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Trazey34
05-01-2009, 02:39 PM
Has anyone seen this show, or clips of it, of Kerstie on Oprah talking about gaining all the weight back and then some??? As I watched, I thought BOTH of these women were so rah-rah-rah gung-ho about having lost the weight and "figured it out" and boom, there they are back at square one, and with all the financial resources to have personal chefs, trainers, the best equipment, everything!

it's just one more BONG on my head to NOT get complacent, NOT think i've got it figured out, and to be SUPER vigilant!


Savora
05-01-2009, 02:41 PM
yea i heard about that, it's a shame she gained it all back, maybe she can get back on the program and learn how to maintain this time

matt_H
05-01-2009, 02:50 PM
I think lots of times people think weight loss is a trip to a destination rather than a lifetime of travel. You never "arrive" anywhere, you only continue on with the good habits and healthy way of life.

Celebrities probably lose weight for all the wrong reasons too (for their career, fans, etc.) rather than for themselves.


annie175
05-01-2009, 02:54 PM
It just goes to show you......gaining weight back happens to the best of us, financially capable, personal trainers, chefs, equipment or not....

annie175
05-01-2009, 02:54 PM
Matt H...and you are so right...it is a complete lifestyle change that goes on forever......I battle it every day.

Rosinante
05-01-2009, 02:57 PM
That's why I'm keeping it so quiet at the moment. There are people in my life who have seen it all, heard it all before, many times.

JulieJ08
05-01-2009, 03:02 PM
Has anyone seen this show, or clips of it, of Kerstie on Oprah talking about gaining all the weight back and then some??? As I watched, I thought BOTH of these women were so rah-rah-rah gung-ho about having lost the weight and "figured it out" and boom, there they are back at square one, and with all the financial resources to have personal chefs, trainers, the best equipment, everything!


I kinda take that as being encouraging, not discouraging. After all, if it's money that it takes, most of us are in trouble. But it's just proof that what it takes is internal, something we all have.

cfmama
05-01-2009, 03:20 PM
I didn't see it... but I believe it. I find it sad and I'm sad for them! Because it takes more than a diet, than a herbal supplement, than a stupid freakin berry... you know? I wish both of them nothing but the best in their journey's and I hope that one day they'll have sustained and continue success beating down their personal fat demon.

Smiling_Sara
05-01-2009, 03:29 PM
I have it on my tivo. I"m trying to watch and read everything i can about weight loss. it helps keep me motovatied.

beerab
05-01-2009, 03:32 PM
What I gained for it is that you can't just rush and find a diet plan and say "WOO THIS IS THE PLAN!" but instead find what works for YOU- and I mean really works. I tried it all, low carb, no carb, no meat, and so on, but found that the only thing that works for ME is to count calories.

I'm interested in this "plan" that she has made for herself- wonder what it is. Though I'm sure the gist is eat right and work out lol.

Anyone else found it funny she replaced her gym with a dining room? lol.

kiramira
05-01-2009, 03:46 PM
God love Kirstie Alley! She is human! Just like the VAST majority of us! But, poor thing, she's done her backslide completely publically...
I wish her nothing but the best, and it is SO nice to see someone who is just completely human and normal. She needs a break, just like most of us do...
:hug:for Kirstie
Kira

GirlyGirlSebas
05-01-2009, 03:52 PM
Trazey, I agree. We can never competely let our guard down. It has taken me a while to come to grips with this and to decide if I'm willing to commit to this lifestye for the rest of my life. Because, this is the rest of my life. I will never be able to eat the way I used to or sit on my rumpus the way I used to.

stillclock
05-01-2009, 03:57 PM
i can't help but think both of these women have messed up their bodies terribly with the up and down.

and i wish they could find a happy healthy realistic weight for themselves and buy some darned self-acceptance.

isolde

nelie
05-01-2009, 04:40 PM
I don't think either of them have unrealistic goals. I just think that they struggle like we all struggle.

The regain is one reason that I always stick close to my scale. I'm able to see where I'm at and buckle down a bit when I need to.

JayEll
05-01-2009, 04:47 PM
One thing Kirstie said that I found interesting was that she decided one day she needed to turn her gym room into a dining room. No, I'm not kidding! She said that she thought she wasn't having enough dinner parties anymore...

