100 lb. Club - What's keeping me from the gym?

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06-07-2009, 12:17 AM
Hubby and I have a gym membership. It's very inexpensive - $29 a month pays for both of us. It's a "no frills" gym with just cardio machines, weight machines, free weights, and some Swiss balls and sit-up mats. No classes, no pool, no tennis courts. It's also open 24/7, so there are absolutely no excuses for us not to go. But do we? Nope.

I went to the gym last week for the first time in probably six months and walked on the treadmill for 30 minutes. It felt good! I loved that I accomplished something quasi-athletic. But have I gone back? Nope.

There are a few reasons why, but they're crappy reasons. One is that I can't get hubby to come. He doesn't like to exercise after about 6:00 P.M. because it keeps him up late. If I don't grab him in the 10-minute window between him getting off work and him changing out of his work clothes, he won't go. He really *needs* to go (like me!), but just won't.

So why don't I just go when *I* want to go and not worry about hubby going (or not going)?

Second crappy reason: I've lost 35 lbs., but I still weigh 235 lbs. I am afraid people will be talking about me behind my back while I'm using the weight machines. How stupid is THAT?! WHO CARES? Besides, I know that when I see a larger person at the gym, I'm rooting for them because I know how much courage it takes and I'm proud of them for not being a chicken (like I'm being).

So - I'm making a committment with all y'all (yes, "all y'all" is English! :lol: ) as my witnesses: I will go to the gym on Sunday afternoon after church. On Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday, I will go at 1:00. I'm taking Wednesday off. :) On Tuesday, and Thursday I will do a 10 minute cardio warmup and one circuit of the machines. On Sunday, Monday, Friday, and Saturday I will walk at least 30 minutes on the treadmill.

So there. Keep me to it! :)

06-07-2009, 01:30 AM
First off, nobody looks at you at your gym, or if they do, they go in their heads "hey good for her" then back to their little world. Really. I promise!!

Second, who cares if DH goes or not? Really?? Go anyway!

Thirdly, and most importantly, don't overthink it JUST DO IT. It's non-negotiable. You don't think about it, you don't talk yourself into or out of it, you just do it.

You can totally do it. If I can, anyone can. I am professionally lazy. :)

Alana in Canada
06-07-2009, 02:39 AM
Oh wonderful! You can do this, really you can! When you get back--put the session in your signature as I did with mine. I can tell you I got quite uncomfortable while I was posting all day Friday and didn't see anything for Wed and Thurs (though there were excellent reasons for not doing it, I'm sure!).

Yep--start a new thread, in fact. I love cheering folks on!

06-07-2009, 03:33 AM
Well done on the commitment!

My gym is 20 mins drive away, sounds similar provision but not 24/7. I manage twice a week but I know I could do better. When I get back from holiday I will copy you! Try, anyway.

06-07-2009, 06:54 AM
Hi Jennelle - Kudos for your determination to get to they gym.

I have some sympathy for your DH. I have a similar window. If I leave work an hour later than usual, my gym desires go to flat zero; just don't want to go.

Would it work for you to meet him at the door already in your gym shorts? With his gym clothes laid out on the bed? Maybe even with a protein shake already made. (A whey protein milk shake is part of my ritual for going to the gym. I look forward to it and, of course, couldn't consider not going after consuming it. There is a manly appeal to consuming whey protein; it's necessary to build muscles. If you guys are not into it, you might buy some and get him hooked. Something like Muscle Milk might get his testosterone flowing, LOL.)

As for size, when I first went to the gym I'd look at myself in the mirror as I sat on an exercise ball and I'd see the cartoon picture of a bunny that I drew as a kid as a ball on a ball. It made me laugh. I thought everybody would be laughing at me also. But, alas, they didn't even see me, LOL. Everybody else was pretty absorbed in their own little world.

Good luck.

06-07-2009, 12:05 PM
Your gym sounds a lot like mine.

I first got my gym membership last March. I was all excited when I joined, went once, and then got hit by some major fatigue and never went back. It took me 7 months after DH and I got married to convince him to sign on to my membership, and I just got him to go last week. Even after I got him to sign on, I didn't go either! It wasn't until they opened a new location that I actually drive by on my way home from work every day. Since that one opened, I've gone to the gym every day I've worked. I feel better for it, and I've been making sure to do stuff at home on the days I don't go to the gym.

I'm bigger than you are, and when I'm not at the gym, I have that paranoia of people staring and stuff, but when I go, no one every does. Ok, that's not true, I've noticed a few of the uber gym guys looking at me, but it was more like WTG not eww gross.

06-07-2009, 12:14 PM
I think you have to go no matter what DH does. If you're going all the time, you might even guilt him into going! ha! Maybe it isn't an option for you, depending on work, etc, but since it is 24/7, could you get up early and go then? That has worked wonders for me. By the time I get home from work... and I have kids to run around, too... all I wanted to do was relax. So I started to go to the gym early, before work. I get my workout, take my shower and get ready there, and then off to work. I get such a great feeling for having my workout done for the day! Smug would describe the feeling!

As for people watching you, I know that they don't. I, too, had a fear of that, but if you look around, people are usually all about themselves in the gym. And that's good! There is a wide range of people that workout at my gym. I am not the biggest one there, or the oldest, or whatever. I don't find myself looking at others and worrying about what they do. I'm just into me, and "my time".

You can do it. I just started at this gym back on March 2nd. It was hard at first, but now I go 6 days a week. If I can, so can you! And you'll miss it when you don't get to go!!

06-07-2009, 12:27 PM
I just went to the gym for the first time last week and I joined back in January!! When I went regulary back a couple years, I was so addicted to the gym, I even went a Christmas day, never missed a day. So I am hoping it happens again. I signed up for classes tues and thurs and will weights Mon, wed, fri. I truly believe after you start going you will become addicted to. We can do it!!

