Weight Loss Support - Have you ever felt like you were never going to get back on the wagon?




WormwoodDoll
02-19-2009, 10:30 AM
From September to about the beginning of December, I went from 246 to 219. But after the holidays, I was stuck between 220 - 225, leaving the 210s behind, and even further from ONDERLAND. I stayed there until the second week of February, showing no losses, but a gain. Of course it wasn't a huge gain. I pretty much maintained myself. I weighed myself February 8th...it read 226. I was upset. I just couldn't do that anymore. I knew what I should be doing, but for some reason I just let my control slip away.

It felt like I'd never get back on the wagon. I joined the gym in January and made empty promises to myself that [at that time] it was my final straw. No. February 8th was my final straw. The very next day I promised myself I'd complete a 30 day challenge being completely OP, getting enough exercise, and drinking enough water. I am on day #11 right now. I weigh 216.4lbs! Granted I had a lot of water weight and that's why I was at 226, but I know for sure I lost a few pounds. The lowest I hit was 219 so seeing 216 is just...so motivating.

So my question for you is....Have you felt like you were NEVER going to get back on the wagon? And what did you do to push yourself to finally do it?


TryinAgain5402
02-19-2009, 11:03 AM
I'm looking for that same motivation myself!

beerab
02-19-2009, 11:05 AM
I'm still there- and not that I want to make excuses- but with taking a night course and my husband being very sick the past few weeks it's been really hard to do more than eat right. I know it won't last forever and just not gaining weight right now is good for me. I went to the doctor two weeks ago and got my blood work done and the doctor said everything was normal and my cholesterol was down from 230- so that's keeping me encouraged.

My sister got the 30 day shred, so I'm wanting to try to start that this week- that way since I haven't had time to hit the gym I'll at least have time to work out at home :D


CandyKisses0204
02-19-2009, 11:19 AM
Im kind of there right now. I have been hovering at 199 since before christmas! It is so irritating. After reading your post i realized a few things... 1. I CAN get back on and lose
2. I was giving half a$$ attempts at losing. Eating okay and exercising sometimes. Enough to maintain but not enough to lose.

You are my inspiration for the day. :) Thank you

ronni62
02-19-2009, 11:21 AM
I have definitely felt that I was never getting back on the wagon-never going to be able to lose the weight or even try to lose the weight again. Every diet I had tried had failed and I just couldn't see trying again. What turned me around was getting to the point where I hated my body so much, I was able to ask for help. I know everyone says you have to love yourself the way you are to be able to lose, but that just gave me the excuse to not succeed. I finally saw what I really was and absolutely hated it! I found 3fc (I truly believe God led me here) and started learning about how to lose weight and how to eat healthy, but I didn't start doing it for several months, until I had the knowledge I needed to do it. I had been trying to lose on very restrictive "plans" and by any fad method I read about. But, one day I just knew what I had to do and COMMITTED myself to doing it NO MATTER WHAT. I started that very day and haven't regretted it one bit. I mess up now and again, but I never want to go back to the way I was and the way I ate before. It's all about realizing that I had to do it -there was no magic formula- and I had to commit my whole self to becoming healthy.

I think you're doing a great job! Keep working your plan and coming here for support-it helps so much!:)

AngelMae
02-19-2009, 11:28 AM
I have had pretty much the same last few months as you have. I felt like I might never get my sh!t together and get back on the wagon. But I kind of went at it as I was starting over again.

Taking it one thing at a time. First I made sure that I had my eating back in order, for me that is the most important part. And then I started getting to the gym and working out more.

This is only my 3rd week working out again and I feel sooooo much better!! Congrats on finally getting back on the wagon and here is to staying on!! :)

Nixie
02-19-2009, 12:50 PM
I feel like this right now. I'll get fired up and get together a list of all the things I'll need to start eating healthy with the thought that I'll go to the store "tomorrow morning" and something will happen that prevents me from doing that. Or, nothing will happen and I'll decide that I don't have time for it and I'll start the next day.

