Weight Loss Support - Lamenting the shape my loss is taking




sws19
05-08-2009, 10:43 AM
I apologize but I just need to whine for a second. Granted, I haven't been the most diligent dieter and all, but I have been making changes at a degree of strictness that I think is sustainable and workable for me. This has resulted in a very slow pace of weight loss, but loss nonetheless. Everyone here has mentioned that sometimes even if you can't see the loss on the scale, whip out the tape measure. So I did.
In the months since I first started this journey, I have lost an inch and a half off my bust, an inch off my hips, an inch or so off my thighs, and a whopping, wait for it, 1/4 inch from my waistline. Now, even though I was overweight/obese before, my hips and thighs have NEVER been an issue for me and if they had stayed the same size even to goal, I wouldn't have been too bothered. It's all about the midsection for me. That is the problem area. Now, I realize that yes I have a healthier lifestyle now and I am trimmer in certain areas and that's great and all but the area I really really really wanted to reduce? Hardly any change at all. In fact, I wish my butt would get bigger and more defined. Instead, it seems to be shrinking. I have the sensation of becoming a rectangle. Sigh. So frustrating. Right now I'm cursing my PCOS and the apple body shape it creates.
End rant.


Windchime
05-08-2009, 11:04 AM
I'm not an apple but I am seeing similar results. I didn't measure my hips or thighs at the beginning but I can tell they're smaller because of the way my pants fit. I can tell that the pads of fat on my upper hips is getting smaller. Waist? Not so much. So instead of going from a large hourglass to a smaller one, I am also becoming a rectangle. I have a pair of work pants that zip on the side and yesterday I was zipping them at work and was standing sideways to the mirror. I caught a glimpse and was amazed (and kind of disappointed) to see that my butt had shrunk significantly. I don't want a flat butt!

I have to think that we just need to ride this phase out and let the fat disappear in the order it wants to. I wish I had measured my hips in the beginning; at least I might become encouraged by the size change there.

Thighs Be Gone
05-08-2009, 11:08 AM
I had a bad stomach problem before--it was big. LOL. Last summer I read about the flat belly diet and started incorporating some of the foods into my daily calorie intake. I can't be certain if it was completely due to it, but my stomach is much better now. I think my waist was a 37 or 38. Now I am 27. You might want to check it out. A Spin instructor once told me carbs were the number one contributing factor to stomach.


JulieJ08
05-08-2009, 11:13 AM
Re-take your waist and/or abdomen for several days. The waist and especially abdomen was a measurement that I actually found to be almost as variable as the scale, with the bloating and whatnot.

Delphi
05-08-2009, 11:20 AM
I have the same frustration. Even the last time I lost all the weight, my mid section was my trouble area and I always seemed to lose it everywhere else but my belly. :( I'm gonna be positive this time around and just concentrate on the positives and perhaps this time around and further down the road I'll see changes to my belly as well. Focusing on what is going well is probably the key for me. :)

sws19
05-08-2009, 11:38 AM
i suspect it's just my body being my same stubborn old body. my midsection is where my body holds its weight. this has been the case since at least puberty. i'm not sure there is terribly much i can do to expedite the process. i'm just trying to keep pushing with the cardio, minding the calories, throwing in some crunches, and being patient. it's hard hard, the patience.
i just wanted to register for the record that i'm frustrated yet mildly amused that after all my hard work, parts of my body i didn't previously consider fat are actually getting even smaller and the fats bits are still fat. so thanks for listening and giving advice!

DCHound
05-08-2009, 12:02 PM
I used to be an apple but going on Atkins cured that. Last time I was on Atkins I went from an apple to an hourglass. This time I am doing very low carb plus NO processed foods at all, including no diet sodas, and my waist is now extraordinarily tiny compared to the rest of me. In fact one of my friends commented that even though I'm a size 18 my waist is a size 14, we measured and she was right. YMMV but low carb/zero processed foods worked for me.

Shannon in ATL
05-08-2009, 12:05 PM
My midsection was the absolute last thing to go... I lost boobs, butt, hips, everything else, and waist/tummy stayed the same. Even now, my waist measurement goes up and down as much as an inch or two from day to day sometimes. Also, I lost most of my waist when I added in weight training, most of it after I had reached goal weight. I think your waist will start to show a difference soon.

Ija
05-08-2009, 12:13 PM
Same here, it seems my muffin top is the most stubborn part of me. Something I've noticed, though, is that my body hasn't changed uniformly throughout the weight loss process. There was a stretch of a few months where it seemed like it came mostly from my arms, shoulders, and chest, and lately it's been my legs and rear that have seen the most change. I'm hoping that these last ten pounds will take care of the middle.

I see keep truckin' and see what happens!

Fressca
05-08-2009, 12:43 PM
Well, apart from saying "Me, too! Me, too!" I don't have much to add. I would love to be rid of my midsection. I agree with JulieJ08, my abdominal measurement goes varies from day to day. And a book I'm reading by Tosca Reno (Clean Eating Diet, I think it's called) advocates fewer (no?) starchy carbs and ab workouts. That would go along with what TBG and DCHound say.

georgiad
05-08-2009, 01:43 PM
I have a tiny waist and big thighs. In the past when I have lost 30+lbs all the weight goes from my waist and nothing budges from my thighs, so I end up with an even tinier waist, which I don't really mind, but because my thighs don't change, they look even bigger compared to my tiny waist! Dammit!

kiramira
05-08-2009, 02:08 PM
It is all so relative! Would you be willing to share the measurements with us? Because the issue is the relative differences between your bust and waist and your waist and hips! And about 50% of the female population is considered "a rectangle", where there is less than 8 inch difference between bust/waist and waist/hips...
Kira

paperSkin
05-08-2009, 02:17 PM
I've seen your pictures, and you are absolutely gorgeous.. I know it must be frustrating for you to not see the differences that you want.. but when I saw your picture in that yellow dress I thought you were stunning.. and that your mid section was tinee tiny!

sws19
05-08-2009, 02:49 PM
awww, paperskin, thanks! that is the best thing that's happened all day.
i think you're referring to this post (http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showpost.php?p=2726679&postcount=37)? which actually includes a fairly accurate description of my situation: apple masquerading as an hourglass.

but i think in the end, i just mean my waist isn't decreasing relative to me. i am my own point of comparison.

kira, sure. we're all friends here. in mid jan. my measurements were approx 41.5 chest, 33 waist, 40.5 hips. and now, after four months at this and about 150 miles run, i'm approximately 39 chest, 32.75 waist, 38 hips. so yeah i would probably always be the "rectangle" shape according to the official stats, but i sorta more meant that i am actually becoming more rectangular. as in, i look more like an actual rectangle than before.
i will say, however, that i have noticed pleasant weight loss in my fingers, calves, and most excitingly, face. so it's not that i'm all doom and gloom. it's just that i want to see some movement in the middle.

kiramira
05-08-2009, 02:57 PM
Holy crap, girly girl! A 32 inch WAIST! That is a total dream...
You are so totally on the cusp of an hourglass figure, and you are doing amazingly well, so keep it up!
Now, I read something really interesting in Oxygen magazine. One of the fitness experts wrote an article that addressed this specifically. He said that your waist size will be determined by your rib cage dimensions and your hip dimensions. There isn't much else that can be done about it.
And think of it this way: Jillian from TBL is definitely a rectangle. As are most elite fitness athletes, because that is just the way it is. And I'll take their figures any day!
Hang in there, don't worry about it, see how you are when you reach goal, then get a kick-*** personal trainer to tighten up your midsection (or do this now!)...
Kira

Lori Bell
05-08-2009, 04:07 PM
Okay...How do I say this politically correct...hummm. Here goes, haven't you mentioned on numerous occasions that you like to drink alcohol...like a lot? Something you can't give up yet? The second I read you post, a huge red flag went up. You see, I was a very heavy drinker for awhile, and during this time I developed a HUGE stomach. When I started my healthy way of life, I took my measurements, and for the first "diet" ever, I totally eliminated alcohol. The results have been staggering. My stomach/waist is smaller than I can ever remember it, even at the same weight. I have lost 22.5 inches from my waist.

I truly believe that if you totally cut out alcohol from your diet for 1 month you will see amazing results...There is a real reason it's called a "beer belly".

I did not drink beer...I drank hard liquor...but alcohol is alcohol.

sws19
05-08-2009, 04:37 PM
thanks for the advice and encouragement, ladies!
and lori bell. you are right, sorta. i do think alcohol is one of the primary culprits in my inability to lose weight at a desirable pace. this is part of what i was referring to when i mentioned that i have been taking things slow and making manageable sustainable changes for my lifestyle. in the hopes of helping things, i have been making a conscious effort to drink less, drink less frequently, and make better choices when i'm out. however, it had not occured to me that alcohol might be playing some role in the where and how of weight loss. i just figured it was impacting the how much. but you make a valid point and i will definitely think about it.
i know this is going to sound incredibly lame, but it's a bit of a challenge to not drink as a single girl in nyc. not undoable, by any means, just, ya know, it poses some challenges. i guess i just need to weigh (no pun intended. seriously!) my desire to lose weight at a given pace, in a certain way, or at all, against the value of my social life as is.

Jinksie
05-08-2009, 05:39 PM
where exactly is the waist? Is it the area in line with the belly button, or the area directly under the rib cage?
I take 3 measurements across this whole area. "waist" "hips" and "butt/lower hip".

Jacqui_D
05-08-2009, 06:55 PM
The waist has no bones, so it falls between the very top of your hipbones and the bottom of your ribcage, usually just above your bellybutton.

Bumbleberry
05-09-2009, 03:00 AM
I used to be an apple but going on Atkins cured that. Last time I was on Atkins I went from an apple to an hourglass. This time I am doing very low carb plus NO processed foods at all, including no diet sodas, and my waist is now extraordinarily tiny compared to the rest of me. In fact one of my friends commented that even though I'm a size 18 my waist is a size 14, we measured and she was right. YMMV but low carb/zero processed foods worked for me.

Interesting. Thank you for that advice. I wonder why it works that way for you? Maybe I should try being more healthy. Just because I CAN eat two cookies on WW doesn't mean that I SHOULD, right?

To the OP -- I am there, hun. I started jogging and guess what? I went down a pants size -- and a CUP SIZE! So great. I will have smaller hips, no boobs and a huge tummy. Blah. :(