100 lb. Club - You know how I said I'd post a picture?
Alana in Canada
05-31-2009, 01:35 AM
Man, I said that like I thought it would be easy.
That was earlier this week, in this thread: http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=172819
But, of course, it isn't.
Even though I'm all dressed up and smiling and I was feeling good--right now I am embarrassed beyond being able to explain. But I don't have to explain, do I?
I want to take all those wonderful feelings back--I want to say, naaah, I never felt good this BIG. Look at those arms--they just hang there--good grief. It's appalling.
And I almost wouldn't post this except
1) I said I would.
2) I'm afraid you'll shudder in horror and think I was crazy for "feeling good" about my purchases but this is the last place on Earth I need be afraid of that reaction, right?
and 3) I need to. I've been in denial about the true state of affairs. I was about 205 (I think) when I quit smoking last October. I have gained 50 lbs, then in seven months.
I cannot believe this picture. I still want to deny that's me.
New capri pants, new top, new earrings (which you can't see) and new shoes with heels higher than I've worn since forever.
05-31-2009, 01:44 AM
You look really nice! I love that top, and you can definitely dress it up or down. I think you look great!
05-31-2009, 01:49 AM
you look very nice and I like your outfit. nothing to shudder in horror about here!
dont take back the wonderful feelings - you deserve those feelings! The one thing I regret at my highest weight is that I hated myself. HATED. disgusted. would not take pictures. sure I put on makeup.. and bought new clothing.. but it was casual stuff. not dressed up 'i feel good' type outfits. I WISH I had more grace towards myself in hindsight because I was my own worst critic and never deserved to feel so negatively about myself.
:hug: I bookmarked this link awhile ago when I realized the negative way I felt about myself wasnt really going away as I lost weight - you may be able to find somehting useful here:
05-31-2009, 01:58 AM
Yay! Good for you. You look very nice!
I did take some before pictures and the horror is too awful to share with others right now. And I know that feeling all too well of getting dressed up and thinking you look pretty good considering only to see pictures later and want to cry. You will be so glad you have a starting picture to compare to later!
I have decided to take pictures (front, back, and side) and measure my waist at each of my 10% goals. You might take some measurements too...
05-31-2009, 02:04 AM
awww don't be down on yourself! and don't be down on people on here who'd kill to be 257 pounds!! Be as kind to yourself as you would other folks - if you hate that outfit don't wear it, find something more suited to your figure. Personally, i think the colour is really nice, and I always like to see bigger girls "making an effort" and not just schlepping around in sweats!
Alana in Canada
05-31-2009, 02:15 AM
Thank you for all the wonderful compliments.
Val--that is a great thread. Did you just bookmark it? Maybe I need to create a file folder just for 3FC threads--only I don't know how to do that in Firefox.
I WISH I had more grace towards myself in hindsight because I was my own worst critic and never deserved to feel so negatively about myself.
Is that what it is--graciousness? I don't know. And, wow, I can tell you that absolutely, no kidding, you did not deserve to feel so badly about yourself and you shouldn't--no one should. But can I take that advice?
I keep typing and erasing, typing and erasing....I'm just going in circles here.
and don't be down on people on here who'd kill to be 257 pounds!! Be as kind to yourself as you would other folks
oh, no, no, no, never. I'm just picking lint out of my (very deep) navel. I'm sorry if I offended anyone. This is just my reaction to me--it isn't meant to be personal about anyone else! I'm sure others at a lesser weight than I have had the same reaction when seeing themselves "larger than expected." In fact, I've read enough on here to know that's the case.
05-31-2009, 03:20 AM
Congratulations on having the courage to post - by that I mean that you felt you needed courage and did it, not that you needed it because you look lovely. And I'm so jealous that on you capri pants make your lower legs look slender and elegant and on shorter me they make my lower legs, which are also slender and elegant, look like a rugby player's!!!!!
05-31-2009, 07:35 AM
Hey! I don't think anyone here would be offended by your honest expression of how you feel about yourself. And you know, it is what it is--it's better to be realistic, I think.
But--you look really nice in that picture! The color of your top is just perfect for your skin tones. The outfit looks put together and so do you! And the best thing about it? You look confident, like you know you're lookin' good. Do you see how that comes through in your face? I think that's an important part of bringing out someone's attractiveness.
Hang in there--commit yourself to your weight loss plan! :cheer2: :cheer2: And good for you for being brave enough to post your photo!
05-31-2009, 08:57 AM
I know what you mean about being in denial.
I gained back 90lbs of the 125 lbs I lost 10 years ago and still can't believe what I look like in pictures.
You are much braver than me.
No way I'll post a picture of myself.
I think you have done well to only gain 50lbs when you stopped smoking.
