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02-19-2009, 12:35 AM
i've been hovering at a 10lb. loss for about 2 weeks now. i haven't had a lot of time to exercise so i've been eating for a "sedentary lifestyle" according to the daily plate. i realize that exercise is important, but since i am eating the calorie amounts for someone who isn't exercising, why is it stalling? not a lot has changed since the first couple of weeks (that went well) so I don't understand why I am not getting anywhere.

though i will say that people have noticed a change in how i look. does that count more than the numbers do?

02-19-2009, 01:16 AM
Don't dispair beauty. I've been hovering with only a 5lb loss for about the same amount of time with the same situation. When we exercise we also build muscle that helps to burn more calories. You may be redistributing your weight and so you don't notice a loss. Are you eating alot of sodium? You could also be retaining water. I know that I haven't been drinking enough of that!

Hey, we'll get ourselves going soon. At least we have NOT gained! :hug:

02-19-2009, 04:09 AM
and sometimes we just do seem to stall, even when there's still a lot to lose. I never understand the why of it myself, with the amount I have to lose and the amount I've sometimes eaten, I'd have thought I'd sail through the first several 10s of lbs - but it doesn't happen. Sometimes it just seems as though our bodies need to pause and regroup and then Will start again.
I may not know Why the pauses happen but I Do know that if you persevere, it will suddenly kick off again.

02-19-2009, 04:20 AM
Are you eating a healthy, balanced diet that isn't too high in carbs, fats, sugar or salt? And drinking plenty of water? How many calories below maintenance are you?

02-19-2009, 07:15 AM
Hey! :wave: Yes, I'd like to know what your calorie target is too. I know you've posted it before... but I can't remember.

Maybe do some walking for exercise? Or find the time for other things? I found that if I waited until I "had time" to exercise, I didn't. So I made it a priority to get my time in.


02-19-2009, 08:09 AM
Just wanted to add I'm in your boat floating with you. After months of being in the mid 140's I suddenly slipped down to 132. And No matter what I do now, I've even upped my exercise, the scale won't budge. This seems to be a pattern, I have a nice steady weight loss, then it stops. As long as there's no gain, I take comfort in that, and keep going. Hang in there, it will start again!

02-19-2009, 08:16 AM
Yes, what is it that you are eating? How carefully are you monitoring your calories? How consistient are you with sticking to your calorie allotment?

And beauty, it may be you just have to find the time and make the commitment to add in exercise. If it's weight loss you're after, exercise really does play a pivotal role.

02-19-2009, 08:44 AM
I just went through the same thing last week. I lost 15 lbs in January and now in Feb, I have only lost 2 lbs so far and it's mid Feb already. Just keep on dieting and exercising and you will see the lbs come off.

02-19-2009, 09:33 AM
I know this must be frustrating for you, but stick with it, the pounds will come off. Try adding small amounts of walking into your day. Park further from the entrance, take the steps instead of the elevator, walk in place while watching TV, anything to give your metabolism a little boost. Hang in there!

02-19-2009, 09:51 AM
Online calorie counts may not always be accurate for individuals. If you are eating and tracking precisely and hitting what TDP states are your sedentary calories, but you are not losing, then you have found a calorie level that allows you to maintain. How many calories are you eating?

02-19-2009, 08:45 PM
the daily plate claims that for me to lose 2lbs. a week with a sedentary lifestyle i should be eating 2071 calories a day. i generally do not eat that much, though. i do count my calories very carefully. i consider each and every thing that goes into my body. a change i did make this week was to stop drinking as much soda and to drink more water. here's what my calorie intake has been over the last several days. also, for the most part, it is well balanced between veggies, meats, carbs, etc.











wasn't able to record






895 (so far)

I might have some of the days of the week messed up there, but you catch my drift.

02-19-2009, 08:56 PM
If you fail to resume weight loss after sticking to this for awhile, you may need to see a doctor to find out if you have insulin resistance or thyroid problems.

I know you say you don't have time to exercise, but you don't need to exercise all in one time block. Can you squeeze in three ten minute sessions of brisk walking or something during the day? It really will help to give your metabolism a bump. I can't believe how much quicker I lose weight when I am more mobile...and then when I spend a week or two recovering from being too mobile, my weight loss drops significantly.

