Overeaters Anonymous - Online Sponsors?




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Me Too
04-09-2009, 12:37 PM
Is there such a thing as online sponsors? There is only 1 meeting in my area a week, and only 2 women in my group, both can't be my sponsor at this time. I need help getting started with the program. I have over 20 years in AA but new to OA.
I need someone to be accountable to and plan my program of abstinence with. Would a email sponsor work as well as a face to face one?


Erlas
04-09-2009, 01:26 PM
I would like an online sponsor too but wasn't sure how to go about it either. THanks for posting the question and hopefully we can find out how to go about it. :)

patd
04-11-2009, 09:58 AM
I found my sponsor right here!! I try to e-mail her everyday and we talk on the phone once a week. I would be more than happy to try to help either one of you.

I've been through the steps of OA and practice the principles in all my affairs to the best of my ability daily. I have one sponsee and she just finished step 12.

I was in the program for about 15 years and then we moved to the location we live now and there weren't any f2f meetings here so after going to AA meetings for support HP and I started one. We have 3 faithful members and pray for more.

Please feel free to e-mail at pdempsey4@cox.net if you think you'd like to give it a try.

hugs
patd

p.s. I am female


Me Too
04-15-2009, 09:28 AM
I have a f2f sponsor. Now i can start on my road of recovery.
If its ok with you Pat I would love to email you also as a friend.

patd
04-16-2009, 06:30 AM
Karen, I'm so glad you found a f2f sponsor. Yes, please do e-mail me. I'd love to hear from you.
patd

babygrant
04-26-2009, 07:06 PM
I'm also looking for an online sponser. :D

patd
04-29-2009, 10:05 AM
I'm still willing to be an on line sponsor and my e-mail to use for that is posted in the above post.

hugs
patd

treetree74
05-07-2009, 02:00 PM
I sponsor a few people via email. It's set up through the intergroup coordinator. I'm in region 1 and their website has a link to request an online sponsor. I would post the link but this website won't let me post links since i'm new. I'm sure you can find a sponsor through your same intergroup as well.

mellow
05-07-2009, 10:42 PM
Pat, are you still open to being a sponsor? I really need one. Feel free to pm me. :)

minipony
08-19-2009, 07:31 PM
looking for a Sponsor as well. I'm in region 1 as well.

Chuckles1007
09-14-2009, 04:45 PM
Is there anyone that would be willing to be my sponsor?

Me Too
09-28-2009, 02:24 PM
Could we start a sponsor chat right here on 3fatchicks?
I mean nothing to personal, but maybe log food daily, or say how our day is going, what we need help on, what we are doing right, anything that would help all of us on our journey together.
we could have a step chat going too.
just an idea.

ernurse
09-28-2009, 02:33 PM
Hello everybody and Karen I just read your last blog and it sounds like a good idea. I have not done AA or any other OA meeting and I just don't seem to have the desire or (energy for it?) I'm not sure, but I do visit this site daily and just to be able to say -- I'm having a good day or I want to eat the hospital that I work in --- would be nice. I wouldn't expect an answer immediately or any supportive comments that moment but knowing that I wrote on here and verbalized what I was thinking and feeling would make me feel better...I do not know much about OA but I KNOW I have a food problem when not following WW points and therefore limiting my food availability. I know it's a mind thing because the same food is at home daily. The same fast food places and chinese places are around my work...but still...If I mess up my points, then anything goes....anything goes in my mouth...and alot of it....so once again, count me in for using this as a support site for us.:hug:

blkbarbie25
09-30-2009, 09:01 PM
just go to oa.org and they have telephone meetings and there are tons of people willing to help :)

http://www.oa.org/meetings/find-a-meeting-online.php

patd
10-03-2009, 11:10 AM
ERNURSE, good morning.

Complusive overeating is a 3 fold Disease, physical, spiritual, and emotional. We must treat all 3 parts. We treat them by working the 12steps one day at a time. This is done with a sponsor. A sponsor is a person that has gone before us and is in recovery. We walk this path with our sponsor and be open minded and the program will work. We cannot have the promise in the Big Book if we leave out the sponsor and our HP who I choose to call God.
At least that's how it works for me.

I like telephone meetings but my first choice is face to face meetings.

