Weight Loss Support - Question for all you working moms out there

02-24-2009, 12:00 PM
I was thinking about this the other day when I got home from the gym exhausted, starving, and needing a shower. It was around 7:45pm. By the time I had dinner (didn't even cook. just popped in a frozen dinner), showered, and flopped down on the couch it was close to 9pm.
So what I cannot figure out is how do women find time to exercise once they have kids??!? :shrug:I mean, I don't have kids yet, but hopefully one day I will. And the idea of this all is that it's supposed to be a sustainable lifestyle change.
I'm single, don't work overtime, can just order in delivery if I'm in a rush or too tired to cook, and I barely even have time to make it to the gym 3 times a week with all the other stuff I have to do.
Do you get up at 5am and go to the gym then or something? How on earth do you make it all work?:?: There do not seem to be nearly enough hours in the day!

02-24-2009, 12:25 PM
For me, the work out was built in. Remember HS Gym class?

Run to end of basketball court and touch floor then run to other end.
Run over to playpen, pickup baby, run to other side of livingroom, pick up bottle, run to kitchen, pick up pacifier, run back to playpen, put baby down, run across living room, pick up the mess of your lazy(thinks he's still a baby hubby), back to other side of room for teething ring, back to playpen, pick up baby, etc. etc. etc:woops:

Remember jumping hurdles
You will now have baby gates in every opening of the house to jump over while running back and forth picking up stuff for your baby and your MIL's never-really-grew-up-baby-boy.:exercise:

Running track
Yeah, my youngest didn't have the patience to wait till she could actually crawl. She began rolling where ever she wanted to go at 1 freaking month old.:crazy:

After a full day of this mental and physical exhaustion, your oldest child(we used to call him a "Husband") actually thinks your all hot for him and are so damned delirious you want to try for another. Yah, right bub. Just keep that "thing" away from me.:sumo:

02-24-2009, 12:26 PM
I'm a working mom, although my daughter is older (14). Its not ideal, but what I've been doing lately is getting home from work at 5:50, making dinner (usually done by 7ish) and then around 8:30 I head out to the gym. We don't take too long to eat, and everyone helps clean up, so by 7:30-7:40 the dinner stuff is taken care of, and I have about an hour to digest and hang out with the family. My daughter gets into the shower around 9, so if I leave at 8:45 and get home around 10, I haven't really missed any time with her.

(She reads in bed from 9:30-10, I get home right around lights-out.)

02-24-2009, 12:36 PM
I am a working mom with 2 boys(ages 3 and 7). The only way I could fit in exercise is to get up an hour earlier in the morning and do it in while everyone is asleep. At first getting up earlier was hard, but now I wouldn't change it for anything. I think getting a workout in the morning gives me a burst of energy in the morning. So I get up at 4:30 am-exercise for about an hour, take a shower, get the boys ready for daycare and I go off to work(i'm a nurse at a pediatrician office).

I pick the boys up after work, we go home I typically cook dinner but something quick like spaghetti, chicken, fish, etc... My 7 y/o always has homework then it's showers, maybe 20 mins. of sitting around watching t.v. and then they get read a bedtime story. I try to have them in bed by 8pm so I can have a little time to myself. I'm usually in bed by 9:30 and do it all over again the next morning. Oh by the way my husband is around everynight and he just follows with whatever I tell him to do-lol he's well trained.

Things are very busy but we are on a pretty regimented schedule and it seems to work for us.

02-24-2009, 12:41 PM
I'm not a single mom but find I can't find enough hours in the day, either. My solution has been to exercise on my lunch break. Now, I know this isn't AS feasible for everyone as it is for me (I have a very flexible work environment...I work from home!) but most people DO get a lunch break, and can fit in a walk or other workout.

Both of my last two offices have actually had on-site gyms for employees. If you get an hour, you can work out for 40 minutes with 5 minutes to change and 15 min to shower/make yourself presentable afterward. But even if there is no on-site gym available, walking just requires a quick change and a pair of shoes in your desk, and that's it.

I also multi-task my exercising...I strength train, often, in front of the TV, with shows I -only- permit myself to watch while I lift.

02-24-2009, 12:58 PM
I work out on my lunch break--my office is in a hilly area and I go out for about 45 mins of very hard walking. I hate it when the weather is wet and I can't go.

Then, at home, I do strength training in between doing everything else, in the evenings. Do a set...go do some dishes. Do another set...put some laundry in. Do another set...play a game of cards with my daughter. Do another set...converse with my husband. Or sometimes I will do strength training while watching TV with my husband.

