100 lb. Club - Very Rude--Im hurt from it

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I work at a college. I was waiting for the elevator to go down one floor after going upstairs to get soemthing to drink. Well when the elevator opened up for me, there was a group of students in there along with another staff person. Well I went ahead and got on the elevator cause I figure it is worse to say "I''ll wait for the next one" and then stand there looking dumb.

so I get on the elevator and some guy (mind you he was standing there with a group of other students) starting making this noise, a muffled noise that figuratively said "she is gonna make the elevator fall"...The tension was very thick after he started the noise, so much that another student said "what is that?", like he was trying to make me feel better by implying the other guys noise was stupid......I got off the elevator and couldnt get back to my office fast enough. I wanted to slam the door behind me but what good would that do?

I know what the noise was for.....and there is nothing I can do about it now, but I just had to share it with some people who would understand how I felt afterward. :(

:hug:Im sorry this happened to you. I know its easy to say just dont let it get to you. Really though the guys are young and immature. You prolly will never see him again and if you do im sure you will be a fre lbs lighter. They are just ignorant and insecure and have to make other people feel bad so they can feel better about themselves.

Oh and way to go on being the bigger person and not ripping him a new one cause i know i prolly would have.

I'm sorry that happened to you. I know those things are tough.. and whenever they happen to me I try to pretend it doesn't bother me, even when it does.

People are stupid and ignorant. Just be happy that you weren't raised to be so imcompetant!

I'm sooo sorry :hug: That is ridiculous!

:club: They have personal issues that make them say hurtful things to others, to make theirselves feel better. Don't let it get you down girl! You know you are beautiful inside and out!

**** 'im -_-;; Yah, that was rude. I'm sorry that happened, its complete b.s. and is totally ridiculous. Don't let it stop your efforts in being healthier, youve worked way too hard for yourself and taking care of yourself to put any thought in what some childish person said/did.

We're here for you~!!!!!!! *hugs*

(hmm... I'm going to have to learn how to draw all those cute pics that everyone else puts in their messages!)

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I know it hurts, but it really reflects more on the person making the comments than it does you.

That was just youthful ignorance. They obviously have never had a real issue that they had to battle all on their own and therefore cannot understand anyone elses struggles in life. Karma will get to them....

I know that doesn't help much...but hang in there. You know that you are doing what you need to do to win this personal battle. You are far more important in this struggle than they are...and I'm sure you have said worse things to yourself and you got past it...so You can get past this also!
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Yikes, what a jerk!!! I'm sorry this happened to you. I bet the other people in the elevator were thinking he was a total jerk too. Hold you head high and keep on taking care of yourself. Don't let idiots like that get you down. I've had similar experiences and it really hurts. :hug: Try not to dwell on it though, cuz then he's accomplished what he wanted to.

This might not help but ... kudos to the guy that basically said "How stupid" when he said what is that noise.... It just lets you know that the foolish people are the small percentage (the minority). Let's not let them rule how we feel about themsleves. What is sad is that these people point out what they feel are our faults to better themselves. In reality, he might be flunking out of school or having even bigger problems. You were his relief for the day. Doesnt make you feel better. But just consider the source. Have a great day and you are doing so well!! :hug:

Hope that made sense...back to work I go~

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sorry this happend to you. Just think hes probably such a jerk he wont be getting any tonight from any woman lol

I've been on the receiving end of those comments, too. I'm sorry you had to go through that. As hard as it is, try not to dwell on it. *hugs*

Thanks everybody. it helps to hear from others who understand.

I'd like to say I would turn around and just look him in the eye, but it's different when it's real and you're caught off guard. :hug: Blow it off, and make yourself a list, in writing, of 5 reasons you're a valuable and special person. Weight is just weight, it's not a measure of your worth.

Sending you a virtual hug :hug:

I am sorry that you had to experience that...What a jerk!! I agree with the others that this happens when that person has insecurity issues of their own, and the only way to make themselves feel better is by trying to rain on your parade. Don't let it get to ya.

It's happened to me... I was in an elevator with my two littlest (adding up to about 50 lbs at the time) an older lady (maybe 150) and a bigger guy (around 250)

I got on and he commented "how much does this thing hold again? Hopefully we won't end up in the basement!)

The elevator held up to 2000 lbs. I turned around... shocked and said "how much do you THINK I weigh? Because it's not 1500 lbs *sshole"

He turned red and mumbled an apology and his MOTHER smacked him with her purse and told him that he was raised better than that and to act like a gentleman. lol!

I am sorry . I admire you for not doing what I would have done ! Knocked the you no what out of somebody! It never got me anywhere! You did what you were suppose to do .....walk away....God will bless you!!!!

