100 lb. Club - Anyone dealt with... Sabotage?! (Need to vent)




Star2Be
07-24-2008, 03:22 PM
Hello everyone! I've searched around on here but haven't yet found a thread that sounded like what I'm going through right now. As some of you may know, I am one of the younger members on here (18--19 in about 2 weeks!). Because I am so young, I'm living with my parents over this summer, while my school is on summer vacation. My dad commutes (it's a weird situation), so 95% of the time, it's just my mom and me in the house... We've never gotten along so well, but for the most part, we have a mutual sense of respect/leaving each other alone. However, now that I'm starting on my weight loss, we are definitely having a problem and I don't know what to do.

It all started last Friday, when I had a doctor's appt, which basically jump-started my plan. As we left the appt, I thought to myself that I really had to do something about my weight, and I've had unending willpower since then (woo-hoo!). My mom was normal and didn't seem to notice that I was eating healthier for the next couple days, but finally on Sunday I told her about my decision to get healthier and asked her about getting a scale for the house (which had been forbidden up to this point--don't ask me why). And I've noticed that ever since then, it seems like she's always trying to offer me foods that are really bad for me, or otherwise trying to get me off of my plan!

There are countless examples: though she never ever cooks (seriously), the other night she insisted that she wanted to make me spaghetti and garlic bread for dinner; the night that we bought the scale, she made a giant sheet of brownies (for no apparent reason); we went grocery shopping a couple days ago and as I was picking out my favorite healthy foods, she went to the bakery and picked out two giant frosted cookies ("One for you, and one for me!"); then as we were driving home from the grocery store, I happened to mention that I was feeling a little hungry, and she immediately said "Do you need me to stop off at Taco Bell or something on the way home?"; and just yesterday she was determined to go out for dinner, and when I said I had already eaten, she insisted that we go out for lunch tomorrow instead. Every time I turn, she's trying to shove something unhealthy in my face!

My problem seems very different from some of the other situations I've read about on here, such husbands trying to sabotage their wives out of fear that they'll get "too" thin and leave them or something (silly men!). I don't get why my own mother would want to sabotage me... I don't see how this could just be a coincidence, and these are things that were never a part of our routine before, and even though I have made it explicitly clear that I am trying to lose weight, she keeps doing it! And I don't think it's because she's worried about me, because she sees me make my meals and eating every day, so she must know that I AM eating. I feel hurt and confused that she seems to be trying to mess this up for me.

Luckily, I must have some kind of amazing will-power switch deep within me that switched on the day of my doctor appt, because I have not touched any of the brownies, cookies, spaghetti/garlic bread, or any other foods that she's paraded in front of me. Honestly, I'm taking pride in that, because if I had taken everything she's offered me in the past week, I would have gained 20 lbs instead of losing 10! Sheesh. Anyways, has anyone else experienced anything like this? Is there anything I can do about it? I'm not worried about my will-power, really, but I guess I just don't get why my mother would want to do this to me. :?:

Thanks for reading my rants!


PhotoChick
07-24-2008, 03:25 PM
That has to be difficult and I'm in awe that you have the will power you do. Garlic bread ... big weakness for me! :)

But seriously - have you tried talking to your mom? Actually sitting down and saying "I am making a commitment to be healthy and lose weight and I don't understand why you're trying to make me eat things that are unhealthy and fattening."

I'm a big believer in getting things out in the open.

.

Kitegirl24
07-24-2008, 03:46 PM
You might want to glance at this thread:

http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/showthread.php?p=2213485#post2213485

My feeling is that she MIGHT be "threatened" in some way by the thought of you losing weight. Some parents define themselves in terms of their relation to their children, and by allowing you to lose weight, she is losing part of her individuality since she sees herself as thinner than you. If you both are about the same size, maybe she doesn't want others to view her as "the fat one." (My mom and I are the same size, so there is always some *friendly* competition between us - I feel like I should be in better shape, since I don't have the excuse of an aged metabolism! :lol:) Just a theory, but I completely agree with PhotoChick - you need to have a discussion with her about this, and put your foot down! Let your mom know that you are serious about being healthy, and hopefully she will see the light and support you.

You know, she might not even realize that she's sabotaging your efforts; it could be an unconscious mechanism. Either way, though, I would talk to her and express how important this is for you. Ask her if she would like to take part in your journey with you, by exercising together or going shopping for healthier foods.

