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redreine
02-25-2009, 11:27 PM
I am making this thread to discuss an issue that has come to be of great concern to me lately.

Every day I look in the mirror, and see a beautiful girl. I love the way I look. I see a gorgeous young lady, who is just a little chubby...but in a cute way. I'm happy with myself every day as far as looks go.

But then something unfortunate happens. I see myself in pictures, and I look like a beached whale! I know the old saying that the camera adds on 10 pounds...but how many damn cameras are on me to get that picture?! When I see myself in pictures, everything looks MUCH bigger...my face, my boobs, my legs...EVERYTHING! I almost feel like I'm looking at a completely different person. Everyone else in the pictures look the size I see them as irl...why am I seeing someone different in the mirror? :(


Thighs Be Gone
02-25-2009, 11:31 PM
I have no answers except to say that I used to experience the same exact thing. A pic of me (a day that I thought really good) is one of the things that convinced me I really must do something. I try to remember that cameras don't lie. I also remember though that body image and self-image are not the same thing.

cfmama
02-26-2009, 01:39 AM
I could have written this post. I never really SAW how big I was in the mirror. I think when we gain a lot of weight really quickly our brains take a very long time to catch up... same as losing weight quickly. But when I saw pics of myself I darn near freaked!!!!!

*hugs* I understand.


Rosinante
02-26-2009, 03:28 AM
don't have an answer, just empathy. and for me, it's the same thing fat or thin.
When I lost a lot of weight 5 years ago, I had my hair cut really short. In the mirror I looked elfin, with fine features and huge eyes. In photos, I looked butch and my hair looked like it had been cut with a lawn mower.

lalique
02-26-2009, 03:34 AM
My face is pretty.... If I have my makeup & hair right. The rest of me makes me want to hide from myself. :(

TraceyElaine
02-26-2009, 06:59 AM
I felt the exact same way! I didn't even realise how huge I had gotten untill I saw it in a home video. It is what triggered my decision to loose the weight in the first place.

I think that there is some kind of distortion that goes on when looking in a mirror. I remember even when I was younger, seeing a picture of myself and thinking well that doesn't look like me. I think it has something to do with the closeness of a mirror or the fact that a mirror can make anyone look different depending on the angle or shape of the mirror. Like a funhouse mirror but less dramatic.

Ever notice that you look smaller in a department store mirror than in your mirror at home? Same idea.
I also think, for me at least, I was in such denial that I didn't want to see it. But a picture tells a thousand words, right.

rockinrobin
02-26-2009, 07:14 AM
I too found pictures to be more brutally honest about how I looked then the mirror. It seems to be a common *problem*.

In fact, looking back, I wish I allowed more pictures of myself to be taken when I was so heavy. Maybe seeing them (me) over and over again would have propelled me to take action sooner.

Lori259
02-26-2009, 08:00 AM
I was the same exact way as well.
I saw a picture of me and I Thought I looked like the marshmellow guy from ghost busters movie (needless to say that photograph has saved me.) I am Just finally liking the photographs I am seeing after losing 36 lbs~All the other pics showed results but I still felt Creepy ugly in them.Now I am getting more of what I thought I was seeing in the mirror.So keep up the good work & eventually it will all even out ~the mirror And the pics.I think your avatar photo is totally precious by the way!!!

Gretchy
02-26-2009, 08:36 AM
I think people like how they look in the mirror because - when you're checking yourself you're standing up straight and in a completely different way than you are in a lot of pictures - in pictures you're more relaxed or you're standing in a way that's to pose for the picture - not how you pose while you're looking at yourself in the mirror.

TJFitnessDiva
02-26-2009, 09:06 AM
A picture was the trigger for me to do something about my weight.

When you look in a mirror it's more of your natural self....a camera catches one instant and like Gretchy said you usually "preen" in front of the mirror where in front of the camera you pose but have no idea about your posture etc since you can't see yourself :)

ChocLabLover
02-26-2009, 09:17 AM
I too found pictures to be more brutally honest about how I looked then the mirror. It seems to be a common *problem*.

In fact, looking back, I wish I allowed more pictures of myself to be taken when I was so heavy. Maybe seeing them (me) over and over again would have propelled me to take action sooner.

Agreed, I could not have said that better myself.

Thighs Be Gone
02-26-2009, 10:09 AM
Lori, I love the blouse you have on in your new pic! :)

haleysmommy5402
02-26-2009, 11:14 AM
I have the same problem .. which is why like some previous posts have said has prompted me to be here .. when i look in the mirror i see someone who looks NOTHING like i see when i look at pictures taken of me .. I have always deleted pictures of me off my camera but then it upsets me because i want pictures of myself for my children to be able to look back on some day .. so if i want pictures for them i must do one thing to make that happen and that is to lose this weight I'm carrying around!! Every time i want to eat something i know is unhealthy and will stop my weight loss i look at those pictures of myself that disgust me :)

saef
02-26-2009, 11:25 AM
I think that without realizing it, we mentally "photoshop" our mirror images until they're more acceptable.

The camera is more objective. Not completely, though, since it's still reflecting the viewpoint of the person who's holding it & framing the subject.

We like ourselves better than the person photographing us & our vision of ourselves shows this.

DCHound
02-26-2009, 11:26 AM
Yes I know exactly what you mean ~ but now I am having the opposite problem. I look enormous in the mirror but several times I've had to be in pictures for work or some volunteer stuff I do, and I appear to be a lot smaller in pictures than I am in the mirror. But everyone else is the right size in the picture. So apparently I'm smaller than I look to myself...it's weird.

