Weight Loss Support - Massive Issues! I Never Imagined.....




thatgirl1024
12-17-2008, 11:26 AM
Ok girls here it goes.
I started my "life change" April 2008. Weighing in a whole 228lbs!
I figured it was time to get off my butt and start making some major changes.
Through out this time I have pushed myself to work out eat good foods cut back alcohol. I started working out at a local karate place that offered women's fitness classes 4 days a week. Been doing it ever since. Anyways
through out my months being there my body has changed drastically. And its all because I dedicated myself and worked hard. Straight up. And now i have these NASTY women giving me dirty looks, and talking about me behind my back, and just totally ruining my moment. MY MOMENT i have worked so hard for. I currently weigh 145 and I feel great. These women are so cruel and jelous it makes me sick! I WAS FAT! i WAS MISERABLE, DEPRESSED, and I did something about it. It makes me sad that these women cant be happy for me. I dont flaunt myself around and act like my poop dont stink. Thats not me. UGH I just had to get this off my chest. I really dont understand why people are so mean. :?:


thatgirl1024
12-17-2008, 11:33 AM
Yeah they all knew me when I was heavy! Thats the thing!

junebug41
12-17-2008, 11:35 AM
What women are we talking about? Family members? So-called friends? Coworkers?

They are acting like that because they are insecure. Jealous. If they struggle with their own weight the could be mad at themselves because they haven't "figured it out" yet. I had an old coworker who lost about 50 pounds and looked fabulous. Her own boss started rumors that she was purging after she ate and taking pills. This girl worked SO HARD to lose that weight and the coworker couldn't handle that someone worked hard to look that good (the woman was very thin herself, and very catty, obviously).

You have accomplished a LOT. And for better or for worse, your accomplishment is out there for everyone to see. People will think what they will think, but it doesn't take away any of the work you have done! I had similar things happen to me. For whatever reason, someone losing a lot of weight really freaks people out. They will have to get over it or move on at some point.

You look great, btw!


luvja
12-17-2008, 11:36 AM
Forget them - You look great!
Let the haters hate.

PhotoChick
12-17-2008, 11:37 AM
They can only ruin your moment if you let them. They're jealous and insecure and not worth anguishing over.

Congrats on your loss! :)

.

CruiseCAT
12-17-2008, 11:43 AM
I know the type.... they are also the ones that have NEVER had a weight problem but constantly talk about being fat. Fact of the matter is they are just unhappy people.

Congrats to you. Enjoy your moment and hey don't hesitate to flaunt it from time to time. You worked hard to get that smokin hawt body.

thatgirl1024
12-17-2008, 11:48 AM
Thanks guys! I feel a lot better. These people made me feel so guilty for actually being thin and its not right because I have busted my A$$ for this.
(These ppl I speak of are women in my fitness class)

grneyedmustang
12-17-2008, 11:52 AM
I heard recently "if someone isn't hating on you, then you're not doing your job".

Obviously you've done well or these women wouldn't be so insecure. Keep up the good work because you look great!

NightengaleShane
12-17-2008, 11:58 AM
:hug: Just smile and say, "Hmm... jealous?"
I have encountered very similar things. There are a few massively jealous women out there and when I lost my weight (while they remained overweight or less-than-toned in some other way), they started making comments to downplay my huge accomplishments. Some statements were: "Yes, you lost weight, but you still have no waist," "I can still tell you were overweight once. That shirt doesn't hide everything and it's obvious," "Your face isn't as pretty as your newfound nice body," "Yes, you have a nice body, but your skin doesn't have a youthful glow!" and the list goes on.

At first, I took these comments to heart and became very frazzled.

Now, I realize they probably do not even MEAN those comments and are just making them out of jealousy. They WISH they could achieve what you HAVE DONE. They WISH that had your dedication, determination, and passion. That's all it is, really. Shrug it off and be happy that you have lost so much weight. And they haven't. BWAHAHAHA! :devil:

Tomato
12-17-2008, 11:59 AM
It's sad, but don't let them ruin it for you.
80 pounds in 8 months? You have done an AMAZING job and you look AWESOME!

thatgirl1024
12-17-2008, 12:05 PM
Thanks sooo much guys for your help! Im so glad that I have a place to go and vent and always feel better when Im done!

kittycat40
12-17-2008, 12:10 PM
it's ENVY rearing its ugly green head!

don't let 'em get you down.. enjoy the products of your hard work :)

Petunia418
12-17-2008, 12:17 PM
I usually don't talk about this because it's still hard for me, but at one point I was about 20 lbs. heavier than I am now. (I know I should be proud of myself for losing but it was a painful, depressing time for me that kick-started my weight loss.)

I was going to be a bridesmaid and was at my heaviest when I got fitted for my dress. The dress was ordered and I went on to lose 30 lbs. (weighed 10 lbs. less than I do now) by the time I had my final fitting. The dress was literally falling off of me and at least 4 sizes too big.

The girl who was measuring me to have it taken in (who also owned the boutique) kept making these rude comments about, "Wow... yeah it figures you'd lose it all in your bust, right?" I was so hurt. I was so much thinner ALL OVER but she was obviously insecure in her own skin and trying to downplay my achievements.

I feel for you, but these chickies are right... you have a reason to celebrate! Don't listen to these women!

kittycat40
12-17-2008, 12:41 PM
:hug:There are a few massively jealous women out there and when I lost my weight (while they remained overweight or less-than-toned in some other way), they started making comments to downplay my huge accomplishments. Some statements were: "Yes, you lost weight, but you still have no waist," "I can still tell you were overweight once. That shirt doesn't hide everything and it's obvious," "Your face isn't as pretty as your newfound nice body," "Yes, you have a nice body, but your skin doesn't have a youthful glow!" and the list goes on.