Let us know how it goes!! Good luck :)


JulieJ08
07-24-2008, 03:55 PM
PhotoChick's advice is very good. And even if you don't get a great response at first, I'd broach the subject again in a week or two. Might take a few tries for her to be more comfortable and open up.

LetsWorkItOut
07-24-2008, 03:56 PM
Even the sweetest, nicest people are capable of sabotage. I agree with kitegirl24 that she may feel threatened and may even be doing this unintentionally. I would have a serious talk with her.

A former friend of mine had a similar problem with her mother. She was trying to lose weight, and her mother went to great methods to try and sabotage her efforts. One morning she walked into the kitchen and saw her swapping a package of low cal/fat muffins with ones that were loaded with fat and calories. It's kind of sick, really.

fatfrog
07-24-2008, 04:14 PM
Totally agree with Protochick -- that was actually my first thought after I read your post, before I got on to the rest (that your mom might feel some sense of competition or panic at her comparative weight).

To put a more positive spin on it, it might be that she wants you to feel like it's ok to be bigger and you are still beautiful and that it is ok to eat garlic bread, brownies, etc. If that is the case, an open discussion is definitely in order. Maybe you can shop and eat together.

LetsWorkitOut: that muffin switching is sick. It's one thing to offer people unhealthy foods to their face; it's a whole another thing to sabotage them behid their back!

KLK
07-24-2008, 04:34 PM
My parents have always been pretty supportive, but sometimes I get eye-rolls when I go workout or when I don't eat something "fun" bc it's not good for me, etc. For lots of parents, seeing their child try to change anything ab themselves is threatening to them -- you're exerting your independence, making personal choices for yourself, etc. Once you lose weight, other things might change too -- you might get new confidence to go new places, try new things, etc. etc.

Also, speaking personally, whenever my mother rolls her eyes at my eating habits or exercising, it's usually bc I've opted to do something that *I* want to do over what she wants me to do (i.e. "Let's go have dinner" "No, I'm going to work out first"). I think she doesn't like it when something I want takes priority over what she wants me to do.

Trazey34
07-24-2008, 04:59 PM
I think polite but firm responses after EVERY offer might help -- as in "oh thanks for the garlic bread mom, but I can't right now, remember I'm eating healthier?" "wow that cookie looks awesome but I'm sticking to my commitment to be healthy remember?" just a little reminder, but after EVERY attempt and I think she'd get the hint.... head to head might be too confrontational otherwise??

PenChick
07-24-2008, 05:17 PM
i'm guilty of sabotaging...i did it to my sister when we were younger and looking back on it i kind of feel bad. she would obsess about counting calories when she was at like 130 or 140lbs at 5'5 and a desperate need to be thinner. Well, i would be the one rolling my eyes and saying whatever and then wink at my mom and continuously give her a hard time. i would say i did it because i was probably jealous of her being thin and me being the fat one. Plus it made me feel guilty that i wasnt eating healthy. But now i am completely supportive of my sister and she with me, afterall, she is my bestfriend.

I think you should talk to your mom and tell her what she is doing. Maybe she will join with you on your quest...

GirlyGirlSebas
07-24-2008, 05:31 PM
Be honest with your Mom. Tell her how it makes you feel....hurt, angry, sad, exhausted. Try to get her to see how her actions are hurting your future healthy self. As a Mom, I know that I would never intentionally hurt my daughters in any way. I don't think she realizes that she is hurting you. Tell her you need her help. She will appreciate still being needed.

tater tash
07-24-2008, 06:36 PM
Sounds like a food pusher to me. I had a friend once who I told I was dieting and she would constantly try to get me to eat something unhealthy. For example, one night I was in her flat writing papers and she got Haribo Strawberry Gummies and offered them to me.. I said No thank you and she was like "OH thats right you're on a "diet", but how could you resist these?? eat one.. eat one.. eat one.." then she put a big handful right no my laptop.
Friends are such great support sometimes!

I agree with the other girls she may be threatened or intimidated. I believe my friend did it because she couldn't get the willpower to diet herself.

Does your mom need to eat healthier? Maybe you can use this as a major bonding tool while you're home from school. Go to a cooking class together where they teach you healthy cooking techniques, or look up local restaurants that are known for their healthy menu and make it a girls night out. If you suggest these kind of things she may get a better impression of how serious you are.

Good luck and MAJOR kudos on your willpower! Don't let it go!

:)

Kae
07-25-2008, 11:14 AM
Congrats on your success! That's great.

