Weight Loss Support - New Here & Need Some Advice Please

07-09-2008, 11:54 AM
Hey everyone, my name is Teran. In the last 5weeks I've finally gotten the motivation to get off of my lazy butt and lose some weight. I'm only 21 (almost 22) and my weight has really affected my life the last few years. I've felt sluggish, tired, irritable, depressed and everything else that comes with being fat and it sucks. I've got a wonderful boyfriend who loves me with all of his heart as I do the same and I feel horrible that I've let myself go so much since we've been together. I know he doesn't love me any less but I'd like to get back to looking good and feeling good not only for myself but for him as well.

My starting weight was 242lbs and I'm 5'7-5'8. That is the heaviest I've ever been! I was around 175-180 when I met my boyfriend so I've put on a massive amount of weight in the last 3 years. I've always been bigger but very active, never like this though. I just completely let myself go.

So my weight loss journey has begun and I'd love to get down to 170lbs. I know that that is probably a lot to some people but I recently saw some pictures of myself at that weight and I loved how I looked. A huge difference from what I look now, especially in the face. I want to feel pretty again.

Right now I weigh 224, so I've already lost 18lbs and it feels good. Here is where I need advice though. I lost that 18lbs 2-3weeks ago doing the Master Cleanse Diet (I know, it's a bad idea because it slows your metabolism) and haven't gained any of it back. I was not exercising at all and the weight just fell off. Now I've been going to the gym for a little over 2 weeks now and I haven't lost anything! It's driving me crazy. My boyfriend is just shedding the pounds. I do 2.5-4 miles everyday, abs, and swimming. I'm also eating low fat meals and watching my calories and drinking over a gallon of water a day. I'm not watching my carb intake so maybe I should monitor that as well? I don't know what I'm doing wrong.:?: I don't eat breakfast in the morning which I know I need to start but I should be losing something, shouldn't I? I'm also taking Green Tea Fat Burner pills which I have read that work great as well. My pants feel a little loser but the scale isn't budging. Could I be losing inches and not weight even at how big I am? It's starting to get really frustrating and is making me want to give up. I'm thinking about doing the Master Cleanse diet again just so I can see the darn scale move.

If anyone has some advice on what I need to do to see the scale move, PLEASE TELL ME. Also I'd like to have an accountability buddy if anyone is looking for one. I'd like to have someone to talk to.

Sorry this is long and thanks for reading it.:hug:

07-09-2008, 12:07 PM

Just want to say 'hi' and tell you that you've come to a great place! Lots of helpful people here at 3fc.

And, :bravo: for all the weight you've already lost. It's a big accomplishment to get started and see results. I don't have much advice, but will say that, since you've started exercising, you may be building muscle mass, which is why you're clothes feel more loose, even though the scale doesn't budge. That's a good thing!

Just wondering how many calories are you taking in a day? And, how many grams of fats or carbs? That can help pinpoint if there is something out of whack. If you get too low on calories, the body starts to hang on to the fat and it's harder to lose the pounds. Also, eating breakfast would help, especially if it's good proteins and good carbs.

I'm sure there will be lots more advice coming from members who have had more success than I have, so keep checking in. Glad to have you here!

07-09-2008, 12:08 PM
These all sound great for quick and easy results- but are they enough to last a lifetime? Chances are, no. I know it's cliche and it gets said so many times, but it's a lifestyle change. We all need to retrain ourselves to make healthy choices so that we can take the weight off and keep it off, not just get it off ASAP.

You said you are watching your calories and drinking lots of water- great start! Recognizing bad habits and changing them is the first step to take on the road to healthy, sustainable weight loss.

Have you tried to incorporate a work out plan or any type of physical activity? Not necessarily a gym, but something to start burning fat and building muscle.

I'm sure other will chime in, but those are just my two cents for now..good luck!

07-09-2008, 12:09 PM
Hi Teran,

Welcome to 3FC!!

Sounds like you are working hard! That is great! Your body and your heart will thank you for your exercise efforts.

I know you said you are watching your calories, but are you entering them into a program like Fitday? A strict accountancy of your calories might shed more light. What kinds of foods are you eating? Are you lifting weights as well?

The scale is just one way to monitor progress. If your clothes are looser, then your body is changing, even if the scale hasn't caught up yet. It will---especially if you continue to exercise consistently and eat a clean, calorie controlled diet.

Glad to see you here! Post often!

Salubrious Fervor
07-09-2008, 12:16 PM

Exercise sounds great! i just wonder are you eating enough calories/ Thats what really stalled me up when I began. I cut back toooooooo far, thinking more is better and my body sorta shut down. just an idea

07-09-2008, 12:28 PM
Wow, fast responses! Thanks guys!