Giving up cigarettes is very hard work and quite an accomplishment.
If you can quit smoking you can lose weight.
Sounds like you are making terrific progress :)
05-31-2009, 12:02 PM
I wish as looked as stylin as you when I weighed 250lbs (or 311 lbs). You look great. :)
05-31-2009, 12:32 PM
I must agree with the others you look very put together and pretty and if you didn't feel that day, practice, practice! and it will come, self love is something I think is more about doing than feeling sometimes. The feeling comes from the doing.
Also, no worries about the weight thing offending people either, heck I wish I offended myself at 170lbs so I didn't put the whole 50 back on. Seems I only offend myself at 220. We all have our point that it's too much and we hit our bottom, and everyone's is different.
And kudos on the smoking, I have 30lbs of determination and hutzpa on my butt from quitting too. There are so many similarities to quitting smoking and "quitting" bad food habits. Reworking behaviour patterns to not set yourself up, rehersing social situations where you know smoking will be a part of it and showers, I took so many showers (can't smoke in there!) and these are all things I use now with the food.
Have an awesome day!
05-31-2009, 12:46 PM
You are completely HAPPENING, chickee!!!! Your top matches your skin tone and I like the draping effect of the front. The pants ROCK...
You need to give yourself props for taking the photo and posting it, too, and for taking great care of yourself and for turning out quite nicely!
05-31-2009, 02:10 PM
It's a great pic! You are looking great and rocking a cute outfit. Even if you aren't where you want to be weightwise, you can still be happy with how you present yourself!
05-31-2009, 02:18 PM
Omg, I love that top!!!! The color and style is just awesome!!!
05-31-2009, 02:18 PM
I think you look beautiful! Thanks for sharing the photo!
05-31-2009, 02:28 PM
I think you look great in that outfit. That said, I know we're always our own worst critics (I'm that way with myself way too often).
05-31-2009, 02:50 PM
That color is great on you and I am jealous of your hair. I get the whole picture thing, but try not to be too hard on yourself. You really do look wonderful!
05-31-2009, 03:18 PM
Im looking forward to weighing 257 lol...so Im glad that you are here and that we can do this together..one pound at a time....
05-31-2009, 08:46 PM
I too think you look really great! :)
Really like your top!
Alana in Canada
05-31-2009, 08:53 PM
I got that top at Reitman's. It comes in a really pretty blue, too. ;)
I wish I had time to sepond to each of you. You've all been terrific and helpful. I think I'm OK now.
05-31-2009, 09:16 PM
You know what? Perfect and beautiful are not synonyms. You do not have to be perfect to be beautiful. And that outfit makes you look beautiful. :)
06-01-2009, 12:13 PM
Thank you for posting your picture! I love your outfit, I want one down to the sexy shoes!
06-01-2009, 12:23 PM
Its a great pictures! Don't be embarassed at all!
06-08-2009, 08:49 PM
woohoo that is a very stylish outfit and it looks great on you ;)
06-08-2009, 09:16 PM
I think you look great! Quitting smoking can be really hard, but I'm happier to be a reformed smoker than I ever was as a smoker. I've been free for 2.5 years now, and I can't even believe I used to do that to myself. I gained a lot of weight with it, too, but I can lose a few pounds a lot easier than I can re-grow lung tissue or cure myself of cancer.
There's nothing wrong with feeling cute even when you know your body isn't where you want it to be. I need to be reminded regularly, but we have to love ourselves as we are before we can ever be content with how we may become.
06-08-2009, 10:38 PM
Are you KIDDING me?! You look FABULOUS! I can tell you felt good about what you were wearing - your confidence and happiness just shines right through in that smile, and THAT'S what everyone saw that night!
Love the cowl neck, and LOVE the purple on you! And those sandals are too cute!
You rocked it, girl. :carrot:
06-08-2009, 11:22 PM
:spin::dancer:You look beautiful! I love the outfit and I love your smile! Thanks for sharing! Celebrate your victories!!
06-09-2009, 09:30 AM
Your beautiful and that doesn't have a size.
One piece of wisdom for the day. No one cares what you weigh except YOU and possibly your mom (or dad!).
06-09-2009, 09:44 AM
You look great, and you know, you're not that big, and your arms do not look that big. You have awesome hair and that is a great out fit. Just because you're overweight doesn't mean you can't look good or fel good about yourself. Skinny isn't the only mark of beauty.
Val--that is a great thread. Did you just bookmark it? Maybe I need to create a file folder just for 3FC threads--only I don't know how to do that in Firefox. You go to Bookmanrks ---> Organize Bookmarks ---> Click on the New Folder icon.
You know what? Perfect and beautiful are not synonyms. You do not have to be perfect to be beautiful. And that outfit makes you look beautiful. :) Exactly.