I hope this helps you.
Welcome home.
hugs
patd

Mary in SA
10-05-2009, 04:19 AM
Hi,
I'm new here and to OA. I just want to say that I so appreciate all of you for sharing your time and help with us (me.) I have struggled so much with weight for so long and frankly, the past two years since my Dad died, I had given up any hope. I found this website after my doctor suggested I look into having gastric bypass surgery. I was gung-ho until I began to read on the web about folks who have had terrible complications and regrets after having bariatric surgeries.

At least he got me revved up! I have had my first abstinent week (and didn't know that's what it was) this past week after prayer. I have lost more weight than I could've imagined - almost as though I had a surgical procedure. I've begun walking every day and I can tell, even after only a week, that I'm getting stronger. I'm at peace regarding my eating but there is a nagging in my head that I will fail, fall and be unsuccessful over the long haul. Not really strange since I've failed so many times before, but I really am having to pull myself up after abandoning hope for so long. It feels a little different because I am doing this for me, instead of for someone else and because I asked God to help me and he did. Perhaps He has something that he wants me to do with my life here on earth. (?)

Sorry for the long post. I've located an OA meeting very close to my home and plan to attend. It meets on Sundays (I missed today) so I will go to a newcomer's meeting this week and begin the close by group next Sunday.

I would love to have a place online to "talk" to other folks who are working the steps of OA. If 2FC has a "meeting" for OA, please let me know. I am literally dying from my obesity and I want to recover. I know that I can't do this alone.

Thanks for listening to this really long post,
Mary

EarthShaker
10-11-2009, 11:05 AM
Mary:

That's so wonderful. Congratulations!

I'm back at OA after a 2 year hiatus. I first went a couple of years ago and was horrified by the meeting -- it wasn't a good experience for me. I did have a friend who proved that it could work, though, and so I started working the steps even though I didn't get to meetings. It worked for a while. I took the third step, and my life changed completely.

Life happened and I stopped working the steps. I think a bit of ego was involved because I "had it" and "got it" and didn't need to work the steps anymore.

Needless to say, here I am again. I went to another meeting, and it was very, very small. I'm trying to find others to connect with until I can find a meeting that I can attend and has more than two attendees.

I don't have a sponsor yet, but I honestly don't know if I'm ready for one. I want to just get my feet wet again. It's only been a week.

ABaumer
01-21-2013, 05:14 PM
Hi everyone! My name is Amber Baum and I'm new to OA. I've been to a few f2f meetings but the ones in my area are only 2-3 ppl strong all of which who are unable to sponsor.

I've been a life long over eater. However, after joining the army, I was able to keep physical fitness as a mask for my ways. I married a military member as well. He was killed in Iraq when I was 9 months pregnant. I was immediately discharged and have been on a 5 year downward spiral since then.

I have come to the realization that I am powerless over food and need help. If someone on here can send me to someone who is willing to sponsor, I would GREATLY appreciate it.

Best wishes and love,
Amber

blog
01-22-2013, 12:24 AM
Hi there, Abaumer -

I wanted to make sure you got a response. When I first started to go to meetings, I wanted to find a sponsor right away. One of the more experienced members advised me to take some time with the meetings, get to know people. The common wisdom is that you'll know when you've found the right sponsor when someone's story of recovery speaks to what you hope you'll find.

Three months after I joined, I realized that it was the very person who gave me that piece of advise who I was feeling drawn to as a sponsee. It was a really good move. We have things in common that I truly surprised to find in another OA member, and her philosophy around food echos my own when I'm not so wrapped up in disease.

I've found that it is worth it to wait, but I did try to have a truly anonymous sponsor at one point. (We had never met.) It wasn't for me. If you really feel that this kind of arrangement is for you, I would ask around if anyone knows of any willing sponsors because they may be able to hook you up with someone local. Its also possible to be sponsored by someone you meet in a telephone meeting.

I really like the telephone meetings. There are so many options for meetings and so many new people to meet. Its very inspiring.

Honestly, I don't think that email sponsorship would work for me. Maybe you are different. But for me, the support I gain by seeing people face2face can't be mirrored with printed words on a page. I'm not recovering because I have someone checking up on me in a logical fashion. I'm recovering because I've been able to let the love of real people come into my narrow little world and open me up a bit. Its the human connection that has made a difference for me, although the whole higher power thing is important, just knowing I have people to meet with and talk to and understand makes all the difference. :hug: