100 lb. Club - OT - A Romance Novel GONE BAD!
09-10-2008, 09:34 PM
I'm soooo sad these days!!! My close friend was together with the love of her life for about 10 years; the last 3 of those she was diagnosed with a severe form of Multiple Sclerosis, not just paralysis but difficulties in swallowing, speaking, breathing, everything. Doctors gave her a short time to live. She told LOHL (love of her life) that he had to go, she didn't want him wasting his life, he had to move on. It took 2 years, but he finally did it. Flash forward a year to now. She had a bone marrow/stem cell transplant overseas, and SHE'S FINE!! I'm sobbing as I type this! Not just can speak and breathe, but she's WALKING and FINE!! I'm sooooo happy.
THEN she contacted LOHL, he was ecstatic for her, thrilled beyond belief, BUT he's met someone, and he can't leave the new love for an old one. He said it took him over a year, but he finally let her go, and moved on. So even tho the LOHL for 10 years is OK now, he's staying with this new girl of 8 months. I'm utterly broken hearted for her. She's the happiest she's ever been, knowing she's going to LIVE, but her heart is destroyed.
Thanks for listening. I need a hug :( I have a ridiculously simplistic view of relationships I know LOL, but i expect things to work out like in books/movies. He should dump new girls *** LOL, i mean seriously ??? 8 months??? sigh....
09-10-2008, 09:45 PM
Oh, Trazey. My heart breaks for her.
09-10-2008, 09:48 PM
That's very sad (happy she's healthy!!) -- I have to take his side though -- I dated someone for quite a while, he "moved on" and broke my heart. About a year later I met someone (now my husband of 11 years/two kids). I was contacted my the old boyfriend after I started dating my husband.
It definitely took a while, but the feelings just weren't there anymore for the "old" one. I will always care for him, but I just fell out of love with him. When someone gives you have no choice but to move on, I guess you just do.
I believe everything happens for a reason and I bet she meets someone who makes her amazingly happy. :hug:
09-10-2008, 09:51 PM
BF does have a problem, he is damned no matter what he does. I am hoping your GF gets over him and meets someone really great.
09-10-2008, 09:53 PM
That is very sad. I would also take his side on it. It is incredibly difficult to move on and I imagine that he was heart broken. Once you move on though, I think you need to close that door and unlock the next. You can't really look back to the past because it is just that.
09-10-2008, 10:08 PM
you guys are right of course - when are 3FC babes NOT right?? -- I'm hoping she'll meet someone amazing and her 2nd life can begin!
09-10-2008, 10:38 PM
OH MY GOD! SHE'S ALIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(I'm sorry. I dont EVER hear such amazing stories of people with progressive MS. I hear the chemo ridden, bird and rat poisen, trial drug lab rat stories)
SHE'S WALKING!!! THAT'S SO WONDERFUL!!
But I'm so sorry to hear that he's moved on. :hug: atleast she has a friend like you that cares so much.
09-10-2008, 10:40 PM
I can't help but think that if she was the love of his life, he would have never left, but would have stayed and been there for her. Even though she told him to move on. Regardless. If you truly love someone, you put their welfare above your own, as she did. He chose to leave and move on. She can do better than that one.
I'm so sorry for her pain, and so glad for her recovery.
09-11-2008, 12:01 AM
OMG! Call Nicolas Sparks! No, don't do that... he is a bloody awful writer. But awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwe. I am just so entranced that she goes overseas, gets the treatment she needs and is better now. What an amazing story. No, you know what as much as I hate to say it, if he really loved her then he would have spent every minute of his life that he could have with her. Was he brave to stay that long, yeah, but love never leaves. I ghost write books for a part time job, and if she ever needs someone to dictate to- have her call me. I can type when crying!