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cfmama
01-20-2009, 12:30 AM
I'm under a HUGE amount of stress right now. My grandma is dying but still hanging on (though basically in a vegetative state) my aunt has cancer, my mom is a survivor though we know there are cancer "feelers" in her body that are just waiting to appear.

I seem to be stalling a bit weight wise and that's bothering me.

I'm getting a wee bit obsessed with the scale and how the numbers are not really changing.

I'm over whelmed and WANT to make bad food choices. I'm not. I'm staying on plan. But I'm hanging in by the skin of my teeth :(

sigh. I'll get through this but I needed to whine.


nicolen
01-20-2009, 12:42 AM
Sending you lots of hugs, Tammy. :hug:

You're doing with an absolutely awesome job with your programme. You really are. And remember the scales are only one way to measure your progress - there's measurements, the way your clothes feel and those fantastic pictures yesterday. And maybe it's time to step away from the scales for a day or so...

It's a horrible place that you're in at the moment - that waiting game is just about the worst time of all, isn't it?

Sending you all my thoughts... :hug:

lottie63
01-20-2009, 12:45 AM
I'm sorry you're going through all that. I think that stress itself can stall your weightloss can't it? I mean, I'm always hearing about "Stress hormones" causing weight gain and such. Do any of you guys know anything about that?

Try and relax a little, I know it's hard with all that going on but be sure to have some 'you' time to just unwind.

Keep on plan, you can do it. I posted this on other threads, but I went from thanksgiving until last week without losing a single lb! Then I lost like 3 this week. Stalls happen (for a variety of reasons) but you can do it, you can push through, and if y ou do falter, you can always get back on the horse, no one is perfect, but don't give up! :D


rodeogirl
01-20-2009, 12:50 AM
:hug:

Stress can be really hard and so much of that is outside of your control. The scale will move. I think sometimes our body just decides to be ornery but it's kind of like a high speed car chase.

You can outrun one cop, maybe two, but you can't outrun his radio.

Your body can be obstinate and hold water or burn calories slightly slower for a time but it can't outrun the math. Eventually the weight has to come off - it's mathematically impossible for it not to. So just remember math is your friend!

And when you get tempted to just chuck it all remember that I'll be insufferable if I win TBL so...save yourself and the rest of the forum some RG gloating while you're at it! :D

gumboot
01-20-2009, 12:58 AM
I am sorry you are going through a rough time with so many family members sick. Hang in there :hug:
The scale will keep moving because of your dedication to your plan. You are doing fantastic! Stress sucks, no doubt about it. But there will always be stress of some sort in our lives. You can and will overcome the urge to go off plan. I truly believe you can. You are a inspiration to all of us.

Michelle98272
01-20-2009, 01:11 AM
Hang in there, Tammy!! You have been such a motivation to me. I think what is wonderful about this place is it seems to be close to 2nd nature for us to come here to ask for help when in the past it would have been straight through the MCD's drive through (me) in response to the stress. Congrats for coming here and asking for hugs, kind words and feedback!

You're doing so good! Like I said...just hang in there!

LuvMyMr
01-20-2009, 01:33 AM
You can always come in here to vent/rant. :hug: I know it is tough but hang in there! You just posted those beautiful pictures of you looking so much more youghful and smaller! Do not fall back into the bad patterns. I too am an emotional eater and I know the struggle all too well. Just stay on plan and hope and know that everything will be alright. ;) Love ya!

2ndChance09
01-20-2009, 02:15 AM
Aww sweetie I am sorry. I know how hard it can be to stay on track when life is stressful. You are doing so great, you always inspire me to keep going. You can do this. I am very proud of you for everything you have done, I love reading your posts, you are such a nice person. Hang in there sweetie.

Beverlyjoy
01-20-2009, 06:17 AM
I am so so sorry about your Grandma and aunt. These are hard and stressful thing to face.

That, along with all your efforts to stay on plan and the scale not showing it - that is really frustrating. Sometimes when we do everything right - the body just kinda takes a break from losing. Darn it. Please don't judge your efforts by that number on the scale. I know that's SO hard to do. Your body will let go of that weight.

Sometimes doing some deep breathing or meditation can help with dealing with stress. I am so glad you came to whine. That's why we have this forum.

djay
01-20-2009, 07:32 AM
Hang in there! You have done fantastic so far.

