20-Somethings - Should i just stop eating?
10-05-2008, 01:41 PM
I saw myself in a family picture we took about 5 weeks ago and thats when it really hit me that this is NOT the person i want to be .
I started my diet THAT night because i was so upset with how i looked in that picture i just decided to stop eating . I hardly eat anything all day . Ive lost about 17 pounds in the past 5 weeks but i feel terrible i feel like my body is shutting down .
I don't know what to do and im afraid if ill go back to eating i can kiss me losing anymore weight goodbye .. any advice?:(
10-05-2008, 01:49 PM
u have to eat....
at the end of the day its what fuels your body....
10-05-2008, 01:52 PM
That would be No on the not eating part.
This happens to me, and Im sure to many other people as well. If you are like me, I found something that worked for me, excerise wise as well as foods, your body might be in a rut.
just do different things, to keep your body on its toes. I read that its that only thing that keeps you from losing all the weight you want. :hug:
10-05-2008, 01:52 PM
You CANNOT stop eating. We all go through those pics of ourselves and realize that that's not who we want to be anymore. Focus on the positive. You're here and you're willing to make changes.
Congratulations on the weight lost, but you want to do it in a healthy way so that your body is ok and you can keep it off. Less than 1200 calories a day, and you're body might think it's starving. That's probably why you aren't feeling like yourself. DOn't stop eating, just change what you eat. Poke around in some of the forums here to look for changes you can incorporate into your life. I wish you the best.
10-05-2008, 02:06 PM
Eat healthy, lots of veggies, fruits, lean meats and exercise! U can loose a lot of weight but if you don´t exercise it won´t look good..
I think it´s great you´ve lost all that weight, now it´s time to change the plan, start eating healthy and believe it or not you´ll feel much better and the weight will still come off... it may take more time, but it´s worth the effort!
10-05-2008, 02:24 PM
If you stop eating, your body will go into starvation mode, which will mess with your metabolism and could make it much more difficult to lose weight when you start eating again.
You MUST eat. Make healthy choices, count calories, but EAT. There are lots of wonderful people on this site who will help you form a diet and exercise plan if you like.
You can't stop eating. It slows your metabolism and ultimately leads to a binge. It just makes matters worse. Try to tell yourself weight loss is not something that can happen at the snap of a finger. It's slow and steady (if you do it right and want it to stay off). Eat lean meats, delicious veggies and fruits, lots of water, no junk food, and most importantly EXERCISE!!
10-05-2008, 02:37 PM
Now, when you are motivated to lose weight is the perfect time to learn how to eat healthily so that you can effectively maintain the weight you want to be.
What you are doing is what so many of us did at the beginning. If I had learned to manage the first 20 lbs or so, I wouldn't be still trying to lose almost 80 lbs.
10-05-2008, 02:52 PM
if ill go back to eating i can kiss me losing anymore weight goodbye
So you'd rather die?
I'll be honest, I don't think this is something that anyone on this board can answer for you. It sounds to me like you need to see a doctor about a possible eating disorder.
What you're doing is DANGEROUS. You're harming your body. Right now you feel "terrible". Pretty soon you're going to feel worse.
Being a skinny dead person isn't going to make you feel better.
Please get the help that you need!!!!
10-05-2008, 03:23 PM
you have to eat to give your body fuel to live.
you do not have to eat in a way that you're taking in more fuel than you need.
find a plan that allows you to eat in a way that fuels your body. and thats it.
there are a ton of plans out there. I personally do calorie counting.. and I can relate to the desperation you're expressing. I too got to a point where I couldnt stand myself. I wanted to do something drastic.. but drastic isnt something you can do FOR LIFE.
I think the desperation you're feeling can be channeled into committment for a food plan you can sustain for life. Please try to turn this into something that will positivly change your life. You can do it :cheer2:
10-05-2008, 04:14 PM
You have have haveeee to eat!!! It's not eating that makes you gain weight..its WHAT you chose to eat...You also need to exercise and be fit. I've lost almost 87 lbs doing weight watchers (on my own!!) and I am eating ALL the time as well as exercising a lot throughout the week! Eat at least 5 fruits and veggies, whole grains, and lots of lean meat like chicken/turkey and fish and you will see results!
