I feel like my weight loss is old news. Oh yeah, I lost weight... A WHOLE YEAR AGO! It is amazing how much my life has changed within this year, too. After I lost the weight, I was feeling slightly bittersweet. See, I somehow (irrationally!) thought my weight loss would end all the other problems in my life. Once I was rid of those 50 pounds, I looked better, had more clothing options with a full closet of things I could actually wear (I was thin before and refused to part ways with all those stylish clothes), was healthier, and in considerably better shape, but... I was still afraid I didn't look good. I thought that once I lost weight, I'd go attend casting calls, start modeling again, and live life fearlessly as a thin person! :lol:
Then, I realized I was STILL putting my life on hold (just like I did when I was fat) and told myself I had to STOP THAT! I was no longer overweight --in fact, I had reached my GOAL/previously THIN weight, SO I had NO EXCUSES not to do the things I wanted! After coming to that conclusion, I did the following:
-Became a certified personal trainer and nutritional consultant
-Did a fitness-related photo shoot (and there are MORE to COME!)
-Got into bodybuilding (I am entering my first official contest in October!)
-Instructed at a weekend health retreat in St. Augustine
-Got a six pack... you know, the abs kind... not the "I drank it last night so here's my keg" kind ;)
-Started writing songs and playing guitar again
-Made a TON of new friends
...and most recently, I ended a relationship after being in it for 3.5 years. I felt it was anchoring me almost as much as my weight once was, and I don't need that.
I PLAN to do so much more, like form a band that gets further than my porch, WIN a few bodybuilding competitions, become successful as a fitness model, and continue to do as much social networking as possible. Some of these things may SOUND unrelated to my weight loss, but before my weight loss, I did not have the confidence to chat strangers up or play guitar at open mic night, and obviously, I didn't have any idea that so much of my life would revolve around physical fitness.
I'm the sort of person who believes that to succeed at something, you have to put your entire being into it. If I don't have COMPLETE passion and dedication, I will end up failing because I will lose focus. I told everyone I knew that I was going to get back to my thin weight. I had to live up to those expectations, because I didn't want to get laughed at for not following through. I started to look at everything from a weight loss perspective. I stopped hating things like household chores, carrying the groceries up the stairs, moving furniture, and washing my car because I knew those were calorie-burning activities. My now ex was really LOVING my compliant nature, as I even volunteered to scrub the tub and clean the toilet!
My advice to everyone still trying to lose weight is to remember you are PASSIONATE about your weight loss; you want this and you want it with FIERCE determination. And if you want it bad enough, you will not make excuses. Instead, you will find out how you are going to achieve your goals. Think of how good you will look when you lose your weight. If you fall off plan, don't mope about how you screwed up, just dust yourself off and remember that tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life. You have plenty of time to mend whatever damage you may have done.
And if I -- someone who had no real focus in life prior to losing weight (believe it or not, I was truly very lost and felt stuck in many ways), someone who was quite financially challenged (I know it can be harder to eat healthy things when you're broke but it is not impossible), someone with an annoying chronic illness that really can interfere with weight loss progress (type 1 diabetes; when I first started getting into working out, my blood sugar would get way, wayyy low... it felt so wrong slamming a can of Coke after busting my butt for an hour :mad: stuff like that can put a total crimp in your progress), and someone who initially HATED all forms of exercise (I thought to myself, "it's TORTURE! WHY would anyone VOLUNTARILY TORTURE themselves?!") -- can do it, so can you. :)
Here are some very recent pictures that were taken over my Christmas vacation up to Virginia to see my family:
(My sister and I)
(My dad and I)
Here is me pre-weight-loss (if you haven't seen already):
Here is me with my size 12-14 fat pants (taken about a year ago, but it still fits!):
And here is the current status on my abs - I have a photo shoot next month and figured I'd take some practice shots:
I hope all of you meet your goals in 2009, whether they are related to weight loss, maintenance, or neither. May 2009 bring you good health, good fortune, and good... well... whatever else you want :devil: :) ;) :D
01-03-2009, 11:05 PM
Shane, What a great post! It's so good to see you maintaining and fulfilling so many of your dreams. I love the new pics. You are an inspiration here, and as you know I am wife of a type 1 diabetic, I find your story especially motivating. Keep on keeping on, girl!
