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05-05-2009, 08:24 AM
Good morning gals. I keep telling you I think the rain has moved out then it rains another day. I am hoping it is finally moving off today. They were powerwashing the deck next door for what seemed like hours yesterday and oh what a noise. Gave me a headache. I am amazed he makes any money at all with the work he puts into his rental property.

I got an email from my younger sister and she said her husband got fired on Friday so he is out of a job out in expensive California. They have two teenagers in the home and one of their grown children living there. Then yesterday, I got an email from my oldest sister and she had talked to my brother, who lives just outside Chicago. He works for Ford and they have cut his pay by about 35%. He built a huge new house not more than about a year or so ago and now is in jeopardy of losing it as he can't make the payments. He has always been money savvy, having a masters in accounting and he says he has lost big money in all his investments and they have gone through all their savings. They have three teenage children they have to think about, my brother is near 50, is obese, and has serious diabetes. Finding a job for him is going to be tough. So please keep them in your prayers. It might not sound very glamorous, but thank God for sewage! Jack jokes that he has ultimate job security as everybody has to poop.

I overdid my turnips so they were mushy and a little lame on taste last night. I made Faye's stuff so kind of used the sauce as gravy over the mashed turnips, which gave them some flavor. Tonight is sirloin burger for Jack and turkey burger for me and I am having a german cole slaw. I love vinegar based slaw so am looking forward to it. Because of the fiber in the slaw and the no calorie dressing, it is actualy minus on WW points. What could be better than that? I am going to make a pot of pumpkin soup for lunch I think.

Lots to do today so I better get with it. Hope everyone has a good day today. I am off to do chores and start the downstairs cleaning for this week.

05-05-2009, 12:04 PM
Good Morning, Flowers! It is pouring rain like you wouldn't believe! Ernie wants to sit in the open window but guess it got too wet for him because he hopped down, I shut the window, and now he is staring at it and meowing, like "make it dry up there!" :lol: Yesterday went pretty well considering there was no funeral home organizer there. We were surprised and pleased at the number of people came. Several from the "kids'" classes who still live in the area, as well as some of MIL's college friends who still live in the Sioux City area were there. I am taking today "off" to get started on thank you notes. We didn't even open cards from the funeral yesterday so will have lots of them to do.

"Gma" -- I did find a couple of summer capri/top outfits at the mall. I bought them thinking "Maui" more than anything. Penneys was having a big sale and each time I checked out they asked for a photo ID. I finally said "no" to the last checker and she didn't know what to say to me. I showed her my other purchases and said I'd showed it enough times for the day and I didn't appreciate having to dig it out again. I felt bad afterwards because I was under the impression Bob was meeting with his siblings only, and the other two sisters-in-law came along. I didn't get to visit with them much yesterday and could have had more time with them on Sunday. Bob ordered flowers, from us, to be delivered to the church on Saturday so they would be there for the Sunday service. My good friend, who provided the music for the funeral, called me and said the flowers had arrived -- the ribbon had "Mother" on it and the card said it was from "Dick and Jean!" :lol: The shop was making other deliveries in the area and we are wondering if someone got a card from "Bob and Jean." Then we kidded Bob about having a brother than no one knew about; it was too funny because his mother was very straight laced her whole life. I'm sorry to hear about your brother's and brother-in-law's jobs. I hope that things will work out; it would be so hard on couples with children for sure. Anyone losing a job would be traumatic these days. I like Jack's outlook on keeping his job! :lol3:

Well, the pile of thank yous is waiting for me to get at 'em. Have a nice day today and a wonderful Wednesday tomorrow!

Jean -- :wave: from :rain: Iowa!

05-05-2009, 09:32 PM
Good evening, ladies!

I don't know where the time goes anymore, it seems there isn't enough hours in a day to do everything.

It's still raining - and depressing - and it always makes my breathing worse. I had my echocardiogram this morning. I was able to see most of it on the screen - not that I knew anything about what I was seeing. I should have the results in about a week.

My friend and I had a Ruby Tuesday bogo coupon that was about to expire so we went to dinner tonight. Had a nice steak, baked potato and salad.