As far as your situation, I can relate. I just turned 25 but have been dieting off and on since age 17 (well, really as long as I can remember). I'd be strong willed and lose weight and I find that my family is very threatened by this. ...I know this because now that I am the fattest family member again they have told me this to my face.

My sisters can be my best friends and worst enemies when it comes to weight loss. They tell me I should lose weight and be healthy... they are supportive-- that is until I start to get closer to their own weight and they feel threatened by it...

My Mom has also done it and after a while I did talk to her about it. She refuses to stop buying junk food; we have more candy and junk food than in any house you have ever been in!-- (it's in cupboards, drawers, in candy jars, on the kitchen counter tops, on the livingroom table, in the freezer... not to mention an entire drawer in our fridge and an entire top shelf in our fridge!) My Mom says that she buys it because she "likes to have it around in case she wants a little treat." The problem is.. she doesn't eat it, we do.. and then she feels the need to buy more. On the upside, even though my Mom still stocks the house to the brim with naughty snacks, she has been on occassion picking up fruit and bringing it home.

... Since starting over this past week I have been doing my best to avoid the treats staring me in the face. I've really been trying to be better about saying no when offered food.

Stick with what you are doing-- continue to refuse the junk-- and they'll take the hint eventually... or if they don't then at least they'll know you are stronger than they thought.

kimmie2bethin
07-25-2008, 11:29 AM
As I was reading your thread, I was thinking.. "wow, I can relate to her 100%". I too am on the younger side, but a bit older than you. I'm 22.

My mom is the SAME exact way. I moved back home about a year ago. I have a little sister who is like 5'6" and weighs a whole 110 pounds, size 3, the whole 9 yards..

Anyway, her and I butt heads like your mom and you do. We pretty much stay away from eachother. My father works all the time and is never home... the same deal.

There is NEVER anything healthy in our house.. and she cooks super unhealthy too.

The other night, we were sitting at dinner and I had made something healthy and she was telling me how concerned she was about my weight. Then the one time my father is home, he chimes in.. and they compare me to my little sister. It just brings me down and de-motivates me even more. (As they are sitting there eating mac and cheese and ribs btw...)

My mother isn't a skinny person, but she weighs a good 20 pounds less than me and is constantly throwing it in my face.

Thanks to my great boyfriend, he said to turn that around and put her putting me down into good energy to stay motivated. In all honestly, she is probably trying to unintentionally ruin your motivation because she is jealous of you. My mother has been jealous of me pretty much my whole life.. It's sad really, but true. Just try to stay on track, buy your own things for dinner if you can, and tell your mom if she loves you, she will respect the fact you are trying to get healthy. Hopefully this helps a bit, and if you need someone to vent to, don't hesitate to send me any messages. I'm in the same boat as you are.

Tammy73
07-25-2008, 11:35 AM
I agree with what has been said about talking to your mother.
You need to let her know how this makes you feel. People can sabotage for all kinds of reasons but it doesn't really matter what her motive or reason is -
that's her issue. What really matters is how it's making you feel. You need to be true to yourself and express your feelings to her and keep doing it until
she gets it. You deserve to be respected and supported in this journey and one of the best ways to improve your self esteem (which strengthens your resolve to keep going at what you want) is to honour your own feelings and emotions and let people know when something hurts you.
That's just my two sense on the issue.
Congrats on your will power and you should pat yourself on the back for how well you've been doing so far!!!
Tammy

KLK
07-25-2008, 11:53 AM
I'm an only child, but I always imagined being compared negatively to a sister by your parents must be SO hurtful :hug:


The other night, we were sitting at dinner and I had made something healthy and she was telling me how concerned she was about my weight. Then the one time my father is home, he chimes in.. and they compare me to my little sister. It just brings me down and de-motivates me even more. (As they are sitting there eating mac and cheese and ribs btw...)
.

SuchAPrettyFace
07-26-2008, 01:43 AM
I think polite but firm responses after EVERY offer might help -- as in "oh thanks for the garlic bread mom, but I can't right now, remember I'm eating healthier?" "wow that cookie looks awesome but I'm sticking to my commitment to be healthy remember?" just a little reminder, but after EVERY attempt and I think she'd get the hint.... head to head might be too confrontational otherwise??

YES!!!!! EVERY time! Be consistent! No, I'm eating healthy, now, remember? Thank you, but no. You have my share!