Isn't this weight stuff just the trickiest business? Couldn't just about any of us have said, "Um, Kirstie, maybe not"?

Jay

bargoo
05-01-2009, 04:53 PM
I am not a Kirstie Alley fan or Oprah either , but I understand perfectly how easily we can regain weight, Let's be careful about critisizing , for all their money they are still human.

rockinrobin
05-01-2009, 04:55 PM
After wanting to lose weight soooo badly. And then actually LOSING it, reaping the incredible benefits of it, at what point did they throw up their hands and say, "Nun-uh. Not gonna do it anymore. Not going to keep it up". I guess that same question could be asked of any re-gainer.

As I've mentioned before, I've never lost a significant amount of weight. But for the life of me, I just can't imagine saying, "This is not worth it. I'm going back to my old ways". Every day. Not the once in a while off plan day or even week or month - but from here on in. Before the 10 lbs turned into 20, into 50, into etc......

I guess the same could be said as to why I got to be 287 lbs in the first place. Why didn't *I* catch it earlier? But I do think it's different in a lot of ways. To have suffered so much (at least I did) and then to experience SUCH joy (as I do) having lost the weight. I don't know. I just don't know.

bargoo
05-01-2009, 05:12 PM
After wanting to lose weight soooo badly. And then actually LOSING it, reaping the incredible benefits of it, at what point did they throw up their hands and say, "Nun-uh. Not gonna do it anymore. Not going to keep it up". I guess that same question could be asked of any re-gainer.

As I've mentioned before, I've never lost a significant amount of weight. But for the life of me, I just can't imagine saying, "This is not worth it. I'm going back to my old ways". Every day. Not the once in a while off plan day or even week or month - but from here on in. Before the 10 lbs turned into 20, into 50, into etc......

I guess the same could be said as to why I got to be 287 lbs in the first place. Why didn't *I* catch it earlier? But I do think it's different in a lot of ways. To have suffered so much (at least I did) and then to experience SUCH joy (as I do) having lost the weight. I don't know. I just don't know.

You say you haven't had a significant weight loss ? Are you kidding ? 165 pounds is a significant weight loss !!!

JuliaDH
05-01-2009, 05:26 PM
Gotta love these women for being open and ready to face any criticism that flies thier way. I admire the desire to get back on track. Now only to learn the skills for long term maintenance. Exactly by keeping that scale close and jumping on each week. But I take what lessons I can learn from thier positive and negative choices and try to avoid the pitfalls they encountered.

barefootnikki
05-01-2009, 05:38 PM
What Matt said is so true. After Kirstie they had a man on that was the Guiness record holder for most weight lost the quickest. He said when he reached his goal he was *done*. He went to celebrate and ended up eating 4 hot dogs with cheese fries! He has been thru the ringer and he said he sees now it's not a "diet and done" thing, it really is a new life.

I have always felt so sad for Oprah, gaining and losing. I think celebs do have the advantage of cooks and trainers but it seems they don't have *time*. Not that many people have that either but that's one thing i do have right now.

rockinrobin
05-01-2009, 06:02 PM
You say you haven't had a significant weight loss ? Are you kidding ? 165 pounds is a significant weight loss !!!

Prior. I haven't had a significant weight loss prior to this one.

I mentioned it because I have yet to deal with a re-gain.

And let me just say, I hope I never do. I hope I never do.

Of course hoping isn't what's going to keep me from re-gaining. Nope. Hoping won't do it.

freshmanweightorbust
05-01-2009, 06:10 PM
I hate the humiliation for the people, celebrities and otherwise, who have gone through an unfortunate and significant regain, but I applaud the ones who are willing to be public about it, because people like me need to remember how important vigilance is.

JulieJ08
05-01-2009, 06:30 PM
God love Kirstie Alley! She is human! Just like the VAST majority of us! But, poor thing, she's done her backslide completely publically...
I wish her nothing but the best, and it is SO nice to see someone who is just completely human and normal. She needs a break, just like most of us do...
:hug:for Kirstie
Kira

Amen. These women are the same as us. What they are going through is the same as what so very many who join these boards have been through; and like it or not, it's what many who have come here and lost, will go through in the future.

JulieJ08
05-01-2009, 06:32 PM
After wanting to lose weight soooo badly. And then actually LOSING it, reaping the incredible benefits of it, at what point did they throw up their hands and say, "Nun-uh. Not gonna do it anymore. Not going to keep it up". I guess that same question could be asked of any re-gainer.