New diets are like a new toy. When they are bright and shiney and different and work perfectly it is easy to devote time and attention even to the point of ignoring other areas of our life that need attention.

Like everything new...at some point, A new toy/diet will loose a little luster, it won't work as efficiently...and when we look up...our old problems are still there.

Now is when you either discard the new toy/diet or make it part of your daily life without making it the center of your life.

I am truly sorry to hear of your struggles. You certainly do have alot to deal with. You can get through this and still take care of yourself in the process. You have alot of people here at 3fc's following your journey and wishing you total success!

:hug:

DJ

TraceyElaine
01-20-2009, 08:02 AM
So sorry you're going throught this. Sometimes stress can make it harder for us to loose weight even thought we arent toing anything different. Hang in there honey. You'll get through this. HUGS!

Thighs Be Gone
01-20-2009, 08:31 AM
cf, you have done so well thus far and you can continue...use this time as a way to prove to yourself yet again, that you are serious about getting healthier..when I catch myself trying to get to food due to pressure I tell myself, "this is only going to make it worse, it isn't the answer"..I read that here a few months ago and for some reason, it helps give me strength

GirlyGirlSebas
01-20-2009, 08:38 AM
CFMama - I'm so sorry to hear about your Grandma and your Aunt. At these times, it's so very difficult to devote the time and energy to ourselves and it's always so very difficult when the scales don't immediately reward our hard work. But, remember, even when the scales don't move, wonderful things are happening inside your body. You are becoming healthier and stronger for both yourself and your family. You can't control much with your Grandma and your Aunt, but you can control your eating plan and your exercise. You can do this. We have faith in you.

rockinrobin
01-20-2009, 09:42 AM
Wow. LOTS of stress. I am so sorry. Does NOT sound like an easy time for you right now.

You have done so amazingly well. This is not the time to throw in the towel. You didn't start this little venture only to STOP it, NO MATTER WHAT THE CIRCUMSTANCES. I have found that STICKING with my plan has been one of my biggest sources of comfort, that's right COMFORT, during times of stress. Who would've thunk it?

Hang on, hang on TIGHT. This stressful time and this time of wanting to EAT, will pass, and if it's time spent making yourself healthier, then it's time very well spent.

You can do this. You most certainly can do this. You DESERVE to do this. All the best. And we're here for you. :hug:

foxxy511
01-20-2009, 09:52 AM
I'm so sorry to hear about all your stress. That certainly doesn't make staying on plan any easier. But I agree with Girly... it's all about what you have control over. Just stay strong, hang on a little longer and know that with each little bit of stress you overcome, it'll make you stronger and able to withstand whatever stress gets thrown at you in the future. We're with you!!

Jen415
01-20-2009, 10:16 AM
Giving you my support and some hugs.......

S.A.S.H
01-20-2009, 10:17 AM
:hug: :hug: :hug: I know they only say we are given what we can handle, but wouldn't it be nice if they didn't trust us so much?!

Hang in there. Times are tough but you can make it through. Step away from the scale for a while. You have had an amazing weightloss, but there will always be times when we stall, and stress and can definitly make that happen. Either way that doesnt mean you can't continue your phenomenal journey. You have come such a long way, some times we run, sometimes we walk and other times we need a little piggy back ride. :) You will be running again soon. If that makes sense. ;)

TJFitnessDiva
01-20-2009, 10:31 AM
:hug:

I'm sorry you are going through all of this right now :(

daniela
01-20-2009, 01:54 PM
Sending you my best cfmama :hug:

wchs2007
01-20-2009, 02:01 PM
I so understand... I am right there with you.. I am having to put my dad in a nursing home today for rehab from his 4th stroke last week.
He has always told me not to put him there. But I had no choice.

I am staying on plan ok.. I am just not finding time to workout.
I know that is the only way this diet is going to work..

Anyway.. hang in there girl...

Smiling_Sara
01-20-2009, 02:04 PM
I've been there. You are doing so wonderful. We are all here for you!! :hug:

Kae
01-20-2009, 02:16 PM
I am sorry to hear how you are going to through a hard time... My mother has cancer so I know how that can weigh down on you.

