South Beach Diet - DH fed up with vegetables

DH is really getting fed up with the SB diet and is really missing the carbs that he likes. I am thinking of changing for a while and then coming back to it again later on.
Not sure what to at the moment. I have tried making the veg more interesting but he leaves a lot on his plate and then goes for snacks in the evening. Not a great way to go so maybe a change will help.

Why not carry on yourself and make him the carbs he wants?

Paula, is it possible for you to stay on the SBD while your DH follows a different plan? My DH isn't crazy about veggies, either, so I always include a carb in our meals for him, but I don't eat it. I fill my plate with lots of veggies and some protein, while he does his own thing. It works well for us.

I could try that and see how it goes. So far in phase 2 I have not lost anything and only 4 pound on Phase 1. I feel a little dispondent myself and need to get the weight moving in downward motion. It is not easy and with DH not wanting to carry on with things I suppose.

Your weightloss will slow down in Phase 2, but remember, you are losing actual poundage, not just water weight. A loss of 1/2 to a pound a week is normal. The slower you lose, the more likely you are to keep it off. :) I hope you try to keep with it and not give up. Patience is the key. Good luck!

I usually make a meat and veggies the whole family will eat, then some rice or potatoes or whatever to go along with it for the kids and DH will eat some of that too, if he wants. DH is not trying to lose anything, but he is Type II Diabetes, and eating the same as me is good for him. Usually the rice or pasta I make is whole grain, so I can have a little too. The whole family really like quinoa and ww couscous. We just all make our plates according to our tastes. Mine will have lots of veggies, some meat, and sometimes a couple of spoonsful of the starch, sometimes not, depending on what else I've eaten that day. It works pretty well for us, but then DH fortunately loves veggies!

Ditto on the extra food at supper.

It sounds like my husband is more supportive than yours (of course, he LOVES me being thinner), but I've always tried to make a starch I know he enjoys to go with dinner. Or, extra veggies for me that he doesn't necessarily care for.

Take last night....chili in the crockpot, made with lean ground beef (his request). He eats just that, with saltines on the side. Not enough veggies for me, so I made a side of asparagus (weird combo, but I like asparagus :D), and stole a piece of cold leftover sweet potato (which I also love). He was happy, I was happy.

I'll often make mashed potatoes or potato wedges for him as well.

I think the extra veggies is my saving grace as well, since that fills me up with lower calories than other things available.

Why not try different low carb veggie recipes? These are some of the best low carb veggie recipes I've found, while they are more geared to Atkins...I am sure you can "modify" them to work with SB using low fat cheeses etc.

http://www.genaw.com/lowcarb/side_dish_recipes.html

I can personally vouge for the "Just Like Stuffed Baked Potatoes" recipe...its my favorite:)

I will try that, I was hoping that I would not have to make seperate things again as it gets really awkward at times. Maybe I am just being a little silly about this but I need support from him and feel that I am not getting it at the moment and before you say talk to him I have.
Oh well I willbe sticking to what I know suits me and hopefully some weight will come off.
I know it will be slow in Phase 2 but nothing coming off!!!!

I've started making really flavorful veggie recipes so Tom will eat them, and when it's not green beans, I make a mini-corn-on-the-cob for Little Guy. Made Oven-Roasted Broccoli night before last and Tom ate half of the entire recipe, saying it was the best broccoli he'd ever had, and what the heck did I do to make it taste so good?

You can definitely stick to SB without your hubby doing it too!

I was hoping that I would not have to make seperate things again as it gets really awkward at times.

That is my point, you don't have to make separate things:) Those recipes are delicious and unless you tell him, he won't even know they are low-carb:carrot:

Making one extra side dish (that you're not eating) could be a workable option (it's not making an entirely different meal) - or you could ask hubby to make his own carby side dish if he wishes, or even keep some of the frozen variety on hand (individual servings of mashed potatoes, macaroni and cheese, twice baked potatoes etc are available in the freezer case or microwaving a baked potato).

Why not carry on yourself and make him the carbs he wants?