I suspect they never did that. It's always, "Just for today." And those days turn into weeks, months and years. But in your mind, it's always just this one day. It's denial. I'm well acquainted with it.

Jennelle
05-01-2009, 06:38 PM
I really needed to read this thread. For some reason, I'm struggling lately. I got super-lucky with my 0.8 lb loss last week, but I can't continue to eat over my range and think I'm going to continue losing. I have to be super-vigilant - especially right now - about not letting one day turn into two days into a week into a month into a year....

Jacque9999
05-01-2009, 06:40 PM
I have it on my tivo. I"m trying to watch and read everything i can about weight loss. it helps keep me motovatied.

I COMPLETELY know what you mean!!!

Ija
05-01-2009, 06:49 PM
I just can't imagine saying, "This is not worth it. I'm going back to my old ways".

Nobody actually says that.

I think we have to remember that there are a lot of things that influence our behavior (regardless of whether or not we care to admit it), like psychological state, stimulus control, physiological forces, financial pressures, etc. We are all living (and trying to lose weight) in our own unique context, so it doesn't really mean much to contrast our own successes with someone else's failures.

rockinrobin
05-01-2009, 07:22 PM
it doesn't really mean much to contrast our own successes with someone else's failures.

I wasn't by any means doing that. Whatsoever. I never stated or even eluded to the fact, that I "was" a success. Because, I don't consider my self a "success". Because I have NOT successfully maintained my loss. Believe me, I am MORE then aware that I am "not home free". Not by a long shot.

debbies
05-01-2009, 07:38 PM
I think lots of times people think weight loss is a trip to a destination rather than a lifetime of travel. You never "arrive" anywhere, you only continue on with the good habits and healthy way of life.

Celebrities probably lose weight for all the wrong reasons too (for their career, fans, etc.) rather than for themselves.

AMEN! I think you have summed it all up quite nicely.

Windchime
05-01-2009, 09:31 PM
It's extremely difficult for many (most?) of us to lose and maintain. Many of us have complained about family and friends sabotaging us, saying nasty things, spreading rumors about our weight loss, etc. So now imagine that you're fighting this battle, only you're doing it in public. You've made the declaration in front of millions of people, you've lost, and then you've done what many other people have done--you've regained. Only you've done it publicly, and people are screaming at you and calling you "fat-a**" and taking your picture.

It would be horrible. Simply horrible. I wish them both the best of luck for a healthy, happy lifestyle.

rockinrobin
05-02-2009, 02:54 AM
It would be horrible. Simply horrible. I wish them both the best of luck for a healthy, happy lifestyle.

Oh yeah. I can't imagine. It's got to be even THAT much worse to have to face THAT amount of scrutiny and be judged publicly. HORRIBLE.

Okay. So they've suffered a relapse. It happens. Their fight is not over. They've lost it before. And just like every one of us - they CAN lose it again.

Windchime
05-02-2009, 11:20 AM
Yep. Sometimes people have to do this thing several times before they get it right; I know this is my second time trying to lose major weight and I feel confident that I will succeed this time. But I felt equally confident last time, so I know that my confidence is an illusion and the only thing that will make me successfull is my actions. I'm just glad I'm not having to do this on the public stage, because it's hard enough doing it privately. I can't imagine how awful it would be to have people laughing at unflattering pictures of me in gossip rags, calling me names, judging me publicly....::::shudder::::

bargoo
05-02-2009, 11:33 AM
I always say this will be my last diet. I have lost and regained more times than I care to remember. Desn't matter who you are, rich or famous when you have a weight problem it is hard to deal with. It seems like gosh, darn it! I am a grown up I should be able to eat what I want. I am having to change my thinking, If I can't eat what I want , to want what I eat. I have been at goal for 16 months but still must be aware of everything I eat ,planning. planning, planning, always planning. It is soo easy to slip into old ways, and that is what Kirstie and Oprah have done, only they have done it in public.

time2lose
05-02-2009, 11:50 AM
I have always felt sorry for celebrities like Oprah who fight their weight battles in the public eye. It is hard enough starting a weight loss plan knowing that family and friends are probably thinking," She is starting a diet again." That is until I really started losing weight. Everyone is very supportive now that I am really losing weight.