Star2Be
07-26-2008, 03:15 AM
Thank you so much to everyone for your responses. My mom actually is a bit of a larger woman, too, so it definitely seems plausible that she might just be jealous of my willpower. She knows that I've tried to lose weight before, but I've never been so successful or had such strong willpower before. So I guess she just thinks that I'll give up on this soon, too, so it won't be that hard to tempt me. For example, the other day we were shopping and she mentioned that she wanted to buy some tortilla chips. She knows for a fact that tortilla chips (with salsa!) is my favorite snack EVER, so if anything would test my willpower, that'd be it. Naturally I think great, this should be fun, so I casually say "ok, but I'm not going to eat any of them" and so she nastily says, "oh, then I guess we can't get them, because I know that if it's in the house, you'll eat it!" ...Honestly?! I think everything I've eaten for the past week or so is a pretty good indication that that is NOT true! Plus, if she's so "sure" about that, what's her reason for trying to feed me so much junk? Grrrrr.

Then what do you know, I came home tonight to find that while I was gone (only for a few hours!) she made both a couple loaves of banana bread AND this french-toast-casserole dish (one of her specialties)! This is a woman who only bakes on holidays! I can't even wait to see what she does for my birthday in a couple weeks. :rolleyes:

It feels so weird to see her acting this way, but there doesn't seem to be much I can do about it except what's been suggested--politely decline and remind her of my goals, until she (hopefully) gets the hint. AND continue to celebrate the fact that I STILL haven't touched any of the stuff she's offered! Hopefully she'll get tired of this game eventually--there's no way she can keep this up for forever, right? Heh. And in a couple months I'll be back at school and there won't be anyone pushing food on me anymore! Yea! :hat:

Thanks so much to everyone for your support... This may sound corny, but I honestly don't know if I'd be able to get through this without this website--both for the support and for the great distraction it provides. Hehe. You all are my heroes!!

HardCandy
07-26-2008, 11:13 AM
I've had my share of food pushers..........misery loves company yanno. Sometimes it gets ridiculously hard to refuse but the feeling of getting through it without touching the forbidden foods is soooo amazing.

My mom and her boyfriend would like to lose some weight, they've wanted to for.... awhile now. And they always ask me how I did it, what do I eat, what do I do... etc. And I'm always happy to help them anyway I can. But the thing is, they don't listen to me so it frustrates me so much when they complain that they aren't losing anything, their clothes are still tight....... For example. I went over to my parent's house last night for dinner. We were going to grill out steak..and have vegetables. Sounded great to me. Well, I get there and they are drinking mixed drinks of some sort. He offered me a drink, I declined and he asked me why? "It would mess up my intake for today foodwise." His response was: "There's nothing in Vodka." I thought my head was going to explode, LOL. You aren't drinking straight vodka!!!!! You are drinking some strawberry concoction that is probably loaded with sugar and calories!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! *smacks forehead* Then after dinner, he pulls out a box of weight watchers ice cream things and offers me one, I said No Thanks because I was full.... well yanno what, he ended up eating THREE of them... and when my mom said something to him about it, he said "Oh but they're diet food so it doesn't matter." What?? LOL

I love to help people. But sometimes people need to learn how to help themselves. I didn't lose this much weight EASILY. It was never easy and if it didn't take any effort, would anyone be overweight? I just can't seem to get through to them. They tell me they are "doing what I do"...... and I just want to scream.

Sorry for going off on a rant.... it just reminded me that there are always people telling me that *a little bit* won't hurt.. and *It's okay to eat this because......* I think I know what works for me by now.....

djay
07-26-2008, 12:21 PM
I agree with the others about having a talk with your mom...but would add that... if she is open to the idea...You might want to enlist her as a diet buddy. Maybe she would enjoy being included in what you are doing. That would do away with the jealousy. It could be good for you both and maybe bring you closer together.

It's worth a try...

SuchAPrettyFace
07-27-2008, 02:36 AM
My mom actually is a bit of a larger woman, too

Now it all makes sense. She is going to lose her eating buddy & also what if she is still big & you've lost weight? Then the pressure is on her to lose as well. ;)

He offered me a drink, I declined and he asked me why? "It would mess up my intake for today foodwise." His response was: "There's nothing in Vodka." I thought my head was going to explode, LOL. You aren't drinking straight vodka!!!!! You are drinking some strawberry concoction that is probably loaded with sugar and calories!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! *smacks forehead* Then after dinner, he pulls out a box of weight watchers ice cream things and offers me one, I said No Thanks because I was full.... well yanno what, he ended up eating THREE of them... and when my mom said something to him about it, he said "Oh but they're diet food so it doesn't matter." What?? LOL

hahaha, wow. I can't stand when people question me about my food. Hate it! :) You did very well & that is hysterical about the 3 ice cream sandwiches.

