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Blcarter84
10-11-2008, 02:25 AM
Ugh just when I think everything is falling into place......everything crashes and burns. I had to find someone to watch my son so I can work by monday because my boyfriend decided that he wasn't going to anymore. So I found this lady on craigs list and I met with her and we got the ball rolling and I was good to go. So then tonight(friday) I get home from work and check my e-mail only to get an e-mail from her saying that she can't do it now because her uncle has cancer so she has to go to him. I have 2 days to find someone else....or risk getting fired....and having no money at all. WTF am I supposed to do. I put an ad up tonight and everything....
okay I guess I just had to vent that to you guys


FreeSpirit
10-11-2008, 02:39 AM
I'm sorry. I'd totally help you if I could.

I know something will turn up, just have hope.

Why can't your boyfriend watch him?

Blcarter84
10-11-2008, 02:54 AM
Cuz he works...went and changed his schedule.


CurvaceousCutie
10-11-2008, 03:21 AM
any family or friends???? can u bring him to work?? i have friend that lives in vegas.

Blcarter84
10-11-2008, 04:28 AM
No I just moved here...everyone I know lives in Michigan. Vegas is like 8 hours from here

Iconised Ghost
10-11-2008, 06:24 AM
could you ask your neighbours?

bargoo
10-11-2008, 08:52 AM
Certainly Las Vegas has licensed child care, check your phone book. Also call some of the churches in your neighborhood, they might have information on child care around you. Your child comes first don't leave him with someone not qualified, better to lose your job until you find the right person.

midwife
10-11-2008, 09:41 AM
I agree with Bargoo. Be careful about who you leave your child with. The YWCA might have some child care resources. This is a temporary problem. Your child's safety and well being is paramount. It can be very hard to raise a child with limited support. Some unsolicited advice: consider living where you have more support. Your boyfriend's reliability is questionable it appears. If you have family and friends elsewhere.....Please consider your options with an eye to your child's stability.

mezmerize
10-11-2008, 09:50 AM
Echoing what is stated above. Please let us know how things turn out. You might want to call local schools for advice.

JamieJo
10-11-2008, 10:52 AM
Do you go to a church? If so, the secretary can give you a ton of names of teenagers that babysit. Or even if you don't go to a church...call around to some of them!

garstar
10-11-2008, 11:37 AM
look up daycare in your area, see if they take drop ins - many do.

Also, look on craigs list for day cares taking drop ins.

I wouldn't suggest finding a babysitter off craigs list, it can be scary. however, I myself post adds on there, and have gotten a few jobs... so some tips for craigs list - avoid any posts in all caps, avoid teenagers, and people who post pictures tend to be more reliable. Also, search back a few days or weeks, people are still looking for jobs even if the posts are a few days old!

Ask you BF to help you find people

Try a local church as previously suggested.

Any colleges near by? If they have an early childhood education or elementary major - put up a flyer on their bulletin. I'm an early ed major myself, and we're always looking for jobs!

CurvaceousCutie
10-11-2008, 11:37 AM
what bout the bfs family or friends?

jahjah1223
10-11-2008, 12:04 PM
Hang in there it always gets better.

Mango683
10-11-2008, 12:53 PM
Yes, just hang in there..it could always be worse. Of course it seems like your world may be closing in. But there have been some wonderful suggestions and your child's well-being is most important! I wish you luck and hope it turns out. Have a some hope and faith:-)

JulieJ08
10-11-2008, 12:58 PM
A formal daycare that takes drop-ins might be too expensive for every day (you might make less than you spend), but might still be worth it for one day to keep from losing a job.

Gosh, with your thread title, I thought something had happened to your son. I'm so relieved.

Blcarter84
10-11-2008, 11:48 PM
Well I am meeting with a lady tomorrow. I hope that it all works out. I really can't afford it but I dont have a choice. Didn't get to work out today...was up all night trying to find someone and posting ads on craigs list. Been PMSing also so that doesn't help! But I am feeling a wee bit better now. thank you all for your support

garstar
10-16-2008, 01:14 PM
So what ended up happening?

Blcarter84
10-16-2008, 01:36 PM
Well so far I have only worked one day and the power ended up going out so I was sent home and didn't make even one dollar. Then Ihad to pay her $16 bucks for watching my son! But she is really nice so I am sure that everything wil work out. Plus my son's dad contacted me saying that he wanted to pay me child support out of his check so hopefully that will speed up the process

ghost
10-16-2008, 03:38 PM
As a single mom I've run the gauntlet of babysitter issues. The only thing that has saved me is that my family and friends are close to me, they are my support system. When a babysitter situation fails for me my fall back is my mom and dad, or my granparents. I also have a sister (who doesnt do babies, but now that he's older, she's okay). My point is, you can make it work with babysitters but you need to have a reliable person and a fallback person when something goes wrong with your reliable person. And you have to budget for babysitting like you budget for your rent and electric.
Are you close to your family? what is your situation with your boyfriend? I thought you had broken up. Is moving closer to family an option?

JulieJ08
10-16-2008, 04:15 PM
As a single mom I've run the gauntlet of babysitter issues. The only thing that has saved me is that my family and friends are close to me, they are my support system. When a babysitter situation fails for me my fall back is my mom and dad, or my granparents. I also have a sister (who doesnt do babies, but now that he's older, she's okay). My point is, you can make it work with babysitters but you need to have a reliable person and a fallback person when something goes wrong with your reliable person.

And speaking as one of those fallback persons (and happy to be), it is much appreciated if it is kept to those truly fallback times ;). Meaning you can't get anyone else, not it's a pain to try to get anyone else.