On the weekends I take bike rides for 45 mins to an hour, because I have the time then.

My husband does most of the dinner preparation, so that helps...but I also spend 60 to 75 minutes commuting every day, blech.

So yeah, there will never be "enough" time to get everything done. And I'm exhausted at the end of the day. But I make exercise a priority and fit it in, however that needs to happen.

02-24-2009, 01:07 PM
Operator265! :rofl:


02-24-2009, 01:26 PM
I also do my lunch break- I get a half hour in- I try to do 3x a week, but now with my analytical class it's more like 2x a week :( At least the class is over in May.

Also when you become a parent I think you just get better at finding ways to work out- like doing tapes at home, taking your kids to the park and walking while they play, and so on :D

I go to work at 7 am, workout on my lunch, come home at 4:30- and then have dinner around 5:30-6:00 pm. I also plan all the meals for the week cuz I know if I don't then I will slip up.

02-24-2009, 01:43 PM
Well, I've been fortunate and my live in boyfriend works from home...so he does all the cooking & cleaning right now. :cloud9: (yes, I am very thankful) However, all of that is about to stop soon as he will be traveling. :tantrum:

I have 3 children & what I do is:

Cook meals on the weekend & keep them stored in a container to be pulled out throughout the week for quick reheat dinners. I also do this for my lunches & I get everything measured out & packed up for a quick out the door morning. We get home & eat...clean up, do homework (if any). Get ready and head to the gym by 7. The younger kids can play in the kid area while the older kid & adults work out. Leave the gym by 8:15ish (1hr work out), home to a bath & bed for the kiddos. Get ready for the next day & in bed by 10:30.

02-24-2009, 01:47 PM
wow! you ladies are amazing! your schedules sound INTENSE!

02-24-2009, 01:48 PM
You ladies are supermoms!

It's nice so many of you have supportive husbands too :D

02-24-2009, 01:49 PM
How on earth do you make it all work?

When it's incredibly important to you and you want it badly ENOUGH, you FIND the time and MAKE it work.

Lots of planning in advance, lots of organization and a heckuva huge amount of determination.

Operator265, that was too funny. You're hysterical. :rofl:

02-24-2009, 01:54 PM
All these ladies ARE amazing, with their planning! I have to do my exercise early in the day, or else it just does not get done. Just the way I am. So I have always gotten up earlier, and done an exercise tape/dvd at home. Knowing that I've done my workout for the day gives me a good feeling for the rest of the day (do I really want that big cookie? after the heart-pounding hi-lo's I did this morning? don't be an idiot! :rofl: )

02-24-2009, 01:59 PM
I don't have any kids but I do have 2 dogs :)

I walk my dogs every morning before work. They go to daycare twice a week and I tend to use that time to do other workouts as I don't need to walk them on daycare days. Also like today, I will workout with them in the room which can be distracting. I was trying to do yoga as they both decided they needed to wrestle near me. I'm not sure I achieved the quite calm needed but :)

Also working out at lunch is awesome if you can do it. Sometimes I'll take a walking break or what not.

02-24-2009, 02:02 PM
Yes, Operator makes us all laugh!

I agree with VermontMom--my exercise has to be done first thing or it gets forgotten (or I find a great excuse not to do it).

Here's my schedule:

4:25 wake up and do 30 minutes on the treadmill, shower, read paper, drink coffee, wake up son, get dressed, eat breakfast, leave for school/work at 7:40 AM
Work from 8-4
4 PM, pick up son from school, take him to Karate (from there, I have 45 minutes where I can go to the gym which is around the corner from Karate or sit and read or run to the grocery store--lately I sit and read or go to the store--oops)
Get home around 5:30, fix dinner, eat, and from there I have 2 free hours before bed where I could work out, but usually I relax. I got to bed most nights at 9 PM

02-24-2009, 02:39 PM
I agree with the other ladies. It is a priority and therefore must be scheduled into each day. I would prefer to work out in the evenings, but unfortunately my schedule does not permit that. I work from 11am to 7:30pm and my gym closes at 8pm. I workout before I come to work. All my kids are in school and old enough to fend for themselves at dinner or I will make something in advance they can reheat thru out the week.

02-24-2009, 02:43 PM
For me, the work out was built in. Remember HS Gym class?

[B]Run to end of basketball court and touch floor then run to other

Oh my, you just gave me flashbacks. I'd forgotten all about those.