GradPhase
07-27-2008, 02:50 AM
I'm in the same situation at my sister's house for the summer. I cannot WAIT to go back to college. For now, I've mostly given up the battle, and I'll kick it up in to high gear when I get back home to school. There I'll have a cafeteria with short-order cook (he grills chicken breasts on request, so I can have a salad with grilled chicken) and access to a fitness center. I also get my RAs and roommates involved so it's a great support group.


But the fact that you've got so much willpower is enviable! I wish I had the patience to deal with my sabotaging sister as well as you are with your mom.

Hopefully the rest of the summer goes by quicker.

Pandora123a
07-27-2008, 02:59 AM
Star2be,

I suspect your mom may be very anxious about losing you. Weight loss can be threatening. If eating is a thing you have shared...well your weight loss separates the two of you, and may open up a new world of dating and boys for you, as much as she may want this for you, she may also be afraid of losing you!

If you can, reassure her about all the ways you still will be close to her. If eating has been something that you shared, see if there are other things you can suggest. She may need some reassurance that you won't "dump" her when you have lost weight.

bettyred
07-27-2008, 03:41 AM
Heck, I'm 28 and my mother isntantly starts baking when she notices i've lost any weight. She's always been the thinnest person in the house, and has ALWAYS felt that if anyone is going to be thin it needs to be her. It's her desperate attempt to make herself feel better- don't get caught up in it, tell her you cant eat what she's making and would love to get her to maybe show you a few healthy things to cook. if she doesn't take the hint, start making your own dinner and letting her know you cant eat it because it has way too many fat grams for your plan, just an example :)

startingnew
08-11-2008, 03:51 AM
I just turned 19 in may and it is comforting to know that there are people my age on here...I am also new to the website and a beginner at my weight loss. I think that you mother may be dealing with insecurities of her own and it is not to hurt you. Try to remain strong and remember your goals and why it is important to get there...best of luck

bored15541
08-11-2008, 04:22 AM
I live with my parents to and they are both supportive of me and my mom is working to lose weight to. My dad does support us but he always brings in the bad food. My moms not much of a cook and we always got take out. My dad is so use to it he always ask for it. so theirs chocolate cake and pizza and chips.he doesn't want to change (which he could lose a few pounds to) so its harder.

But when i go to my grandma's (which is often) she's does the same thing as your mom. lol. she offers me chips pop all the worst food possible and i keep telling her no no im changing. so its difficult. i think its cuz she doesn't want me to be skinner than my cousin who is the same age of me and use to be the same weight till she moved out and does a lot of drugs. has no money for grocery's.

TJFitnessDiva
08-11-2008, 09:17 AM
If you mom is anything like my mom she'll be in denial when/if you confront her. My mom is very bitter and mean spirited....so much that I haven't talked to her since April. She'll call me all sorts of fat names and then turn around and say I really need to lose weight but when I do she'll try her best to foil everything that I've worked for. Luckily I do not live with her or I might strangle her lol

I would do my best to ignore her. You already know what she is trying to do. Regardless of why, it's down right mean.

kaplods
08-11-2008, 01:21 PM
I'm 42, and still dealing with issues like this with my mom. We just got home less than a week ago from two weeks with my family. It went pretty well, but I am so glad to be home and back to relative sanity.

My mom is the best - when she is needed. She'll do anything for you, if you're in crisis. In fact, she's the person you want in your corner in a crisis. The only problem is that if there is no crisis - she will create one.

She will throw full-on hissies over the smallest stuff, complete with ranting and raving. And yet, when my sister at 19, told my mom she was pregnant - full on support and understanding, immediately (not that I can guarantee that she didn't say something mean and hurtful to her at some point about it, since).

My philosophy is that some of the people we love, are out-and-out fruitcake crazy. Trying to get it to make sense, does nothing but make us as crazy.

She may know that she's doing this. She may know why she's doing this. Or she might be in complete denial. If you aren't ready for her to twist it around on you (you're the one imagining things - or making it all about you and not wanting HER to have any treats in the house because YOU are on a diet, etc...) then I'd not suggest talking to her about it directly. I'd also caution against trying to get her on the weight loss bandwagon with you - unless you're fairly confident she wouldn't twist it into a sick competition or focus and pick upon every choice you make, even more.

Trust your instincts on this one. You know how your mom is likely to respond. If it just isn't in her to be supportive, you have to find that support somewhere else. Here, with friends, or in a support group like TOPS. And be patient with yourself on occasions that you don't deal with your mother as you would like to. The struggle for approval doesn't always end when it "should," especialyl when you have a "fruitcake-crazy" parent. Don't let her crazy, become your crazy, though.

jennisue
08-26-2008, 12:35 AM
Hi All--

My mom now weighs 3 pounds more than me-- But this morning she got up and started walking and has not been eating very much. She asked me 3 times a week what I weigh. But I don't think she is trying to be mean or not supportive -I think she is just afraid to be the 'fat' one in the family.

I have two sisters and one has always believed that she is better than me because of her size -she has never ever been over a size 5 My mom and other sister asked me not to mention that I am on a diet to her because they do not feel like listening to her think I am only losing weight to show her up--

People often react in odd ways when roles and expectations are changing. If people always identified with you as the Fat One they are losing what they know...

Just some thoughts

synger
08-26-2008, 11:09 AM
Due to your age and your living-at-home situation, where you have little control over the food that comes into the house, you may want to also bring in the authority of medicine. You got interested in losing weight after a trip to the doctor. Enlist her help in your program. Talk to the doctor about the best plan for you, and maybe a dietitian if you can.

Then you can couch your plan in medical terms more than in terms of "just losing weight". I find that if I say I'm dieting and avoiding sugar and refined flour, my in-laws push food on me anyway. But once I started saying "The doctor says I'm sugar sensitive, and that my body reacts poorly to sugars and refined flours" they became all sorts of supportive.

Same plan (whole grains and no sugars). Same me. Same in-laws. Different result, because I had the "authority" of the medical profession behind me. It's no longer a "diet" in their minds, but a medical condition.

Use whatever you need to, hun!

twilit tera
08-26-2008, 01:18 PM
My Mom is the best. She volunteers her support (got me the link to 3FC, in fact) lets me work out in her pool, use her nifty scale with the fat % test included, offers me healthy food - the works!

My hubby cheers me on, but I have to be very specific about what help I need from him to do my best. Since I can't seem to say or do anything to get him to eat as healthy as I need to, we're now cooking separate meals. The deal is: you cook it, you eat it, you spill it - you clean it!!

My aunt is the food pusher in the family. She brings bags of chips and boxes of cookies over to Mom's house. In every family gathering she contributes way too much food and foists the leftovers off on the rest. She's better since she joined WW, but there was still the birthday dinner last weekend when she bought an entire pan of blackberry cobbler at Red, Hot & Blue. The next day she was calling and emailing to find out whether we wanted any of it. :dz:

I love her. I know that the motivations for her behavior are probably subconscious. I think I'm going to give her a call, just to see how she's doing and offer my support in her weight loss efforts. Behaving myself has been a lot easier with Mom's support, maybe with my aunt we can be a trio of "fat chicks" ourselves.

Tera

JulieJ08
08-31-2008, 12:00 AM
Due to your age and your living-at-home situation, where you have little control over the food that comes into the house, you may want to also bring in the authority of medicine. You got interested in losing weight after a trip to the doctor. Enlist her help in your program. Talk to the doctor about the best plan for you, and maybe a dietitian if you can.

Then you can couch your plan in medical terms more than in terms of "just losing weight". I find that if I say I'm dieting and avoiding sugar and refined flour, my in-laws push food on me anyway. But once I started saying "The doctor says I'm sugar sensitive, and that my body reacts poorly to sugars and refined flours" they became all sorts of supportive.

Same plan (whole grains and no sugars). Same me. Same in-laws. Different result, because I had the "authority" of the medical profession behind me. It's no longer a "diet" in their minds, but a medical condition.

Use whatever you need to, hun!

Nice.

jeniansmom
09-01-2008, 11:05 AM
Now it all makes sense. She is going to lose her eating buddy & also what if she is still big & you've lost weight? Then the pressure is on her to lose as well. ;)

I went through this with my mother in law the last time I lost a significant amount of weight. She is quite a bit shorter than me but only 1 size down from me and I think she was very jealous. She kept making comments about how I was losing too fast and it was unhealthy etc. She did the same thing to her sister when she lost weight. It will be interesting to see if she says anything this time around as this time around she knows I have Type2Diabetes.