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10-13-2008, 02:16 PM
Does anyone else hate cooking as much as I do? no no, I mean I REALLY HATE it.
I would rather clean the entire house from top to bottom AND do yardwork, rather than cook. Especially now that I cook healthy food, my hate for cooking has just gotten stronger. Plus I'm not good at cooking.
What's a girl to do?

10-13-2008, 02:17 PM
i love cooking....
i just hate the fact i always snack on bits as i cook....
wud love to be a head chef at a restaurant....

10-13-2008, 02:19 PM
I think most females (and some males to) love cooking. All my friends LOVE cooking... I'm the odd one out.

10-13-2008, 02:20 PM
I'd much rather bake than cook to tell you the truth.

10-13-2008, 02:25 PM
I only like cooking when its something special, or for someone else. I only cook like every other day, and its usually something stupidly easy.

10-13-2008, 02:26 PM
I don't mind the cooking....

It's the bullsh!t cleaning up afterwards that I hate. Doing dishes is the bane of my existence, and as a university student... we don't exactly have a dishwasher in our house. :(

Though, that must make things even more rough. To hate cooking, and try to be eating healthily--- it must be difficult!

10-13-2008, 02:38 PM
I don't hate cooking...I hate the time I have to put into it for it come out decent. I prefer to throw something in the microwave or oven and come back 45 minutes ready to eat. This is probably why I eat cereal 2 meals a day...easy. I only do REAL cooking like 3 times a year--Memorial Day, Thanksgiving and Christmas. Other than that, it's whatever I can throw together in 15 minutes or less.

10-13-2008, 02:44 PM
I use to hate cooking. I felt there was so many ingredients needed and not enough money. So I thought cooking healthy would be worse! But nope. I honestly spend about $150 dollars for 2 weeks of food shopping with 2-3 planned cooked meals a week.

The other days it's a DIY or something simple like whole wheat pita pizzas. Occasionally we'll head to Wawa/7-Eleven when I am too tired after work.

10-13-2008, 02:46 PM
I love cooking special meals, like holidays, but I get annoyed by the day to day stuff. All the mess and monotony and dishes. Ugh.

Maybe you could try not having a "meal" for every single meal. Snacks can be healthy too. What about things like nuts, cottage cheese, veggies, fruit, cheese, yogurt, bars, etc. You could easily make a balanced meal without cooking a thing. This would of course be easier if you were only looking after you. I don't know how happy a hubby or kids would be with cottage cheese for dinner ;)

10-13-2008, 02:48 PM
I hate cooking to, I get it from my mother lol. I also think I hate cooking because I cook and no one eats it. My kids take two bites and say I am full or complain they don't like it. I try to cook every night even though I REALLY hate doing it.

10-13-2008, 03:06 PM
Do you think maybe you hate it because you're not good at it? What about it do you hate?

I absolutely LOVE cooking and baking, especially now that I've gone vegan... it's so much fun to create new recipes and try out new ones.

10-13-2008, 03:14 PM
Im somewhat in the same situation, although im starting to like cooking by trying out new recipes and discovering new tastes.

My best advice would be to buy a crockpot. You throw a bunch of ingredients in, cook them for 3-4 hours on high or all day on low while youre doing other things and voila! You have a delicious meal waiting for you.

10-13-2008, 03:19 PM
I love to cook and hate to clean. Unfortunately my husband also loves to cook and hates to clean. We have a close friend living in our building who loves to eat, but hates to clean (however, he doesn't mind carrying, so with hubby and I both unable to lift or carry heavy items - we feed him often and he carries things for us).

If we could only find a friend, living close by who loved to clean and hated to cook (I had this for a while when my sister and I were roommates. She hated cooking. I hated cleaning. So we each did what we liked best).

That same sister now loves cooking - but only her kind of cooking. She was never impressed with basic, run of the mill cooking (and she hates grocery shopping), but she loves learning to make exotic dishes. She lives with our parents, and so as my sister says "Mom cooks the everyday stuff, and I cook gourmet stuff". Mom and dad are retired, so Mom cooks during the week, and my sister cooks on the weekends. She learned indian cooking from a friend and her mother who are Indian (from India). She's learned other exotic cooking from cook books.