02-19-2009, 11:39 PM
hey beauty.
I'm on the daily plate as well, and it says I should be eating around 2000 calories but that's way too much for me right now to be losing weight. I instead set my own calorie goal of 1300-1400, and I'm hanging out there for awhile until I see what kind of weight loss is going to come and then I'll adjust either more or less from there. That's the best way to do it, in my opinion. Just find out what works for you.

02-20-2009, 02:45 AM
Beauty, what is your age again? You might want to list that in your profile, as that's a factor in the calculations, as is your height.

02-20-2009, 03:17 AM
I fixed it :)

5'3" and 22 years old

02-20-2009, 03:30 AM
Thanks. With your stats, and based on the normal calculators, you should be able to maintain at about 2500, or lose a lb a week at 2000. If you are not, then you need to see a doctor to find out if you might have diabetes and be insulin resistant or have some other pysiological problem like low thyroid or something.

And please don't tell me you can't afford it. If you are a student, you qualify for student insurance...if not, then cough up the money for the doc appt. It's a matter of priorities. If your health is not a priority, then it will always be put on the back burner.

I have some health issues I cannot deal with because of cost...so I understand. But my life choices put other things in front of those health issues. So, it's still my choice to choose something else over health insurance. Most people have choices...they just dont recognize or accept them.

02-20-2009, 04:38 AM
Actually I am not a student, I graduated last August. I worked until November and was (essentially) laid off. I will be working again soon. My loans are due starting next month, and as someone who has had no income for several months (and is living off of my fiance's family) I actually don't have the money to go to the doctor. I recently stopped taking a certain medication because I can't afford to go and get the prescription refilled. While I am sure your heart is in the right place, saying "...please don't tell me you can't afford it." is not at all helpful and slightly offensive.

I'd love to "cough up" the money to go to the doctor, but at the moment it's just not going to happen. Maybe next month when I am working I will have some left over from paying off my loans and I will be able to go, otherwise I'm on my own. My parents have been sending me $200/month to help me out. I talked to the doctor's office, and a visit is $90. That's not something I can spare.

Also, sadly enough, I do have health insurance through my job. The deductible is just too high for it to really pay for anything besides emergencies.

Thank you for your advice, but if one of these health issues is what's wrong then there is not a lot I can do about it anyway. I'll just have to keep trying.

Also, I don't know if the thyroid thing can develop over time, but I was tested for it when I was around 12 years old and they found nothing wrong. As far as diabetes goes, my stepfather is a veterinarian and has given me some test strips they use in the lab to determine diabetes in animals and every time I have used them they have been negative (though I know that's not the most reliable source.)

Sorry if this comes off as grumpy, it's just that money has been a very, very big issue these past few months and it's hard to have someone tell you to just "come up with the money" when you are living with your fiance's family because you have no money for rent / eating their food because you have no money for groceries / and worst of all, having to send money TO your deadbeat employers because your useless health insurance fees are due and you aren't getting paychecks.

Thanks for your input, I really don't mean to be grouchy, this is just a very touchy subject.

02-20-2009, 07:30 AM
Hey! That's an average of 1547 cals per day for that length of time, skipping the day you didn't record.

I'd suggest you bring up those low cal days. Try to get the average closer to 1700 or 1800 and see how that goes for a month. At your current size, you do need those calories just to walk around your house.

And do consider doing more walking. It's a good way to burn more calories. Make sure you have some good shoes, too.


02-20-2009, 12:09 PM
It's so strange to think I need to be eating more!

My work schedule is picking back up (worked 2 days this week) and I will be back into a pretty full swing next week. The nice thing about this job is that it is fairly active. I work for a church directory company that has a traveling studio, that means that on the first day we get there we have to unload a lot of stuff (a lot of heavy lifting) and set it up. The last day, we tear it down and pack it into one of our vehicles. The days between I get exercise too, from walking back and forth to greet the customers, taking their pictures, and walking them to the monitor where we view their portraits. The job is about 1/2 sitting and talking and 1/2 walking and standing. So that should help on my exercise, which means I definitely need to up my calories. Thanks!

02-20-2009, 12:33 PM
Are there any low cost health clinics around? I'm not familiar with the resources in Indiana, but in my state there are clinics with sliding scales.

I admire your tenacity.

02-20-2009, 12:35 PM
You mentioned that you ran out of your RX and could not afford to refill it. I totally understand about not having the $$ for RX's.. Mine added up to more than 70% of our income (fixed retirement) when I suffered a heart attack. I went to the doctor, explained I had no insurance and had a gargantuan hospital bill that I owed. He charged me only $15 per office visit and he provided me with samples of most of the meds I was on. They get these samples from the pharmaceutical companies for zip, and they can pass them on to you.. Just ask. And if they don't have it in their stash, then ask for a generic prescription... and go to WalMart.. then it only costs $4 per month.

As for stalling.. I am nearly 66 years old and in January I dropped 9.4 pounds. But I forced myself to find the time to walk at least one mile nearly every day. I missed walking 8 days because of inclement weather, but now I have rain ponchos to wear and go every day and now have built myself up to a mile and a half every single day. I have stalled for a week or so at a time, but just am thankful that I don't gain. It seems that the body is rebelling and needs time to adjust and realize that the weight is absolutely going to come off.. and we just have to be patient and out wait those stalls.

So far this month, I have lost 4.6 lbs. and for me that is fine. It is slowing down, but okay.

I take a RX that actually keeps my metabolic rate waaaay down. The reason for that is that I only have 2/3 of my heart function left and so I am not allowed to let my heart rate go over 100 unless I am in the doctors presence. That is so that I don't overtax the remainder of my heart that is still alive. So, it only makes sense that I cannot eat as many calories or carbs and still lose weight. I must keep below 1200 or I will actully gain weight because of my slowed metabolic rate.

You are only 22 and I know that you can increase your activity enough to offset you caloric intake. You are so very young and without a lot of health issues us old folks have.

So, just hang in there and you will drop the weight and see a dramatic change soon.



02-20-2009, 06:49 PM
Thank you for calling me on what I said Beauty, and I ask you to please forgive me. I'm afraid I was projecting my own frustration onto you...I tend not to take care of myself, as if my health is not worth spending money on it, and it's hard for me to cough up the money for a doctors visit, even when I really need to go. I am crippled right now from a knee injury, and while I know I can't afford the necessary surgery to fix it, I might get some advice from the doc on exercises that might help or something, yet I won't spend the money to go see him. I really need to see an orthopedic doc, not my family doc, and that is $165 just for the exam (I don't have insurance). I will eventually go see him, but first have to pay $1000 for oral sugery (which I've been trying to save up for), and they won't take payments and I don't use credit. So I'm in the same boat as you.

Your regular doctor should be willing to see you and bill you later and make payments though. A new doc might not, but if you have a prescription then you've already seen a doc.

If you are afraid of finding out that you need more medication you can't afford, I can understand that too. You can ask your doctor for a form to send to the drug company that makes your medication and request to get the meds cheaper or even free on a low income scholarship. I was going to do that with an asthma med I need, but just haven't gotten around to it. And your doc will try to give you samples if he has them.

But I also understand that you may not want to rack up a $90 bill (and more for tests) just to find out there is nothing wrong with you. I get it...believe me.

So again, I am sorry for projecting my frustration with myself onto you. You weren't being "grumpy". I was the one who was out of line.

02-20-2009, 07:10 PM
The best way you can avoid medical costs is to just go for a 30 minute walk or something like that. It's free. Go with friends, family, yourself. There's no excuse for a sedentary lifestyle. My mother has a metal hip (got it at age 37 - she is 50+ now), isn't allowed to run according to the doctor, but still makes it to the pool which is $1 per cheap swim.

You cannot afford to be sedentary!

Free: pushups (even against the wall if you can't do full ones), knee pushups, dips on a chair, etc. Whole wheat pasta, beans, apples, eggs, all cheap.

I admit, between my 6 days of work a week (including 12hr shifts) and fulltime course schedule at university, sometimes I hate having to workout.

**But I am NOT going to end up like my parents who never exercised (they "ate for a sedentary lifestyle") and who are experiencing the health problems of inactivity. Humans were made to be active! We need it!

02-22-2009, 02:17 AM
It's no problem, recidivist.

And to everyone else, thank you for your help. I talked to my stepdad about the different problems it could be and he believes too that it is a lack of eating enough coupled with a lack of activity.

The medication I am going off of has a terrible withdrawal symptom of making me dizzy when I move around too much. This makes it difficult to exercise right now but I know it's no excuse. If I have to, I'll lay on the floor and do crunches or leg lifts, or try yoga (though the dizziness may knock me right on my butt with that one!)