Faye, I think you asked me about baking a sweet potato and I never answered - yes, bake it like a potato. You can also microwave it. I'd love to have your pumpkin soup recipe. Have you ever tried mixing pumpkin into oatmeal - to die for. I'll add your family to the prayer list that they may all get jobs quickly. I'm with Jack - that's one business that has to keep going. The others are grocery stores and funeral homes. We have to eat and we can't keep the dead around for long. I'm so thankful I have my SS and pension, small as it is, so I can have enough to live on, if not high on the hog.

Jean, I'm glad you have Maui to look forward to during this sad time.

Well, NCIS and Biggest Loser are my tv for tonight - they overlap so I only see the last half of BL.

Have a good evening.

05-06-2009, 09:26 AM
Good morning to you! Well I guess I spoke too soon. We had terrible thunderstorms and lots of rain all night and looks like today is going to be the same. I am well ready for lots of sunny weather. Won't be long and the pool will be open.

Susan: This is the recipe I used. I actually ate it cool from the fridge. It isn't terribly sweet, but I liked it. You can add anything to it to change the flavor. I thought I might add a bit of cloves next time. When Jack retires and we change from our Tricare Prime to Medicare and Tricare for Life and then Jack's city pension, ss, and navy retirement pension, we will lose about $700 a month but we will still be able to live comfortable though like you said, not high on the hog. I am just very thankful he has a secure job that he can retire with pension in 6 more years. My sister and her family will never be able to retire and live on ss as they have no savings or pension to live on. It is sad, really, but they have not planned for retirement and she is 2 years younger than I and her husband is a year younger than Jack. They also have a dd that is a senior in high school so they have college to try and find money for. I am glad I had my kids early so we could enjoy our old age.

Sweet Pumpkin Soup makes 3- 2 cup servings 1 ww point per serving

Large can pumpkin
2 1/2 c skim milk or 3 cans ff evap milk
c sugar free syrup
tsp salt
1 tsp ginger
1 tsp nutmeg
2 tsp cinnamon

combine and cook until consistency is as you like and warmed

Jean: Well at least nobody wondered if you were fooling around with "dick." :lol: It is kind of awful that they screwed up the son's name though.

I need to get hopping on the knitting and I haven't had my raisin bran this morning so I better get to it. Hope you have a good one and you at least have sun where you are!

05-06-2009, 11:01 AM
Good morning, ladies! We had storms all night again and more rain today. The water has risen a lot so I hope it quits soon.

Faye, this seems like a good day for it, so I'll be having pumpkin soup for supper. There are a lot of people like your sister and bil who haven't planned ahead and have nothing saved for retirement. I'm hoping my IRA recovers some more before I have to start making withdrawals at 70. There a whole generation that thinks they have to have everything NOW and have gotten themselves so deep into credit card debt they'll never get out. The scary thing is that if all you have is SS and Medicare and you have to go into a nursing home, you'll end up in a horrible one.

Nothing going on today. I need to start planning meals for next week tonight.

Have a good day!

05-07-2009, 12:06 PM
Good morning ladies. I actually slept in this morning and it did me a world of good. I did come down stairs around 4:30 but then slept in the recliner very nicely.

I have to go in a few minutes to the store for something I forgot to buy then to the gas station to give them Jack's paycheck. Someone is ripping someone off and we are getting the bad end of it with gas. We were paying $1.82 and overnight it went to $1.99 then by afternoon $1.94. Now you know there is something hinky with that. The barrel of oil cost doesn't jump around 2-3 times a day for them to need to change the prices.

Susan: As you know, my bil is in a nursing home, not top notch, but it is clean and doesn't smell and they seem to be well taken care of. They take all of his hospital pension, all his medicare, and all of my sister's pay except for $1500. She said she cannot sell her house and move into an apartment because they would take all that money too. When I visited with her last month, she said she is going back to the lawyer and discuss transferring ownership to her granddaughter and then sell it if she can. Like I said for us, we will have Jack's city pension, which will be 35% of what his gross income is when he retires, then his Navy pension which is around $1400 a month right now and his SS. We plan on holding off me drawing until we need to so I may wait until I am 70. The thing is, if you don't make a lot of money and can't afford to put significant in a 401K you are sunk too. I had one when I worked at the law firm, but they weren't offered anywhere Jack worked and I didn't put much in because I worked parttime. You also lost money in economic times like this if they don't invest for you very well. So, it is kind of a crap shoot I think.

