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Bonita Applebaum
07-14-2008, 01:00 PM
I weighed in yesterday and I am officially in Onederland, yee!:carrot:
I'm very excited about that but I still have a ways to go.

As I stepped out of the shower today, I was looking down at my thighs and admiring how much thinner they looked. Then, I had a panic attack...

What if I don't look right skinny?!? Like...not skinny-skinny. Just thinner. I've always been thick: hips, booty, thighs, etc. I'm so used to looking down and seeing my huge thighs and now that they are slimming down, I'm starting to worry. I'm not used to seeing a thinner me and I'm not sure how to react. Have any of you guys experienced this or are currently experiencing it?


midwife
07-14-2008, 01:06 PM
Congrats on Onederland!!!!

I just realized that my first reply went off on a major tangent. That's what I get for posting while sleep deprived! So I'll edit a little. :)

I think it is hard to come up with a goal weight since numbers are just numbers and we won't really know what we look like til we get there. You may be very happy with your body before you reach that goal you've set. It's okay to change goals! Also if you do choose to lose all the way down to 140 and you think you are too skinny, you can add a few pounds back on. But I'll bet you won't want to.

Anyway, I think it is very normal for you to have those worries and concerns. My only suggestion is to keep visualizing yourself as beautiful and healthy (regardless of your weight actually) and to celebrate your physical self. I keep believing that the rest will take care of itself.

Congrats again on Onederland! And welcome to 3FC!

fiberlover
07-14-2008, 01:11 PM
It is weird. Sometimes I feel like my body is a stranger to me that I am just getting to know. I knew the fat very well, but not what was underneath all of that.

We all can't be super models. Everyone has some particular body part that they don't care for (even the super models). Mine are my thighs - they are big and muscular, and probably will be 15 pounds from now.

But - believe me, you will look a thousand times better at a proper weight than you did at 215.


JulieJ08
07-14-2008, 01:20 PM
Like...not skinny-skinny. Just thinner.

That's exactly what I'm hoping for. I'll have to add more ice cream to my diet if I get to looking skinny-skinny :D

Naytally
07-14-2008, 01:44 PM
That is my fear - Losing all of the weight I want to and not looking right "thin". I have been overweight all of my life. I have never once in my life been a "normal" bmi or weight. I have a face similar to that of one of my cousins who is my height, but she is a normal weight, so I'm hoping my body and face look like hers. I'm not sure if I'm big boned so I don't know if that is going to come in to play anywhere as well.

The one thing about my body that annoys me the most is that I have about a fist sized lump of fat on my right thigh that is not on my left! I'm hoping that subsides when I'm losing weight because I look lopsided. It comes from wearing underwear too small for my body :(

Glory87
07-14-2008, 04:25 PM
I have the exact same body shape (and problem areas) that I did when I was bigger. I am still a pear - I still have a tummy, hips and wider thighs than I would like. I will never be comfortable in a bikini - but I have accepted my smaller body, big thighs, stretchmarks and all. I love how I look now!

CountingDown
07-14-2008, 06:07 PM
Although I did not lose weight proportionally (certain areas lost weight first), eventually things evened out and I look pretty normal. Not skinny, not even close, but I have a proportional shape that is easy to find clothes for.

Don't worry about not looking right thinner. I'm betting that you will look great!

horsey
07-14-2008, 07:46 PM
If you don't like how you look thin, you can always weight train. I was down 20 lbs from today a few years ago, stupid me gained weight back. I was just a skinnier me and this time around I'm doing more weight training, not losing as many lbs and I'm happier seeing muscle, I like the look of muscle. I used to be skinny fat, super skinny in my teens and 20s. Also you can learn to adjust your wardrobe based on your weight. I'm obsessive so I bought a bunch of books on how to accenuate body parts I like, my long legs and hide my tummy and broader shoulders. No matter what our weight we can focus on looking and feeling our best.

EZMONEY
07-14-2008, 10:10 PM
Great job!

bargoo
07-14-2008, 10:19 PM
I feel the same way Glory does.

danemom
07-16-2008, 01:37 AM
First congrats on onderland, I hope to be there soon.

Your comments about not liking yourself thin made me think back to my teenage years when I got my braces off after 3+ years. I didn't recognize or like the smile in the mirror. I soon got used to it and learned to love it. I'm sure I'll feel the same thing about my flat (or flatter) belly and not so lumpy butt!

Sailorlal
07-16-2008, 11:20 PM
What's onederand???

CountingDown
07-16-2008, 11:24 PM
What's onederand???
A word twist on "wonderland" - a desirable place to be
It is actually - moving from 200+ pounds to 100+ pounds.

Thus, leaving that dreaded "2" behind!!!
I cried when I hit 199 - knowing that I would NEVER see 200 lbs. again. A major milestone to celebrate - for sure!!!!

Sailorlal
07-16-2008, 11:26 PM
moving from 200+ pounds to 100+ pounds.

Thus, leaving that dreaded "2" behind!!!
A major milestone to celebrate - for sure!!!!

Sounds awesome, I want to come too!

karen0117
07-19-2008, 11:59 AM
Congratulations! I'm hoping to be there in about 3 weeks.

ginny
07-19-2008, 09:54 PM
Gratz on Onederland!!! I remember when I hit it I think I danced a little. What a great feeling!

And then the panic attack heh. 40 more pounds and I'm still having them ... but I think it will all even out. Someone said that we all can't be supermodels, but it will be OK. Looking and being healthy and fit is the best goal.

It's good to keep pics of yourself around to keep reminding you of how much better you look and feel.

SunshineCA
07-20-2008, 08:31 PM
Congrats on making to 1derland!! :)

flabbyblue
07-21-2008, 10:43 AM
I think it is hard to come up with a goal weight since numbers are just numbers and we won't really know what we look like til we get there. You may be very happy with your body before you reach that goal you've set. It's okay to change goals! Also if you do choose to lose all the way down to 140 and you think you are too skinny, you can add a few pounds back on. But I'll bet you won't want to.

This summed a lot of my thoughts up perfectly!

I was talking on my blog recently too - pounds versus inches? or versus BMI? What's healthiest, what's easiest, what's best?

For now, since at 245 pounds, my problem is quite obviously everything (bmi, inches, and pounds) I'll just go by poundage, because its the easiest to count.

Even if (WHEN!) I get to 145, for my height I'd still be overweight (BMI of 27) so from there, I know I'll be readjusting my goals and reaching for a healthy BMI. Reaching that healthy BMI will have to include gaining some muscle, which might make the scale rise - but at that point, it'll matter less, as long as I'm healthy.

Oh...and natch...CONGRATULATIONS!