Calorie wise I'm taking in around 800-1000. I'm afraid to eat more! I don't want to gain any weight back. I'm staying under 20grams of fat and I'm not sure about the carbs. I keep track of everything I eat in a notebook and then go over it at the end of the day and add everything up. I've been eating just about anything as long as it is low in calories and fat. What kinds of things should I be eating?

I've started going to the gym in the morning before work and after work. I'm not lifting weights at all so should I start that? I just do the running machine, abs and swim. What else should I incorporate?

07-09-2008, 12:35 PM
Hey there!

You have to eat more. You're not eating enough, and your body thinks it's the end of the world. Your metabolism is slowing down to try to keep you from dying.

Someone your size who is actively exercising should start with 1600 to 1800 calories. I know that sounds scary to you, but you really do need to eat more. The answer is NOT to increase your exercise and NOT to try to eat even less.

You've gone from "letting yourself go" to trying to be a marathoner overnight. Doesn't work, and it's not necessary. My suggestions would be, weigh once a week, increase your calories, and go to the gym only once a day, 6 days a week.


07-09-2008, 12:39 PM
I agree with Jay.

Could you list out what you eat? We'll help you add a few things.

07-09-2008, 12:40 PM
Agree with Jay 100%. You gotta eat more. Your body is clinging to every calorie and fat cell for dear life. Feed your body healthy adequate calories and it will release the fat.

I promise!

Salubrious Fervor
07-09-2008, 12:43 PM
you really need to eat more your body is holding on to every morsel you put into it right now.

07-09-2008, 12:49 PM
Geez that's way too many calories! Omg, I don't think I could eat that much.

I usually have a small box of raisins mid morning. For lunch I usually have a turkey sanwhich on wheat with lots of veggies, then I have another box of raisins later in the day and then for dinner I have salad or noodles with veggies. And I know this sounds bad but I don't have money for food so that's another reason I don't eat much. Today I won't be eating at all until I get home from work and then I'm going to be sharing a can of soup with my boyfriend.

Could you guys list some REALLY CHEAP meal ideas that I could do for breakfast, lunch and dinner?

07-09-2008, 12:57 PM
Tuna, eggs, throw more veggies into your soup.
I'm not that excited about the raisins. How about an apple with a dollop of peanutbutter?
You really should try to have something during the day. You could even just split that sandwich into two meals.

07-09-2008, 12:59 PM
I forgot about tuna and eggs! I usually put those kinds of things into my salad as well. I know I do need to eat during the day. That has always been one of my biggest problems. I'm 90% of the time not a breakfast or lunch eater and I know that thats horrible.

07-09-2008, 01:12 PM
I had to learn to eat something in the morning. Protein shakes have been a huge boon for me. I buy protein powder in a bulk food store and add frozen fruit. Works wonderfully else I'd not eat breakfast.

07-09-2008, 01:21 PM
That's a good idea Susan, thanks.

07-09-2008, 01:25 PM

I am gonna sound like an echo saying you need to eat more!!!


That doesn't mean you can add one high calorie or high carb treat to boost those calories up!!! My suggestion would be checking some of the Clean Eating, Whole Foods, or Super Foods posts. Eating fresh or minimally processed food, whole grains, veggies and lean protien really is the key to success along with regular exercise. Beware of items that boast being low fat or fat free, many times they have lots of added sugar and just as many calories. Sugar free stuff is sometimes higher in fat. I won't get on my soap box where artifical sweeteners are concerned. The jury is still out on that one, I just know I, personally, am better off without them!!

Eat Breakfast!!! Good carbs and good protien!!! Make that a priority!!!

Congrats on your progress so far!! You didn't put the weight on overnight (sometimes it may seem like it) it isn't gonna come off overnight, and it isn't healthy to try to take it off overnight!!

Stick around this is a great community...lots of information, advice and support!!

07-09-2008, 01:42 PM
Thank you Kate. :)

07-09-2008, 02:00 PM
Hi Terano,

I am STARVED just by reading about how little (I should say next to nothing) you eat! I would drop dead after 2 days. I always wonder how the people who don't eat breakfast (or not even lunch) do it. Aren't you hungry?

Cheap meals:
How about some oatmeal? But I don't mean any of the prefab packets - just buy one huge bag of oatmeal and make it the oldfashioned way. Also, make large batches of soup. You can portion soup into tupperware and defrost as needed. Lentil soup with some veggies and bit of chicken thrown in (you can skip the chicken but personally I like it there) - very nutritious and healthy.
Do you have any farmers' markets in your area? They typically sell veggies by the bushel for much cheaper than when bought in small quantities. For example, you could buy tomatoes and make your own pasta sauce and freeze the excess for later. (Speaking of pasta - that is typically pretty cheap, too, but if buying any, buy whole wheat pasta only).
Chili should not be too costly to make - though go for some low cal version. My own chili is more of a sloppy joe thing - I brown some ground meat (typically, I mix beef and turkey), add to it two cans of beans, some chopped tomatoes and a generous amount of salsa and of course some crushed garlic. Season to taste. Served a small sweet potato, you will have several lunches or dinners out of this.

Good luck.

07-09-2008, 02:20 PM
Thanks so much Tomato! Yes, I do get hungry during the day but only when I think about it (your recipes didn't help, lol). I just try to down tons of water and that tends to fill me up a bit.

That chili sounds soo delicious. I'm going to have to make it. I have oatmeal at home so I'll have to FORCE myself to get up even earlier to eat breakfast before going to the gym. I like the idea about making soup. It would be very easy to make a huge batch and then just freeze it all in tupperware and bring it for lunch and just microwave it. Great idea, thanks!

07-09-2008, 03:57 PM
Opinions vary on this, but I think you really ought to eat before you go to the gym. It doesn't have to be a big honking breakfast... but it should be something with protein about half an hour before you begin your workout. You can grab something simple like a Kashi TLC bar and a glass of 1% milk--that's plenty of breakfast. You'll find your workouts go better and you'll feel better.

You may also be hungry after your workout. Try to eat every 2 or 3 hours--after your workout, when the time rolls around, plan something more substantial, say, 300 cals worth. It could be a couple of softboiled eggs and one piece of toast without butter or some oatmeal... you get the picture.


07-09-2008, 04:09 PM
I'm never hungry before my workouts but I usually am STARVING afterwards.

I just went and bought a container of no salt added cottage cheese. If I eat the whole thing it'll be 320 calories, 6g of fat, 16g carbs and 180mg of salt. Is this okay?

07-09-2008, 05:55 PM
Um... why would you eat the whole thing??? That must not be what you mean. :joker:

How many grams of protein?

Eat before the workout even if you don't feel hungry. It sounds to me like you're someone who can use the discipline of eating at regular times--your "hunger meter" is a bit off... ;) Just suggestions!


07-09-2008, 06:21 PM
My hunger meter is WAY OFF. I ate almost the whole thing (it was only 1.5 cups worth). There was 56grams of protein.

07-09-2008, 06:21 PM
That's all I've had all day so far, that isn't a lot is it?

07-09-2008, 06:25 PM
Now tell the truth--are you putting us on? Surely you can't think that that constitutes good eating habits! :chin:


07-09-2008, 06:30 PM
No I KNOW it's not good eating habits but when you thought I was joking about eating the whole container you made it seem like it was too much.

07-09-2008, 07:11 PM
Look on the outside of the container. In the Nutrition Panel, it should say what the serving size is, and how many servings are in a container. One thing that's useful is to make sure you know this information for the foods you eat. Try to stick with serving sizes.

Also, check out the Calories from Fat just underneath the total calories. In general, it's best if that number is around 25% or less.

So, 1.5 cups of cottage cheese isn't the worst "meal" one could have--you've got a good amount of protein, some fats, some carbs. But good nutrition usually means having some variety of food types.

Just as one example, a Grilled Chicken Primavera dinner from Lean Cuisine has 220 cals, 45 from fat; fats 5 gm, carbs 24 gm, and protein 18 gm. But also, you get chicken, pasta, broccoli, asparagus, cherry tomatoes, and a creamy garlic sauce.

I'm not saying you should go out an buy Lean Cuisines--I'm just giving an example of a more balanced type of meal.

What concerns me more is that this is all you've had so far today, and it's 3 p.m. in Oregon... Yep, spread the food out during the day more!

Sorry if I seemed to be laughing at you--I didn't mean it in an unkind way, I just really didn't think that was all you were eating. :^:


07-09-2008, 07:15 PM
Hi Terano,

One more suggestion (and sorry if I am making you hungry). Here is what I eat a lot in summer: In a teflon pan, saute some diced onion until glassy (I do use a bit of oil, but I use olive oil exclusively). Add diced lean turkey kielbasa ( a small chunk, maybe 2" long. Let the sausage brown a bit. Add two red bell peppers, sliced very thinly (I slice them on mandoline (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mandoline) [don't confuse with Mandalinn, our lovely moderator :-) ]), one or two zucchini, two or three tomatoes and about 1/2 package of tofu. Add a bit of ketchup, some sweet & hot chili sauce and other spices (chili powder, gulash spices) to taste - whatever you prefer. Let is simmer for a bit and add an egg. Mix it all thoroughly - it will be a very colourfull mishmash. Serve with chopped coriander on top.
You can combine a red bell pepper with Hungarian (light green) peppers - they are a lot cheaper, at least here.
I used to make it sans tofu but I am trying to learn new ways of using tofu (lots of protein) in my cooking. Again, this will provide at least 4 lunches, depending on the amount of veggies used - and it's almost all veggies, except for the tiny amount of sausage (just enough to fool your tastebuds).