40-Somethings - I am shocked and embarrassed

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08-03-2008, 08:49 AM
:( Well in my introduction a week ago I stated that I was too afraid to step on the scale. I estimated my weight at 200 and wanted to lose 50 pounds. Well this morning I got the nerve to step on the scale. I am NOT 200 but 222!! I am hysterical. How could I have gotten like this? :cry: I am more than motivated, I am just ANGRY !! I guess it is my own damn fault because if I had stepped on a scale I would have realized that I was out of control. So now the fight begins............ Diet, Exercise and lots of help from this site. So anyone out there can send me their thoughts and all the help I will need to make this happen.

08-03-2008, 09:10 AM
Well lets turn this into something positive, you can now change your life and yourself so you will no longer have to feel like that again.

Do you have any kind of plan?

08-03-2008, 09:21 AM
I am going to count calories, load the house up with veggies and high fiber cereals and oatmeal, low fat dairy, I am going to prepare as much fish as I can afford and then the second choice will be chicken. I am reading all this wonderful information on this site and it looks like I have to stay around 1200 to 1400 calories a day. High fiber and low fat snacks inbetween meals seems to be important. And of course, lots of water! I ask for lots of tips and advice PLEASE !

08-03-2008, 09:47 AM
Suzzy, We've all been where you are this morning. Take deep breaths and get ahold of yourself. There's going to be no help in being angry with yourself. The wrong choices are in the past. My best advice would be to love yourself right where you are right now...I know so Dr. Phil, but it's true. If you don't cut yourself some slack, who will? My second best tip is to add walking to your program...even if it's just around the block at first. Walking has really helped me regulate my mood, burn calories, strengthen my back...etc plus it's cheap and gets easier every time you do it.
Hang in there!

08-03-2008, 12:22 PM
join the club.I stepped on a scale for the first time in a long time last month and was shocked to see i was 210.but after a month of trying to get started,i have finally done it.I jave already lost a few pounds and have even begun exercising .Good luck.

08-03-2008, 12:25 PM
I am also new here. you We have alot in common except that I
seem to be addicted to my scale. When I see an increase, it
drives me crazy. Lately, I have been really trying to stay off of it.
They say you should weigh yourself once a week.
In the meantime, I totally agree with the others-what's done is done.
Try to consider this a new beginning!! Like you I hope to get support
and advise from all the people at 3fc. :hug:

08-03-2008, 12:38 PM
Welcome to the new girls.

Pop in the new chat thread for August. Lots of support and good company.

08-03-2008, 12:38 PM
It is good that you are using the shock as motivation rather than defeat!

The scale is a poor measure of progress anyway. You know what you want your body to look like and feel like and the real point is that you are not there right now...but you are doing something about it!

Good for you!


08-03-2008, 06:26 PM
You will all be proud of me. I just came home from a baby shower, for an Italian girl..........Can we say "Homemake italian cookies" !!!! But I did NOT touch a one !! No cake, no cookies. I had a LARGE salad, a piece of chicken and some raw veggies with dip and I asked what the dip was and it was Greek yogurt with seasoning. It was quite good. SO I did it...........I was not tempted ! YEAH !

08-03-2008, 06:40 PM
Well done Suzzy. I'm thinking pasta lots of it and cannolis.

It's always hard to resist when you're at things like that but it sounds like you made good choices.

08-03-2008, 06:52 PM
All I can say is never give up!! I wish you the best of luck and always come to this site when you need support or advice.

08-04-2008, 09:01 PM
I think we have all been there. It will be a slow process, but if you stick with it and make lifestyle changes, you can lose the weight (this is what I keep telling myself, LOL)

08-04-2008, 10:59 PM
You CAN do this!!! I strongly recommend using a journal to hold yourself accountable with the calories AND exercise. Yes - start exercising NOW. Don't wait. Do what you can (I started with walking, weightlifting, and yoga). It will make a big difference. You may actually lose more slowly at first, but - overall - it wll really help!

Enjoy the journey - come back here for support.

08-05-2008, 11:42 AM
Hi Suzzyy, I started a plan 3 weeks ago when I got on the doctor's scale and saw 222, I love Italian food, good job with the shower.

08-05-2008, 01:07 PM
Hey Clayr

We sound like we have the same height and weight !!! Keep me posted on your journey. I am pluggin along. It has been a full week for me. I think I have lost water weight cuz my pants feel a bit different but I am walking 45 minutes a night. Good luck to you and ALL !

08-05-2008, 04:12 PM
SUzzy, WTG on making good choices at the shower. It sounds like you're right back on track!

08-06-2008, 07:08 PM
:( Well in my introduction a week ago I stated that I was too afraid to step on the scale. I estimated my weight at 200 and wanted to lose 50 pounds. Well this morning I got the nerve to step on the scale. I am NOT 200 but 222!! I am hysterical. How could I have gotten like this? :cry:

Suzy, you sound so much like me! I have been in denial for an awfully long time. My weight is hovering around 220. On one hand, I am very much of the "love yourself as you are" school of self-acceptance thought... but on the other hand, I realize that this weight is not doing me any good!! My joints feel achy, and I can imagine this will only get worse as I get older. I also see bad patterns that need to be broken.