02-24-2009, 02:43 PM
it sounds like between now and when i procreate i will somehow need to become a morning person.:yawn:

02-24-2009, 03:36 PM
it sounds like between now and when i procreate i will somehow need to become a morning person.:yawn:

I think when you have others that depend on you, your life changes. Again, I don't have any kids but the 2 dogs and the 2 cats.

Before them, I didn't worry too much about when I got home or what time I woke up. On weekends, it was normal to sleep in until 10am or so. Of course they seem to have different agendas and they like to eat rather than sleep :) So I get up at a decent time, feed them, take the dogs for a walk, etc. I also have to work my schedule around them (make sure they aren't home too long or make sure I pick them up from doggie daycare on time).

I imagine its only a small level of effort compared to having kids but having furrkids has changed my life.

nicki rose98
02-24-2009, 03:43 PM
All I do is try to squeeze in about thirty minutes when I can. Mon, Wed and Fri I just do my weights which don't take as long so I can usually squeeze that in between job changes. Tues and Thurs are my cardio days. I get off at 3 and Brianna is usually still sleeping at the sitter so I'll get my cardio in before she wakes up and then go to the sitter to get her. Weekends I'll squeeze in the cardio while Brianna is napping or if I can get my butt out of bed I'll go to the gym in the morning.

02-24-2009, 04:46 PM
My husband watches my son in the evenings while I go to the gym. They do dinner, homework and bath while I'm out. I have dinner ready for the guys so I can go right away when the hub comes home. Fair trade.

If I'm able to, I work my workout in after dropping my son off at school in the mornings or just haul him with me after school while the childcare center is open. I prefer not to do that after he's already had a long day at school.

On the weekends (husband works a lot) my son and I ride bikes together (we have a tandem) if the weather is nice or I take him to the gym while the childcare center is open. After my workout we swim.

There's always time, it's easier with a willing partner but always doable.

02-24-2009, 05:21 PM
it sounds like between now and when i procreate i will somehow need to become a morning person.:yawn:

Eh, I'm not a morning person at all and I never will be. I drag myself out of bed at 7, the whole family is out the door for school/work at 8. I'm pretty efficient with my routines, but I'm not really "awake" until 10 am. This is why I exercise at lunch or in the evening, rather than in the morning; morning exercise has just never worked for me.

It's really just all about finding what works for the unique being that is you.

02-24-2009, 06:48 PM
Once the kids got to about 12 years old, if I knew I was going to have a busy week, I would let them cook. I would let them know in advance that I had a meeting, or whatever or would be late on a particular night. They would have to plan a meal and I would get the ingredients at the store while doing my normal weekend grocery shopping. Then on that night they would cook and clean up. It helped them both to become pretty proficient in the kitchen.

There were a lot of things they could make like steak and baked potatoes, spaghetti, or it might even be burgers on the grill.

Now that they are older and can drive they will often tell me they are making dinner and will go and buy what they need and cook.

It is pretty nice.

Thighs Be Gone
02-24-2009, 06:57 PM
I work out at 5:30 in the morning. Otherwise, there is no time. :( I don't spend time driving to a gym or whatever. I just put on my clothes (already laid out) and go run for 45 minutes. I occasionally do the 30DS sometime during the day as time allows.

BTW, before I started my new lifestyle I was a total nightowl and have been my entire life. Now, I try to be in bed by 10 or 10:30 latest. Swapping hours can be done successfully. It just takes getting used to.

I agree it's difficult sometimes. In the end, it's a matter of priorities. If I don't put my exercise, nutrition and sleep at the top, it doesn't get done. So, for now--that's where they are staying.

02-24-2009, 07:40 PM
I make time! :) I work fulltime, have 2 young boys (3 & 2) and somehow manage to get to the gym 7 days a week. I have a fairly flexible work schedule and a hubby that helps watch the boys. I'm all over the place but it works.

Mon - DH gets the boys from daycare and I hit the gym after work.

Tues & Thurs - When DH gets home I try to hit the gym after dinner and get home for bath, snuggle, bed.

Wed & Fri - I work from home so I hit the gym at 4 before picking up the boys from daycare.

Sat - DH gets up with the boys and I go to the gym in the am.

Sun - When the boys take a nap DH has baby monitor duty while I'm at the gym.

Whew...I'm tired....waiting for DH to get home from work so I can go do cardio.