01-03-2009, 11:11 PM
You're definitely a huge inspiration. I hope one day to be buff, happy and healthy.
01-03-2009, 11:13 PM
shane-you've done so great and im glad you made some valid points for those who feel loosing weight will solve everything..but it won't..you have to own your life to make changes...and you've owned..you look great...keep up the good work!
01-03-2009, 11:19 PM
You're a great inspiration to all of us, good luck and keep us posted on your body building
01-03-2009, 11:25 PM
One year! I love it!
01-03-2009, 11:34 PM
Grats Shane :) Keep it up! You're quite the positive role model! :D
01-03-2009, 11:48 PM
:high: You look so good, so healthy! I love how you described your determination. Thanks for sharing.
01-04-2009, 12:08 AM
You look fantastic! Thanks for bringing us along on your journey :)
You truly are an inspirational one! Your 1/2 my age, yet your so wise beyond your years, and quite an admirable young BUFF lady! :D Anything in life is possible, as you have proven, if you want something put in the effort and it is yours.... Look at everything you have achieved thus far in only a years time? .... WELL DONE YOU! :D
If you BELIEVE, you will ACHIEVE!
Keep striving for your next goal. If you don't get it the first try, keep trying until you do. :carrot: Being persistent pays in the end, cha-ching!
Way to put yourself first and lose the girlfriend, negative people just bring you down. :dizzy: Keep positive people in your life, they help keep you upbeat and happy! :) Be yourself, don't change for others, be happy being YOU! :)
Continue to put your passion into everything you do, and more success will soon follow. There is no doubt in my mind that you will WIN some hardware in your competitions, you will be a successful entrepreneur, you are well on your way to being the next SUPERWOMAN of 2009, the model/bodybuilding kick @ss SUPERWOMAN that is! I'll keep my television tuned in for the new version of Superwoman as I won't be too shocked to see you there oneday! Keep on believing in yourself! :D
Nice photo's of you and sis & daddy oh too! Ahem- nice PIPES chicka, nice PIPES!
:o Ummmm, I felt I had to post a nice reply or you'd come kick my @ss if I didn't, and I'm not gonna take that chance! ;)
I will end by saying, being passionately determined was my KEY to being a success in all aspects of my life! I put 100% into everything I do, no half @ss attempts will get you much success. Hardwork, blood, sweat and tears. Give it everything you got girl and you'll succeed in it all too, I'm rootin for ya! Just don't bite off more than you can chew all at once, do one thing first, then tackle another.
You have grown a lot in that year, and I have enjoyed watching that growth here at 3FC.
I can't wait to see what the next year brings for you :D
01-04-2009, 05:58 PM
Wow! Wow! Wow! Shane - you look fabulous and have accomplished so much in the past year! Congratulations on everything! Today was a good day to read your inspiring post...I just needed a lil pick me up! Thankyou for sharing and being such a supportive 3FC friend! :high:
01-05-2009, 04:29 PM
That's awesome- your post is inspirational.
I wish I knew how to make more friends though- it's my bday on the 15th and I feel like I have no friends :( I have an eight spot table reserved at one of my favorite places to eat and I can't even fill it!
This may sound lame but how did you go about making more friends? I'm 25 (about to be 26). I guess part of my problem is I'm married and not the type to go out partying and stuff.
Shannon in ATL
01-05-2009, 04:35 PM
Shane, you look great! I'm with the group that loves reading your posts. I wish I had been as put together as you are when I was your age - might have saved me some heartache!
And, I'm still using you as my inspiration to work on my abs! :)
01-05-2009, 09:26 PM
This may sound lame but how did you go about making more friends? I'm 25 (about to be 26). I guess part of my problem is I'm married and not the type to go out partying and stuff.
I befriended my co-workers first. Through them, I met more people. I am very friendly and easy going, so I get along with almost everybody. I do go out partying sometimes, but I didn't as much when I was taken. Still, I was not opposed to a little get together, and from those, I met even more people.