06-07-2009, 02:35 PM
Woot! :carrot: Thanks for the encouragement. I'm going at 2:00 today. I'll update when I get home!

06-07-2009, 05:10 PM
Update: I went to the gym at 2:00 and did 35 minutes on the treadmill. :)

06-07-2009, 05:17 PM
Yay for going to the gym.

Maybe you've started a trend!!!!

06-08-2009, 10:35 PM
Woot! :dance: Two days in a row! I did 30 minutes on the elliptical...borrowed daughter's MP3 player. It's easy to work out hard when you're listening to the Dropkick Murphys at full volume! :lol:

06-08-2009, 10:41 PM
Oh my gosh, Jennelle --- didn't you know that music is THE must have for working out?? ;)

I am having a similar problem with my son, who claims to want to do some lifting with me, for whom I have paid good money for a family membership to our rec center and now is completely putzing out on me. And gosh! it makes it so much easier not to go if he doesn't. So I am going to imitate YOU, you lovely lady of loads of inspiration --- I have a set time I am hitting the gym from now on and he can either be at the car with his tennies on or I will just go alone.

Kudos to you for the winning streak! Keep it up!

06-08-2009, 11:00 PM
Yay Jennelle! Keep on going! You are taking care of YOU and that's what's important. It will become a habit and you'll love it!

06-09-2009, 09:27 AM
Woot! :dance: Two days in a row! I did 30 minutes on the elliptical...borrowed daughter's MP3 player. It's easy to work out hard when you're listening to the Dropkick Murphys at full volume! :lol:

Nice choice. I want the new Black Eyed Peas!

Jenelle I love you and glad to see your going, no excuses and perhaps you should through, "Such a Pretty Fat" on there by the by Jen Lancaster. She is the excuse queen and she is hilarious. If you haven't read her yet, I am telling you DO! It's summer.

WAY TO GO!:carrot:

06-09-2009, 09:39 AM
Jennelle-good job going to the gym. My son and I have a membership and he goes with me, he goofs off alot there, but I pay him no attention. I put my headphones on and zone out. I don't stares or anything, except for the guys to say what's up in the weight room. Keep going, stay focused and do it!!

06-09-2009, 11:15 AM
Who cares what people are saying behind your back at the gym, atleast your working out making the effort, not sitting in a chair at McDonalds eating 3 Big Mac's and 2 orders of large fries. I used to think the same thing, but doesnt it feel so rewarding once you leave the gym? Like wow ok I've got this. Who cares if your husband goes or not, you need to make yourself happy first.

06-09-2009, 11:41 AM
Sounds like you have a plan! Schedule it in and put it on your list of things to do for the day.

I don't really think anyone over there will pay attention. The few times I've been to a hotel gym they are all involved in their routine and I have my headphones on and in my own little world :)

06-09-2009, 12:06 PM
congrats! I was afraid (understatement) to go to the gym because I thought everyone would look at me. just like so many other people have said, that didn't happen.

doing a workout always cheers me up, churns out those good chemicals. I'm so glad I got into working out in the gym. recently I did a bunch of sessions with a Y personal trainer, and that was a fantastic decision. He taught me all kinds of new exercises, helped me build up my upper body strength. helped to motivate me to get back on the right eating track so I could start losing weight again.

Shannon in ATL
06-09-2009, 12:29 PM
High five Jennelle! :)

06-09-2009, 08:25 PM
Woot! Three in a row! I did 15 minutes on the elliptical and a light weight circuit. Tomorrow is Wednesday, which I've designated as my rest day.

Arctic Mama
06-09-2009, 09:07 PM
Yay for working out! Keep it up!

06-09-2009, 10:01 PM
Woot! Three in a row! I did 15 minutes on the elliptical and a light weight circuit. Tomorrow is Wednesday, which I've designated as my rest day.

But I bet we see you back here (and in the gym) on Thursday! You are giving your "building a good habit" muscles a great workout --- good on you!

06-10-2009, 06:26 AM
Great job - and well done for keeping it up!

I make a committment to myself that I will go to the gym say 5 days a week..its okay if I wuss out and don't go Monday or Tuesday but I know that I'll have to go the next 5 days straight. That generally makes me keep to a schedule and makes me go :-)

06-10-2009, 08:33 AM
Great job Jennelle.

06-10-2009, 09:37 AM
I use to go sparingly also. One week not at all, one week once, etc....now I go at least 3 or 4 days a week. I have come to enjoy that time. And I also look at it as something I HAVE to do. Do, I want to wake up and go to work? Not really, I don't like waking up at 6am, but I want to pay my bills. Do I want to go to the gym after work? Not always, but I have to in order to get healthy, and being lazy and not going is just not an option.

Good for you for your commitment. It does get easier. I promise!

06-10-2009, 11:14 AM
Wonderful! Good for you.

06-10-2009, 11:20 AM
I understand where you are coming from on this one. I complained for MONTHS about getting a gym membership. So, they finally made me an offer even HE couldn't refuse...so the boyfriend agreed & we got one. Then when it was time to go work out...he wouldn't go. It was very discouraging to me. I wanted us to do this together...as a team. So after the 3rd time of him saying he didn't want to...I said fine & went by myself. I didn't like that he wasn't there to help me with my strength training but it felt good to exercise. Once you get into a routine it will be much easier. If he wants to go...fine. If not...that's fine too! I'm not doing this for him. I'm doing it for me, for my children, for my health and hopefully I will inspire someone else to get healthy.

Thighs Be Gone
06-10-2009, 11:25 AM
Jennelle--looks like you are pulling through! YAY!

Hey, don't worry about the haters. They will be the ones that talk about you no matter what you do. I had a few that laughed at me last year too.