South Beach Diet - Just say NO




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ladybugnessa
06-29-2008, 08:03 PM
we went out and stopped at a Rita's that we don't normally go to. It did not have sugar free ices so I opted to have nothing. and I was fine with it.

DH and GC had georgia peach gelatis.... DH said it was very very good and i said I'll bet.

he scooped out a spoonful of it and offered to me. he was just trying to be nice. I was being nosy about his food...

i closed my lips tightly and shook my head no

he offered it closer

I kept my lips closed and shook my head no

he said fine and he ate it.

no harm no foul....

being healthy means sticking to your principles and sometimes you gotta listen to our former first lady Nancy Regan and JUST SAY NO!

there is no magic in any plan
there is willpower and desire.


WebRover
06-29-2008, 08:16 PM
Double good for you.

cottagebythesea
06-29-2008, 08:32 PM
:bravo: Nessa! You're a strong woman!


nolachick
06-29-2008, 08:40 PM
awesome -- I did the exact same thing today - everyone got gelato and they didn't have sugar free today so I was the only one without some. Didn't it feel good to be in such control!

ladybugnessa
06-29-2008, 08:47 PM
awesome -- I did the exact same thing today - everyone got gelato and they didn't have sugar free today so I was the only one without some. Didn't it feel good to be in such control!

yep and ya know the more you say no the easier it gets.


my point is not to garner Kudos for myself. my point was to point out that the ONLY person you answer to is yourself and that being strong and having willpower is critical.

happiness seeker
06-29-2008, 09:23 PM
Great job Nessa!!

greeneyes490
06-29-2008, 11:00 PM
Good for you cause I don't know if I could do it so early in the plan :)....so I am just steering clear of situations till I feel I could say no :).....

ladybugnessa
06-30-2008, 07:25 AM
Good for you cause I don't know if I could do it so early in the plan :)....so I am just steering clear of situations till I feel I could say no :).....


why not?

i think i had more willpower in the beginning.

now it's just the way it is.

you do this long enough and it's JUST THE WAY IT IS!

TwynnB
06-30-2008, 08:47 AM
My husband 'teased' me the same way last night. Had him move the cashews (an addiction for me...I swear, I would've lost 5 lb more by now without them!!) on the other side of him, and he kept moving them back next to me. I kept calling him 'rude', he kept calling me 'crabby'. Why is it funny to tempt us??!

This was of course, right before he made himself a cherry-vanilla ice cream shake, in a tall glass. He hates it when I keep saying, "we're in this together!!". (I wasn't even tempted by the shake, I figured it cost him a TON of calories...)

uh-huh!!

ladybugnessa
06-30-2008, 08:55 AM
My husband 'teased' me the same way last night. Had him move the cashews (an addiction for me...I swear, I would've lost 5 lb more by now without them!!) on the other side of him, and he kept moving them back next to me. I kept calling him 'rude', he kept calling me 'crabby'. Why is it funny to tempt us??!

This was of course, right before he made himself a cherry-vanilla ice cream shake, in a tall glass. He hates it when I keep saying, "we're in this together!!". (I wasn't even tempted by the shake, I figured it cost him a TON of calories...)

uh-huh!!


now see that's wrong. and my hubby would never TEASE me with it. I'm sorry your husband thinks your weight loss journey is fodder for his amusement....

Ruthxxx
06-30-2008, 08:57 AM
Twynn, I think I would have thrown them at him or spat on them! Maybe you two really are not "in this together" - you are doing it for YOU, after all.

Just in case any of you were wondering, resisting temptation does not get easier as you get older. I did not have a stellar weekend foodwise although the rest of it was terrific. I did say no to Score Oatmeal Bars although I got the recipe.

Pacergal29
06-30-2008, 09:56 AM
OH how I wish (and so do the scales) that I would have said no this weekend! It doesn't get any easier after reaching your goal either and now I am teetering on my "redline"! Thanks for the reminder Nessa and good for you!