I guess I better let Fortune out, he is whining at the door. Have a great Thursday everybody!

05-07-2009, 06:48 PM
Good Afternoon, Flowers! I thought I posted yesterday, but I don't see it so must not have. My mind is fuzzy these days! :spin: It's been a strange day for weather in my corner of the world . . . sun, rain, sun, and now big white poufy clouds are moving in. Not much new or exciting from here. School was SSDD as usual.

I like pumpkin bread but not so sure about pumpkin soup. I don't think Bob would even try it; I'll have to ask him.

I'm off to write more thank yous! Have a FANTASTIC Friday tomorrow!

Jean -- :wave: from Iowa!

05-08-2009, 09:10 AM
Good morning to you all! I can't tell whether we are going to get rain today or not. It is very humid today, I know that. I have clinic today and they don't keep the school very cool so I have to make sure I wear something comfortable. I have this cotton tunic shirt that is thin and cool and have a pair of blue and white seersucker pants I wear with it. Sounds like just the ticket for today.

Jean: The soup I have is sort of like eating liquid pie filling. I like it alright, not great but alright. I think it needs more fooling around with to be really good though. Our kids have 2 1/2 weeks of school left.

Doing well with WW and have lost a large amount this week like I always do. I am staying OP though as is Jack which is the most important. I have found a goal outfit at Coldwater Creek I am thinking of ordering. Since we are going on a cruise next year this would be perfect for it. It is a capri outfit. I need to have something to focus on down the road and if I pay good money for something that won't fit for quite awhile, it may help me not to stray.

I guess I better tackle morning chores and have my cheerios. Hope you all have a fun weekend. I think we may go to the movies and see the new Matthew McConahay movie, which looks cute.


05-08-2009, 06:13 PM
Good afternoon, ladies! The rain has finally ended and it is a lovely 80 degree day today.

I had quilt bee last night and quilt quild today so I've been busy.

Faye, I think your idea of getting an outfit as a goal to work towards is good. I have a size 12 pair of jeans, slim cut, I'm working toward. I'm glad you are off to a good start.

Jean, It's almost the middle of May already. Freedom is just around the corner.

Are you lovely ladies being treated to dinner out for Mother's Day?

Have a good evening!

05-09-2009, 12:07 AM
Good Evening! It has poured rain off and on most of the day, and has turned chilly tonight; the furnace is running again. :( We had a half day of school today so I spent part of the afternoon writing thank you notes. I know it is time to quit when I start making stupid mistakes in spelling and grammar. Tomorrow we are going to my "sister's" to celebrate my "mom's" 83rd birthday and Mother's Day with them. Sunday we are going to Jason's to celebrate Zowie's 4th birthday early . . . maybe Mother's Day too. Monday will be here too soon. :yes:

"Gma" -- I hope your time at the clinic went well today. I just visited with a couple, at the funeral lunch, who had been on a cruise where the dress was casual for everything. She said they had a pool where they were teaching how to surf, and if you fell off you were pushed back up to the top, by the waves, to start over. I'm not sure I would try that one at my age. :no: I would like the casual dress part though. I like to watch the travel channel and see how people live and travel.

Susan -- Do your fingers ever get tired when you do a lot of quilting? I need to get my Christmas stocking out and get going on it again. We have 7 days of classes left, 1 day of "playing clean-up" in the parks, and 2 1/2 days of final exams left. :cheer: They have been moving teachers around to different rooms for next year; most of it makes no sense except to be a power struggle with the administration. I did find out that the technology IA (they eliminated her tech. position for next year, and informed her at the beginning of the semester) was offered the choice of doing the building aide's job and working 9 - 5, or taking my job. She was quoted months ago as saying she wouldn't follow any special ed. kids around; she also works doing taxes during tax time so I know that she won't like staying at school until 5. It will be interesting. I think I am glad I won't be there.

I'm heading off to bed and read. I have a book from the school library and they were supposed to be turned in today. Have a nice weekend, and do something nice for yourselves!