10-05-2008, 04:33 PM
I started my diet THAT night because i was so upset with how i looked in that picture i just decided to stop eating . I hardly eat anything all day. Ive lost about 17 pounds in the past 5 weeks but i feel terrible i feel like my body is shutting down .
Probably because it is shutting down. At your weight losing more than 3 pounds a week means you probably aren't eating (as you've said). I'm serious here - you need to get some counseling on eating disorders. Because frankly, what you've said here sounds like you have one. The range for someone of your height should be about 111 - 147 pounds, so at your starting weight you were maybe 30 pounds over the median of those numbers.
If you're active (ie. lots of exercise) the minimum amount you should be eating is about 1500 calories to start with. Then, based on how much or little you lose, you would adjust it. The sad thing is that you not eating over the last 5 weeks is going to make it harder. Your body thinks that it's starving (which it probably is) and eating a sane amount of food will likely cause you to gain a little, before you start losing again.
But... here's the thing, unless you don't want to survive your weight loss you need to eat. If it sounds like I'm trying to scare you, I am. Talk to your family, or a doctor, or someone you trust. Make sure that they watch you, or monitor you, to make sure that you eat. Seriously.
10-05-2008, 04:37 PM
I think you know the answer to your question. Nobody in their right mind is going to advise you to quit eating.
It sounds like you need some support though, and that's what this forum is about. Read and take into consideration what these patient and caring people tell you. Everyone who is here knows the panicky feeling of seeing pictures of themselves they don't like and feeling like they might re-gain some of the weight they've lost, but this is no cause for life threatening measures. Take care of yourself. :hug:
10-05-2008, 05:39 PM
I just wish i could find a good eating program where i wont have to worry when i put anything in my mouth about it making me gain weight . I get hesitant when even just having a banana now.
10-05-2008, 06:45 PM
You're always going to have to make choices about what to eat. It's a matter of making good choices. Bananas are a good choice - and it sounds like you know that, deep-down.
I would strongly suggest you talk with a doctor, nutritionist, or therapist (or all three) about what you've been going through. You are starving yourself. If you can't even bring yourself to eat a banana without experiencing anxiety, that's a big problem. Please, please, please get help!
10-05-2008, 08:44 PM
from personal experiences, eating disorder won't lead to stronger, nice and lean body, but only a whole fat body with smaller number in scale.
So please choose a plan to eat healthy and EXERCISES. Exercise is a key to weight loss and looking lean.
10-05-2008, 10:46 PM
Can I ask exactly what you are eating now? What did you eat today? Yesterday? Are you exercising at all now? You know it won't last to not eat. The last thing you want to do is undo what you've done and gain a lot of the weight back. But you're going to have to eat and get to feeling like you again. What kinds of things can you eat and feel the way you want to feel? I'm sure you want to feel energetic, happy, healthy. You can fuel up on fruits, veggies, whole wheats, lean meats etc.. If you do that and get active, you're going to get to your goal. And, most importantly, you're going to feel good when you get there! :)
10-05-2008, 10:50 PM
i probably eat less than 800 calories a day , and yes i exercise and i also know that i need help , which is why i joined this forum for support.
Here we go again
10-05-2008, 11:08 PM
Jah- I know that food can seem like the enemy. But the thing is we have to have food to live. 800 cals is too little for anyone. Even someone who is 5' 100 pounds is not suppose to eat less than 1200 cals. It's different for everyone. The more you work out the more calories you need to eat more. My mom always has done the yo yo diets. She would starve herself and lose a lot of weight. She would gain it back. She has really poor health b/c of it. She's 52 and her dad who's 88 tells me that he is not sure my mom is going to make it. It's sad to think that her life could be cut short b/c she did not take care of herself. Please don't make the same mistake. Sometimes I get on the scale and I'm so mad that and frustrated that I gained or didn't lose any. But the thing is if I'm doing everything I'm suppose to do and exercising, making healthy choices than that's all I can do. My thing that has helped me is losing inches. You can do this, but you need do it do it healthy. We are here for you, I'm not an expert and I'm just learning myself, but there's a pool of people that have had the same struggles.
How much do you exercise? What does you food usually consist of?