I am not opposed to chatting up strangers. I have gotten into some very interesting conversatins with strangers (waitresses, people next to me in line, people shopping at the mall, etc) and in the end have asked, "Wanna hang out?" They usually do not decline, so I give them my phone number and e-mail address.
If there is anything you enjoy near you (do you like coffee houses? open mic nights? I love those), go to it, even if you have no one else to go with. If you reach out, you will make a friend.
Also, I have found out handing out a business card really helps. If you don't have a business, make one up! :lol: This gives you an easy way to hand out your contact info while making yourself look all big and important at the same time ;)
You can't be afraid of whether people will like you, you can't be afraid of social rejection (honestly, when you don't fear it, it rarely happens!), you can't be afraid of the idea of someone *not* wanting to hang out with you (if they don't, they probably have their reasons, and they usually aren't personal -- and if they are, well, it's their damn loss!!), and you can't be self conscious over silly things.
Most importantly, love yourself. Genuinely. Trust me, the obvious aura of being truly comfortable with yourself is one that shines past crowds.
01-05-2009, 10:17 PM
Shane, aka HotNESS, congratulations on a YEAR of successful maintenance and MORE! :cheer2: :cheer2: :cheer2: You are just so different now from the "old days"!
And back in circulation, eh? Watch out, Gainesville!
:hug: :hug: :hug:
01-05-2009, 11:54 PM
I love reading these stories. It's surefire pick-me-up. Thanks for sharing!
01-06-2009, 11:05 AM
Thanks girl, I guess I am afraid of social rejection so I don't do much- part of me is like I want to ask a few coworkers to go- but I worry they won't want to. I guess I just have to take that plunge.
It's funny cuz I told one girl at work about the restaurant and just before I was going to say "would you like to come" she said "oh that restaurant serves huge portions..." I was like :|
I like going out- I just don't like getting piss drunk lol. I'm the kind who likes to go out to a nice dinner (make better choices now) and have a good conversation.
01-06-2009, 11:58 AM
... I thought that once I lost weight, I'd go attend casting calls, start modeling again, and live life fearlessly as a thin person! :lol:
Then, I realized I was STILL putting my life on hold (just like I did when I was fat) and told myself I had to STOP THAT! I was no longer overweight --in fact, I had reached my GOAL/previously THIN weight, SO I had NO EXCUSES not to do the things I wanted!
:cheer: You are awesome!
You know, how interesting that statement about even at goal you were putting your life on hold. How many people think that "If I were thin I would...".
So, it's really not about weight, but about just going out and doing it - which you did!
01-06-2009, 06:47 PM
Wow! I am so impressed. And a bit sad. LOL! I think I started shortly after you and here I sit. I should be 50 pounds down too but I sat and you did all the work. I hope to be able to say the same thing by next year!
01-06-2009, 07:03 PM
Congrats on your year, Shane. That's a big deal to make a year and still be going strong.
And thanks for your continuous positive attitude in posting - you make a serious contribution to the flavor of 3FC.
01-06-2009, 10:01 PM
Congratulations Shane. You are one incredible young woman. You are SO together. I would love for my daughters to meet and know you, as would I. I guess I'll just have to settle for "hanging out with you" in maintenance - hopefully for many more successful years to come.
01-07-2009, 05:13 AM
*whispers* Pssssst, Shaaaaaane.
YOU'RE AWESOME!!! :D:D
...what an inspiration.
01-07-2009, 10:33 AM
I read your story and so relate to the part about when you lost the weight, your problems did not go away! I believe that losing my weight initially revealed my real problems. I was empty inside.
I have found that overeating is just a symptom, not the problem. I heard in church this last Sunday that addictions are an attempt to medicate a hurt or to satisfy or mask a real need. While I was in the intensity of the eating disorder, this was very obvious. I believe that to a smaller degree I still struggle with that.
A great book that has really helped me so much is called ThinWithin by Halliday. It is the most freeing balanced approach to releasing excess weight that I have seen so far! It has helped me deal with the inside and not just getting myself to stop eating!
One helpful thing that it talks about is the club of condemnation that we hit ourselves with when we blow it. I was very good at using this club. I told myself that I was the worst person ever. I felt I had no self control so therefore I felt worthless! I came to learn that it was me picking up the club, not God, my family, or friends. I thought that what I was telling myself was the truth, but now I know they are all lies. Anyway if you want to hear more about this, get the book, it is awesome!