Jean -- :wave: from Iowa!

05-09-2009, 09:35 AM
Good morning to you all today! Well, it is raining again. In fact it is coming down pretty hard. This is about the 6th year in a row that Memphis in May has been sloppy muddy. The music festival was last weekend and it had to be a mud pit down at Tom Lee Park. I think the big bbq contest is this weekend and it will still be horribly muddy with this rain. This contest is the biggest and most admired in the country for pork bbq so people come rain or shine. You should see it, and the smell! You would die from the wonderful smell of bbq all downtown.

Susan: I thought since we were going on a cruise in Sept 2010 and I should be at or near goal by then, cruise clothing would be just the ticket. I told Jack it was going to cost him a bundle as I would have to have all new clothes for the cruise. He said he would too. So, we are truly working hard at this but trying to make it something we enjoy. After all, if you are forcing yourself to eat things you don't like, it won't last. I told Jack that last night. If I try something new and don't like it, I am not going to force myself to keep eating it even if it is good for me. I need to have a healthy lifestyle I want to stick to and live with. Kelly is out of town so emailed me and ask if we could put off going out for Mother's Day. Jack and I are sticking to home and I haven't decided what I am going to fix yet.

Jean: Sounds like this lady is not going to be happy at either position. The school was in kind of an uproar yesterday as it was field day so they all had on casual clothing and the dress code was relaxed. Give a kid one thing and he will take a mile. I noticed the teachers getting after them a lot yesterday about cutting up and talking and running in the hall. Hey, school is almost out, those kids want to be outside playing! lol I did have one mother get really snotty with me because I wouldn't/couldn't let her dd lay down with a cloth on her head in the clinic. She was nasty to me on the phone as her daughter has migraines and she wanted her to stay at school. Well, first off I had to tell her that the girl couldn't stay and she bit my head off about that so I told her that I was only a volunteer and didn't make the rules. Instead of saying she would come get her she then just wanted me to send her back to class. (oh and PS, she is a stay at home mom so it wasn't like her work interfered) If she were so worried about her why didn't she want to get her home? She obviously wasn't worried about her classwork if she wanted her to stay in the clinic the rest of the afternoon. She finally said to send her back to class she would come get her "because heaven forbid the school accomodate me." as she put it. So that is what I did. I felt sorry for the girl but there was little I could do about it. We can't give any meds, they can't stay in the clinic, so I don't have a lot I can do. I just try to be as pleasant with the parent as I can. I did call the pta person who runs the clinic and told her what happened just in case the woman wants to make a scene. Thought she should be prepared.

I guess I better get to it. I promised Jack biscuits and gravy this morning and though I have the lowfat sausage, I haven't made the biscuits.

Have a great Saturday today......:rain::rain:Paddling to keep afloat in Memphis, Faye

05-09-2009, 03:40 PM

It is a nice Saturday in the Heartland. The church bought Will a new great riding mower and he has mowed and it is a still day so he is able to spay for weeds. Gotta grab the chance because there aren't many of those still days around here. ;) The lawn really needs some TLC to bring it back to exact. Ragg Mopp was so cute when it was delivered. He had to walk around it a couple of times then hopped on and sat in the seat like he was king of the hill. And me without a camera handy. Well folks y'all know how I like my coffee nice and HOT. I am always looking for a better "travel" type mug because they keep the brew the hottest. I think I have the best the market has to offer now. I ordered it out of a catalogue put out by Hammacher Schlemmer on page 3. It also came with a little screen basket with which to brew loose tea right in the cup. It is tall and sleek and does keep my coffee piping hot to the last drop. I always get a kick out that catalogue because they test products and put the best of the best in a catalogue. I find it interesting that I already own some of the articles they have said are the best so that puts a smile on my face. They also have some very spendy stuff in there that is fun to see.

JEAN I am sure you are going to beathe a sigh of relief when you don't have to go to that school anymore. Now you can do what you want to do and not what you have to do all the time.

DONNA FAYE You are a hoot. You will be at goal and I want you to send me some pictures of you and also some photos of your cruise. I believe in having outfits that are too small but we can shrink into. I found a beautiful jacket with a lovely real fox fir trim on the hood that is haning in my closet for next winter. It is a coral color and I am going to find a chocolate pant suit that will look terrific under it.

SUSAN Our quilting queen ~ sounds like you have been keeping busy. We aren't doing anything really spectatular for Mothers Day ~ go out as usual after morning services but I think I am going to opt for Chinese. I sent my mother a glass house for her gift. It is hard to buy her anything for she has what she wants, she isn't cranky about it but just has what she wants. She is about as particular as I am and knows what she wants so has it. :o She actually did ask for a glass house so that was easy for me to accomodate her with. She is in her 90's and still swims every day except on Sunday. What a gal. Maybe for her birthday in November I will buy her a new swim suit. She can always use another. With a heated pool one can swim all year round out West.

Have a lovely weekend Magnolias. :wave: Type at y'all later.

05-10-2009, 09:11 AM
Good morning ladies and HAPPY MOTHERS DAY! Just a quick post this morning, but wanted to be sure and wish you all a happy mothers day. It is still raining here off and on. We are going to float away.

I imagine it will be a quiet day around here. We have no plans as Kelly is out of town today so we will celebrate with her another day.

Maggie: I am sure your mom will love her little glass house. My mom always liked the things I would make her. Unfortuntely, I wanted them back when she died and never got a single thing back of all the things I made her. Made me sad and mad really, as they had no monetary value and I did ask my step father's family to get them to my sister and she would give them to me. I didn't get a darn thing back and I imagine they were just thrown away.

You gals have a super duper day and I will talk with you tomorrow.

05-10-2009, 03:28 PM
Good afternoon, ladies! Happy mother's day. After the 90 degree day we had yesterday, today's 75 feels wonderful.

I did laundry and cleaned out the pantry. Have to find all those things that get "lost" in the back of the shelves from time to time. I have way too much food for one person. But with hurricanes, nor'easters, and ice storms, I like to keep a good supply on hand.

I had to go to the grocery store after church because I had no milk in the house. That rarely happens but it came at a good time. Kroger has $2.19 a gallon for skim this week. They also had whole pineapples already peeled and cored for $2.99 and blackberries or blueberries at buy one get one free. Looks like a good week for fruit because I already had strawberries, bananas, apples, pears and grapes.

Faye, gas has gone way up here, too. Last week I paid $1.77 - $1.93 today. We expect it though because of being a tourist destination everything goes up in the summer. We get "Good Neighbor" cards so we get discounts at restaurants and amusement parks, etc.

Jean, hope you enjoyed your celebrations this weekend. My fingers do get tired when I quilt. Right now I'm having a time with hand work because of my thumb. It has never returned to the way it was before I dislocated it and the least bit of use makes it ache.

Maggie, now Will can have fun while he mows! I know your mom will love the house you made her. Your winter jacket sounds beautiful.

I'm making a turkey breast for supper. I had 2 in the freezer and it's time to use it up. So I'll roast one for tonight and then portion it and freeze most of it. Makes for easy lunch or supper to just pull a portion out.

Well, enjoy your day. I'm going to watch a movie.

05-10-2009, 11:49 PM
Happy Mother's Day Evening! It's been a cool sunny day in my neighborhood. We spent yesterday afternoon and evening with my "mom" at her daughter's house. Today we went to church and then headed to Jason's to celebrate Zowie's birthday since they will be in MN over Memorial Day weekend. I feel like I spent most of the weekend in the car! :lol:
I should be writing thank yous but will spend a few minutes here first. I do need to do some ironing yet tonight.

Hope you all have a nice evening and a marvelous Monday tomorrow.

Jean -- :wave: from Iowa!

05-11-2009, 06:57 AM
Good morning to you all! Hope your day is starting out well. I hear the birds chirping already this morning but I sure hope the darn rain has moved out of our area. It was pretty heavy at times.

Well today was weigh in. As usual, when I put my mind to it and do what I should I lose a huge amount the first week. Jack did very well too. I lost 14.5 lbs and he lost 2. I imagine it will now settle down to a more even amount. I am very very determined to do this. I was to be at or near goal when we go cruising next year so I can walk around comfortably.

I had cut off extra from our loin chops the other night so we had a 6 oz chop each and took the extra and just put it in a freezer bag and froze it. It was kind of the tops off the chop so I decided to make pork fried rice with it tonight. Jack bought some veggie spring rolls you can have 2 for 2 pts and by cutting out the oil and just using spray and sticking in some veggies Jack will eat like onions and diced up carrots and scrambling egg beaters instead of eggs and instead of doing it in with the rice, just scrambling them first then incorporate, you can have a cup for about 5 pt, which isn't too bad at all. So we are having chinese tonight! lol

Susan: I dislocated my thumb about 12 years ago when I fell off a chair trying to put up curtains. When I knit for very long, I feel it in that hand right around the big knuckle. I just have to stop then and go back later. It is a bummer, but I am sure it is the same with you. Sounds like you got some good deals at Krogers. How do you use a gallon of milk by yourself without it going bad before it is all gone?

You are NOT going to believe this, but it is pouring down rain at this moment. I can hear the sound through the fireplace hitting the chimney. Sheesh, I am so done with rain!

Jean: Hope you had a grand time with the kids. I talked to Jay yesterday but punkin puss was napping. They took him to the park and zoo and wore him out I guess. We just hung at the house. For one thing, I was not feeling well all day. I don't know exactly what was going on, whether I had a diverticulitis attack or what but I was in pain all day and sat with a heating pad most of the day.

Well, gals, I am going to grab a couple winks in the chair. I didn't get to feeling better until around 11 pm so I am kind of pooped.

Have a great start to your week. Faye

05-11-2009, 02:47 PM
Good afternoon, ladies! Raining again and only 57 degrees. I wish the weather would make up its mind.

Tonight is the last bible study for this session. I've really enjoyed it and will sign up for the next one.

Faye, I look for a date that is far out - I got May 26 yesterday. It's good for at least a week beyond that. When I get home I put the gallon into quart bottles and it lasts just fine. Your Chinese sounds good.

Jean, I know how you feel about being in the car so long. I have a 40-minute each way commute to work and on my days off I don't want to drive anywhere.

Well, I need to get back to work so have a good day!

05-11-2009, 07:00 PM
Happy Monday, Flowers! It's a beautiful day in my corner of the world, sunny and cool with NO wind for a nice change. School was a typical Monday except students and teachers went home sick with stomach flu like symptoms throughout the day. I don't have time to be sick so hope that I don't catch it.

"Gma" -- I hope you are feeling better by now. Wow! You did have a big loss! Congratulations! :cheer: That should motivate you for the next week. We have rain coming our way -- I'm hoping for thunderstorms on Wednesday so we don't have to spend the day at the park. Mean, aren't I?!

Susan -- The brand of milk we buy has started putting their dates on the back side of the bottles so you have to pull them out to check. :dizzy: I always try to buy the farthest date possible. One of our stores is very bad about outdated items all over the store. Enjoy your Bible study tonight. Will they start another one for summer or wait until fall?

I need to work on some more thanks yous. Have a relaxing evening and a terrific Tuesday tomorrow!

Jean -- :wave: from Iowa!

05-12-2009, 01:18 AM

It was a very lovely day this day with lots of fluffy white clouds in a blue skies in the Heartland. We took about a 50 mile (one way) to our favorite place that makes homemade jerkey and sausages. I love jerkey and oranges together. I can make good jerky and will be doing that when I get my dehydrator out to start drying our garden produce when it is ready. The drive over hill and dale was beautifully green with new growth. Everything looks quiet and peaceful around this part of the country. The iron monster didn't look up at me favorable this weigh day and showed me a pound up. I have to knucle down and buckle down this week so I can show a loss next weight day. DONNA FAYE YOU are the weight lost queen around here. I have never known anybody except you that can lose that much at a time and then continue to lose chunks down the road to thin. You will surely be at goal by the time your trip rolls around.

Well SUSAN and JEAN you two sound happy and sound. Jean how many "thank you's" do you have to write? Susan isn't there a way to make milk last longer by zapping it in the microwave? I'll have to search my handy notes and see if I have it.

Everyone have a lovely Tuesday which is just around the bend. Nighters Magnolias, I'll type at y'all later. :wave:

05-12-2009, 07:01 AM