This has happened to me before and I was always able to bring myself out of it and get on plan. Well, my "tomorrow morning" hasn't come yet. I know all I need to do is take the next step, but I haven't been able to push myself to do it yet. I haven't made any progress on my goal, and might have even gained some since joining this site. I'm in a way serious rut right now and feel like I'll never be back on the wagon again. I think getting back on track is really simple-- you've just got to do it, no matter what it takes. But, I understand just how hard it is, too. It's a battle.

And, I'm starting to freak out because I know spring is right around the corner. It'll be short-sleeve time and I won't be able to hide as well anymore. Ok, well, now that I've become pretty pathetic, I'm going to go shopping so I can start tonight. I've got the time and list together, so no more excuses!!

I'd love to hear if anyone has anything specific they do to get themselves pumped up...

munchievictim
02-19-2009, 01:11 PM
ughhh! I have been off the wagon since before valentines day and every day its the same. I get up early, have a good breakfast, go off about my day, maybe nibble on some healthy snacks, have a decent lunch, but by the time i get home in the evening i want chocolate and quesadillas and pizza and bread and what's more, i EAT THAT. And I haven't been able to drag my lazy butt onto the treadmill in a week or more. I have zero motivation for excersize right now.
but I think that if i get back on plan with my eating and stay in my calorie range and drop a couple of pounds I'll get back in the groove of walking and start working towards my goal of running a mile by Easter.
In fact, what am I doing sitting here talking about it? I'm going to be proactive and go jump on the treadmill now!
Good luck guys. It's worth the struggle.

mermaid20
02-19-2009, 01:50 PM
Okay, I am with you here.

Also between Sep-Dec, I had went from 138 to 112.5. I was ecstatic. Less than 3 months, and I had lost 25 pounds and seeing 112 on the scale was exciting because my short term goal was 110 and long term is 102. Well, the holidays came around and from then to now, I am stuck between 114-118. I was so upset, and I just lost control over my lifestyle change and I think I've been in denial that I had just given up. I stopped working out, I was still logging calories, but I wasn't counting them because I wasn't caring how many calories I logged. I think, now that my short-term goal date is about to approach and I am 4-8 pounds off from that goal when I should have been able to have made it... made me realize. I still haven't exactly gotten back on the wagon... still dragging my feet... but March is a new start and I will NOT let myself down starting then.

gymlee
02-19-2009, 02:04 PM
Oh Corrine, meeeee toooo! But you already know this haha :p I was doing so good the past few days but then yesterday I went buzzerk after I got some bad news about my fin aid for school and I went over my cals by like 400 and today I had like over 500 cals in chocolate alone :o I'm so ashamed and I can't figure out what to do about changing my usual MO of just reaching for the comfort food. I only ever really overeat now with I'm stressed or really mad about something I can't control and I don't even know what to do so I don't. I don't know how to cope with the things I can't control by any other way but eating and I just really wish I can learn some strategies to deal with it. Ugh... maybe I'll try and compensate by exercising more tonight and eating not quite so much tonight. :dunno: Will ever get back on properly?

Amber1011
02-19-2009, 02:43 PM
I know how you feel I lost 28 lbs then in a month I gained 14 back...
but I'm trying to jump back on the wagon now!

cfmama
02-19-2009, 02:52 PM
but March is a new start and I will NOT let myself down starting then.

DON'T WAIT TO START THEN!!!!!!! Start RIGHT NOW. There is no time like the present and you'll always find a reason to put it off. You can do this!!!! :carrot:

Mom2QJandT
02-19-2009, 03:40 PM
I find that ONE good day breeds one more good day and so on and so forth. On the flip side, ONE bad day breeds one more bad day and so on and so forth. I think sometimes the trick is to get through that first good day. I have literally been at this for years now. I go through phases of really good, not so good, and downright horrid. But I still find that if I am on a bad track one good day can at least get me headed in the right direction. Sometimes, it's just one decision that gets me in the right direction. I'm on a good swing right now, but it followed one of the worst I've had in a long time. It's one day at a time and I can only control the choices I make today.

daydreamer
02-19-2009, 08:21 PM
Right now I feel like I can't even see the wagon! lol

I keep telling myself I'm going to drink more water, and I'm going to exercise, but I never seem to be able to do it. I know it's mostly laziness on my part. I could make all kinds of excuses... kids, housework, husband..... but it boils down to the fact that I.am.lazy. There, I "said" it.