Lyn2007
02-26-2009, 11:59 AM
When I weighed 278 pounds, I NEVER saw "morbidly obese" in the mirror. I saw fat... I saw myself at about the weight I am now, not 278! When I saw pictures I was appalled. I still am when I see pics at my top weight because I do not ever remember seeing that in the mirror.

However now that I have lost some weight (50ish pounds), I see my pictures and say wow, I look so good! I look at my "after" pictures on my blog and then I look in the mirror and DIE. In the mirror, NOW, I see 278 pounds!! I look in the mirror, then at those after pictures, and I cannot process how they are the same. I often think if I met someone from online, who had seen my blog after pics, they would gasp in horror at how fat I really am.

I dont get it...

willow650
02-26-2009, 12:11 PM
i feel the same way. I look in my bedroom mirror and i think I look ok, take a pic and its like how is that the same person??

willow650
02-26-2009, 12:13 PM
Ever notice that you look smaller in a department store mirror than in your mirror at home? .

I think most store mirrors make me look way bigger than my home mirror.

Woserit
02-26-2009, 12:22 PM
Yes I know exactly what you mean ~ but now I am having the opposite problem. I look enormous in the mirror but several times I've had to be in pictures for work or some volunteer stuff I do, and I appear to be a lot smaller in pictures than I am in the mirror. But everyone else is the right size in the picture. So apparently I'm smaller than I look to myself...it's weird.
HI,

I know what you mean. I feel smaller than I look in the mirror. When I lost a lot of weight previously, I looked in the mirror and saw myself as much larger than I actually was. I wonder if this is some offshoot of body dysmorphic disorder?...

time2lose
02-26-2009, 12:28 PM
Someone once told me that if I stuck my chin forward for pictures, my double chin would disappear. Now no one notices my double chin because they are trying to figure what is wrong with my neck becuse my head is stuck out like a stork! :)

Lori259
02-26-2009, 12:54 PM
Lori, I love the blouse you have on in your new pic! :)

:hug:THANKS THIGHS!!!

susiemartin
02-26-2009, 03:40 PM
I have the same problem.
I'm always shocked at how I look in pictures or God forbid videos.

It's a twist on Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) .
It's common in people with eating disorders.
Bulimics and anorexics think they're fat and the obese don't see how big they really are.

What I found interesting is when I weighed 288 I knew I was fat but didn't realize how big I actually was.
When I weighed 165 I wasn't happy with my appearance & I thought I looked "fat".
It's crazy:dizzy:
It goes to prove that we see what we want to see

Thighs Be Gone
02-26-2009, 03:56 PM
Someone once told me that if I stuck my chin forward for pictures, my double chin would disappear. Now no one notices my double chin because they are trying to figure what is wrong with my neck becuse my head is stuck out like a stork! :)

:D HYSTERICAL!

DCHound
02-26-2009, 04:26 PM
susiemartin

When I weighed 165 I wasn't happy with my appearance & I thought I looked "fat".

Oh exactly! I can look at photos of myself at 180, which isn't anywhere near thin, but I carried that weight very, very well and had a knockout hourglass figure. Honestly I was getting hit on almost every day (often in very bizarre circumstances, like on the subway or in line at the library). At the time I couldn't figure out why all these men were hitting on me ~ I thought that I must have been putting out some weird vibe and it made me really uncomfortable. Now I can look at those pictures and see why.

kaplods
02-26-2009, 05:16 PM
I think I look better in a mirror, because I've learned to face the mirror in the most flattering position. In fact, a video of me looking into a mirror would probably be pretty funny because I do a lot of head turning and moving. I never thought of it as trying to find the most flattering pose, just examining myself (not too much different than a chimp with a mirror I suppose).

While I think I look best (or least bad) in the mirror, I think posed photos of me look nearly as good as the mirror. Candid shots are the worst, because there's no one trying to make sure you're captured in the best light. Even at my highest weight, I loved getting pictures of me taken. I don't know why, it's just fun being the center of attention, or trying to document a moment in your life. I think because I love getting my photo taken, in the ones I see coming, I may not always look good, but I always look happy (and that makes up for a lot). I HATE complete surprise shots, not only am I likely to be caught in an unflattering position, I'll have that deer-in-the-headlights expression. And worst of all is being caught just about to take a bite or chewing. Even if it's salad or a carrot stick I'm obviously eating, in the photo, the shock and horror on my face makes me look like I know that I've been caught in the commission of a crime.

sidhe
02-26-2009, 09:11 PM
I think that there is some kind of distortion that goes on when looking in a mirror. I remember even when I was younger, seeing a picture of myself and thinking well that doesn't look like me. I think it has something to do with the closeness of a mirror or the fact that a mirror can make anyone look different depending on the angle or shape of the mirror. Like a funhouse mirror but less dramatic.


I've been totally trying to figure this out, because I look NOTHING like my picture, when I look in the mirror! Everyone who sees my picture and then meets me in person, too, says that pictures do me no justice. So I've given this a lot of thought.

One theory I have: a picture is a flat image--2 dimensions. A person--or an image in a mirror--is 3 dimensional. You can see the movement, you can see the play of emotions on the face, you get everything you don't have in a picture. I think that's a large part of why pictures shock us so much. There's no life in them.