Iconised Ghost
10-13-2008, 03:21 PM
I'd much rather bake than cook to tell you the truth.
I am exactly the same. Cooking takes forever and then you eat it in at 2 minutes flat, its just not worth the effort. At least baking looks better, tastes better, and lasts longer

10-13-2008, 03:22 PM
Personally I love to cook and bake, but it's not for everyone. There's no rule that says you have to like it.

Why not pick up healthy, pre-prepped or pre-cooked stuff to make your life easier. My MIL loves to pick up rotisserie chickens and just shred the meat for salads. In some places you can even buy pre-cooked chicken breasts. With that, greens, already chopped veggies, and low cal dressing you could make a killer entree salad. You might also be able to find pre-cooked brown rice and such. I'm not sure where since you are in Canada, but it's worth looking for.

For times when you do need to cook, look for recipes that are super fast. I love Nigella Lawson's cookbook 'Nigella Express'. Not everything in her books is healthy, but some are (or you can tweak) and the recipes are super fast. There are things that take little effort, like throwing a potato in to bake and opening a can of chili to heat and serve over the potato. So, since you hate cooking, maybe try to find things that get you out of the kitchen fast.

Do you own a crockpot or slowcooker? You could cook a big batch of something on the weekend and then eat it for meals throughout the week.

Really it's too bad you don't live closer! I'd so trade cooking for you, if you cleaned my house. :lol:

10-13-2008, 03:50 PM
crock pots are wonderful, you just throw stuff in there and the meal is done. I also get chickens from sams club then all I have do it sides also a good idea.

10-13-2008, 04:05 PM
What about it do you hate?

Basically, everything. I just don't enjoy cooking. Some people find it very relaxing and soothing, I find it stressful and a chore. You mess up your kitchen, you have lots of dishes to clean afterwards, you get all hot, and you have dirty counters to clean up. I sound lazy, but I assure you I'm not.

10-13-2008, 04:55 PM
since you don't mind baking---find more recipes and foods you can bake--- most anything can be baked and its so much better anyway--- and see what you can cut down on in the cleaning up department--- maybe you don't need to use as many pots and pans for the meal--- maybe start stacking some foods or using the same pot or pan for the different parts of the meal

what i do is double up on everything --- i love to cook but i dont have the time for it ---but i hate to clean and the kitchen is the worst b/c as soon as its clean its dirty again--- i learned to not let it bother me too much---what i do now is cook enough for two days and then do the dishes and clean the stove the next day ---so i alternate--- it works out well for me --- and sometimes i'll even freeze stuff and reheat them at another time

10-13-2008, 05:16 PM
I like to make stuff that all goes in one dish -- I make A LOT of stir fries or stews or Italian chicken or portabello mushrooms, Chicken Marsala or Greek Lamb with a tomato sauce and lots of veggies. Then, with my rice cooker, I just make brown rice in there and throw whatever else I've made over the rice when it is done. Doing it this way means hardly any dishes to clean up, no exact measuring and the fun of dumping a bunch of different things into one pot and watching how it turns out. I view cooking like art -- no two pieces are ever exactly the same, but they are yummily unique each time.

I have this reputation among my friends as being this amazing cook -- it makes me laugh because I couldn't tell you the next DAY what exactly went into the meal the night before.

The key is just not to TRY so hard -- let it come easily. Cooking is fun, It should never feel like a chore.

10-13-2008, 09:02 PM
I hate cooking for myself. My mom owned a restaurant and I'd cook all day long for other people but when it came time for me to eat I'd just throw whatever was left on a plate. Usually gross and I could have had something good if I just would have taken 5 minutes like I did for everyone all day long. I'm still that way, I usually cook lunch and dinner for my bf but its not food that I can eat. While his is cooking I usually zap a LC or throw together a quick salad. Today I breaded chicken and cut potatoes and fried it all up for him it took me 30 minutes just to make some chicken strips and fries, my salad took 2 seconds. Thats fine with me as long as its not the other way around, strange.

10-13-2008, 09:42 PM
i like cooking.
I just hate how much time it takes to get it done.
I just hate to have to clean after that
And i hate how my body smell the food i've just cooked.
I hate washing dishes too.
uh oh.... >"<

10-13-2008, 10:04 PM
I'm gonna get all psychological here, but . . . cooking is about self nurturance, being kind to yourself. Is there any part of you that thinks you don't deserve to care for yourself and take the time to fix yourself healthy food?

10-13-2008, 10:17 PM
I'm gonna get all psychological here, but . . . cooking is about self nurturance, being kind to yourself. Is there any part of you that thinks you don't deserve to care for yourself and take the time to fix yourself healthy food?

Not at all. It doesn't have anything to do with that. I just hate cooking.

10-13-2008, 10:37 PM
I'm beginning to love to cook - the mess isn't as bad now since I keep up with it rather than waiting till everything (including eating) is overwith.

10-13-2008, 10:42 PM
I only like cooking when its with my bf.

When we make a recipe together, its usually pretty fun.

When its just me, its not so fun because I tend to screw up and it doesn't turn out super awesome.

10-13-2008, 10:59 PM
So there's the "I hate to Cook Book" by Peg Bracken. You may want to check it out of your library and take a look at it.

I hate to cook if I haven't planned. But here are some basic concepts that can improve the chore of cooking.

Cooking a large item, perhaps on the weekend, that you can eat from several days during the week - either exactly the same or in variation. Roast beef, pork roast, turkey, chicken(s), lasagne or another large casserole. These can show up with the same sides, different sides, on salads, in sandwiches, wraps, etc.

Find 3-4 things that you can bake at the same time and just have one mess. Reheat the rest of the week.

Grocery store assembly: bagged salads, rotisserie chicken, pre-prepped veggies salad bars, deli meats.

"Cracker barrel" sardines, smoked oysters, low-fat whole grain crackers, low fat cheese, sliced fruit, carrot sticks, celery - some combination of finger foods that includes protein & lots of veggies and very little "bad stuff" and very little prep.

Other simple ideas: sandwiches, baked potatoes with toppings (ok so you do bake the potatoes), baked sweet potatoes with toppings, sandwiches wrapped in foil and baked, quesadillas - you can do these in a no-stick fry pan, you don't need a special press.

George Foreman grill - grill boneless skinless chicken breasts (marinate briefly in balsamic vinegar or another marinade that won't burn on the grill) and microwave frozen vegetables while they're cooking. Cook extras to slice onto salads.

One pan dinners (on the stove or in the oven). Lots of good suggestions for this have already been made. You can do a stir fry that includes pre-sliced meat and pre-prepped veggies from the grocery store.

If you're planning meals ahead, you can bake brown rice (http://3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=153224) earlier in the week when something else is in the oven, then reheat it (microwave) the night you want to eat it. Think about this for anything that will take a long time to cook.

Crockpot is good for some things as well.

I know it's the wrong time of year for most folks to suggest this one, but don't forget your outside grill. It's not just for hamburgers and it keeps the heat and mess outside.

Overall, to minimize mess and cleanup - have a sink, dishpan or large bowl with hot soapy water already in it as you cook. This makes it easy to rinse out and wash items as you use them so food doesn't get dried on them and hard to clean off. Cleanup will be almost done when you're ready to eat.

Unless you're baking, eyeball quantities. If you're measuring things like a half cup of diced onions, a cup of mushrooms, don't. Eyeball it and add it. Be careful with strong spices, but practice measuring things in the palm of your hand. Learn what a tsp and Tbs look like. This will really speed up cooking and cut down on things that need to be washed.

When you're dealing with oil, butter, peanut butter or anything else dense with calories, then measure.

You probably still won't love cooking, but maybe some of these ideas will make it a little easier.