Having said that, I got the feeling that Kirstie is only going public this time because she wants to have her own weight loss line. She said on Oprah that she is researching for her own program that will come out in November. When she quit Jenny Craig she said that she wanted to have her own weight loss program.

How can she sell her product or program by saying, "I lost my weight on Jenny Craig, but you need to pay for my product or program."? She can't and she knows it. For her to have her own weight loss program, she needed to gain back the weight that she lost on Jenny Craig and then lose it again using her own program.

Maybe I am just being cynical but that is what I think. Time will tell.

Glory87
05-02-2009, 11:56 AM
After wanting to lose weight soooo badly. And then actually LOSING it, reaping the incredible benefits of it, at what point did they throw up their hands and say, "Nun-uh. Not gonna do it anymore. Not going to keep it up". I guess that same question could be asked of any re-gainer.

As I've mentioned before, I've never lost a significant amount of weight. But for the life of me, I just can't imagine saying, "This is not worth it. I'm going back to my old ways". Every day. Not the once in a while off plan day or even week or month - but from here on in. Before the 10 lbs turned into 20, into 50, into etc......



I have lost and regained - at least 3 times. And it's terrible. But at no time did I ever say "this isn't worth it." It's more of an insidious slide into former habits/lifestyle (well, one time it was a huge binge and then a quick jump back into my old lifestyle).

Mostly for me, it was just wanting to "diet" then "be normal." Diets were something people went ON then OFF. It has only been recently there has been more talk about "way of life" or "lifestyle change." I hadn't really made the connection that I couldn't get longterm results by temporary methods. Once I made that click - well, here I am! 4 years at goal weight :)

Windchime
05-02-2009, 12:00 PM
Mostly for me, it was just wanting to "diet" then "be normal." I hadn't really made the connection that I couldn't get longterm results by temporary methods. Once I made that click - well, here I am! 4 years at goal weight :)

Glory, I can honestly say that I didn't understand this, either. It makes perfect sense so I don't know WHY I didn't understand it, LOL. But I didn't. That's one reason I'm so grateful for 3FC; because I've learned simple but vital things like "it's a lifestyle, not a diet". Honestly, when I was watching Oprah the other day I was thinking, "I wonder if there is a way to contact Kirstie and tell her about 3FC!". She could join and not even tell anyone who she is; she would just be another chick trying to get healthy right along with the rest of us.

CountingDown
05-02-2009, 12:11 PM
I don't watch much TV, so I don't watch Oprah, but this thread send me out to see what you were all talking about.

On Oprah's site, she gives a candid account of her struggle. She said something that was key for me on this journey - this is the year that she commits to "balance".

I think much of the backsliding that folk do is by thinking they don't need to focus on their weight, they can go back to "normal" - not only with their eating, but also with their exercise, schedule, stress level, etc. I think that my lifestyle change had to be bigger than just my food intake - it had to be across the spectrum, body, mind, and spirit. Without a commitment to all 3, I would have failed.

Without a CONTINUED commitment to all 3, I guarantee that I would not be a successful maintainer. Maintenance is easy, as long as I keep my focus and my commitment to living a balanced life.

GirlyGirlSebas
05-02-2009, 12:23 PM
I must say, as one who as not yet reached maintenance for the first time, I'm finding this thread to be a bit disheartening. I do feel like I am 100% committed this time. Hearing that several of you felt the same way,only to gain it all back is sucking the wind out of my sails. I am greatful that some of you have managed to lose the weight and keep it off. That does give me a smidgen of hope.

Star2Be
05-02-2009, 12:32 PM
I think stories of people losing a significant amount of weight and relapsing - especially when it's done in such a public context, as with celebrities, etc - are simultaneously one of the most terrifying and *motivating* aids for me in this process... Like rockinrobin, I have never lost a significant amount of weight prior to this--I have been fat my whole life, but this is the first time I have ever done anything about it, and so far I have been (or at least I like to think I have been) fairly successful. BUT, posting on these boards also gives me an extremely heightened awareness of how young I am (19), and I have so much of my life ahead of me, SO MUCH time that will be spent in "maintenance," and quite frankly it scares the crap out of me sometimes. With all the stories and stats you hear about people not maintaining their losses, sometimes it seems nearly impossible to think that this will be the *last* time I ever lose weight--I feel like if I even hint at thinking that I'm not going to regain it, I'll just be dismissed as being young and foolish/idealistic, not knowing better, etc. And of course if it IS an unrealistic thought, I don't want to set myself up for disappointment--but then again, what kind of an attitude is it to think Okay, I'm currently in a "healthy" stage of my life that will last until my first relapse, then I'll have my "next" weight loss, and so on?! That can't be a healthy attitude either! All I know is that I just never, *ever* want to be "the girl who lost a lot of weight and gained it all back." I just don't think I could deal with the embarrassment... Seeing the disappointment in people's eyes... I dunno--it's just so frightening to me! :o

