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07-01-2008, 06:47 PM
Hi all. So when I was a little girl, I always wanted a "baby kitten", and constantly asked my parents if I could get one. Just before my 7th birthday, a neighbor's cat had kittens, so for an early birthday present, my parents let me take home a plump, 8 week old, black and white fuzzball I named Toby on the walk home. I remember zipping him into my sweater to keep him warm and secure. Toby has been my buddy as long as I have had memories, so I don't really know life without him. When I got to college, he stayed at my parents house when I moved away to the dorms, and when I got an apartment, I tried to move him in. He was so scared, hiding under the furniture, no yard, so I brought him back home to my parents house, his "retirement" home. My parents were more than happy to keep caring for Toby - he was everyone's buddy. And he loved being there, sitting next to my dad on the couch, waiting for head scratches from my mom, he had a really great life there. When I moved further away to go to lawschool, I would only see him 2-3 times a year, and spent as much time as I could with him. I'm now 25, and Toby was 18!

2 months ago, we had a little scare. He wasn't eating, and was getting skinny, and my parents brought him to the vet, thinking it might be his time. The vet found that he was okay, he just had a tooth infection, so he got on antibiotics, pain killer, and soft cat food. I visited home a week after that, and spent so much time with him, took pictures and video, and hugged him a whole, whole lot.

This morning, my mom called me and told me that when my parents came home last night, a dog or coyote must have gotten into the garage, because the dog's food and milkbones were spilled all over (but my dog's food bowl was full). They looked around and couldn't find Toby anywhere, and when my dad went in the back yard, he found Toby, lifeless. Toby wasn't "hurt" or anything, so they think the dog that broke in must have just given chase to Toby, and his body just could not take it. I sort of feel like I'm a zombie right now. I know he was 18, extrememly old for a cat. He had arthritis, and didn't see super well, but I guess I wanted his death to be a little more natural than that. My mom just retired, and was looking forward to at least having the summer with Toby. I'm just so sad that he was the sweetest cat, very friendly to everyone, and he had to die scared and alone. I guess I'm just looking for some empathy. I know he was a pet, but he was my very best buddy, and I love him with all my heart. Love you, Toby. :hug:

Love to all pet-lovers out there,


07-01-2008, 06:56 PM

At least you know you gave him the best life a kitty could ask for with all the love he could want.


07-01-2008, 06:59 PM
Hey Audrey

I know the feeling. I had a cat named Tiger, who passed away at the age of 15 last year. I remember the day he was born because his mother was our cat as well. It was only him, the biggest kitten we ever saw (not fat, big). He grew up with us and was a very loving male that loved us, played with us, had only one female mate and gave us 2 kittens to keep the legacy. He was great with the kittens as a dad and we really loved him. When he got sick and the doctor told us he would not survive we were heartbroken. We cried about it and we still have his photos in an album in the house. His offspring are very clever but they will never replace him.

You have lots of hugs from me and I know he will live on in your heart forever.

07-01-2008, 07:00 PM
<is sitting here in tears> I am so so so so sorry =( My kitty babies and my puppy baby are part of my family and when they go I KNOW it will be devestating. Even though my one kitty baby, Joey, is 16 going on's always in the back of my mind...

<big hugs from Minnesota>

Don't dwell on his death but remember his life!!

07-01-2008, 07:02 PM
I'm sorry, Audrey. Blessings to you and Toby. :hug:

07-01-2008, 07:14 PM
:hug: I'm so sorry about your loss, Audrey. I know how you feel, I had the sweetest cat named Hannah who passed last year. She was such a nice kitty, even people who didn't like cats liked her.

07-01-2008, 07:20 PM
You guys are so, so wonderful. I always come to 3FC for diet and exercise support, but we all have have other events in our lives, and I knew you kind people would be so understanding.

Iianae: I will certainly be celebrating his life, and not dwelling on his death. Thank you so much for saying that. I need to focus on the good times. He was such a sweetie, with the biggest meow! =)

07-01-2008, 07:21 PM
:hug: Audrey.

It's always so sad when we lose an animal companion. It sounds like his life was full of love.

Take care of yourself.

07-01-2008, 07:29 PM
I'm so sorry... I have tears in my eyes right now after reading your post. I know just how much it can hurt to lose a beloved pet.

It doesn't help that people sometimes expect you to take it lightly.

I hope with time you'll be able to take consolation in the great life he had.

07-01-2008, 07:34 PM
I'm very sorry for your loss Audrey. It's always hard to lose a friend. :cry: But know that being a good kitty "mom" was the best that Toby could ask for :hug:

Rocker Chick
07-01-2008, 07:42 PM
I'm so sorry to hear that. My cat died the week of my b-day in March. Totally unexpected---I know that deep pain of losing an innocent little animal, and the void it leaves. But as they say about time.......

