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Smiling_Sara
09-24-2008, 10:20 PM
I haven't lost anything in something like 6 weeks! It just gets so discouraging, when I still have soooooooooo much to lose! How do I stay motivated? I try and get through my workouts but sometimes I can't help but think in my head why even do this, you aren't gonna lose anything. I have to stop thinking like this. Do you think even thinking about it helps prevent me from losing somehow?


luvja
09-24-2008, 10:22 PM
Amen, someone please tell me the answer aswell!. I've been incredibly unmotivated for the last couple weeks... You are not alone.

JulieJ08
09-24-2008, 11:32 PM
The short answer is you do it to maintain. At some point, you'll start losing again, but not if you give up. More importantly, when you do reach goal, you'll still have to exercise and eat well, even though you aren't losing. Just like now ;).

But we all feel that way sometimes :hug:. But you can do it!


KateRN
09-25-2008, 12:16 AM
everyday i try to put on my skinny pants and i look at the flab that rolls over them and pushes out so i cannot button them. then i think about how everytime i take a new travel position (im a travel nurse) how i always wish i was skinnier at every new job... and i think about next summer and how i really really want to wear a swim suit... and then when i get pushed enough to go to the gym with that, i focus on that while i work out, and i look down at my legs and picture them getting thinner! lol
a whole lot of visualization exercises!

Lyn2007
09-25-2008, 02:26 AM
I just wrote about this, kind of, on my blog. Mainly, that we have to BECOME a different person in our heads. Not a person who hates exercise, but a person who enjoys it. Then we will do it because it is who we are, regardless of what the scale says.

Please note, I have a long ways to go to perfect this, but a lot of positive thinking and self talk goes a long way. Hang in there!

Smiling_Sara
09-25-2008, 09:30 AM
I just wrote about this, kind of, on my blog. Mainly, that we have to BECOME a different person in our heads. Not a person who hates exercise, but a person who enjoys it. Then we will do it because it is who we are, regardless of what the scale says.

Please note, I have a long ways to go to perfect this, but a lot of positive thinking and self talk goes a long way. Hang in there!

I do try to be positive. I like the way I feel after excersize, but I don't like it while I'm doing it, or the time it takes away from my nights. I'd try to wake up earlier and do it in the am, but I doubt that can happen. I have a terrible time waking up in the mornings as it is. It almost feels like once I get some progress if I have a slice of cake, or a couple of cookies, I auto gain a few pounds and it takes twice as long just to get back to where I was. *sigh*

Trazey34
09-25-2008, 10:50 AM
Again, when you figure it out, PLEASE let me know too!!!!

I think my problem is that i"m happy!! I'm thrilled I've lost so much, that none of my old clothes fit, that i feel better, my DH is happy, it's like "well, I'm just perfect now let's stop!" ya like 250 is THIN lol, hilarious!!!

So instead of losing, I maintained for months and months - weirdly, this made me feel just GREAT!!! knowing it STAYED off and that I could live like that. Food is a big part of my life, and I refuse to live my life existing on 100 calorie packs of fake food LOL, so I eat normal food, in moderation of course, avoid sweets as much as possible, have only ONE serving of stuff, and it's worked out pretty great AND i don't feel deprived or that I'm going to go "OFF" eating this way - this is kind of it!!

For me, I know my next 40 lbs. is absolutely going to come off in SWEAT!!! I've given myself permission, as an experiment, over the next 4 months, to continue eating the way I have been (basically maintaining) and at the same time I'm going to RAMP UP the movement and see what happens on the scales. This whole thing isn't an exact science for each person, we kinda have to see what works, but more importantly, what we can LIVE WITH forever!!

So, even if you aren't motivated to LOSE weight, at least commit to maintaining what you've lost, and maybe increase some activity and see where that might lead???

yah i don't know, i'm spit-ballin' here :D

FreeSpirit
09-25-2008, 10:52 AM
once I get some progress if I have a slice of cake, or a couple of cookies, I auto gain a few pounds and it takes twice as long just to get back to where I was. *sigh*

EXACTLY.

Where are you going to be if you DON'T continue on? If you don't want to be any thinner, fine, maintain. If you don't care if you gain weight because you're not motivated enough to lose weight, then go ahead and gain it. But I gaurantee in a month, two months, even a year when you look back on right now... you are going to kick yourself so hard for not moving forward. Motivation or not.

Lovely
09-25-2008, 11:00 AM
I'm going through a similar fog myself.

It's hard. It's not as though I'm about to quit or give up or anything. But, part of me, even when I do see some weight loss, is just kind of... well... faking it.

And I remember reading it so often (thank you, 3FC <3) that at the very least I know I'm not alone. And that I'm sure maintainers have gone through similar periods as well... where maybe our hearts aren't in it, but we know we have to keep going.

I just took a moment to imagine what would happen if I did stop exercising, if I did just grab whatever I wanted to eat. And the picture was not pretty. A year from now I'd probably be back up to 330 + ... and beating myself up for even thinking of quitting.

It wasn't really motivating in the sense that I now want to run a marathon... but it sure put some things into perspective. There's no quitting now. :hug:

nelie
09-25-2008, 11:22 AM
I've been the same weight for nearly a year...

Honestly, you have to find reasons to stay motivated. Sometimes minor tweaks will get you losing again, sometimes you might have to change things majorly to get things moving.

One thing is to not rely on the scale. Take measurements. Are your clothes feeling looser? Are your measurements going down?

The scale is an indicator of actual fat loss but it isn't perfect.

purpleorc
09-25-2008, 11:53 AM
My DH was recently in the same boat as you ( we are both now eating a healthier diet and losing weight but that is another story I digress ;) ) and the scales did not budge for months I am sure that they were super glued at the same figure :D. I can only back up what Nelie has posted even though the scales were not budging his clothes were fitting better. So using another aid to measuring your weight loss is good like clothing or actually measuring your vital statistics you might be pleasantly suprized by the changes which will keep you motovated especally when you feel like your going now where fast.

My weight loss of late has been very slow :snail: snails pace but I have lost 2" from my waist all these nsv help keep me motivated when the scales don't budge an ounce.

Lyn2007
09-25-2008, 12:50 PM
I heard something on the radio about this yesterday.

They have this little "fitness spot" on the radio each week where a guy comes in and talks about staying healthy. He is NOT fat, has never been fat, but has been out-of-shape and maybe like 5 pounds overweight. Anyway they were asking him about how he stays motivated to get up and exrecise every day. (This guy gets up at like 5am and does 30 min of cardio on a treadmill every morning before work, and then in the evenings after work he goes to the gym and does stength training. Every freaking day!) So they asked and he said, basically, "ya know, no one wants to spend this kind of time exercising, everyone would rather sit in front of the tv or read a book or stay in bed or work on hobbies. But I just make it part of my life like brushing teeth or bathing. I just don't even ask myself IF I am going to do it today. Just do it. It just has to be done for my health."

Somehow I found this enlightening that even a "fitness buff" doesn't always want to do it but they do it anyway.

JulieJ08
09-25-2008, 01:07 PM
I just don't even ask myself IF I am going to do it today."

I think that is what is getting me through. Lots of times I don't feel like exercising or cooking. I just do it. I don't stop and think about whether I want to. However, while I'm doing it, I may think a lot about how I don't want to be doing it :dizzy:. But it just isn't a "do I feel like it" kind of thing. It is just what I do. It's a choice I made.

H8cake
09-25-2008, 01:48 PM
I agree with the "just do it" thinking. It's not an option not to do the exercise and mindful eating. Like rockinrobin says it's not just motivation it's commitment. I've committed myself to doing this for my health.

PhotoChick
09-25-2008, 02:21 PM
"ya know, no one wants to spend this kind of time exercising, everyone would rather sit in front of the tv or read a book or stay in bed or work on hobbies. But I just make it part of my life like brushing teeth or bathing. I just don't even ask myself IF I am going to do it today. Just do it. It just has to be done for my health."
Yup. This is my mantra. Everyone on 3FC has read this from me many times before ... but here it is again! :D

There are things we do in life not because we want to, but because it's part of what you do as a responsible adult.

~ I don't like to get up in the morning and go to work. I love my job, but I hate getting up - I'd rather snuggle in bed until 10 or 11! But I do because it's the responsible thing to do.
~ I don't like sitting down and paying bills every month. I'd rather go shopping and buy a new purse or more camera gear or spend a weekend in NOLA. But I pay the bills because it's the adult, responsible thing to do.
~ I don't like housework of any kind. I really don't. But I clean my house and vacuum the floors and wash the dishes and all of that, because it's the adult. responsible thing to do.

I don't have to like it. I don't even have to be "motivated" to do it. I just have to do it. Because it's part of what we all have to do to live our lives.

Exercise and eating right is the same way. Sometimes I want to do it. Sometimes I'm motivated by outside influences. Most of the time I enjoy my time at the gym once I get there. Most of the time I enjoy what I eat once I fix it and eat it. But sometimes I just do it because it's what you do if you're responsible about your health.

That's just life.

.

Institches21
09-25-2008, 02:24 PM
Wow, when I saw this thread thought "it's calling you" 3FC is such a great place, such wonderful advice and so much support. I too, have hit some bumpy stuff in the road, I haven't quit, but I am not totally doing what I know works, got a bit lax in my accountability. Just in a funk, between having to work at a job that is the pits, and not being able to motivate myself to change that situation. I turned to an old habit, one that always gets me into trouble, bad food choices!! Hence the scale was moving in the wrong direction, so started that downward spiral. Once I start with that behavior, I just think, "Why"??

I did go to my WW meeting today, one thing I did right all week, then I stumbled onto this thread! A woman told me today, no matter whats going on around you, "You can control what goes into your mouth" Then I found this thread, Today will start me back onto what I know works. Thank you all for letting me share.

fiberlover
09-25-2008, 02:36 PM
For me it is no longer about motivation. I just cannot rely on that, or expect it to hang around (very fickle, that motivation thing). So - I have chosen to become dedicated instead of motivated.

Obesity for me is a disease, and the treatment for that disease is regular exercise and proper eating. Doesn't mean I don't grumble out that from time to time, but putting it in that perspective keeps me on track.

Keillynsmom
09-25-2008, 03:09 PM
Motivation may be a misleading word.

Most of the folks who inhabit this board are, by necessity, in it for the long haul. (Not that folks who have less to lose aren’t in it for the long haul either but anyway…) Maybe the concept is more what resources do you call on to keep going, to start again, to make the last stubborn twenty (or ten or five…don’t know, haven’t been there yet)? I understand commitment, but commitment needs energy to become action. Where do you get your energy? Past successes, friends at 3FC or work or church, the rewards along the way, the scale victories and the non-scale victories, a little self-talk, prayer or meditation, dreams and goals…I think sometimes the folks who are further along the way may not realize what habits they’ve picked up along the way to keep themselves energized and motivated. It’s second nature to them now.

Once you get a ball rolling, its own momentum will keep it going until friction brings it to a halt. The only way to keep it going is to give another push (energy) and/or lower the friction (resistance). What do you do to lessen the friction of Real Life™? How do you replenish your energy?

Sorry, feeling a bit philosophical and angry today so it’s bubbling up this away…ignore at will.

Barb

JulieJ08
09-25-2008, 03:27 PM
Barb, I agree. I said on a recent similar thread that although I do not depend on motivation, and I make my choices regardless of having motivation - I still try to get motivation wherever I can. It makes it easier, and I'm all for that. I just don't rely on it.

Smiling_Sara
09-25-2008, 05:07 PM
EXACTLY.

Where are you going to be if you DON'T continue on? If you don't want to be any thinner, fine, maintain. If you don't care if you gain weight because you're not motivated enough to lose weight, then go ahead and gain it. But I gaurantee in a month, two months, even a year when you look back on right now... you are going to kick yourself so hard for not moving forward. Motivation or not.

that's the thing, I do continue, I push myself to. If I don't, I know the weight will contunie to crawl. But am I not allowed to eat sweets anymore? Maybe I'm not. Maybe that is my poison. But it really does feel like it only takes a couple cookies or a slice of cake to for me to gain 2 lbs and then I spend 2 weeks getting those 2 lbs off....

PhotoChick
09-25-2008, 05:16 PM
But am I not allowed to eat sweets anymore? Maybe I'm not. Maybe that is my poison. But it really does feel like it only takes a couple cookies or a slice of cake to for me to gain 2 lbs and then I spend 2 weeks getting those 2 lbs off....I thnk you're focusing on the wrong thing and psyching yourself out.

Of course 2 pieces of cake are not going to cause you to gain 2 lbs. Factually and logically - you have to consumer 7000 calories over and above your maintenance calories to gain 2 lbs of fat. 2 pieces of cake or a sweet treat now and then just isn't going to do that.

We all hit plateaus. I held a plateau in the 170s for nearly 5 months. I got discouraged, too. I think it happens to everyone in one form or another.

If you hit a plateau and you start thinking "I can never eat sweets again, woe is me" then you're just setting yourself up to fail. You're giving yourself an excuse to fail. Not even an excuse - you're giving yourself PERMISSION to fail.

If you're really plateaued, then take a good hard look at what you're doing. Have you allowed yourself to slack off on your healthy eating? Are you not being as precise at measuring your serving sizes? Have you done the same exercise routine so long that your body is adapted and that's causing a stall?

What can you mix up?

Maybe if you give us more information on what you're doing, food-wise and exercise-wise, we can offer some suggestions for what you can do to jump start things again?

.

Lyn2007
09-25-2008, 06:04 PM
I personally know that eating a slice of cake can make the scale go up 2 pounds for me. I know all about the calories needed to gain a pound of fat, etc, but heck, I have gained 17 pounds in less than 2 months recently and there is NO WAY I ate enough excess calories to make that happen. Yet if I eat correctly, this weight does not just drop back off. There is something more at work here than simple calories. Because I can assure you guys that if I eat 400 calories in cake, I will gain a couple pounds on the scale the next day, but if I eat the same 400 calories in egg whites and broccoli I would lose weight or maintain. For me, the white sugar and flour, it does something to me. I have read about water retention but it is not just that. It really *does* something to my body. That's what makes this whole thing SO hard... I work hard, eat healthy and exercise for a week and lose 2 pounds, yay. I eat one slice of cake and the 2 pounds in back overnight. And all the medical info and scientific background that I have does not shake the feeling that this is a really unfair battle.

That said, we just gotta keep going, and stop eating cake (for now).

nelie
09-25-2008, 06:15 PM
I was talking elsewhere about my weight loss and I have to say that I never stopped enjoying the foods I ate but I started changing the foods I enjoy. I love what I eat (I just happen to eat too much of it). I used to love cake but I don't anymore. I do love dark chocolate and eat it regularly. The key is I eat 50-100 calories of it versus 500 calories of a dessert. Of course there are those that can practice portion control and can eat 100 calories of a high calorie dessert and be satisfied but I'm not one of them. Also I avoid foods that cause cravings like sugary foods because they make me feel out of control.

All in all, it is a learning process and it can be painful at times but it is worth it.

Trazey34
09-26-2008, 10:18 AM
I've tried to look at exercise like paying bills and brushing teeth - things i don't love so much, but have to do anyway because i'm a grown up person and responsible.

yah..not so much success...see, paying bills and brushing my teeth doesn't HURT or make me all SWEATY and gross feeling LOL

I hate it, I'll always hate it, but I'll do it, only because i don't want to die and leave DH alone for some skank to grab when I'm dead.

did i say that out loud???

that's as good a motivation as any ;) heheheheh

GirlyGirlSebas
09-26-2008, 10:51 AM
Ever since I've started posting here at 3FC, I've constantly heard the whole concept of a calorie is a calorie and it's all about your calorie intake for losing, gaining or maintaining weight. Well, that is not entirely true for many of us. Many of us have hormone issues that can impact our abilitiy to put on weight and lose weight. For a while, I battled insulin resistance. Now, I battle menopause and it's host of hormone difficulties. Many of us are sensitive to processed foods and added sugars. These foods make us gain weight quickly and make us lose weight sloooooowly. I'll give you an example....I once followed weight watchers for several weeks and only lost 7 pounds....and those 7 pounds were in the first week only. Nothing for 3-4 more weeks! At 264 pounds and staying 100% on-plan and walking each day...I was losing nothing. At the time, I was following the flex plan...eating whatever I wanted as long as it fell within my points for the day. I continued to eat my white bread, white pasta, white rice, sugar added yogurts, low-fat ice creams, etc. I ate virtually no whole grains or vegetables. Earlier this year, I decided to start calorie counting. As long as I continued to follow my Southbeach foods list...lost of veggies, lean meats, whole grains, no added sugars or HFCS,etc....I did lose. Once I started consuming more processed foods in my day, my weight loss stopped even though I was still within my calorie range. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. Then, I cleaned up my foods...and, voila..the weight started coming off again!

Too little sleep, stress, lack of exercise....all of these can discrupt our hormones levels and cause weight gain or stalls.

Born to Fly......In Jillian Michael's book, 'Winning By Losing,' she provides a simple quiz for determining your metabolic type and what percentage of carbs/proteins/fats your should eat each day to rev up your metabolism for weight loss. She also provides a calorie calculator to determine your calorie requirement each week and advises on varying your calorie total each day. I recommend picking up a copy of her book and giving her suggestions a try. Who knows? Shaking things up a bit just might trigger weight loss again. I have my fingers crossed for you! :hug:

Institches21
09-27-2008, 03:30 PM
Thank you Keillynsmom, lots to think about. I'm my worst enemy. I guess I just lost my energy, committment, motivation, whatever...you get my drift.

I know this will not be easy, nothing worth it, is ever easy.