EofAZ
06-30-2008, 03:43 PM
I'm not quite in Phase I yet?!?! Well Actually I think I'm on my second week of Phase I but I don't have the book so I'm not sure that I'm doing it correctly. I realized I needed to cutout the carbs to get control of my cravings and THEN stumbled onto this site and realized what I was doing was in line with SBD's Phase I so I ordered the book and am hoping that I'm following the plan closely enough to move onto Phase II by the time it arrives.

Anyway, my step-granddaughter's b'day party was this weekend and since my SIL works for Subway the food was party subs. I didn't even blink an eye, I took a couple of pieces, and put the meat and veggies on a plate, being very careful that none of the bread stuck and made it into a "salad". If I had been ordering at Subway I would have just ordered a salad but since I didn't have that much control I made due. At first I felt guilty for "wasting" the bread but after I felt so empowered. The motivation? I didn't want to get the book and feel like I had to start all over again on a Phase I to do it right.

I truly am feeling better as far as cravings are concerned. I don't know if there has been any weight loss because that was not the objective so I didn't weigh myself from when I started. I figure when clothes start fitting better then I will know I'm onto something.

jillybean720
06-30-2008, 04:43 PM
I say no all the time. ALL the time. It's hard, and sometimes, I just want to cry and throw a childish tantrum screaming, "WHY can't I just eat like a normal person?!" but I still say no.
At first I felt guilty for "wasting" the bread but after I felt so empowered.
I have never, ever felt guilty about throwing food away. It is just as wasteful to eat it when you do not need it as it is to just toss it, and eating more than you need will have more negative effects than dropping it in a trash can!

ladybugnessa
06-30-2008, 05:06 PM
I say no all the time. ALL the time. It's hard, and sometimes, I just want to cry and throw a childish tantrum screaming, "WHY can't I just eat like a normal person?!" but I still say no.


because you have no idea how a 'normal person' eats. you just think you do.

I wasn't posting that I said NO for a pat on the back as those in the SBD forum well know. I've had 86 out of 91 clean days now... i've been doing this for two years and i've lost 70 pounds... slow and easy...

as ruth said it never lets up.... you NEVER stop saying NO... but in order to get to the point where it's EASY to say no you have to Say NO a lot and MEAN it.

EofAZ
06-30-2008, 05:22 PM
I wasn't posting that I said NO for a pat on the back

Oh but I was! :devil: Just kidding, I just wanted to share my success because I was beginning to think I didn't have it in me. I've been struggling with cravings since last October, ever since I got back from the birth of my granddaughter. I had lost 40 lbs and then lost control and was struggling to keep from gaining it all back. I knew I needed to get my butt into a low GI program and I've been reading books and trying to research how to sensibly do that when I came across this forum and this weekend was the first in months that I felt I was in control and the relief is indescribable.

jillybean720
06-30-2008, 07:02 PM
because you have no idea how a 'normal person' eats. you just think you do.
Well, for me, there's more to it--I get frustrated that I can't have a lot of the foods normal people (or even normal people losing weight) can eat. I'm much stricter on my carbs than most due to type 2 diabetes. when others say hey, I'll just have a slice of pizza and start over again tomorrow, that slice of pizza will spike my blood glucose, and while a single spike won't kill me, the more I have, the worse off I will be.

ladybugnessa
06-30-2008, 09:07 PM
Well, for me, there's more to it--I get frustrated that I can't have a lot of the foods normal people (or even normal people losing weight) can eat. I'm much stricter on my carbs than most due to type 2 diabetes. when others say hey, I'll just have a slice of pizza and start over again tomorrow, that slice of pizza will spike my blood glucose, and while a single spike won't kill me, the more I have, the worse off I will be.

I understand what you are trying to say..... but since everyone is my husband's family is Type 2 diabetic eating the way I eat IS NORMAL... my dad is diabetic... eating the way I eat IS NORMAL. NORMAL is relative.