kaplods
05-02-2009, 12:36 PM
I must say, as one who as not yet reached maintenance for the first time, I'm finding this thread to be a bit disheartening. I do feel like I am 100% committed this time. Hearing that several of you felt the same way,only to gain it all back is sucking the wind out of my sails. I am greatful that some of you have managed to lose the weight and keep it off. That does give me a smidgen of hope.


Try not to be discouraged. Weight loss really isn't much different than other complex skills like playing a musical instrument or learning a foreign language - your skill set diminishes if you don't continually practice them.

I really feel that a large part of the horrible success rate for dieters (according to the statistics) is because we don't tend to look at weight maintenance and exercise as a skill that requires continued practice. As a culture, dieting is still viewed as a temporary measure, and without realizing it, the natural tendency is for people to follow the cultural stereotype - dieting is something you do UNTIL you get thin, and don't do again until you regain. The gain/lose/regain cycle is ingrained into our psyches that this is how weight loss is done.

Even the course of dieting we expect is skewed. Dieting is done "backwards" compared to other skills. We expect to be perfect from the start, most motivated and most loss in the beginnning (it's all down hill from there). Instead of expecting to get better and better at the skills of weight maintenance, we expect that our best days our behind us.

We're also expected for find dieting restrictive and depriving. Frustration is part of what we're taught to expect. "I don't want to do this, anymore," is a common sentiment, and yet we don't feel that way about other personal hygeine and routine skills (I'm sick of showering every day, why do I have to brush my teeth again? It's not fair that Joe gets to wear dirty clothes and I have to wash mine).

Perception, I think is really 80% of the battle.

Meg
05-02-2009, 01:35 PM
Rhonda, this is the time to put your blinders on and your fingers in your ears and focus only on yourself. :)

Whether or not anyone else regains weight has nothing at all to do with whether you will or not. Ignore the statistics. Don't listen to the naysayers (though it's OK to listen to me because I'm saying it IS possible ;) ). It all boils down to what you choose to do once you reach your goal weight. If you choose to continue doing exactly what you did to lose the weight, exercise and diet-wise, and add a few extra calories every day or a treat meal once in a while, you WILL keep the weight off. Fact. 100% guaranteed.

If you choose to let the old, bad habits slip back in, if you stop exercising, if you stop counting calories, journaling, weighing and measuring portions or whatever you did to lose the weight, then you'll gain the weight back. Also 100% guaranteed.

The power is completely in our hands. No one made us fat except for us. No one can make us fit and healthy except for us. No one can make us fat AGAIN except for us. It all comes to down to the choices we make, every minute of every day. Weight maintenance is for life -- it's 24/7/365, every day for the rest of our lives. We have to live our lives thoughtfully and mindfully. Forget what "normal" people do. This is our "new normal".

It doesn't make the slightest bit of difference what anyone else (even Oprah or Kirstie) chooses to do or not do. All that matters is what you choose to do today, tomorrow, a year from now and ten years from now. Permanent weight loss IS 100% possible and nothing and no one can stop you from achieving it.

May 12 will be my seventh anniversary of keeping off 122 pounds. And I will keep the weight off for the rest of my life. Look at me and believe that it can be done. :)

GirlyGirlSebas
05-02-2009, 01:50 PM
Meg, Thank you!

Windchime
05-02-2009, 01:51 PM
I must say, as one who as not yet reached maintenance for the first time, I'm finding this thread to be a bit disheartening. I do feel like I am 100% committed this time. Hearing that several of you felt the same way,only to gain it all back is sucking the wind out of my sails. I am greatful that some of you have managed to lose the weight and keep it off. That does give me a smidgen of hope.

