Overeaters Anonymous - I went to Weight Watchers and was so embarrassed/ashamed I didn't go back.




ASoutherner
01-31-2009, 02:55 PM
I just felt so fat and ugly. The Group Meetings were filled with the skinny people who had lost the weight and were bragging about it (which I'd have been bragging right up there with them if I weren't so heavy).

If there had been other heavier women in the meetings with me I might have stayed..no I wouldn't have because I'm so ashamed of being fat and I don't want to run into anyone I haven't seen in a while so they can go running back telling everyone how big I am :(

I have some serious issues don't I. Want to lose weight but am in to much pain, don't want to sit in on meetings at WW because I"m ashamed of my weight, afraid of people looking at me, afraid of running into people I haven't see in a while watching me walking(in my case waddling) out of WW's after a weigh in. I quit WW. I stay home for the most part. I watch my Treadmill gather dust when it isn't busy being a clothes hanger for me :dizzy:

I hope we ALL get to where we want to be. I always say it's not the number on a scale but how my clothes look on me but in the back of mind that number on that broken scale(it has to be broken because I couldn't possibly weight what it tells me I do) is just as important :(

Peace to All.

ASoutherner~


katiecron
01-31-2009, 03:03 PM
it sounds frustrating to get yourself to a meeting that was not at all supportive. it is difficult to listen to other's success stories, during a time that you might not feel particularly successful.

ryverthorn
01-31-2009, 03:36 PM
I agree that it would be frustrating going to WW meetings where you didn't feel comfortable or supported.

I've personally never tried weight watchers but a friend of mine swears by their at home program. If you have interest in WW maybe that might be more comfortable for you.

The most important thing is to not give up and keep trying things until you find the plan that works best for you and your lifestyle. :hug:


Nayex
01-31-2009, 03:37 PM
i felt like that when i moved back to my home town..i didnt want to see old friends, especially old boyfriends, classmates or anything.. and its a really small town. i have gained well over a hundred pounds.. and was mortified. i *hated* going out.

look, you were so brave to go to a meeting evan once... i could never do that. because, i would expect exactly what you got. . a bunch of skinny woman telling me how easy it was to lose there extra 10lbs. . when i have 140 to lose. .(a whole person!) i would want to smack them in there smug little faces. dont go back if your uncomfortable in that enviroment. - it will only compound your feelings and lead you to eat more (it would for e anyways) you can find support here (i have!) and maybe you'll be inspired to start slow.. walk on your treadill for 2 minutes and build from there. all you need to do is take that first step and you'll be so proud of yourself that you did that you'll take the next.. and the next.. and the next! you *CAN* do this. we all have the power to change our lives. its just taking that first step.

Dont give up on yourself. you can reclaim your life, and your self esteem.
start SMALL. dont overload yourself at once. either start eating differantly, or moving more. either one will boost your self confidance and show yourself that this is possible. . and mptivate you to move to the next step.

im right where you are. . and its OK. everyone has to start somewhere.

:hug: to you... we can do this.

plum
01-31-2009, 03:41 PM
when it comes down to it, all that matters is how you feel about your body. they have no right to judge you. (and i know how easy it is to say that, and how hard it is to follow through.)

i wish you all the best- i hope your health comes first. have you tried enlisting the help/support of friends and family? they love you no matter what. :]

TJFitnessDiva
01-31-2009, 03:51 PM
I'm very sorry you felt that way at the meeting. :(

I think I said something like this earlier today so bear with me ;)

You are honestly probably reading into it way more than you should. I belong to WW and where I'm getting close to goal, there are people there that have been with me from the beginning but the new people don't know & I don't go up to every person and tell them how much I have lost.

I was pre-judged today by a woman at my meeting when she "rudely" told me that I don't really need to be at the meeting as much as she did, I think all because we had a really long line for WI? It was still uncalled for. I was really taken aback. I didn't come in wearing a sign that I have lost 92 pounds so she assumed and you know what they say about assumptions right? ;)

I wish you much luck on your journey!

katyp
01-31-2009, 03:58 PM
I just felt so fat and ugly. The Group Meetings were filled with the skinny people who had lost the weight and were bragging about it (which I'd have been bragging right up there with them if I weren't so heavy).

If there had been other heavier women in the meetings with me I might have stayed..no I wouldn't have because I'm so ashamed of being fat and I don't want to run into anyone I haven't seen in a while so they can go running back telling everyone how big I am :(

I have some serious issues don't I. Want to lose weight but am in to much pain, don't want to sit in on meetings at WW because I"m ashamed of my weight, afraid of people looking at me, afraid of running into people I haven't see in a while watching me walking(in my case waddling) out of WW's after a weigh in. I quit WW. I stay home for the most part. I watch my Treadmill gather dust when it isn't busy being a clothes hanger for me :dizzy:

I hope we ALL get to where we want to be. I always say it's not the number on a scale but how my clothes look on me but in the back of mind that number on that broken scale(it has to be broken because I couldn't possibly weight what it tells me I do) is just as important :(

Peace to All.

