100 lb. Club - Hangin' In Until Weight Loss Kicks In




Truffle
09-01-2008, 03:40 PM
When you are my size, it takes quite awhile to see any difference at all. I'm guessing for me that it's going to take at least twenty pounds, probably even thirty, before there's any difference in the way I look.

I tend to throw in the towel if it takes too long to see any progress.

What keeps you hangin' in until weight loss kicks in?
And what were some of the very first changes you noticed in yourself, whether anyone else could see them or not?


H8cake
09-01-2008, 03:47 PM
I hung in there because I didn't allow myself to think of giving up as an option. I decided that no matter how long it took I was doing this. My health is at stake this time and it was a do or die situation. I focused on the improving stamina from doing the treadmill 5 days a week. It took quite a while for others to notice, but that was ok with me. I'm always a little embarrassed about people noticing my size in any way so it was my own personal war for quite awhile. Small goals are very helpful as well. Take it ten pounds at a time, don't worry about the long term goal. It will come eventually if you keep reaching the short term goals. There are so many rewards along the way and enjoy those. Be patient, it's not a quick fix.

WebRover
09-01-2008, 03:58 PM
You may be motivated by seeing inches come off. Be sure to measure as well as weigh! It was at about 30 pounds before the first person noticed who didn't know I'd changed my eating. That reflected four holes in my belt - about 4 inches.

Also the Paper Towel Theory (http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=146593) helps explain why it seems to take so long before you see a change. Rest assured the difference is there. Often when you can't see it yet on the outside, health on the inside is dramatically improving (cholesterol levels, triglycerides, blood sugar, etc.)


djay
09-01-2008, 04:23 PM
If I gain 1 pound back then I have to loose 2 to get the scale moving down again. Pounds lost are hard to come by and alot of work. I don't want to work that hard to keep loosing the same pounds. I will never loos 100 lbs. if I don't loose 1.

It is an amazing feeling when people start to notice. Each pound that you loose gets you closer to that happening!

Hang in there!

Truffle
09-01-2008, 06:06 PM
You may be motivated by seeing inches come off. Be sure to measure as well as weigh! It was at about 30 pounds before the first person noticed who didn't know I'd changed my eating. That reflected four holes in my belt - about 4 inches.

Also the Paper Towel Theory (http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?t=146593) helps explain why it seems to take so long before you see a change. Rest assured the difference is there. Often when you can't see it yet on the outside, health on the inside is dramatically improving (cholesterol levels, triglycerides, blood sugar, etc.)

I love the Paper Towel Theory, and need to remind myself of it often. Thanks for posting it.

skinnyinsideout
09-01-2008, 08:31 PM
As everyone else said - hang in there! I read that paper towel analogy and wow! It really helped me see things in a new way. It will take you a while until you hear people noticing your loss and it iS hard. I went from 256 to 225 before I heard anything. Heck, even now people only say "Wow you're so tan!" because I am, but I'm also 61 pounds lighter!! I think the bigger we are the more invisible we are and you just have to do this for YOU - not them. Even though the compliments are motivating, so is a mini goal. Pick one and work towards it and celebrate when you reach it!!

FB
09-01-2008, 09:36 PM
It took a long while before any physical changes were apparent. By this time I sort of miss the past when no one commented on my appearance. Sometimes all of the attention can get... uncomfortable. I mean, I love being a superstar but it can really get crazy at friend or family gatherings.

Terrible confession - I didn't go to my husband's company picnic today because I just did not have the energy to deal with the comments. Isn't that awful? Luckily he didn't mind in the least and I got some much needed rest.

The first changes I noticed were my energy, definitely. I had a ton more energy just eating cleaner and attempting to exercise. The energy effected my moods for the better and so on. It was a great domino effect.