Great job at the shower! Yay you!! :carrot:

Now... if I can just get through tonight with no more food. (just had dinner)

It doesn't help matters that my husband can eat like a teenager and not gain a pound... or that I have two teenage boys and a preteen girl who also can eat me out of house and home without it showing... (all are lean and healthy) Seems it's just me and the chunky cat who have issues.

Anyhow, keep up the good work!


08-06-2008, 11:04 PM
hopefuldreamer: Try not to be discouraged, daily I find myself getting stronger and stronger with my motivation.
I just found that days turn into weeks and weeks into months and we all want to be healthy but trying to get out and walk, or buy that video to exercise to just never happens. The floor needs washing, the sheets need changing and we put ourselves on the back burner. WELL NO MORE !!! I am now putting ME first and going out for that walk, and taking time to cut up some fruit salad to take to work. We have to do it for us. I look at some of the success stories and hope that someday soon mine will be up there as well. Lets do this TOGETHER !! Suzy

08-07-2008, 12:43 AM
I hear you suzy, I put on blinders and walk around the mess to go work-out.

Hopefuldreamer, I've got a 13 year old, man can that kid eat, and my husband never gains weight. I wish he would excercise more though, thin doesn't neccessarily mean healthy, especially in your 40's and up.

I have a little sausage dog that has weight issues :)

We can get down to onederland and beyond. :carrot:

08-07-2008, 01:16 AM
Welcome and good luck!

08-07-2008, 09:35 AM
Thanks so much for the encouraging words. Last night was mixed. At 7ish (after calling my mother!) I ate 2 small cookies (storebought chocolate chip things... chipsahoy type), felt guilty, then exercised AS PLANNED. 20 min. straight on stairstepper working pretty intensely, followed by 10 min of stretching/yoga. No more food!!

I'm taking it one day at a time. Okay... so I ate cookies. It's not like I expect to go through life never ever ever eating a cookie. I am not doomed. Today is before me, fresh and new. After I get kid 1 off to band camp (everyone else is away this week... just the two of us are here) I'll hit the stepper, listen to my hypnosis cd, and get on with life and work.

Thank you for the support! It's right backatcha. :hug:


08-08-2008, 09:56 PM
Good stuff about the shower!

One day at a time!

Hope to see you around!

08-14-2008, 11:32 PM

Congratulations on shocking yourself into motivation rather than defeat. Several years ago, I had been dieting and exercising for several months. My clothes were fitting a bit looser, and I thought it was time to step on the scale and move on from there. BIG MISTAKE!! When I looked at the scale and it said 297 lbs. I fell into a deep dark black hole with lots of chips, cookies and snack cakes at the bottom of it. That is my highest known weight, although I am positive I have gone well over that. This most recent time, I have refused to step on a scale at all. I am judging completely by how my body looks and feels, and how my clothes are fitting. Please don't feel shocked or embarrassed. Just know you can do it!

08-17-2008, 12:32 PM
Hi Suzy,
I'm new here too but not new to dieting. New to beginning AGAIN tho :(
I have to agree with everything everyone else said. I made myself a journal and count several areas of what I eat. I've researched and talked to others about the RDA of many things and do my best to keep my daily intake above, below of within those areas. Recently, I've started using whole grain breads, and decreasing my carbs. (I LOVE CARBS--and have lost weight with them before, but my friend has scolded me and made me TRY this--LOL) it seems to be working much better!
I count points, Calories, Fat, Fiber, Carbs, water, protein. It keeps me really accountable for my choices and I made MUCH better choices.

Keep that motivation!!!!!! Anything is obtainable and you are well on your way!

08-17-2008, 12:54 PM
Just loving all the positive energy here... Way to go all of us!

08-19-2008, 06:18 PM
WTG SUZY.....you took the BIGGEST STEP....getting on the scale and deciding to do something about it~!

KUDOS TO YOU ~! :carrot:

I too felt the same way when I got on the scale in January 2008....I *NEVER* thought my weight was as out of control as it was....and my hubby, bless his heart, didn't want to "hurt my feelings" and never said "boo" about how *wide* I was becoming....

Anyway....stay focused, stay POSITIVE, and take "baby steps"....the weight didn't "pile" on overnight and it will take more than overnight for it to go away...I find WW easy to follow and easy to stay on track with. Decide the program that works for you and DO IT ~!


P.S. Feel free to drop me a line anytime...I love chatting and exchanging dieting and cooking light ideas~!!

Hermit Girl
08-20-2008, 11:32 AM
Denial with the scale is to blame from me crawling out of my slender body into a fat one. I remember I thought it was healthier not to be obsessed with weight, and tossed my scale. I gained about 10 pounds in a couple of months, and it went up even when I started weighing again. I know that there is a whole philosophy behind not weighing in, but I don't see how that serves anything but to aid in denial if you have a weight problem. Might be fine for a stable slim person, but not for those of us who are prone to rapid weight gain.

I now weigh every day, whether I'm up for dieting or not. It's my way of Facing Who I Am on a daily basis. I even went as far as recently telling my husband how much I actually weigh, and now the number isn't such a big issue to fear, but the lifestyle is what has got to change. I say to weigh everyday in order to be accountable to yourself, and exercize (at least walk 20minutes) everyday to be responsible to yourself , regardless of where your head is at with the food.

Stay loving yourself, it's very important, and congratulations.