I don't mean to discourage you at all! I'm sorry if that was the effect that my comments had. I did feel certain before, but what I lacked was the understanding that I couldn't just go back to my old ways once I got thin. (And I never really got thin; I lost about 30 pounds but I had another 30-40 to go). This time, I feel certain BUT I also have the knowledge that these changes are for life. There is no going back; there is losing and then there is maintenance which, for me, will look an awful lot like losing only with a few more calories perhaps.

So please don't be discouraged, because I think it's a combination of feeling certain, having the confidence and commitment to keep on track even during tough times and plateaus, and the knowledge that many of the successfull chicks here have been able to keep their weight off so I will, too, if I just follow their wise advice and stay on track.

WhitePicketFences
05-02-2009, 02:03 PM
This is the only time I've lost more than 20-25 lbs, too (the 20-25 lbs I lost both at my starting weight and when I was younger, going from the high end of my healthy weight to the low end).

But coming here and reading these things is good for me. It's good for me to be thinking about maintenance and reading about others' experience. I think that when I reach goal, I should not only keep tight with the scale and everything in real life, but keep posting here with a weight ticker. Live the maintenace, the world of weight and health talk.

Star2be, think of your age and lack of prior weight loss this way: You are essentially starting your adult life as a thin person. You will be thin for your entire adult life! The weight will be relegated to the memory of a few relatives who know "you were a chunky child." Like so many were ... It's the extra weight that is your blip on the screen!

I had a cousin who was always overweight when we were growing up, and she trimmed down tremendously sometime in her late teens. Now she's in her early 30s, a few years older than I am, and she has simply always been a thin and very active adult. That's her identity; that's how almost everyone in her life knows her.

I am kind of the opposite in that, having been thin until about age 23-24, I am looking at my recent fat years as the blip. But it's true, or at least it can be. Like kaploid said, it is perception ... we make our reality.

luvmy3
05-02-2009, 02:12 PM
Being in the spotlight and having your weight in front of you constantly must be so much pressure.And to have everyone see you fail at a weightloss attempt must be horrible.I try to keep my tries to myself and my family so people don't know if I fail or not.This is my journey not theirs and I am going to make sure that I succeed but it takes more than the money they have it takes a lifestyle change that they may not be ready for.

WhitePicketFences
05-02-2009, 02:35 PM
Tacking on to my own post -- I guess my cousin's kind of on my mind today because my gran sent out a bunch of childhood pics from when all of us, in varying teenage stages, were spending summers together. My husband expressed surprise to see my cousin, clearly fat at around 16 years old. She is actually an adult athlete, not very famous but well-known where she is for her sleekness and athleticism. I know he wouldn't even have even recognized her in the pictures if not for the fact that she's a different ethnicity than the rest of us kids. Anyway, just musing. That will be you, star2be!

Luvmy3 and others ... I too keep it low key, though mostly for other, more general reasons ... but it's only recently that my husband has been verbally encouraging, and I know it's because he thought I wouldn't go this far/all the way.

He says it's just that he doesn't want to make a big deal and then have it be like he thought I was fat ... but the subtext I hear is that the caution/casualness is in case I stay fat/get fat again.

rockinrobin
05-03-2009, 08:14 AM
I have lost and regained - at least 3 times. And it's terrible. But at no time did I ever say "this isn't worth it." It's more of an insidious slide into former habits/lifestyle (well, one time it was a huge binge and then a quick jump back into my old lifestyle).

Mostly for me, it was just wanting to "diet" then "be normal." Diets were something people went ON then OFF. It has only been recently there has been more talk about "way of life" or "lifestyle change." I hadn't really made the connection that I couldn't get longterm results by temporary methods. Once I made that click - well, here I am! 4 years at goal weight :)

When I mention that I haven't lost and regained, lost and regained and lost, it's not a judgement on others that have. It's just that it was not the case with me. Dopey me. It's taken me 20+ years to even make one good attempt at it. So therefore, I just really have no experience with the "re-gain".

Having lost the weight THIS time (my only time), I am just so thoroughly and completely "into it", that I can't imagine me ever backslliding ALL the way up to 287 lbs again, that's just how committed I am to this lifestyle. But I do know that it happens.

I am aware of the focus that is needed to maintain this lifestyle and all that it entails.