The first physical changes I noted were the way my clothes fit. Very early on one of my greatest changes I noticed were that my back fat rolls didn't hurt. That was awesome.

nelie
09-01-2008, 10:02 PM
Some of it is still perspective. Many times I still see myself as my 360 lb me. It is hard to register in your brain often.

fiberlover
09-01-2008, 10:03 PM
I didn't notice any difference in my appearance for 25-30 pounds when I went down my first pants size. For the first 10 pounds or so, it was like my little secret. I knew I was losing, but no one could really see it.
I also just felt better. The first thing I noticed was no more heartburn. I was popping Tums like candy before. It's funny, I cannot even remotely remember the last time I had heart burn. Seriously. I think it might have been last Christmas eve for our big dinner, where I chose to eat a lot of off plan foods.

Compliments on my weigh loss embarrass me. I like them, yet hate them. Isn't that funny? I do love compliments on my athleticism, though LOL! I love it when I can kick DH's butt on riding, or improving my jog time or lifting heavier. My mom commented on my biceps, of all things - and I was happy to flex for her :D .

It certainly is a long journey. It has taken me years, much slower than many people here, but I'm okay with that. The journey itself is worth a lot, don't ever overlook that. What you learn while you lose is what is going to keep the weight off after.

piper10
09-01-2008, 11:42 PM
I've lost 25 lbs. and I don't see a difference at all. But I can really tell a difference in the way my clothes fit.

Only one person has asked me if I've lost weight -- she said she could see it in my face. I wasn't exactly tickled. This comment came from a person who once remarked in a seminar setting, "We tend to associate with people of our own attractiveness level."

Anyway, I'm in this for the long haul. My next goal is always the next pound. I'm not looking beyond that.

FreeSpirit
09-02-2008, 12:03 AM
I'm kind of in the same position as you. At my weight I have to stay pretty much exactly on plan if I want to see any weightloss because I'm already at a normal weight and so close to my GW.

All I can tell you is to focus more on how your body is feeling. How good it feels to be nourishing and taking care of your body, and remember that the weight loss is a bonus to the feeling of good health.

SwimGirl
09-02-2008, 12:56 AM
Hmmm, great thread! I am wondering, how do you all deal with no losses, both in weight and measurements? I haven't really figured out how to deal with that just yet - its definitely the source of all my frustrations!

-Aimee

Ookpik
09-02-2008, 02:31 AM
I first started noticing my weight loss by how my clothes fit. My uniform pants were tight, and I used to have to suck my stomach in and hold my breath to get them buttoned up. They were size 50! I didn't weigh myself at first, but just took note of how much looser my clothes were gradually getting.

I'd say I had about 50 pounds gone before people started complimenting me. I live in a small town where everybody knows everybody else, and a typical day at work can bring about a dozen people complimenting me. Usually I like it, but it can be uncomfortable at times too. Especially if I happen to be standing near a co-worker who started a weight-loss journey the same time I did, is about the same size I was, but made very little progress. I find it uncomfortable because she looks uncomfortable, like this other person is (inadvertently) rubbing my weight loss into her face.

synger
09-02-2008, 08:50 AM
Hmmm, great thread! I am wondering, how do you all deal with no losses, both in weight and measurements? I haven't really figured out how to deal with that just yet - its definitely the source of all my frustrations!

-Aimee

I used to get all caught up in the scale and its numbers. And sometimes I still find myself weighing a couple times a day "to see how I'm doing", even though I KNOW that's self-defeating!

I try not to put my food into mydailyplate until the evening, so I'm not actually counting calories... or I'll start "figuring" how much I ate and how much I have left (or went over)... and that's not my plan anymore.

That sort of obsession to the numbers is what would get me SO discouraged and give up whenever I went "over" or I stopped "losing" (at the rate that I had arbitrarily given myself, which was inevitably too fast and thus destined to frustrate me).

Anyway, I'm really trying to focus more on "the next meal" and the clean food I'm going to eat and the healthy choices I'm going to make. Solid protein, whole grains, veg and fruit, no sugars or refined flours... And I try really hard not to think about calories or pounds or stuff like that. THe only number I really pay close attention to is protein grams, and that only at the end of the day when I record my food.

By focusing on the choices, and not the results, I find that it's a much more interactive way of eating and living. I mean, when I was focusing on calories and pounds lost, I felt "reactive"... like I'd put in my coins and pulled the handle and was waiting to see what the slot machine was going to "give" me. When I focus on the next meal and the next healthy choice, I'm not waiting for something to happen... I'm DOING it. I'm making the choice. I'm eating clean. I'm using that elliptical. I'm planning the meals. The choices will lead to the results, but I'm not focusing on the results... I'm focusing on the choices.

I feel like I'm having a hard time explaining this. *sighs* Sorry if I confused anyone.

fiberlover
09-02-2008, 09:05 AM
Hmmm, great thread! I am wondering, how do you all deal with no losses, both in weight and measurements? I haven't really figured out how to deal with that just yet - its definitely the source of all my frustrations!

-Aimee


Well - think back to one year ago today. Can you remember what you weighed, without looking at your journal? Was it up or down? Can you remember if you were on plan that week or not? I imagine you would be hard pressed to know.

So, view any week knowing that time passes, and it won't matter so much what that particular week was in terms of weight loss. We place such a big emphasis on the weigh in day that we lose site of the big picture.

I don't let blips in the scale get to me anymore. I understand there will be ups and downs. Sometimes more ups for a little while, but that doesn't mean I will stop trying.

thistoo
09-02-2008, 09:16 AM
Well - think back to one year ago today. Can you remember what you weighed, without looking at your journal? Was it up or down? Can you remember if you were on plan that week or not? I imagine you would be hard pressed to know.

So, view any week knowing that time passes, and it won't matter so much what that particular week was in terms of weight loss. We place such a big emphasis on the weigh in day that we lose site of the big picture.

I don't let blips in the scale get to me anymore. I understand there will be ups and downs. Sometimes more ups for a little while, but that doesn't mean I will stop trying.

This was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you.

WarMaiden
09-02-2008, 12:16 PM
I'm going on 40 pounds lost now. Which is very exciting. And I can definitely see the difference now when I look in the mirror, I can feel it in the fit of my clothes--just over the last 10 to 20 pounds I've been experiencing these things, so it didn't happen right away.

What DID happen right away was a lot of smaller things.

-- Much, much more energy and a better mood due to eliminating sugar and refined foods from my diet.
-- My legs stopped being all puffed up by the end of the day. Now my ankles stay skinny and pretty all the time.
-- My knees stopped hurting within a month. Much of that is due to dietary change, I am sure, and it's only improved further with the actual weight loss.
-- Better sleep. And now when I get enough sleep, I remember my dreams again.
-- Huge boost in mental clarity at all times.
-- Less daytime sleepiness and afternoon exhaustion.
-- Elimination of food cravings.
-- My appetite is very manageable. I don't have blood sugar crashes like I used to, and belly-hunger is no emergency.
-- Less PMS, and less cramping during periods.
-- My constant acne disappeared completely--I've hardly had so much as a tiny pimple since changing my diet.
-- The rate of growth of facial hair is half what it was before.
-- My hair is shinier and prettier.
-- My eyes even look better--not all tired and dull anymore.
-- I used to pretty often have allergic-type sneezing fits, and those have almost completely gone away. I think I've had maybe 1 or 2 in the 4 months since changing my diet.
-- I used to have occasional issues with incontinence while sneezing, laughing, or at other times, this seems to be almost completely gone now.
-- Sex is better and more interesting because my husband has also eliminated sugar from his diet, which has gotten rid of certain aches and pains he had which made us unable to partake in some activities.

Well, I think that's a pretty good list. And note that while I've lost nearly 40 pounds, I still have over 100 to go! So I do believe things will just get better and better.

twilit tera
09-02-2008, 12:56 PM
I have around 130 pounds to take off, more or less, and I can't say there has been much difference in how I look or feel after losing the first 15.