ASoutherner~


you know thre was a really good story on the ww ireland website,
http://www.weightwatchers.ie/WWI_controller.aspx?page=1146122

its what convinced me to go.....back.....I tried to join about 10 times.

and mad eit to the door about 5 times

and when I finally walked in I left twice as the 'queue' was too long...

It took me a while but after lurking around 3fatchicks for ages I took the plunge.

Callie
01-31-2009, 04:15 PM
I agree with RomanceDiva...I get the same reactions...people make snap judgements regardless how much they want to say they would never judge a book by its cover. Did you talk to anyone there? Maybe that can be a next step! Ask around...see if someone has a similar story to yours...and remember, all those people are there to lose weight..which is all your common goal. same as on here! we are here for eachother regardless of our journey/goal! Good luck to you girl!

aneleh
01-31-2009, 04:32 PM
When I was going to ww meetings I never judged other people there, but I felt like the people who didn't know me thought I didn't deserve to be there because I didn't have as much to lose. I think you should be proud of yourself, not ashamed, because you are taking positive steps in your life! :hug:

Jennelle
01-31-2009, 05:40 PM
{{{hugs}}}

I do the WW Online program, and I really like it. I have done the meetings before, but they just didn't work for me. They never really talked about eating healthy things like fresh fruits and veggies. It was always about which processed foods were the best and what WW treats were the yummiest (and those things are EXPENSIVE!). Besides, I saw such a codependent attitude at the meetings around here. I mean, I'm all for support, but if I'm not really trying, don't blow sunshine and butterflies up my butt - call me on it!

You can do this. :)

Raven
01-31-2009, 06:26 PM
I guess I have some serious issues too because I feel the same way. You have to find what works for you and doesn't cause you more distress. I found that I have greater success working out at home, finding support online and keeping a journal for accountability.

I hope to one day conquer feeling so self-conscious but until then there can still be some success, you know?

tommy
01-31-2009, 07:35 PM
Maybe try another meeting. I was fortunate to have lots of great leaders over the years. One told the story of being so desperate for a loss that she took her fake booby off (from a mastectomy) to show a lower number. Another was a young itty bitty thing who had lost 25 or 20 pounds, but her low point was someone asking her when the baby was due! Another was a complete rebel (never went with the planned theme of the day if she thought something else was better) who had lost 100 pounds in her 40's. Try to learn people's stories. The accountability and personal interaction is really a good thing. We tend to fool ourselves at home on the scale. Plus when our self esteem in the toilette we don't like getting out and about. Good luck to you.

Kaethus
02-10-2009, 09:40 PM
I just felt so fat and ugly. The Group Meetings were filled with the skinny people who had lost the weight and were bragging about it (which I'd have been bragging right up there with them if I weren't so heavy).

If there had been other heavier women in the meetings with me I might have stayed..no I wouldn't have because I'm so ashamed of being fat and I don't want to run into anyone I haven't seen in a while so they can go running back telling everyone how big I am :(

I have some serious issues don't I. Want to lose weight but am in to much pain, don't want to sit in on meetings at WW because I"m ashamed of my weight, afraid of people looking at me, afraid of running into people I haven't see in a while watching me walking(in my case waddling) out of WW's after a weigh in. I quit WW. I stay home for the most part. I watch my Treadmill gather dust when it isn't busy being a clothes hanger for me :dizzy:

I hope we ALL get to where we want to be. I always say it's not the number on a scale but how my clothes look on me but in the back of mind that number on that broken scale(it has to be broken because I couldn't possibly weight what it tells me I do) is just as important :(

Peace to All.

ASoutherner~

Wow you sound like me last month... I went to a WW meeting and there were all these thin people there. I didn't go back either. But generally, I didn't like the meeting and I don't like the idea of a points system either.

Eh. What canya do?

ASoutherner
02-12-2009, 07:44 PM
Thanks all of you for your kind replies. I probably won't be going back to WW only because of that experience (plus it was like the ladies there were very cliquess(SPP?) ) I wouldn't have fit in.

I'm seeing so much here and I like what I've read so far and I am getting more motivated about eating right...slow but sure..I did overdo it today but I'll be back on track tomorrow..

(((BUG HUGS TO ALL AND THANKS AGAIN)))

ASoutherner~

kaebea
02-12-2009, 08:02 PM
Hey southerner,
i'm sure OA is a great establishment, sorry your local group wasn't more welcoming.

i've not gone to a meeting or joined either. but hey, that's ok. there's other ways to find support.
even if OA wasn't your thing, there's plenty of other opportunities and programs to improve your life. just look at this site. every chick has their own plan, or is working out what works best for them.
so just keep at it. little changes count too :) just focus on the little victories to start with.

Keep reading and educating yourself on how to get healthy and eventually you'll find a path that will work for you :)

i always find the success stories and before and after pics give me hope.
:hug: