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LisaF
07-22-2008, 09:46 AM
I'm normally pretty good about being body-positive, and I don't want to be or like to be down on myself. But the more I lose, the more I hate my upper arms. It's not the flab (although there's a lot of it) or the lose skin (a lot of that too), it's the fact that they're a size bigger than the rest of me. Instead of enjoying shopping for new clothes, I'm just getting frustrated that I have to buy all of my shirts a size too big so that they'll fit my upper arms. If I find a shirt that fits around my chest and waist, it's either unbearably tight around the upper arm, or it's comfortable but makes me look like a stuffed sausage. I know that there's really nothing I can do about this aside from what I'm already doing (cardio and tricep/bicep stuff), but it's awful. Because of the flab and the lose skin, my upper arm is pretty much hanging down to my elbow.

My big fear is that this is not going to go away, and this area will always be a size bigger than the rest of me. Did anybody else have this, and find that it worked itself out in the end? Is there any reason to hope that it will, or should I just resign myself to it?

Lisa


bikinidreamer
07-22-2008, 10:07 AM
I'm sorry to say that I do not have this problem with my arms. I do, however have a similar problem with my stomach area. My lower ab area just hangs and the skin is really loose. I'm assuming it's from my pregnancy with my daughter. It's really gross and makes me have to wear a larger pant size than I should. I posed a question on here last week about my problem and got a really good suggestion from someone who told me to continue with the muscle building: in your case weight training geared toward your biceps and triceps. Reason being, the more muscle your build in those areas, the more fat you will burn when you do your cardio. Muscle is a fat burner. Even if you can't see the muscles now, as you continue with your diet and exercise, the fat will burn off and your beautifully sculpted muscles will show through. It just takes time. Don't get discouraged, your hard work will pay off!

OnceUponADrive
07-22-2008, 10:13 AM
My arms are huge, too. I hate it. I've still got a lot to lose and I'm praying they'll get smaller as I go along.


nelie
07-22-2008, 10:24 AM
I hate my arms too. They have gotten considerably smaller throughout my weight loss but are still large.

OnceUponADrive
07-22-2008, 10:45 AM
I'm also wondering when my gigantic thighs will stop rubbing together. It makes wearing skirts SO uncomfortable.

GirlyGirlSebas
07-22-2008, 10:53 AM
I remember that Rockinrobin, who's lost 165 pounds, hated her calves. It wasn't until the last 20 or so pounds that her calves finally got smaller. Maybe your arms are gonna be the last part of you that shrinks?

goodday
07-22-2008, 11:56 AM
I've also read that your problem areas are the last to go, so power through! you'll get there and your arms will go :) I'm hoping for this too, my arms are my least favorite part of me right now...I feel your pain, but I'm hoping once I get down to the last 10 they will start to shrink

LisaF
07-22-2008, 12:03 PM
bikinidreamer - I hadn't thought of it quite that way, so I'm glad to know that I'm on the right track, anyway. Thanks!

Lisa

Matilda08
07-22-2008, 12:11 PM
I have always hated my arms! I feel your pain. Hopefully like the others said they will go down as you drop. Good luck and dont let this get you down

mandalinn82
07-22-2008, 12:14 PM
My arms DID get a lot better as I lost. My gigantic calves, though, are still gigantic (but I have come to accept them, and strength training has made them look big and muscular, not big and flabby).

I still have a rough time with some shirts, but I just go for different styles or those with baggier sleeves.

LindseyLouWho
07-22-2008, 12:19 PM
Oh, I have this exact problem. Anything with a band around the sleeve probably won't work for me. *sigh*

Although I do take comfort in knowing that it's not my stomach that's preventing me from wearing a smaller size!

rockinrobin
07-22-2008, 12:54 PM
I remember that Rockinrobin, who's lost 165 pounds, hated her calves. It wasn't until the last 20 or so pounds that her calves finally got smaller. Maybe your arms are gonna be the last part of you that shrinks?


Oh my gosh Rhonda, I was just going to say "And I HATE my calves".

Well, they did get smaller, but unfortunately, they are by no means
*small* :(.

