Hi there. I have been lurking here and there on the forum. But I have been dying to ask this question. I feel as if I am the only one out there. I remember reading somewhere of someone else having trouble dating because of the mental blocks with being a former fat girl and always seeing yourself as a fat and undesirable no matter how much weight you lost. I am always amazed at why men would be interested in me because of this. At the same time I say that they don't like me because I am too fat. Sorry if this has been brought up before in another thread. Are there others that might feel this way?
I definitely have felt this way--still do, actually. Guys pretty much have to hit me over the head with the fact that they are hitting on me because otherwise I just assume that I'm too fat to be interested in. And the thing is, I'm actually pretty! But no matter what I really look like, I still see myself as the ugly 240-lb me.
Someday my mind will catch up with my body. That's the hope, anyway.
you are certainly not alone. I feel this way too. Something I'm trying to work on....I guess I have a feeling of if I'm not comfortable with my body, how can I expect anyone else to be? It sucks, cause it sucks wanting to be with someone, but not wanting to be at the same time...
Former Fat Girl and Trouble with Dating?