BWAHAHAHA! :devil:

that is some harsh $hit!!

JayEll
12-17-2008, 12:46 PM
Some statements were: "Yes, you lost weight, but you still have no waist," "I can still tell you were overweight once. That shirt doesn't hide everything and it's obvious," "Your face isn't as pretty as your newfound nice body," "Yes, you have a nice body, but your skin doesn't have a youthful glow!" and the list goes on.

Wow. I have to say, the woman who made just ONE of those comments to me would be picking herself up off the floor next and looking for a hanky to stop the nosebleed.

But then, I think most people can sense that about me... ;)

Jay

hiimnatalie
12-17-2008, 01:25 PM
tell those women, that green( with envy) is not a good colour on them!! Forget about them, and enjoy your moment!

cakses
12-17-2008, 01:58 PM
oh jealous women...let them stew over it. it's their issue please don't let them take away your feeling of accomplishment! I have had more than one person try to say something snide to me, and I just let it roll off my back. I can't be responsible for anyone but myself and my actions. If those women want to be hateful, it's on them. Now if they start being straight up cruel to you, then I'd bring out a can of whoop a$$!

choirgirlhotel
12-17-2008, 02:52 PM
I heard recently "if someone isn't hating on you, then you're not doing your job".


ha ha ha, I love it.

I agree with all the other posters. Jealousy can be a very, very hurtful thing to everyone involved.

80 lb in 8 months is absolutely incredible! I would LOVE to know how you did it?????? Do you have a blog or anything?

~CGH~

MonteCristo
12-17-2008, 04:54 PM
80 lb in 8 months is absolutely incredible! I would LOVE to know how you did it?????? Do you have a blog or anything?

~CGH~

Ditto.

Lovely
12-17-2008, 05:24 PM
How horrible. :mad:

It's such a shame that these women are flapping their gums when they should truly be using their mouths to ask you for advice & support on their own journey, since they are so obviously jealous.

Just keep doing your thing & being sweet. :)

Newshinyme
12-17-2008, 05:53 PM
Oh boy! that is so mean and I am sorry it happened to you. :hug:

This thread got me thinking, is this something fairly common? Do a lot of us have that to look forward to when we lose a significant amount of weight and look very different from what we look like now? I would like to think people would be happy for me, but I can't be 100% sure.

Have many of you encountered something like that too?

beerab
12-17-2008, 07:40 PM
That's just plain mean- some people just can't be happy for others- I always say those people have the "evil eye" and you should stay the heck away from them.

Though if I were you I'd have turned around, stared right at them and said "stop looking at me, I know you have a huge crush on me, but I don't swing that way."

lol- not that I have a problem with gays or lesbians- but people like that usually get offended when you insinuate they are in love with you ;)

deathnotronic
12-17-2008, 07:51 PM
That's just plain mean- some people just can't be happy for others- I always say those people have the "evil eye" and you should stay the heck away from them.

Though if I were you I'd have turned around, stared right at them and said "stop looking at me, I know you have a huge crush on me, but I don't swing that way."

lol- not that I have a problem with gays or lesbians- but people like that usually get offended when you insinuate they are in love with you ;)

Hahahahaha!!! I was gonna say that you should get a really HOT workout outfit and walk in there and strut your stuff. Then say what beerab said.

jamsk8r
12-17-2008, 07:55 PM
Newshinyme, I haven't run into any of that myself. If I did, I'd just sic Jay on them, lol! Mostly, either people don't seem to notice (lol), or they just have positive things to say, and want to know how I did it. Of course, for the last bunch, they are usually disappointed when I say, "calorie counting and exercise." It's like they want to hear that there's some miracle pill or diet they haven't heard of yet...?

Beautiful Ace
12-17-2008, 08:05 PM
You know.... I can't wait to see the day this happens to me, and because of this thread I'll be ready for it. Congratulations!

Lori Bell
12-17-2008, 09:19 PM
Love it! I was going to say what deathnotronic said....LOL You said you don't flaunt it, but I'm thinking it about time you do....Super-sized flaunt!!

I have heard a few rumors about my weight loss that suck. One girl told a good friend that she will not get jealous of me because I'll gain it all back after awhile. (Which I might if I follow the same path as last time). Another small town rumor is that I secretly had wls. (Which I haven't, but did research at one time) The best one though is I'm looking for a new lover...LOL Give me a break! As if I want, (or have time) to have double the $ex...;)

Ufi
12-21-2008, 04:03 PM
Have you tried just flat-out asking them why they're behaving that way? I'm always curious about how people justify their behavior.

justformenow1
12-22-2008, 11:32 AM
Why the **** can't these women support others' and lift them up instead of making themselves feel better by slapping them down?
My God it is such hard work, and a life commitment that is difficult to keep up with don't they know that?
Obviously they have self esteem issues themselves, and instead of getting advice and intelligent information from you to fix it, they want to be haters.
Try not to let it bother it bother you too much girls, you look fabulous!

EZMONEY
12-23-2008, 12:27 AM
If you weren't so gorgeous they wouldn't care...the only solution I have is to wear an ugly :dracula: mask :frank: to the gym...might get them off your back ;)

jerzeezfinest
12-23-2008, 09:12 PM
I admire your ability to handle this with dignity!

I have such a horrid temper and a general lack of impulse control -- I cannot imagine how I would react.

::hugs::

jahjah1223
12-23-2008, 10:12 PM
Its jealousy!! especially the ones that sometimes say "stop losing weight you've lost enough".