Now, where is that wagon I need to get back on?

DCHound
02-19-2009, 08:59 PM
Five years! It took me five years to get back on the wagon! I look back and regret every single day I wasted. I fell off the wagon around July 5th 2003 and didn't really get back on until August 14th 2008. Oh I tried ~ I tried very hard throughout fall 2004 but it didn't take. I wasn't ready.

I'm glad I'm doing it now but how I wish I'd been able to do it earlier. The difference between now and then is I was depressed, and I'm not depressed anymore. I wish I'd known I was depressed and I wish I'd gotten help for it. But I can't go back and change the past, I can only move forward.

WormwoodDoll
02-19-2009, 09:40 PM
Beerab – As long as your health is in line, that’s all that matters! The 30DS will kick your butt, but it is SO worth it. It makes me hurt worse then any time I visit the gym. A good hurt. :P

CandyKisses0204 – Aw! I am glad I could be your inspiration today! And yes, you CAN get back! We all can do this.

ronni62 – Yeah. My first couple of months were just trial & error. I found the right calorie intake for me and I found what foods that I enjoy that are healthy. I, too, use to do restrictive dieting (less than 1000 calories a day). Now I am doing it the right way and I am making it suitable for life. If I want a piece of chocolate, sure! I’ll make room for it instead of eating the whole candy bar and saying “I’ll start over tomorrow”. I can’t tell myself I’ll never eat bad food again, because I can’t make those promises. But I can promise myself I will eat it in moderation.

AngelMae – Good job! I am starting to enjoy exercise instead of dreading it. It helps.

Nixie – Take some time and write down all the reasons why you want to do this. For health, for vanity, etc. It is an eye opener. That’s what I did. And I really want those things, so I am kicking my butt to get them!

Munchievictim - It is worth the struggle. We just have to find what works for us and conquer our demons. I use to be a really big binge/emotional eater. I am working on fixing that. I wish you luck!

mermaid20 – Why wait? Start tomorrow!

Amber1011 – You can do this, girl!

Cfmama – You’re an inspiration! I hope to (one day) be OP as many days as you.

Mom2QJandT – That’s a good way to put it. I know that if I have a bad day, I’ll want to be bad the following day. If I have good days, I’ll have a good day the next day. It’s just that one bad day can ruin everything.

Daydreamer – The wagon is over here! I’ll hold it for ya. :P

DCHound - As long as you found your way back, that's what matters.

Platinum
05-12-2009, 05:10 AM
From September to about the beginning of December, I went from 246 to 219. But after the holidays, I was stuck between 220 - 225, leaving the 210s behind, and even further from ONDERLAND. ... The lowest I hit was 219 so seeing 216 is just...so motivating.
omg that is basically my story too... except I have been lingered in the 220's longer and now I'm back to the 230's! uggh! From last July to Sept I lost the same weight 245.2 down to 219. Then it stopped I got complacent, I guess I lost my focus. By Christmas I think I was up to 224 gained a couple lbs each month and now back up even more. I feel like everyday passes by and I do nothing. I'm getting so sick of it I just need to do it. I think I'll take your advice and write it all down tomorrow (when I wake up later today actually). All the reasons I want it and not hold back. I have to do this! And by looking at your ticker it looks like your making some progress since this posting too! Almost to Onderland! And for me to be able to see that number again 219! and then to get past it 216 and my own min-goal of 213, I know I can do it! I did it already and I can get back on track! That gives me inspiration, in 3 months from now, I can either be fatter or just as fat as I am now, or I can be 10, 15, 20 or more pounds lighter and fitter! I have to jump back on the wagon! Today is the day! Well after I go to sleep & wake up... :)

I find that ONE good day breeds one more good day and so on and so forth. On the flip side, ONE bad day breeds one more bad day and so on and so forth. I think sometimes the trick is to get through that first good day. I have literally been at this for years now. I go through phases of really good, not so good, and downright horrid. But I still find that if I am on a bad track one good day can at least get me headed in the right direction. Sometimes, it's just one decision that gets me in the right direction. I'm on a good swing right now, but it followed one of the worst I've had in a long time. It's one day at a time and I can only control the choices I make today.