02-24-2009, 09:04 PM
yeah i guess i forgot to factor in the hypothetical dh situation when i was trying to imagine how i would be able to manage. i just think that as my life is now, only with two kitties to support, i am out of the house at work from 8am to 6pm on non-gym days and from 8am to 8pm on gym days. so i guess gym would either have to happen at 6am or at 6 and let hypothetical dh handle dinner and bedtime for hypothetical dd and ds. dude better step up.

02-24-2009, 09:26 PM
it sounds like between now and when i procreate i will somehow need to become a morning person.:yawn:

Yes, it happened to me. I would not call myself a morning person but I do need to function at a moderately high level in the am. For example tomorrow morning I will take a 5:50am train into NYC where I am employed. I will take a run from Penn Station uptown to my job. Since I have been majorly slacking in my plan and have my first half marathon coming I am planning a long run which is around NYC's Central Park before heading uptown to work.

I work out at 5:30 in the morning. Otherwise, there is no time. :( I don't spend time driving to a gym or whatever.
BTW, before I started my new lifestyle I was a total nightowl and have been my entire life. .
I agree it's difficult sometimes. In the end, it's a matter of priorities. If I don't put my exercise, nutrition and sleep at the top, it doesn't get done. So, for now--that's where they are staying.


02-24-2009, 09:37 PM
It's very important to me at least to have some sort of a schedule to my day. I work from home and sometimes wish I had an office out of the house! I have 3 kids (ages 7 and under) and have two of them at home with me during the school week.

I get up at 5am to do my run because I can not do this with them awake....them + moving treadmill = OMG! for me lol The rest is worked in at nap time, after dinner when my DH can watch them (if he is in town) or after they all go to bed. If everyone is having a bad day I plug my ipod to my stereo and we all dance, this makes the little kidlets happy and mommy gets her workout ;)

It can get really hectic with after school activities and sometimes we don't get home till after 8pm....the crock pot is my friend on many nights esp when baseball season starts (I am coaching t-ball with my middle child on my team & my oldest is in coach's pitch...talk about living at the fields!)

The only thing I can tell you though is what Robin said....when you want it to happen you *will* find a way to do it :)

02-24-2009, 11:30 PM
dude better step up.

Yup, supportive partners are a must.

Two asides: Kitty is so damn cool to ride a train and run around Central Park! :hug: And RomanceDiva, your avatar is smokin'!!!!!

Back to topic:

I get up at 4:45 2 days a week to run with my friend and I have 3 scheduled hour long sessions with my trainer for weights. Having these as appointments in my life is essential! They are my checks and balances.

I NEVER regret getting up to run. Hitting snooze to sleep in a piddly extra hour is usually not worth it. About every 3 weeks or so I go to bed at 8 pm and squeeze in some extra sleep but I think that need is more of a function from missing sleep waiting on babies to birth.

You will find a way. It is not easy, but it is possible.

02-25-2009, 07:31 AM
Another morning person here. I get SO much stuff done when others are still in their jammies and under the covers. I get in a brisk walk early in the morning and do lots of house stuff and cooking/preparing. No sleeping in for me. Ever. I am a poor sleeper though and an early riser. No need for me to set alarm clocks. It definitely works out to my advantage.

02-25-2009, 09:40 AM
I think task sharing and delegating are important for all parents, so mum doesn't have to be wonder woman. Also, I made big meals twice a week, froze stuff or ate leftovers a lot. Your partner might have different hours, could either do the morning stuff or evening stuff....it all depends on what you each feel you can do. As the kids get older, they just have to pitch in. My girls were very independent, I have NEVER packed a school lunch, just helped them do theirs for instance.
If you have a large house, a live-in nanny can be cheaper than day-care!
then you get some house-keeping/cooking thrown in.

02-26-2009, 01:55 PM
Put me down as another early bird. I get up before 4 am and hit the gym first thing, by 5 am. I have a gym facility right at the office, which is a great convenience. My husband does the morning routine, getting the boys off to school before HE goes to work. I generally work 10 hour days, but still get home early enough to handle dinner, errands, and homework. My husband does his workouts after work.

On weekends I still get up very early to run. I do a lot of crock-pot bulk cooking on the weekend, and freeze portions for weekdays so I just have to heat it up and add side dishes or a salad. It's just as quick as take out and a lot healthier. I also sing in my church choir and volunteer at least 30 hours per year my children's school.

It's all a matter of planning and coordination. However I have a supportive husband and we can tag-team the kids. If I were a single parent, that would be an entirely different story.