Truth is, being only 5 feet tall, the 120's is the high range of "normal" for me. Perhaps if I were to get into the one teens or even the 100's they WOULD reduce even further, but I'm just not willing to eat less or exercise more, so like Mandalinn, I've come to accept them. There are other parts of my body that I love. I try my best not to focus on my calves.

Lisa, I think you WILL see more improvement on those arms as you get further into your weight loss, though they may never be as slim as you wish.

I guess we've all got parts that give us more problems then others. It's just the way it is. *sigh*.

Nori71
07-22-2008, 01:39 PM
I also have to buy tops that fit my arms. So, often when trying on tops they swim on the rest of my body once they fit my upper arms. I am uncomfortable in tank tops. They are percentage-wise the fattest part of my body. I do see some improvement with lots of upper body work in the weight room. And of course with just losing weight! So, you're not alone!

bettyred
07-22-2008, 01:43 PM
Lisa F- What do your workouts consist of? If you don't mind me asking. :)

lifechange
07-22-2008, 02:04 PM
I know the feeling. The only thing that makes me feel better is tracking the inches lost each month- otherwise I don't really notice it. So far I have lost 3.5 inches off each arm- when you look at it this way it is incredible progress. It is still one of the slower areas for inch lost- I have lost more in my legs, abdomen, and waist. Hips, calf and arms less.

PenChick
07-22-2008, 05:34 PM
i hate my arms too!! i honestly believe that i have a gene in my family for fat arms. everyone in my family has them no matter how thin. I think my 2 yr old niece has them to and she weighs like 20 lbs! my poor niece inherited the fat arms gene...But i cant wait until they do get just a tad bit smaller...maybe i should do more shoulder lifts to work on the arm padding.

beautifulone
07-23-2008, 08:24 PM
I hear you, everyone.

I really hope that my arms will become smaller and the skin will become tight around my muscles. Im keeping my fingers crossed and praying.
Ive been doing bicep and tricep exercises, and the change is so awesome, I actualy have some strength in my arms and I only recently started! :D They seem slightly bulky though, so Im not sure what thats about. Im hoping for awesome results!! :crossed:

Meg
07-24-2008, 07:46 AM
Someone PMed me about this thread, so I hope you don't mind if I try to clarify something about muscle building and fat loss. :)

Building muscle will raise your metabolism and cause you to lose more fat because every additional pound of muscle in your body burns about 20 - 25 calories per day. A pound of fat burns about 3 calories per day so it's easy to see why adding muscle is a great way to burn more calories 24/7/365.

BUT ...

Muscle doesn't burn off the fat that's on top of it. In other words, building/strengthening the muscle under fat won't make that particular area of fat go away any faster. Building muscle anywhere in your body will raise your metabolism and cause you to burn more overall calories, making it easier to create a calorie deficit. The biggest muscles in our bodies are in our legs and butts, not our arms. So it's a mistake to only focus on building muscle in our "problem" areas. We all need to strengthen every muscle group in our bodies, regardless of where we personally store fat.

Unfortunately, our bodies store fat wherever they please and burn it off in whatever order they please. We can't choose where the fat comes off and there isn't any way to target a specific area of fat to lose. Usually wherever you gain fat first is where you'll lose it last, whether it's hips, belly, or arms. And there just isn't any way to change that fact. :(

So doing arm exercises will build strong arm muscles but won't make the fat on your arms go away any faster. Same with bellies and legs. The best way to lose the arm fat is to concentrate on losing fat all over through a program of cardio, whole body weightlifting, and calorie restriction.

But don't lose hope -- problem areas DO go away (or get better) by the time you reach your goal. My problem area was my 57" hips/butt and I had to wear pants two sizes bigger than tops. I looked like a bowling pin. :lol: As I lost weight, the disproportion between my top and bottom got worse, not better! :eek: Even when I was down to a size 10, I didn't think I'd ever find a pair of pants that would fit my smaller waist and still gigantic hips and despaired that I'd ever even out. I honestly thought that I'd end up as a smaller version of my previously shaped self.

