Pregnant - Nursing - I need my girls to give me some advice. :)

Ladies- you are the only ones who understand. :)

I have a 19 month old girl. I weigh 170-175 (haven't weighed in awhile but it's around there) and my ideal weight is 135-145. I feel like it's time to get pregnant again, and my husband feels the same way (he's been wanting to for awhile!)

I feel horrified at the thought of actually getting pg and gaining the pregnancy weight though. This 170+ that I weigh right now is about 15 lbs heavier than when I got pregnant with baby #1. I'm worried that if I get pregnant before reaching my weightloss goals that I will never reach them. That I'll be one of those women that just keeps gaining with each pregnancy.

I don't know. At this point, when we start TTC, it's up to me. But I'm nervous. I don't think I'm an unhealthy person- I'm very active and I eat well but I certainly don't always make wise food choices. But basically I feel like I would have a healthy pregnancy even at this weight, but i'm not SURE!

I know this all sounds pretty lame but any advice would be MUCH appreciated! :)

I did exactly the same thing as you are worried about, all I can tell you is my own experience. I gained 70 lbs with child #1, and lost 40 of it in between. With child #2 I gained another 70 lbs on top of the extra 30 I was carrying around, when all was said and done I had put on 100 lbs (and I didn't even try!) by the end of pregnancy #2 I could barely walk (pregnancy induced PIH and VERY swollen). However, I'm now at pre-pre-pregnancy weight and working to towards a new, never achieved before goal of 150 lbs. The good news is, I'm none the worse for wear, I had two healthy babies and I'm working my way down the scale again for GOOD, it CAN be done, whether or not you gain with each pregnancy. Sooo, in a perfect world I would have liked to take off that 30 lbs, however, time was of the essence since I had my last baby at 38 years old. Either way, I went in with vow to myself that it I WILL do it... whether it be do it now, or do it later... for longer... I knew I would make it happen :)

I was going to wait until I was at a more ideal weight before TTC, but at the same time I knew I didn't want my LO's to be TOO far apart. We decided to go the 'not trying but not preventing' route and just not stress about it. I lost about 10 lbs then bounced around w/in that 10lbs and then got pregnant. Since getting pg i've lost a bunch due to MS.

You could still work on loosing weight while TTC and just stay on a healthy eating and safe exercise track once you do get pg so you stay in the groove until after you give birth and can start loosing again.

All I can really say is everyone's different.
I was about 180-185 when I got pregnant with our first. I went up to 246 due to preeclampsia later in pregnancy. Finally after 3 years, I got under 200. Gained about 5 lbs due to a job change and found myself pregnant...again. I wasn't anywhere near the weight I wanted to be, but this time I only went up to 235. My younger one is almost 8 months old and I am 181 lbs. My older boy is almost 4 1/2. You can see how long it took me to get back to pre-babies weight! ;) It varies from person to person. My mom and my MIL both gained weight and kept it on with each baby. (My mom had 3, MIL had 4...both are very overweight) I did and do not want to end up like that. I am working very hard to lose and keep the weight off. I really would like to have one more child (preferably a girl, since I already have two boys, but as long as the baby is healthy that is all that really matters!). I would love it if I could get down to a weight that if I were to get pregnant again I could stay under 200, but if I got pregnant now it would not be the end of my hard work. :)
Good luck with whatever you do decide. Just remember, whatever happens is meant to happen! *AND you will get that weight off somehow someday!* :hug: