20-Somethings - Just so darn UPSET!!!!!

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05-07-2009, 12:52 PM
Ever since i had our son 5 years ago i have had alot of "Women Issues" due to them i had a miscarriage after our son and then did get to have our daughter who is 2 1/2 now. I go into my Gyno ever 3 months to be checked out. I have been having major problems again i have had my TOM 3 weeks straight again. and it is just not stopping.. So back into the doctors i keep going.

Since i had our son they wanted me to have a Hyst. but at that age i didnt want to have it done we wanted more kids so i just put up with it. We now have 2 healthy kids and we are not sure if we want more or not. It is getting worse and worse..At this point it is NOT life threatining i just have to deal with it. I am only 26. I have been to 3 specialist and they all tell me the same thing, to have it done..

I do suffer from being enemic due to the whole TOM thing and i am on Iron pills and it does seem to help.

I just dont know if i want to wait and see what happens or have it done and have energy again or deal with it..

I mean i am super tired all the time i do the SHRED video and i am totally wiped out and i have to rest for 15 minutes because it wears me out so bad.

I just dont know what to do.. My hubby says it is whatever i decide..

Sorry this is so long i just need advice and good advice other then family advice..

05-07-2009, 01:05 PM
(((Shannon))), I'm so sorry that you are going through this. Take your time in making such a big decision and be good to yourself.

05-07-2009, 01:21 PM
The quality of your diet can have a huge effect on your hormones and menstrual cycle. The symptoms of PCOS, for example, can often be controlled by diet. What's your diet like?

05-07-2009, 01:31 PM
I'm sorry you are going through this.

Take the time to think it out, a hysterectomy is so major! I mean on one hand you have two children, a boy and a girl, on the other hand do you think you will want to have more?

It's just one of those things you and hubby have to weigh out and figure out what to do.

What does your husband think?

Good luck!

05-07-2009, 01:40 PM
My husband has said whatever i want to decide he is behind me 100 percent. The whole inccident and what really hurt my insides was my son's condition. He was a premiee as well as our daughter. He was 8 1/2 weeks early and she was 4 weeks early..

Anyway to make along story short, Due to his problems before birth the last 3 weeks i was pregnant i gained 25 pounds and it was all fluid from the baby. He could not swallow it so he was spitting it back out and it was causing me to swell like you would not believe.

really messed up my ovaries and so on.. SO it is not an issue about eating healthy or dieting it is just an issue of having it done or not.

05-07-2009, 01:47 PM
I'm sorry that you're going through that, Shannon. I don't have any words of advice, but here are some ((hugs)). I hope you get everything sorted out soon!

05-07-2009, 01:55 PM

05-07-2009, 06:07 PM
Oh Shannon, I am so sorry. My heart breaks for you. I too am on the path to a hysterectomy much early in my life. It sounds like the condition makes you pretty miserable. I know you and your husband may want more children in the future, But the kids you have now need a healthy mother! I'm not trying to guilt you or force you to make a decision you don't want to make, but in my heart I feel like it may be best for you to have the procedure. I understand your condition is not currently life-threatening, but it seems to be having an impact on your quality of life. As for having more children, Adoption is always an option for you.

If you need to talk or vent to anybody, feel free to pm me any time. Our conditions may not be the same but we seem destined for the same outcome.