This is so true... I did really well last Sun, Mon & Tues. Then I let a couple bad days turn into a bad week. But I still can salvage the rest of this week! I just need to make tomorrow a good day and then focus on one day at a time. My goal is to get to 14 good days! And my reward is to just be able to look back and be happy that I did it! And maybe a new CD or book or something non-food related!

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you this is just what I needed! I came here depressed and hopeless and now I feel like I've been taken by the shoulders and turned right back around!!! Back to being a healthier, happier me!:)

Sophia Elise
05-12-2009, 08:11 AM
Hello

Thanks for your wonderful advise. I've been reading a lot from this thread. I myself is also looking for tips on how to stay fit especially now that I will be assigned permanently to work in the night shift.. Yeah I know that is sad. But a job is a job.

Thanks

DCHound
05-12-2009, 10:37 AM
Have you felt like you were NEVER going to get back on the wagon? And what did you do to push yourself to finally do it?

Yes, from July 4th-ish 2003 until August 13, 2008. Five years, one month, one week. The first date is when I succumbed to the depression and went off Atkins with a vengeance, gaining over 100 lbs in less than 6 months...the second date is how long it took me to work through the depression and get back on the wagon.

I was actually thinking about this last night for some reason. I asked myself, back in 2004-5-6-7-8, did I ever think I'd lose the weight again? Somehow, no matter how bad things got, I do think there was always a tiny spark inside me that held out a single drop of hope that I could do it again. Just one drop. I never let go of it.

And here I am. So, yes, I felt like I would never get back on the wagon for over five years. I finally was able to do it when I worked through all my emotional issues (over two decades worth) and when I finally realized I was depressed, and started doing something about it. The catalyst to get me back on was being invited to be the maid of honor at my best friend's wedding, and not wanting to do that wearing a size 32. But that was just the spark ~ the readiness to get back on Atkins was already there, marinating.

This is kind of funny ~ my friend who got married in November has been a solid size 14 most of the time I've known her. Not fat, not thin, just on the heavier side of average, but not noticeably overweight. Since getting married, she's succumbed to some of her hubby's eating habits and now is a 14/16 ~ I'm an 18 who can juuuuust squeeze into some 16s ~ and a couple weeks ago she told me she was going on a healthier diet because she's afraid she's going to outgrow her clothes just as I'm getting too small for them . . . it was funny. :)

Sunrose
05-12-2009, 10:50 AM
WormwoodDoll,

You already know that I know what that's like! You are one of the reasons that I stared again in April after falling off the wagon a bit in March! It's just weird how one day onederland seems within reach, and the next day (even when my weight hasn't changed) it seems like there is no way I'll ever get there. It's all mental, I guess. Two weeks ago I felt so discouraged, and I just kept going, but it seemed hopeless, I don't know why. Now I'm finally at 222 and I CANNOT WAIT until I see the teens. I know I will cry. And I don't know what I'll do when I see onederland. Someone is going to have to pick me up off of the floor. ;)

By the way, you are doing an AWESOME JOB!!! :cheer:

willow68
05-12-2009, 01:01 PM
i just picked myself up this morning...and put me back on the treadmill.

i was doing good for about 2 weeks. and then fell. don't even know why, went out of town for two days, ate really well there, and walked and ran outside. came home, didn't go to the gym and had all the comfort food i know is bad for me. was back up to 210 this morning. and felt like staying in bed...

BUT - went to the gym, walked for 30min, 2 miles, and feel so much better now. exercise is the key for me.