SunshineCA
07-06-2008, 11:14 PM
I love the Nancy Reagan "Just Say No" quote. :) It applies to so much in our lives. The bad thing is when others don't accept this. Sometimes we have to get really tough before they get the fact that we just don't wanna eat it. Ya know?

Every time this happens to me from now on, I will remember Nancy. ;)

halcyon
07-07-2008, 01:15 AM
I thought of this post over the weekend as I managed to just say no and stay almost entirely on plan. My only exception was a few beers on Friday night- but that sort of indulgence is the exception rather than the rule, so i wasn't too hard on myself considering I avoided all the other forbidden foods that were popping up everywhere around me.

ladybugnessa
07-07-2008, 08:38 AM
I thought of this post over the weekend as I managed to just say no and stay almost entirely on plan. My only exception was a few beers on Friday night- but that sort of indulgence is the exception rather than the rule, so i wasn't too hard on myself considering I avoided all the other forbidden foods that were popping up everywhere around me.

good for you!

and remember 1 light beer (12 oz) is allowed as an occasional treat!

Marathon Mom
07-07-2008, 09:01 AM
I am so glad to see everyone had great will power this weekend.... For some reason I did NOT... I don't know why but I ate things I normally never eat... I don't know what happened. I didn't over eat.. I just decided not to say "No"... to apple pie on Friday and an ice cream cone on Saturday.

I am paying for it now though.. My stomach was burning at 3am this morning (I have an iron stomach - nothing ever makes my stomach hurt) Plus, today I feel like a college freshman after their first homecoming party (although I didn't drink alcohol last night)

Up 1 lb from the weekend, but feeling ill and falling off plan is more of a dissapointment.

Getting :dust: from all you Chicks - thanks for being such an inspiration.

little chick
07-07-2008, 10:46 AM
I really need to practice the "JUST SAY NO" policy because lately I have been just saying YES. I am scared to death to get on the scales.

Mum2Monkeys
07-07-2008, 04:23 PM
Awesome!

I'm glad your husband was only trying to be sweet :) I know too many people who subconsciously (or consciously) try to sabotage other people when the other people are eating healthier than they are. Blech.

I'm going to have to "just say no" today at the movies. That popcorn is so tempting!

pamatga
07-08-2008, 12:34 PM
I think you made a very good point and showed not only how it could be done but also what results you have to prove it can be. Your weight lose and ability/determination to stick to this way of eating for the past couple of years.

I was in my own little cocoon before June 30th when I came back to stay with my Dad while Mom is in the nursing home (which we are hoping she will leave in the next several months to come back home). As I said in another post, my sister and my Dad eat out all the time! I didn't tempt myself before with this except in places that I knew the menu like the back of my hand and where I had a supportive DH. (I feel so sorry for those of you who don't)

Now, I have to find restaurants here where I can follow SBD as closely as possible and then eat very clean when I am at home. It doesn't help that they offer to pay for my meal on top of it plus I am riding in the car with them. (I had considered asking them to drop me off at home).

I no longer feel deprived because I feel that the rest of the world is eating crappy. I watch my sister hopped up on caffeine, loads of sugar, cigarettes and lack of sleep. She is going to crash one of these days. I am feeling so sorry for her. I have decided that actions speak louder than words. She has already commented how healthy I eat and how firm my body is and how great I look. I am not bragging here but there are benefits to eating this way, ladies!

My Dad has been eating 1-2 meals out everyday since Mom has been in the hospital since January. Recently, he visited his own doctor and his B/P is up so she gave me a stronger prescription. I told Dad that restaurant food has a lot of salt in it so if he is going to eat out, he should make sure that he drinks plenty of water to flush out the added sodium. Yes, I am cooking for him but I also am working from their home so I have to juggle cooking and cleaning, working full time and visiting Mom besides. However, I did buy us groceries and as long as I can control what food is in the refrigerator and cupboards, I can do this!!;)

Saying No to food we don't need or want is really saying Yes to loving ourselves without the extra food. Well said, Nessa. As I have often heard, what part of No don't you get? The N or the O! Here's to saying No!!!:carrot: