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06-30-2008, 02:06 AM
I'd like to know, if I am the only one lol

If you weren't over weight, would you change your career to something more physically demanding...

I find that because I sort of sat down and died due to personal trauma and what not... that I only started working as a photographer and digital image specialist because I didn't think I was worth losing the weight.. therefore didn't feel it was worth my time going after a 'dream' that years earlier I had planned to turn into a reality.

I had dreams of being a boxer and a trainer during my teen years... and I bailed out on being a nutritionist about three years ago because I honestly didn't think people would take my word for it being so large...

So I have to ask... anyone else do the same? I'd like to think that my weightloss won't fix my *me* problems.. but that maybe it would open up the possibility of doing what I had wanted to do initially...

06-30-2008, 02:39 AM
Not my career, but definitely my hobbies.

Right now, hubby and I are both on disability. He, due to a degenerative joint condition . At 17, he had his first knee surgery and was told he'd be on disability by age 30. He made it to 35, despite being overweight, but he had VERY physically demanding jobs and all of the weight lifting and movement probably kept his joints working longer than they otherwise would have. Also, his insanely high pain tolerance.

I on the other hand, am on disability due primarily to fibromyalgia. I also have osteoarthritis and autoimmune disease. The osteo is permanent, but the fibromyalgia and autoimmune disease could go into remission at any point. In fact, the autoimmune disease appears to be in remission now (or it just could be doing silent damage to my lungs and sinuses as it did before I was diagnosed). I'm hoping the weight loss will help, though obesity doesn't necessarily cause and weight loss doesn't necessarily improve it (I met a lady in a fibromyalgia support group who only started getting symptoms after she lost 100 lbs). Still, I'm hoping to be able to return to work at some point.

I have my masters' degree in developmental psychology, but I would like to get a degree in dietetics and specialize in weight loss counseling. Our local weight loss clinic at our hospital is fabulous. I would love to work there, or someplace very much like it. The local hospital joined forces and funding to build a YMCA/Physical Therapy Center, so the YMCA is in the same building. Going to work IN a YMCA building, how more convenient could going to the gym be?

06-30-2008, 03:37 AM
Huh. I am a photographer and I think it is a very physically demanding job ... which is one of the big reasons why I got serious about losing weight and getting in shape. And by getting in shape, I don't just mean enough cardio to facilitate my weight loss, but lifting weights and developing strength and stamina. I realized that I couldn't continue doing my job at the level that I'm doing it if I didn't get my act together. I'm 40 now and I want to shoot for at least another 15-20 years.


06-30-2008, 03:46 AM

Insanely high pain tolerances are common in my family :) I think it's crazy what we do to our bodies, over taxing them and pushing them to the limit because we can even when it makes us feel like cr*p.

Hopefully your autoimmune disease is in remission! Ha, working at the Y would be perfect :) My friend actually did catch a break from her fibromyalgia after she started getting a bit more active, she did lose quite a bit of weight... so not sure if it was due to her weight loss or bit of exercising... so there has to be hope for you and your fibromyalgia. :)

Positive thoughts right? :)

06-30-2008, 03:59 AM

I didn't mean to say that photography wasn't a physically demanding job, just that I was such an adrenaline junky who was so very active that I settled for something that wasn't near what I wanted. I love photography- weddings by far are my fave... but I also do professional retouching, which is 20 or thirty hours a week sitting on my bum well into the night... so regardless of how much I shoot I just feel that I copped out. I think I am only missing it now because I am starting to get more active and remember just how it feels to sweat it out and feel the burn lol if that makes sense...
meant no offense honestly :)


06-30-2008, 04:20 AM
Positive thoughts indeed!

I am very optimistic that I'll get the fibro and autoimmune under control.

A couple of my doctors (one a rheumatologist when I was in IL, and my neurologist here in WI) told me that weight doesn't seem to play nearly the role in fibromyalgia that exercise does. Although of course, my obesity has made exercise a bit more challenging, as does the fibro itself (when even even having clothing or a sheet on my skin hurts, the thought of exercise is a bit daunting). Still, I have to do what I can, when I can. In the water, I can get a great workout, even by "skinny" standards (getting out of the water is another story). I just needed to find a very easy to get in and out of swimming suit, and street clothes to wear to the pool. The street clothes were easy. I wear slip on shoes and a denim dress, but I'm still trying to find a flattering, affordable two piece swimming suit.

It wasn't exactly pain tolerance that got me into trouble, but something similar "workaholism." I've always worked the equivalent of two jobs (either two jobs or job and school), sometimes the equvalent of two full time jobs. Burning the candle at both ends, and sleep deprivation in general do seem to have a role in fibromyalgia. My neurologist actually believe that fibromyalgia actually IS a sleep disorder (sleep disorders are at least extremely common among people with fibro). If you deprive people of sleep, they get pain, fatigued, and fuzzy headed (classic fibro symptoms). Sleep deprivation studies aren't really done to extremes, because the symptoms get too dangerous. Rat studies show though that severe sleep deprivation rapidly causes death, due to autoimmune and immune issues (makes you wonder, doesn't it?)

My sleep quantity and quality are improving, but for some reason, I don't enter the most restful state of sleep, ever (at least not during the sleep studies I had). There doesn't seem to be any medication or treatment that fixes it, hopefully my brain will eventually regulate itself.

Crazy stuff.

Speaking of sleep though, it's 2:20 am, so I'd better get off to bed.

06-30-2008, 04:25 AM
No no ... I didn't take offense! :)

And being a photographer isn't nearly as demanding as a trainer, as you mentioned. It's just funny because like I said, I consider my job a bit motivator for getting in shape. :)


06-30-2008, 08:58 AM
Hey, good topic, bettyred!

I wouldn't change jobs--I love my job, even though it's sedentary. I edit books, mostly college textbooks. I'm my own boss, I work at home, and I have steady clients.

When I was younger, I had ideas like becoming a forest ranger, park ranger... But at that time I was on a different track in school. Later on I considered it again, but by then I felt that I was too old for the physical demands. I was also obese. However, now that I'm "only" overweight and much more physically fit, I still don't see that kind of work as something I want to do. It's definitely because of my age now.


06-30-2008, 02:35 PM

No one is really against exercising in the nude LOL Your home, your body hehe just kidding :) I had a rat, he slept way more than I did lol hehe...
It makes sense to think that the two could be connected, your body is constantly sending you signals- it tells you whats wrong- but for us, we're so used to working through things in order to keep our nice happy little lives that we forget that sometimes figuring out those signals are VITAL to our survival.

I haven't worn a bathing suit in like fifteen years LOL I'm allergic to sunscreen so I have to go fully clothed or go at night which is kind of fun :) lol


I think it's great that you are motivated by your work, maybe that's another part I'm missing lol it can be a little embarassing when you have to lay on the ground because your body just no longer bends that way :)


06-30-2008, 02:36 PM
it can be a little embarassing when you have to lay on the ground because your body just no longer bends that way
Haha! No kidding.

Honestly one of the things that got me was when I'd get down on the ground and then struggle (and grunt) as I got up. Equally embarrassing! :)


06-30-2008, 02:48 PM
I HATED how I struggled to get up -- even from many chairs -- at my high weight!

06-30-2008, 02:54 PM

Does sound like you have a great job! :) It also sounds like you have time to make room for your hobbies :) Which I don't feel like I do- between a five year old and my work- there's no sanity there LOL My workouts are now becoming more than just for my body, which is why I went back to boxing more than anything, it's such a combination of the mental and the physical. That's what got me curious about others... would you have done something different, or would you consider doing something different if you were more physically capable.

06-30-2008, 02:59 PM

Hey now- lol can't knock the grunts LOL They have been my friend for many years lmao hehe


I think that's the one part I won't miss- chairs that I have to pry myself out of, or sit on the edge of LOL :)

06-30-2008, 03:06 PM
I know this is a little different from a career path, but when I was in college, I was close to 300 pounds, and I purposely sought out physically demanding jobs and activities in the hopes that incorporating them into my life would help me lose weight. I was a waitress (LOTS of running around, carrying trays/plates/glasses, not allowed to sit down at all during the shift), and I joined my campus Habitat for Humanity (applied vinyl siding to a shed, cut and hung sheetrock, etc.).

As you can see, my plan didn't work out :p But I did learn that my weight didn't have to hold me back.

06-30-2008, 03:14 PM
It's really strange reading this because I'm a photography student and really feel scared about going into a business with many models who are all thin and gorgeous :lol:

06-30-2008, 03:57 PM
Poop on that Spoz. The models usually don't take notice of anything except the reflection in the mirror, windows, lens - they don't give a hoot what you look like. Just provide great results.

06-30-2008, 04:50 PM
Yup. I agree with FB. They mostly couldn't care less.

What's funny for me is that I shoot a lot of weddings and during the getting ready process I often catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror. All the women around me are being made gorgeous with makeup and hair and their party dresses ... and I'm in ninja black hoping that I'm not sweating so much that my hair is sticking to my head. I've learned not to be self conscious about it ... but every now and then I think that I could have chosen a more glam career! :)


06-30-2008, 05:46 PM
Ha, the thing with photographing people is- those 'beautiful' people wouldn't be near as beautiful without someone who knows how to shoot them- they aren't usually jerks about it. The best way I can put it, is if you get nervous around someone who seemingly has no flaws- you'll notice as you shoot that there will always be at least one LOL So, you focus more on making it look better and you'll forget just how 'beautiful' these people are :)

I find, however.. that mentally I get so rundown worrying about the beautiful people... I can't stand how important it is to be beautiful and look a certain way in our society... makes me ill some days... so I focus on shooting things that matter- whether it be important to me or important socially... keeps me sane some days lol

06-30-2008, 05:50 PM
You are so right, your weight should never limit what you do :) I wish I had been emotionally and mentally with it to figure that out- lol My fave jobs were always working at a plant nursery lol sweating and dirty lol Oh well :) Today is a new day, right? :)

06-30-2008, 06:36 PM
I would never change my job, could use more physical activity in my time off, though.

06-30-2008, 09:13 PM
Thats awesome- I can't wait til I get to that point in my life :)

07-01-2008, 01:18 AM
I am working towards a career that is more demanding physically. I decided last year, at my highest weight of 290, to try and get into the RCMP. I used to often think, over the years, that I would like to become a cop if I was just in shape...and then decided last year that if that's what it took, then I'd get in shape. Since then, I've lost nearly 100 pounds and am now into running and weight training, and figure I will be able to try out in about a year or so. If I don't get in, well, there are other police forces in Canada, or I can become a court sheriff, or a similar job. It has occured to me that I may not get in, that I have been working my butt off for the last year and a half (two and a half years by the time I try out), but I will be fit and healthier than I've ever been in my life, so something positive will come out of all my hard work.

Another thing I have an interest in is flying (you may have noticed from my avatar!) even if I only get my private license and do it recreationally, although I would love to get my commercial license and tie it in with police work). I know you don't have to be thin to be a pilot (I work in an airport and see a few big pilots every now and then) but I know when I got my avatar pic taken (it was 6 years ago and I was a lot bigger then; I just like the pic...most people would probably choose a picture that shows them smaller!), that cockpit was tiny and cramped. I think there is a weight limit, especially since you start off flying much smaller planes, but I'm not really sure. I am not too heavy now to be a pilot, but I am still not fit enough to be a Mountie, but I am still working towards it.

07-01-2008, 05:52 AM
I love your story :) Anyone willing to work that hard for what they want- is such an inspiration! I am just now at that point where I want something that requires me to be in shape, which is rather scary to start- because failing would mean giving up... and I refuse to give up. I have the rest of this year to really focus on getting my body where it needs to be.

I'd love to see you reach your goal and work with the RCMP, and be a pilot! Hehe, being a stupid american I literally thought it meant you'd be horseback :) So I searched to check it out before I commented LOL

I was checking it out the PARE seems pretty serious lol I like that it tells you what you have to do- gives you a great set of guidelines for your training and workouts. Just the PARE prep would be a killer workout, :)

I can't wait until I hit the 94 lb mark, I bow to the master :) Thank you for the inspiration :)

07-01-2008, 11:11 PM
Thanks for the comments! I am on my way to (hopefully next year) doing the PARE - it's pretty rigorous but I am going to look at it as something I can do if I prepare for it. I am doing the Couch to 5K podcast and am now in week7...I went out this evening after work, got caught in the rain but managed to finish the session. I can now jog 25 minutes without stopping, which is a huge accomplishment for me because two years ago, even walking was a challenge, I never thought jogging was something I'd ever do. On days I feel like I need an extra push to get out and exercise, I picture myself in the Red Serge (dress Mountie uniform) and that keeps me going!

You are well on your way to losing 94+ pounds yourself! Keep at it, you're obviously doing something right! :)

07-02-2008, 03:06 AM
I so set a goal yesterday that I wanted to be able to run five miles before the year is out lmao, I don't know if that's really a goal I can set- but I'm darn sure gonna try!! I had not known about the Couch to 5k- so THANK YOU for that :)

I love the RCMP uniforms and expect to see photos of you in yours!!!! :)
Thanks for the support as well :) I'm starting my couch to 5k tomorrow!! :)

07-02-2008, 08:38 AM
For years I held off on learning to fence, even when I was urged by my friends to try, because I was worried that I was too fat to play sports. When I finally did get into it this fall I was quite overweight indeed, but I did get through it without dropping dead, and actually put in enough work to become pretty good. My only regret now is that I didn't start fencing earlier, because it's a ton of fun and I'd love to be that much better! Still, it has definitely motivated me to get into better shape. I'm going to be doing the classes and the team practice anyway, and the better shape I'm in, the less it'll hurt.

07-02-2008, 02:25 PM
Love my job as well--- would just love to be more impressive at it---

I'm a probation officer--- I would love to be this tall, impressive, authoritative person coming into their houses--- someone all muscley and cool--- someone they wouldn't mess with. Right now I try to come off as a hard-a$$, but how convincing can that be?

07-02-2008, 02:38 PM
Right now I try to come off as a hard-a$$, but how convincing can that be?Hee! At 6'1" you probably manage pretty well. But think of how you'll do when you're 6'1" and ripped. Wow. ;)


07-02-2008, 10:43 PM
I've heard fencing was a blast! And you're right- about the regret thing- I'm determined to never let my weight get in the way of me wanting to do a sport- sigh- lol

Rock on for the 6'1 girls!! haha! I'm a redhead too! lol ok, now to your comment LOL I feel the same- like I've been a tall fat nice girl- and no matter how angry I appear it always comes out the same LOL I'm still a nice tall fat girl lol I want that- "Go ahead, do it- I'ma kick yo ***" without even saying it LOL

07-03-2008, 08:37 AM
I just in the last few years started ballooning but it has now affected my ability to break back into my field of work. I am a bartender and a dang good one at that but when I walk in to turn in app's or resumes I hardly get a second glance! Just a couple of years ago I turned heads everywhere and at least once a week would have random bar owners try to bribe me to work for them. I am in a different predicament I wouldn't change what I chose to do but my new body is keeping me from returning! I want the old me back!!!

07-04-2008, 01:36 AM
Bettyred...have you started the Couch to 5K yet? If so, how'd you find it? I found it really hard at first...I didn't know one minute could be so long!! I just finished Week 7 this evening...I am now up to running 25 minutes without stopping. I'm glad I didn't give up in Week 1. I am sure you will be able to run 5 miles before the year is up! :)

I hope to one day come here and show pics of me in my RCMP uniform... Would be awesome!