm busy, I definitely make up for it when the busy drops but the stress/heightened emotions don't. Then I binge - looking for that rush or whatever comes with the comfort food de jour. Sometimes it's eating far too much meat, sometimes it's eating way too much junk food. (But never way too much fruit/veggies...huh....imagine that. ;) )

So, girls, I know all to well what you're talking about and it would certainly be different if I lost weight in these situations. That being said, it's probably one of those things that you'd not be happy about in either situation...we should just look for ways to be less stressed and less emotionally worked up. Then we wouldn't have to worry about the ups & downs in weight. ;)

08-26-2009, 03:31 PM
This post reminds me of when I was engaged and doing my final dress fittings, everyone was saying "oh! You will lose weight before the wedding with all the business and stress"-- HA!!! I had to work even harder to lose weight b/c there were so many social outtings attached to the wedding. It was nightmarish.

I since have gained over 40 lbs since I got married. The smallest I have been in 10 years was my wedding day-- and I was happy at that weight, it was still considered "over weight" but for ME-- it was perfect.... I've always been bigger and I think I am attractive this way but right now, I am WAY TOO BIG, those 40+ pounds need to come off PRONTO!

When I am busy and stressy, I never have forgotten to eat. NEVER.

08-27-2009, 12:12 AM
When I was younger (and thinner) I would forget to eat during the day because I was so busy. I got happy when I forgot to eat because it meant I was losing weight. But I am with you, I would love to not eat when Im stressed/depressed, etc.

08-27-2009, 12:35 PM
I have wished that. The only times I forget to eat are when I get completely absorbed in what I'm doing and lose track of time and things around me.

09-01-2009, 01:09 AM
I have always wanted to 'not be able' to eat because of stress, and heartache or whatever. NOT ME...I eat when I am bored, stressed, angry, lonly, upset, heartbroken, anxious, content, happy, celebrtatory, melancholy....etc etc...whatever!
the only time I dont eat is when I'm horny!!! j/k LOL...Sorry!!