Hope you feel better soon!

07-01-2008, 08:04 PM
:hug: I'm so sorry... I can really relate.
As sad as it was to read Toby's story, I'm happy you were able to share it with us.... I hope the pain you are feeling will gradually be replaced with fond memories, some laughs and eventually some peace of heart...Heaven is a little brighter

07-01-2008, 08:21 PM
So sorry for your loss.

07-01-2008, 08:27 PM
Aw Audrey. I'm so sorry! I've lost kitties before and it's not easy -they're your FAMILY as much as any other person in your family. :)

Hugs to you.


07-01-2008, 08:32 PM
:hugs: I'm so so so so sorry! It's so hard to say goodbye to a pet that has been with you for what feels like forever.

07-01-2008, 08:37 PM
Audrey, I am so sorry for your loss. Living here in southern California we too have lost a few to the coyote' mom lost her cat, TROUBLE, when she was about 16 to one. I can relate.

GR8 2B48
07-01-2008, 09:15 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. My cat, Felicity(Lissy), died a little over a year ago. The memories live on in our hearts because they are a part of our families. It's hard, but you will get through it. May God bless you.

07-01-2008, 11:16 PM
Sorry for your loss...pets are part of the family.

07-01-2008, 11:28 PM

07-01-2008, 11:41 PM
:hug: You are in my thoughts and prayers!

07-02-2008, 01:50 AM
My deepest sympathies to you and your family. I lost my Puddy last year, he was 10 yrs old, and I had also gotten him when he was a kitten. He was with me everywhere I went, except for the short amount of time when I was living with my mom (only 2 months) then he was with my now DH and I until he passed last year. He was my pal. He definitely was a "Mama's Cat" cuz he stuck to me like glue. lol. I miss him but I know now he is no longer in any pain. (he died of Kidney Failure)........

Big :hug:

07-02-2008, 10:22 AM
I'm so sorry. I had to put my big grey cat to sleep 2 summers ago--she was 21, but had cancer. People who don't have animals never seem to understand just how close and loving they can be. *hugs*

07-02-2008, 12:20 PM
You guys are so amazing. I cannot thank you enough.

07-02-2008, 12:37 PM

07-02-2008, 12:41 PM
So sorry. It's taken me a while to respond because I just didn't know what to say or how. I think because the loss of my GirlyGirl was so recent (April. She was only 4, and had a sudden heart attack, probably a heart defect). It just leaves such a big hole, doesn't it?

In May we went to the shelter and brought home Lady Chub Chub, and while I didn't expect her to exactly fill the hole that GirlyGirl left, maybe I did a little without realizing it. It still strikes me almost every day how different Chub Chub is from GirlyGirl, and while she is an absolutely wonderful individual cat, as I hoped she would be, it's also a reminder to me that GG isn't here.

Sorry, don't mean to talk about my loss (why I hesitated to respond). I just wanted to express how much I sympathize with your loss. It will get easier, but grieving just takes as long as it takes.

07-02-2008, 03:42 PM
Lots of hugs to you :hug: :hug:

07-02-2008, 06:59 PM
kaplods: of course I want you to talk about your story! It reminds me that I'm not the only one who has gone through this. Thank you so much for sharing. I know that our pets give us so much during their lives, that it is worth it that they inevitably have to go some day. I got another kitty to live with me at the beginning of law school. He's 2. His name is Freddy, and boy have I been hugging him the last few days! He's no Toby, but he's a fantasitc kitty in his own way.

07-02-2008, 07:15 PM
Audreymonroe my dear..........
I just wanted to pop in and say hi today... Hope you are doing ok... It's just so hard.... can't say anything more than just that, its hard... Stick around 'animal' people for awhile, we know exactly what you are going through.... :hug:

07-02-2008, 07:57 PM
*hug* Audrey, I'm sorry sorry to hear your special guy passed away. Having a pet that long is like losing your own child - my heart goes out to you.

07-02-2008, 08:16 PM
I'm so deeply sorry for your loss. DH and I lost our baby a little over a year ago - it's devastating, I know. Hang in there!

07-02-2008, 08:53 PM
So deeply sorry that you lost your beloved Toby. As a vet, I can tell you that you are completely normal in your grief- these little guys are often the only sane aspects of our lives- little furry bundles of love and sass that keep us laughing and remind us that life really is about joy (and a good nap!) I hope that your many wonderful memories of Toby (plus some Freddy snuggles) keep you going. And take extra good care of your self- you deserve plenty of TLC right now, too.

07-07-2008, 01:01 PM
oh i also gave the little kitten to my son on his 6th birthday but he always demand one more now i have six kittens at my home,...

07-07-2008, 01:11 PM