But here's the thing. I really and truly enjoy every little aspect of this lifestyle. I've learned to enjoy the process. I can't speak for Oprah or Kirstie, or anyone else for that matter. But for me, not only do I enjoy being thin, but I've learned to love each and every thing about staying thin.

I haven't watched Oprah in a while, but she always used to complain about exercising. She always has someone cooking her meals for her, doesn't do the shopping, the planning, etc. Yeah, I actually enjoy those things. It makes what I'm doing more meaningful. I spend a lot of time and effort on this, leaving this very important task (a healthy lifestyle) to no one but myself.

Just for starters.

I love the planning and even the shopping and cooking and all of that stuff. LOVE it. I am a great cook if I do say so myself and I LOVE cooking healthy meals for myself and my friends and family. I don't look at is a burden.

I am without a doubt a bigger "foodie" now then I was before. I love the food I'm eating. Love it, love it, LOVE it.

I LOVE entertaining and trying out my "recipes" on my friends. I love all things kitchen and dining room related. I love all my different serving platters and bowls, water pitcher, silverware and dishes, etc . Beautiful linens, elegant candle sticks. I love scouting around the stores for new kitchen gadgets and new items to enhance my dining experience.

I LOVE the fact that I exercise and am physically active. I don't look at it as a burden, but as a privilege. And I actually get to (can) do it! I mean I'm actually excited by it. Of course there are times when I'd rather be doing other things, but not all that often. It's just become what "I do" and skipping it is not an option.

I never feel deprived when I choose not to eat xyz. I willingly pass up on "that" stuff. It's not "Poor me, Oh I can't eat this and I can't eat that". (99.9% of the time, anyway) Heck I CHOOSE not to eat so and so. It's my choice. And I love, love, love that I am "choosy". And particular and careful and sensible and responsible and that I eat so darn intelligently.

I get great pleasure from sticking to my plan in and of itself, never mind that it produces a slim me, but just sticking to my plan is enjoyable to me. So yes, I actually enjoy eating this way. When ever I go off plan (& I do), I am always relieved to be BACK on plan, as that's when I'm at my happiest.

I love reading up on health and fitness. I love healthy cookbooks and magazines.

I love everything about this lifestyle.

I've sort of made this my "hobby", so to speak. It is not something that I dread. I look forward to each and every morning living this healthy lifestyle. Not only am I committed to this lifestyle, but I thoroughly enjoy this lifestyle. Could that perhaps be the difference? I don't know. But I would tell people to really, really "get into it". Embrace it. Own it. Celebrate it.

And Rhonda, listen to our dear Meg. Don't you for one second think that losing weight and MAINTAINING it can't be done. Losing weight and yes, keeping it off is a doable thing. You of course just have to CHOOSE to do it. And of course, keep on choosing to do it. It's within your hands. Your power. Your control. As long as you WANT to keep the weight off - you'll keep it off.

I have my 2 year anniversary of maintaining my loss coming up in early July. It was my choice to get and stay fat. It was then also my choice to get slim and now it's my choice to continue to stay slim. I've chosen it for 2 years. And I'm going to keep on choosing it. Luckily, it's up to me. Me. Me. & Me.

We get to choose. We actually get to choose to remain slim! I think that's something to feel excited about. :carrot:

JuliaDH
05-03-2009, 09:05 AM
Thank you for this thread.

It has definately given me some "food" for thought on how to tweek and enjoy my journey. This has been my first true and honest attempt at alterning my lifestyle. It has been a slow year:o with only a 20 lb loss and I have been up and down on the 25-30 lb mark for 5 months:(. I am continuing to learn and take baby steps. When I look at the last 5 months I can either choose to give up, OR choose to keep trying:D. I keep looking at the big picture and as long as the scale is going down overall I am pleased.:)

Currently I either have the exercise on on plan or on plan food. I have not been able to get both on plan together. But I keep working on it.:dizzy:

Like rockinrobin I love meal planning and cooking. I love the time I spend online looking for new recipies. Today was homemade whole grain pancake mix. Store bought has so much sugar! I am also rediscovering all the sports I love. Bike riding, baseball, swimming etc. I am learing to enjoy the gym. Its easier now that the room does not look like a modern art metal display. And that each machine has a function and I know what it is and how to do it!

I beg that those who read this thread to not be discouraged. Take the advise to heart. Learn from observing others mistakes and successes. We can work together so that we all can have a healthier life.

Thanks to 3FC for making available this tool to us! It is a source of continued help, support and education!

Windchime
05-03-2009, 11:04 AM
I don't know many people who have enjoyed significant weight loss and who have kept it off in my "real" life, so it has been immensley encouraging for me to come here and see dozens of people who HAVE lost a lot of weight and are keeping it off in a healthy, happy way. Before I came here, I honestly don't know if I even thought it was possible. Thanks to 3FC, now I DO know that it's possible and I am so grateful for that because it's what keeps me going.

Jeannette311
05-03-2009, 11:12 AM
I can't help but wish Robin would put out a cookbook...:)

rockinrobin
05-03-2009, 11:39 AM
I can't help but wish Robin would put out a cookbook...:)

Oh that's funny. Thank you. I've actually been approached and after serious consideration, turned it down. Wasn't exactly what I had had in mind. But there is a book brewing in my head.

I made 2 new fantastic dishes this weekend. I'll get them up in a day or 2. Been posting on the Maintainer's recipe thread.

But really, I think you've got to make this whole lifestyle EXPERIENCE interesting. And exciting. Face it with zeal. Become passionate about it. Find the absolute joy in it. Revel in it. Because it's a lovely way to live. :)

Star2Be
05-03-2009, 01:22 PM
Star2be, think of your age and lack of prior weight loss this way: You are essentially starting your adult life as a thin person. You will be thin for your entire adult life! The weight will be relegated to the memory of a few relatives who know "you were a chunky child." Like so many were ... It's the extra weight that is your blip on the screen!

I had a cousin who was always overweight when we were growing up, and she trimmed down tremendously sometime in her late teens. Now she's in her early 30s, a few years older than I am, and she has simply always been a thin and very active adult. That's her identity; that's how almost everyone in her life knows her.

Tacking on to my own post -- I guess my cousin's kind of on my mind today because my gran sent out a bunch of childhood pics from when all of us, in varying teenage stages, were spending summers together. My husband expressed surprise to see my cousin, clearly fat at around 16 years old. She is actually an adult athlete, not very famous but well-known where she is for her sleekness and athleticism. I know he wouldn't even have even recognized her in the pictures if not for the fact that she's a different ethnicity than the rest of us kids. Anyway, just musing. That will be you, star2be!
Wow, thank you so much for posting this, WhitePicketFences!! I feel so encouraged from reading that; I think I just had a bit of an "a-ha!" moment. :D It never really occurred to me to think of my age as being a positive thing--I've been pretty focused on thinking that I have sooo many years of maintenance ahead of me, but instead it's *so* much better to think of it the way you've explained it! Because I'm doing this so young, when I get older I really have been a normal, healthy person for most of life! The majority of people who I'll meet won't think of me as the obese teenager/young woman (or even know that that Meredith ever existed--what a thought!), but instead they'll think of me as a normal person... It's kind of cool to know that because I'm so young, I still have time to totally reinvent myself! I've identified myself as this obese person my whole life, but the REST of my life can be completely different. It's all full of possibilities... :chin: Hehe!

Thanks again! I think your post(s) was exactly what I needed to soothe my fear of relapsing, at least for now. :)

mickeysofyne
05-03-2009, 06:40 PM
I actually reached damn near goal myself a couple of years ago. Then I gained over a hundred pounds during pregnancy and afterwards almost four years now. I was so much more energetic and HAPPY. I am on my way back down, just lost ten pounds with the help of consistency, low carb intake and exercise. I hope not to be in her shoes or the FAT me shoes again!!!

Jeannette311
05-03-2009, 09:36 PM
Oh that's funny. Thank you. I've actually been approached and after serious consideration, turned it down. Wasn't exactly what I had had in mind. But there is a book brewing in my head.

I made 2 new fantastic dishes this weekend. I'll get them up in a day or 2. Been posting on the Maintainer's recipe thread.

But really, I think you've got to make this whole lifestyle EXPERIENCE interesting. And exciting. Face it with zeal. Become passionate about it. Find the absolute joy in it. Revel in it. Because it's a lovely way to live. :)

*whispers*

If you write it, they will come...;)

I really enjoy your posts. I've learned a lot from what you've posted, and I thank you for that! :)

Sorry to hijack the thread! LOL!

I feel bad for Kirstie, but I think she'll be okay. She's so relatable. I hope she pushes through this!