I agree with this one. Do your diet and let him do his. I hope everything works out for you! :hug:

Sorry for the thread-jack:o

Hey SBD Sass, nice avatar;)

GO STEELERS!!!:woohoo::woohoo::woohoo:

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I don't think anyone is saying make separate meals. Just add a component to the meal for him that you don't eat. I do this for my husband all the time. I count calories and try to limit my carbs at night. So I'll fix meat and veggies/salad and then throw a baked potato in the oven for him. Or fix rice for him. Or whatever. It's not like I'm making two completely separate meals.

Maybe I am just being a little silly about this but I need support from him and feel that I am not getting it at the momentI don't think that it's necessarily unsupportive of him to not want to be deprived of food he wants just because YOU are on a diet. :)

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Paula, does DH need to lose weight? Does he need to eat healthier? Why is he doing SBD? These are questions that need answers before you figure out what to do. If the answer to eithef of the first two is "yes" then he needs to figure out a way to "put on his big boy undies and deal with it." That doesn't mean that you can't find ways to make meals he likes that are OP. That's easy to do! But he also has to make a decision to eat healthy and not stick with snacks instead of good food. My DH is tiny, but he's got cholesterol issues, so he eats with me.

I think the chicks have given you lots of great ideas. Hope some of them help you out! :D

Sorry for the thread-jack:o

Hey SBD Sass, nice avatar;)

GO STEELERS!!!:woohoo::woohoo::woohoo:

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*waving her terrible towel* :s:

Paula, does DH need to lose weight? Does he need to eat healthier? Why is he doing SBD? These are questions that need answers before you figure out what to do. If the answer to eithef of the first two is "yes" then he needs to figure out a way to "put on his big boy undies and deal with it."I have to say I disagree with this advice. (With all respect! :))

Whether DH needs to lose weight or not is not, forcing him to "put on his big boy undies and deal" is not the answer. What if DH decided that Paula needed to be on a 1200 calorie diet and told her to put on her big girl panties and deal with it?

We'd all be rightfully ticked off, wouldn't we? Our advice would be that no one gets to decide what's healthy for Paula except Paula.

The same goes for her DH. It goes for *my* DH, for that matter. Unless and until HE decides that he wants to lose weight, then forcing him to be on a diet is not fair to him and not fair to Paula (or me, if we're talking about my DH. :) ).

Paula has every right to say "I'm going to eat healthy. You can come along for the ride or not." But I don't think being accommodating to him by throwing on a few potatoes or a pot of rice is asking for something unreasonable.

It's not unsupportive of him to decide that he doesn't want to lose weight via the SBD. It's not even unsupportive of him to decide that HE doesn't want to lose weight. As long as he's willing to support Paula in HER decision to do what works for her ... that's the important thing. :)

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My DH is tiny, but he's got cholesterol issues, so he eats with me.



Mine too, about once or twice a week I'll add in a carb to our meal, one serving that he will get bet that is the only change I make.

Whether DH needs to lose weight or not is not, forcing him to "put on his big boy undies and deal" is not the answer.

I totally agree. He can eat whatever he wants. He shouldn't be forced to eat what she's eating, but that shouldn't stop her from eating the way she wants at the same time. Maybe he can get in and help out with the cooking if he wants to eat differently that way she won't feel like she's over cooking / cooking two meals.

Hey guys I am not forcing DH to do anything it was his idea to go on the SB diet in the first place not mine. He bought the book and he did a lot of the research before embarking on this.
Yes he needs to lose weight for his health and heart.
I say he is unsupportive as he will expects me to eat what he has and will make comments about me being 'a goody two shoes' if I stick to the diet. This makes me feel awkward and that is my problem not his.
We weigh ourselves today and will see how things are going if DH has lost again he will probably want to carry on with things.

My problem is I do have bouts of depression and I can be extra sensetive then, like now. So maybe I am being a little too sensetive and not seeing things clearly.
Sorry I should learn to keep things to myself when I am like this as I can be negative and no one needs that this is supposed to be a positve place so I apologise for the negative vibes. :)