But the last 20 - 25 pounds came off 100% off my lower body! I think there just wasn't any other fat left to lose so my body HAD to finally let go of its favorite fat (that stuff had been there for decades!!) Much to my amazement, I often now wear a smaller size on the bottom now than the top. :)

beautifulone
07-25-2008, 09:49 PM
The last 20 - 25 pounds came off 100% off my lower body! I think there just wasn't any other fat left to lose so my body HAD to finally let go of its favorite fat (that stuff had been there for decades!!) Much to my amazement, I often now wear a smaller size on the bottom now than the top. :)

Meg, I love your posts, they're so informative. Reading about your lower-body loss gives me great hope! I've been telling myself rationally that the fat HAS TO come off and I will have thin legs/butt/hips at 130-140 lbs, but then when I look in the mirror it's hard to imagine them ever looking thin and small. So thanks for sharing!

Tracymichelle
07-27-2008, 07:12 PM
I am having issues with my arms right now too! I have lost 95 pounds and even though I never thought that my arms were huge when they were on my 344 pound body, they now have so much hanging flab/skin. It looks like wings and I am very self-conscience about it. I am careful not to raise my arms certain ways when I am wearing short sleeves so as to hide the flap. I don't know what the deal is really. I am not having too much of a loose skin issue with my stomach or legs so I don't get the arm thing! There is still alot of fat there though so maybe it will get better. Anyway, we just have to rememer that we look and feel better now. We can disguise the flabbiness but you cannot disguise being overweight or obese so keep on going and I am sure that your arms will catch up with the rest of you.

Tammy73
07-28-2008, 02:52 PM
Thanks for the insight Meg. I was reading this thread and wondering what my body will look like when I lose more weight. Now I feel confident again that I am doing the right thing by doing cardio and weight training early on in my
weight loss journey. I know that none of us can predict when and where the weight will come off. It's just good to know that over time it will come off.

OnceUponADrive
08-13-2008, 11:03 AM
I have majorly big calves, too. But it's mostly muscle. My boyfriend always says I could be a body builder if I did more weight training, which is exactly the look I DON'T want. I swear, I could build up more muscles in a month than most men can build up in a year. I've pretty much accepted that my calves and thighs will ALWAYS be big and never feminine, but maybe just a bit smaller when I lose some more fat from those areas.

shadowclaw
08-13-2008, 01:10 PM
Unfortunately, our bodies store fat wherever they please and burn it off in whatever order they please. We can't choose where the fat comes off and there isn't any way to target a specific area of fat to lose. Usually wherever you gain fat first is where you'll lose it last, whether it's hips, belly, or arms. And there just isn't any way to change that fact. :(


Thanks for the clarification, Meg! I think that I'm one of the lucky ones, though. My weight generally slaps itself on my hips and thighs first, but that's where I do tend to lose it first. I lost about 35 lb. last year (which I did unforunately gain back due to getting off-track, but now I'm back in the game), and I ended up dropping about a size in my pants... when I measured my hips, it was about a 4 inch loss. That actually happened in the first 15 lbs, too. I only lost an inch from my bust overall. Although miraculously, when I put the weight back on, only some went to my hips. I weigh the same as I did before I lost the weight, but I'm still down 2 inches around the hips. I'm not complaining, though! When I gained weight back in my sophomore year of college, my hips blew up like you wouldn't believe!

Mommysince21505
08-13-2008, 03:49 PM
My arms are big and always been a little bigger. Even when I was skinny my arms were too big! I use to have to stretch shirts... :( Anyway, hopefully you will lose some inches in yours as you get close to the last few pounds. If not I guess you will just have to learn to accept your arms and enjoy your wonderful success (losing all your weight)!!!

See Spot Shrink
08-14-2008, 11:05 PM
I've found my tribe! :lol:

My arms are the bane of my existence! They look like two big salamis!! I loathe them and it doesn't help one bit that so many of the shirts they're selling now have the puffed sleeve/banded bottom with button combo going on! Sigh...I actually popped a button off one of my shirt sleeves yesterday. Like the Incredible Hulk! :o (Shoulda just slapped on a pair of shredded capris and some green makeup and called it a day! Grrrr! :p)

And to think I had arms like sticks when I was thin! Never in a million years would've thought that I could have fat arms. You never know where you're going to hold most of your weight until you gain it, huh?