01-07-2009, 11:21 AM
Wow. As a brand new maintainer you have answered some real questions I have been mulling over. Thanks for sharing so thoroughly. :cool:
01-07-2009, 02:53 PM
Shane - congrats on your anniversary. You are not only inspirational in your own right but you are soooooooo supportive of the people on 3FC. So glad you found your way over here - I love reading your posts.
You go girl :congrat:
01-07-2009, 06:02 PM
Hi Shane, your wisdom about changing the things outside of the weight is very key, that unity of all is the aim, and that the weight is almost a symptom of other unfulfilled aspects of life.
I too am just in a band, but unlike you, I haven't lost any weight as a prerequisite. I now really would like to lose the weight , because, well... I'm being seen an awful lot by scrutinizing eyes, though I know it's about the music, not the hawt bawd playing it. I have been reading 3FC for about 3 years, lost some weight a couple of years ago, but had gained it back, now I"m starting all over heavier still. Tragic steriotype. However, after reading your post here, something is clicking in my head, about writing such a list of things that I want out of life , and shouldn't put them off as some kind of reward for losing weight. It should be the other way around, the losing weight should be the reward I naturally arrive at, after or during the other things I am striving for . Right on.
I remember you from over a year ago, when you were close to your weight goal, and I am very pleased to see you have adapted well with the change and not slid back. I recall you're a bmx rider, you answered a post of mine about bicycles once, as I have wanted to get back into cycling (mostly mtn) for fitness. Keep going to those open mics and sing your heart out. Anyway, stay on the level, U Rock ! :)
01-08-2009, 11:48 AM
great job you look beatiful
01-09-2009, 05:01 PM
Congrats on the 1st year!!:D You are so amazing and I hope that I'll have the same confidence to do the things I want to do. Knowing that your problems didn't go away when you got thin helps me stay realistic. I'm hoping that I'll be fearless enough to stop putting my life on hold. You are definitely right about the fierce determination and passion. When I do something, I put all of my focus on it, all of my passion, so I can do it completely and to my satisfactory. The only thing that can stop my weight loss for good is if I give up, and I won't do that. I've waited too long for this. I used to have a thyroid problem and I'm still on medication, but, whereas in the past it made me give up every time I couldn't lose weight, this time I'm not letting it control how I live my life.
So, I'm thinking your fitness goals and steel determination will keep you going, keep you succeeding. Good luck, Shane!!
01-15-2009, 11:39 PM
CONGRATS!!!! You look fab and are definitely an inspiration!
01-23-2009, 12:00 PM
Awesome post!!! You look great!
03-04-2009, 11:25 AM
Congrats on a whole year of maintenance!
One question.... your abs look fantastic, yet I remember that you had some loose skin at first. When/how did it go away? My tummy has always been my problem zone, and it's even worse after having a baby.
03-06-2009, 10:48 PM
yup, I'm still alive ;) *LOL*
booksibabe - I still have some loose skin, but it is much less noticeable because I have good abdominal definition.
I have no solution on how to make it totally disapper, as I am still working on that myself... HOWEVER... the tighter/firmer you get your stomach, the less noticeable the skin will be. If you have rock solid abs, people will have to really be looking out for it if they see your loose skin. Heck, I've even seen some BODYBUILDERS with loose skin... haha... you just have to work harder than the rest of 'em to make your abs pop. :) it IS possible, though!
03-10-2009, 07:06 PM
I am a newbie browsing around. I think you will be one of my inspiring persons to get my *** working more! Way to go NightngaleShane!
03-20-2009, 03:46 AM
What a fabulous success story! Congrats!
03-20-2009, 03:49 AM
What a great success story! You look fabulous! Congrats :)
03-23-2009, 12:43 PM
Wow! You look absolutely fabulous and congratulations on the maintenance! That is an incredible accomplishment.
09-11-2010, 05:27 PM
Though I'm only just under a third of the way to my goal, maintenance is something I'm trying to work out sooner rather than later. I've lost weight before only to have it spring back on. I'm done with that - it's staying the **** off. :)