What I do notice is how I feel as a direct result of the steps I'm taking to drop the weight. Since I've started eating more carefully, exericising, and taking my Advocare supplements I've noticed that:

1. I'm happier
2. I'm physically more strong
3. I'm more productive at home and school
4. I think more clearly

These benefits alone are enough to keep me going, but in addition I am weighing and testing my fat levels weekly. When a little more comes off, I brag to EVERYBODY. (Er, everybody in my family and circle of close friends, not the lady standing next to me in the checkout line at Costco.) ;)

I refuse to give much thought to the 100+ pounds that will have come off "eventually" but on the improvement in my health that the changes I'm making right now are giving me, and the few pounds of fat I'm working off this week.

I'm using both the weight and the fat monitor to measure my progress, but I'm also celibrating the everyday little victories over the junk food and temptation to sit on my rear all day.

Tera

Trazey34
09-02-2008, 06:48 PM
I was bigger than you so I know how you feel - as trite and stupid as it sounds, hang in there, it'll get better.

I ALWAYS gave up!! I don't mean 20 lbs later, i mean after a WEEK!! Like, 'wow i ate healthily for 5 whole days - sure i abused my body for 25 years, but 5 whole days without mcdonald's?? how can i NOT be skinny now?? i have to keep going????" hahaha silly but that was my reality for a LONG time.

Finally, it hit me that it's not about a week, a month, a year even. It's day after boring day - like housework. There's a bit of a payoff but you have to do it every single day forever LOL Kind of a chore, but worth it in the long run.

I noticed it in my clothes long before the scale caught up. Actually, there was one 5 WEEK period where the scale would be exactly the same - i mean down to the POINT 66, and my clothes were a lot smaller, i was eating and exercising and i couldn't figure it out - i thought ' i must be genetically different from every other human and lose weight differently" Turns out it was a dying battery in my scale hahah just kept repeating the last number. hahah thinking about how i felt that day makes me laugh - so excited to see a different number, and how close i came to tossing it out into the street ha!

so hang in there baby!! you're not genetically different from anyone else, if you keep plugging away at it day after day, you'll get there!!!

jennisue
09-02-2008, 10:24 PM
WOW what a great thread because I think we have all been in this situation--
I lost over 35 pounds and was wearing the same clothes -- I have lost almost 60 pounds and people still don't notice-- but at 5'2 I am still obese by a lot-- I can feel a difference--

I am stuck too I have seemed to pause even though I added in a lot more exercise but can't seem to move below 200 lbs -- I weigh in at 9 am Wend-- and keep praying and having faith that I will get to below 200 -- I think that having mini goals and accomplishing them has helped me.

I also keep visualising myself thin and healthy -- it helps me make better choices (not close to perfect) but much better--

Hang in and celebrate your accomplishments-

Truffle
09-03-2008, 07:19 AM
I used to get all caught up in the scale and its numbers. And sometimes I still find myself weighing a couple times a day "to see how I'm doing", even though I KNOW that's self-defeating!

I try not to put my food into mydailyplate until the evening, so I'm not actually counting calories... or I'll start "figuring" how much I ate and how much I have left (or went over)... and that's not my plan anymore.

That sort of obsession to the numbers is what would get me SO discouraged and give up whenever I went "over" or I stopped "losing" (at the rate that I had arbitrarily given myself, which was inevitably too fast and thus destined to frustrate me).

Anyway, I'm really trying to focus more on "the next meal" and the clean food I'm going to eat and the healthy choices I'm going to make. Solid protein, whole grains, veg and fruit, no sugars or refined flours... And I try really hard not to think about calories or pounds or stuff like that. THe only number I really pay close attention to is protein grams, and that only at the end of the day when I record my food.

By focusing on the choices, and not the results, I find that it's a much more interactive way of eating and living. I mean, when I was focusing on calories and pounds lost, I felt "reactive"... like I'd put in my coins and pulled the handle and was waiting to see what the slot machine was going to "give" me. When I focus on the next meal and the next healthy choice, I'm not waiting for something to happen... I'm DOING it. I'm making the choice. I'm eating clean. I'm using that elliptical. I'm planning the meals. The choices will lead to the results, but I'm not focusing on the results... I'm focusing on the choices.

I feel like I'm having a hard time explaining this. *sighs* Sorry if I confused anyone.
This is what I'm trying to do--eat real, whole foods, not the fake, diet stuff. Your attitude is great!

I'm going on 40 pounds lost now. Which is very exciting. And I can definitely see the difference now when I look in the mirror, I can feel it in the fit of my clothes--just over the last 10 to 20 pounds I've been experiencing these things, so it didn't happen right away.

What DID happen right away was a lot of smaller things.

-- Much, much more energy and a better mood due to eliminating sugar and refined foods from my diet.
-- My legs stopped being all puffed up by the end of the day. Now my ankles stay skinny and pretty all the time.
-- My knees stopped hurting within a month. Much of that is due to dietary change, I am sure, and it's only improved further with the actual weight loss.
-- Better sleep. And now when I get enough sleep, I remember my dreams again.
-- Huge boost in mental clarity at all times.
-- Less daytime sleepiness and afternoon exhaustion.
-- Elimination of food cravings.
-- My appetite is very manageable. I don't have blood sugar crashes like I used to, and belly-hunger is no emergency.
-- Less PMS, and less cramping during periods.
-- My constant acne disappeared completely--I've hardly had so much as a tiny pimple since changing my diet.
-- The rate of growth of facial hair is half what it was before.
-- My hair is shinier and prettier.
-- My eyes even look better--not all tired and dull anymore.
-- I used to pretty often have allergic-type sneezing fits, and those have almost completely gone away. I think I've had maybe 1 or 2 in the 4 months since changing my diet.
-- I used to have occasional issues with incontinence while sneezing, laughing, or at other times, this seems to be almost completely gone now.
-- Sex is better and more interesting because my husband has also eliminated sugar from his diet, which has gotten rid of certain aches and pains he had which made us unable to partake in some activities.

Well, I think that's a pretty good list. And note that while I've lost nearly 40 pounds, I still have over 100 to go! So I do believe things will just get better and better.
All your improvements are wonderful, and just what I needed to hear.

I was bigger than you so I know how you feel - as trite and stupid as it sounds, hang in there, it'll get better.

I ALWAYS gave up!! I don't mean 20 lbs later, i mean after a WEEK!! Like, 'wow i ate healthily for 5 whole days - sure i abused my body for 25 years, but 5 whole days without mcdonald's?? how can i NOT be skinny now?? i have to keep going????" hahaha silly but that was my reality for a LONG time.

Finally, it hit me that it's not about a week, a month, a year even. It's day after boring day - like housework. There's a bit of a payoff but you have to do it every single day forever LOL Kind of a chore, but worth it in the long run.

I noticed it in my clothes long before the scale caught up. Actually, there was one 5 WEEK period where the scale would be exactly the same - i mean down to the POINT 66, and my clothes were a lot smaller, i was eating and exercising and i couldn't figure it out - i thought ' i must be genetically different from every other human and lose weight differently" Turns out it was a dying battery in my scale hahah just kept repeating the last number. hahah thinking about how i felt that day makes me laugh - so excited to see a different number, and how close i came to tossing it out into the street ha!

so hang in there baby!! you're not genetically different from anyone else, if you keep plugging away at it day after day, you'll get there!!!
You are SO right about this being for the rest of our lives. I always give up too, if I don't see progress after all my efforts on the first day!
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I might not have explained myself very well in my original post. It's not the compliments from others that I'm after, because I don't like being the center of attention, and getting comments will probably be uncomfortable after awhile.

I was more wondering how to get MYSELF to hang in there, without giving up, until the weight loss started. If I don't see a drop in weight the next day, I figure what's the use and give up. I don't suppose there is any "magic" method. As said by people in previous posts, we just have to DO it!

Thanks for all the great replies in this thread!

GirlyGirlSebas
09-03-2008, 07:45 AM
What keeps you hangin' in until weight loss kicks in?
Hope. I see others doing this and it gives me hope that I can find my groove and bring home the skinny, too!

And what were some of the very first changes you noticed in yourself, whether anyone else could see them or not?
I slept better, was less depressed,and had more energy.