:hug: I'm sorry that guy was such a jerk. :hug:

I am so sorry that you had to experience something like that... It's never easy to recover from a blow like that, but I think fiberlover said it best--it truly reflects more upon him and his lack of manners than on you. I think it is absolutely disgusting that some people think it's acceptable to treat others like that. Maybe someday he will have an insecurity of his own that someone will ridicule, and he'll realize what a sh***y thing it is to do... Or, it's likely that he's already very insecure and tries to deflect any potential criticisms of himself by insulting others before he can be insulted. Who knows why people act like idiots? But I'm glad that you stayed strong instead of stooping to his level. I don't think I'd be able to control myself so well. I'd certainly feel like slapping him! So kudos to you. Also--:hug::hug::hug:

Just as a side note, I have to disagree with other posters who seem to be implying that this young man's age might have led him to make such an immature/rude remark. I am a college student myself (19 years old), and I can certainly tell you that NOT all males in college behave in this way. Age has absolutely nothing to do with it--rudeness is rudeness, and I think we all are wise enough to know that a nasty remark can come from any source. Some people are just mean, and it's not something that they "grow out of." Although the OP unfortunately received a hurtful comment from a younger guy, he didn't say that because he's young; he said it because he is RUDE. If a middle-aged man had made the comment, wouldn't it be irrational for me to say "well, he's just an old, senile a**hole!"? Of all of the guys I've met in college, there are some I can picture saying something that, and very many who I know would never say something like. Doesn't it make more sense to see the guy for what he really is - a JERK - than to categorize him by his age group, implicitly knocking all other guys his age? Just a thought... :shrug:

I have read through this post a couple of time anf the first thing I want to give you is a :hug:

I am not trying to spark a heated discussion, (and I know this idea has come up before) about it is still more acceptable in society to make fun of "fat" people still in this day and age. I agree it is a reflection on the person who makes the comment.

People are so mean it's amazing... Everyone has dealt with it, but that doesn't make it any easier. Would people make fun of a kid in a wheel chair? Overeating is the same thing, it's a disorder and none of us should be subjected to ridicule from other people. I'm sorry that happened to you.. Look at it as motivation though, turn it around and make it a positive thing.

I am so, so sorry this happened. :hug: Sometimes I think some (not all) college guys can be pigs and hurtful. Consider the source...remember, folks that put down others have a low self esteem.

Twenty five years ago I was on a college campus and a guy walked up to me and said, "Boy, you need to lose some weight. You're fat." I'll never forget it. The college campus was only time in my adult life that I can think of someone being just outright hurtful and rude about my weight.

*HUGS* People can really suck. Obviously this guy is just your average immature creep running around. :(

I've had some comments, snickers, things of that nature, but I usually just feel sorry for those people. They think it is okay to make themselves feel better by trying hurting other people.

Oh, honey :hug: I'm so sorry. What an ***!

guys are definately more jerk-ish in that way...and it makes me sad that that guys will make fun of women that way and not to eachother. when i was younger i used to be constantly bullied and made fun of...and once every couple months i have an experience similar to the elevator situation...but my brother and boy friend who are both fat, say that they never got teased...and that no one EVER made a commnt to them on the street. it's demeaning, and i am really hurt for you that this happened.

Well I almost cried right after it happened, and it seemed to put a damper on the rest of my day, but I let it go as much as I could and am moving forward. I agree with your comments, and thanks for everybody trying to make me feel better. It helped!!

That is so ridiculous. I am sorry that happened to you and I KNOW how something like that can ruin your day. I think the important thing is to use it as motivation to stick to your efforts. That guy is a total douchebag for saying those things. Later on there are so many things you wish you would have said but I know how that is.

Hugs to you! Proud of you for taking the high road.

Why in the world are people such flippin' *#*@*@#*? Why would anyone want to cause another embarassment or pain?

Luckily, most people wouldn't. I am sorry that you ran into a bunch of *&*&*^*%. :hug::hug::hug:

I am sorry that happened.

He probably has a hard time getting things up so that he has to try to bring you down!!! (If you know what I mean!) :rofl:

Put that out of your head immediately! Seriously, it was horrible when it happened but if you keep thinking about it gives the jerk even more power over you. Karma's gonna get him, believe it.

How juvenile. Just remember, karma does strike. Hugs....

~Diana

I'm sorry it happened sweetie, I know how badly that sucks. It's happened to me several times when I was much bigger (even on my wedding day!!) and I could never forget it either. He obviously has to make fun of others to make himself feel more "like a man" but in reality he's just an insecure jerk. Hats off to the guy that called him out on it!

Don't feel bad about yourself, it gives idiots like that too much power. <3

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what an A hole!! I've had similar things happen to me, one that involved an elevator. Its hard to forget about things like that, but just try not to dwell on it. He will get his one of these days :)

If it makes you feel any better, I know his friends were none too impressed with him either. We all know that person -- he's got such low self-esteem that he just tries to prop himself up by degrading others. He thinks he's funny but his friends just think he's embarrassing.

Awwww honey. I know how that feels. It hurts very much when someone like that POS says something so mean-spirited. On top of that, it is very embarrassing. You did the right thing not to just ignore him. I know it isn't no way satisfying but you did take the high road. It is not worth it to engage with idiots like that because you don't need to get down to their sub-human level.

Its hurts and I can empathize with you. Just know that it won't last for long. Young people can be very indifferent and non caring of other people feelings.

Young people can be uncaring, just as middle-aged and older folks can. I know a lot of young people who would never dream of being so rude! It's not about age . . . it's about respect. And that jerk in the elevator needs to learn what that means.

You are a better person than I . . . I would have turned around, stared right at him and asked, "Do you have a problem? Because, if you do, I wish you'd have the balls to actually say something." I'd still feel bad about his comment, but he'd be the one looking like an *** and that would make me feel a little better :D. But, as I said, you were the better person for not stooping to his level. :hug:

what kind of muffled noise means "she's going to make the elevator fall" LOL but if that's what you think he said, then dude is clearly a tool, and i so would have said "i'm using YOU to break my fall"