...I agree with GirlyGirl... you can only control the healthy changes you make for yourself. Each day your health is improving, even if you aren't seeing a change in numbers on the scale. Be proud of yourself! You have come so far... yr loss is inspiring!

rodeogirl
01-20-2009, 03:04 PM
I'm picturing us on that road with the skyline of Onederland rising in the distance. Have you noticed that we can make out the details more clearly and that the city seems ever bigger as we get closer. I see you pull up on the side of the road, bending over trying to catch your breath and notice all the mud on your shoes. This last bit of road has been muddy and slick but the sun will come back and dry it up and make it fast going again, honest. Take a minute, catch your breath and then we better get a move on 'cause we're burning daylight and have some miles to go before we sleep.

Sandi
01-20-2009, 03:28 PM
I am sorry that you are going through this right now. I think rodeogirl's analogy is awesome.

:hug: We are here for you.

SnowboundChick
01-20-2009, 06:01 PM
I'm sorry you are going through this right now. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. not to long ago some in a thread I started told me that I may not be able to control my son having a hernia but I could control what I at. You can do the same, you've been a huge inspiration and motivator for me and I know that you can do this!!

SnowboundChick
01-20-2009, 06:08 PM
How interesting, i was just flippiing throught the channels here at the hotel and The Drs is on and talking about stress. There tips.

1. Exercise
2. Eat good healthy food
3. Surround yourself with people you love
4. Laugh

kelly315
01-20-2009, 06:27 PM
Hold on tight to everything you've accomplished. I know it's hard right now, but maybe try new ways to control your stress. Have you ever thought about trying boxing? A punching bag could help a lot.

I hope everything turns out okay with your family.

crazycurls
01-20-2009, 07:29 PM
So sorry to hear about your aunt and grandmother! You can stick with this and you will see the scale start moving again!

fiberlover
01-20-2009, 08:10 PM
:hug:
We're all here for you any time you need us.

kittycat40
01-20-2009, 08:24 PM
cfmama--hold on! glad you posted. it can be soooo helpful to be told what you already know. you are in my thoughts.

Ten Years
01-20-2009, 09:18 PM
Hey there... We obviously don't know each other but I am PROUD of you for coming here to de-stress and for sticking to your plan even though its really hard. If you think about it, sometimes when life gets crazy and scary and stressy like this, your diet plan is all you can really control! I say dig in and control the heck out of it. It might end up being that one constant that helps you through rather than being one more thing to stress about.

cfmama
01-20-2009, 10:24 PM
well because I had all of your guys kind words and love (and Rodeogirl: I LOVED what you wrote... love it) today was easier. I controlled every morsel that went into my mouth, fought off the urges to get out of control with my eating and I'm moving on.

We called in the priest for my grandma today and my aunt had surgery today as well. The scale MOVED this morning (down a bit) and I'm very tired and stressed but okay.

Thanks for picking me up guys. You have no idea what that meant to me *tears*

irishsarah
01-20-2009, 11:38 PM
I just wanted to send you a hug and tell you to hang in there! I understand some of what you are going through. My Da has cancer, my in-laws both have Alzheimer's, my oldest son has an autism spectrum disorder and is having a hard time at school right now, my house is leaking and our finances just took a major blow...(and let me tell you, we were barely hanging on as it was.)

It sort of knocked me on my butt today and I fell a bit OP. Its going to happen, we are only equipped to handle so much before something has got to give. Personally, I think you are doing wonderfully and even though things are frustrating, sad, difficult...tomorrow is always another day and a new start. The scale WILL move again and you WILL feel better. Until then, we can all send you all the love and support you need to bolster your spirits and to keep on going!

Randi
01-20-2009, 11:52 PM
So sorry for everything that is going on in your life right now. Don't give up! Just remember that we are all behind you.... Sending you lots of :hug:!

Ookpik
01-21-2009, 12:23 AM
Sorry you are going through this. Take care.

rodeogirl
01-21-2009, 01:18 AM
Yay! Good job fighting those urges they can be killer but you totally did it! One step at a time...one....step.....at.........a..............t ime. :D

rockinrobin
01-21-2009, 08:03 AM
I'm so sorry for all your sorrow right now.

I am also incredibly proud of you for resisting those temptations. You have just passed a great big "test" so to speak. You have already become that health minded person. One that takes care of herself under all circumstances. You require more of yourself. And that is a GREAT thing. There really is no stopping you now.

Both your aunt and your Grandma would marvel at you and be so happy for what you have accomplished. :hug: