I have been back to dieting for a while now. Admittedly, I have had about as many bad days as I have good days lately. I have had a lot of trouble staying motivated to eat right, and I have had couple medical/physical issues stand in the way of exercising. Mostly, it has just been a matter of weak will power. That is, until the other day when my sister and I started talking about her getting married. Her boyfriend hasn't popped the question yet, but he has ordered the ring and we all know it's going to happen. She told me to be prepared to be asked to be a bridesmaid. When she said that I was so flattered and so excited! I realize I am her sister, and why wouldn't she ask me? But I have 2 other sisters, both of which are married, and neither asked me to be a bridesmaid. The one getting ready to be engaged and I are pretty close, so it makes sense, but hearing that just got my blood pumping! I have been looking at dresses and thinking about all the things I can do. Without really thinking about it I assumed I would be ordering my dress in a few sizes smaller than I am now because, DUH, I am going to work out so I look good! It was instant motivation. For the first time in a while I got really excited about how good I will look when I lose more weight, and that is a huge motivator to me. I am so glad something finally kicked me into gear and got me excited to lose weight again! I lost 45 lbs last year and I felt SO good...then I gained back about 25-30 of it and felt like I could never do it again. I am at a point where I am so excited to drop what I lost last year and then some. WOO HOO for sisters getting married!!!
Sorry for rambling! :o
What has you motivated?
05-14-2008, 01:56 PM
In the past I was very motivated to lose weight to be a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding. (That seems to be a big one, eh? :lol:)
I've been motivated to continue when I was coming up on my one year anniversary.
My wedding is coming up in 5 months, so that's also motivating.
Beyond that, thinking about my future slimmer and healthier self. I'm one of those people who have always been overweight. I'm excited to find out what I "really" look like.
Having made a commitment to this, also keeps me going!
05-14-2008, 02:01 PM
I actually try not to focus on motivation, because it is fleeting.
For me the key is planning. Planning everything each day, from exercise to all foods. I know when I wake up what my day is going to contain and when I am going to exercise, what I am going to eat, and what time I am going to eat. If something comes along to disrupt the schedule, I have a basis from which to work instead of from nowhere.
Having this plan helps me be consistent, rather than motivated. And for me, consistency has been what works.
05-14-2008, 02:15 PM
I think this is a really good question. I've been thinking about motivation today, because I keep starting to lose weight (so I do have motivation) but I don't keep it up (lack of stick-to-it-tiveness). So maybe motivation isn't enough.
What gets me motivated is: knowing that I feel pretty on the inside, and wanting to look pretty on the outside. Wanting to wear pretty clothes. And mostly, wanting to be a healthy role model for my daughter.
05-14-2008, 02:15 PM
ok this sounds really vain but I'm not I swear, anyway my motivation is this scene kinda thing that I have in my head of me being slim and wearing the clothes I want to and walking into somewhere where all the people know me and them noticing and making compliments (or at least being jelous lol).
ok for example walking into one of my classes at college.
its got to be a place where the people know me though because them noticing means something, not just randomers.
(whilst writing this post I have been very good and eaten an apple lol)
05-14-2008, 02:24 PM
Mine's a wedding story too, but not in the same way as yours. For me the impetus to start my weight loss was seeing myself in my maid of honor's dress in the pictures from my sister's wedding. I looked so miserable and unhealthy and fat, and I hated that I was ruining my sister's wedding photos. Of course she doesn't feel this way, because she loves me, but *I* felt that way, and that was enough of a motivation to get me started. I still haven't looked at her entire wedding album. Maybe when I reach goal.
What keeps me going is all the little changes. Like being able to fit into smaller clothes, and feeling more confident in them. Walking up stairs and having more breath than before, having the energy to work out when I get home instead of just eating junk and watching TV.
And now that I've been exercising for awhile, what keeps me going even on the days I just don't feel like it is knowing how hard it would be to work back up to my current fitness level if I let myself go. It's so easy to skip one day, then another, and suddenly you're blowing off the workouts for a month. Then you have to start all over building up your endurance, and I'm not going through that again! So I do it, even when I don't want to, and I'm really liking the results.
05-14-2008, 06:46 PM
Being honest with myself and having a practical approach motivates me. This is a long-term thing I'm trying to do, and when I remember that I can't get it all done today, then that helps me just make small changes that add up. I don't beat myself up for making mistakes or not being perfect today, because that's de-motivating.
I also find it very important for my motivation to stick to my one big commitment of not eating sugar. It's the one change that makes everything else possible in my diet, and if I go back to eating sugar, the whole thing will crash down. It's just that important for me, and I've known it for 15 years, but it's so hard to deal with when I'm not being honest with myself (see point #1).
Seeing progress motivates me--small things like muscular changes, less aches and pains, more energy.
Being a good example to my kids and my husband, and making healthy changes for the whole family, motivates me. Having an ongoing dialogue with them about what is healthy and what is unhealthy too.
Having a couple of family vacations coming up this year--one to a big music festival, the other to the snow--motivates me. I want to feel strong and enduring, not like a limp, dead noodle. Vacations can be physically hard, and I want to be up for the challenge.
I vaguely have in mind clothes that I want to buy...lingerie...etc for when I am thinner, but that's not really a major motivator right now.
05-14-2008, 07:06 PM
I don't want to die early, and I want to live to see my kids grow up. I was on the fast track to dying in my early 50s from some obesity related health issue. I just feel it. So that keeps me going. I want to live.
05-14-2008, 07:41 PM
I think at my current weight and health I must have been destined for death before 30's or get a desiese or diabeties brought on by myself from eating junk since I was born and not doing any exercise all my life.
Also a bit of a motivation lol
05-14-2008, 08:14 PM
I want to be healthy for the rest of my life! I'm doing this now so that when college starts for me in fall, I should at least be able to take my weight off the list of things to worry about.
05-15-2008, 01:45 PM
:cp::cp:We started a weigh loss challenge at work, and my friend is our team captain. I AM AFRAID OF HER! So, I am sticking to a food plan and exercising...9lbs gone so far!
05-15-2008, 02:05 PM
I've been overweight for the majority of my life and half-heartedly would start diets only to slowly lose interest and return to my old habits. This time, I decided to lose weight because I felt like crapola! Constant headaches, depression, crankiness, acid indigestion, brittle nails, dry skin...and, finally, my knees started to ache just form normal activities like walking in the mall. I finally decided that enough was enough and I didn't want to live like this anymore. This is my motivation....to live a normal life where, physically, I don't feel like I'm 100 years old.
05-15-2008, 02:35 PM
i have fits & starts of motivation, but it wanes, so i forget about it. I kind of have to be a mindless zombie about it, just do A + B = C, repeat. LOL, because unfortunately what motivates me is also my undoing!!! I absolutely LOVE to fit into smaller sized clothes, either old stuff or new stuff doesn't matter -- HOWEVER, once I'm wearing it I feel kind of awesome about my accomplishment...wow i'm so awesome I deserve a piece of cheesecake! wow I must be DONE dieting now! let's have some fried chicken! you see where I'm going with this LOL...so yah...mindless zombie :)
05-15-2008, 02:38 PM
I want to give myself a chance at living the best life possible. I want to be the very best ME that I can be. I want to look my best and without a doubt, number one - FEEL my best. I want to do all that I can to ward off many, many preventable diseases. I want to be around for my grandchildren and be an active grandma at that.
I want to live life to it's fullest. It's about time, after wasting 20+ years being morbidly obese.
05-15-2008, 02:46 PM
What motivates me?
Getting married at my goal weight!
05-15-2008, 04:02 PM
Health is definitely my biggest one. I've been pre-diabetic for a couple of years, but diabetes is not inevitable. I refuse to just give up and let it happen, not if there's something I can do about it.
Another one, though, is that I'm looking forward to having people's first opinion of me be about something other than my weight. I think it might already be going that way, although it's hard for me to tell. Between job interviews and the dating world, I just want people to actually get to know me, and not make assumptions (or rejections) based on my size.
05-15-2008, 04:39 PM
What motivated me to start was vanity.
What motivates me now is the way I feel living healthier. Every single day is easier than the day before, my mental clarity has increased, everything I do is more graceful, I haven't been plagued with little issues like aches and pains or sniffles, every day I feel more empowered.
05-15-2008, 05:00 PM
I like the mindless zombie image--I had always thought of those times as one-foot-in-front-of-the-other-head-down-into-the-wind days but now I'll think of mindless zombie when I keep on keeping on in spite of the lack of motivation.
'cause motivation does come and go.
05-16-2008, 02:57 AM
Most importantly, I am starting to really feel the consequences of being fat, and I just want to be healthy and live a long life.
Also, I am getting married in March 2009 and would like to lose some weight before then... I also want to see if I can become healthy enough to have children. I don't really have periods because of my weight, and I'm hoping that can work itself out as my weight drops. :(
05-16-2008, 07:52 AM
Wow! reading all your answers makes me feel bad as I think I'm losing my motivation or focus rather. I'm still searching for my motivation in a way. I think I've Plateaued at my current weight and I am feeling disappointed with myself. I need my scale to move so I can feel that all the hard work is paying off.
I've been overweight most of my adult life and last few years have just been terrible. I got to my highest ever this year and feel miserable. Right now I hate shopping for clothes and trying clothes in the fitting room as I cannot fit into "normal" size clothes anymore. I don't want to shop every time I gain a dress size. I also definitely want to feel healthy. Recently my knee started to hurt and I know losing weight would definitely help. Not to mention we have couple of vacations this year (July and September) and I'd like to be as much fit as possible before I go on my vacation. I'm hoping this will keep me going.
05-16-2008, 09:28 AM
My motivation comes from two places..
First, is the desire to feel normal, healthy, and be able to do all those things I've been putting off. I don't know if this is motivation so much though... I like the mindless zombie thing, I just keep doing this, day after day, because the alternative is not to do this, and that doesn't feel like an option.
Second, I am going NYC this year, and to California.. my first BIG trips anywhere, and I don't want to be worrying about fitting into an airplane seat, and I want to do some serious shopping, in NORMAL stores. Having to do research to find plus size stores in both these places just doesn't sound fun! So when I'm passing Starbucks or wanting to relax rather than workout - I remind myself of these trips and it gets me going (or not going... darn you evil Starbucks!!).
Phew - how long winded was THAT!! lol..
05-16-2008, 09:55 AM
My motivation is my sons. They are only 3, 2, and 1, so I still have a chance for them to love health food. I want them to be happy and healthy, not the fat kid in class. I want to run around with them and keep up with them. I want to be the best mother to them that I can be. My motivation will not falter. We've decided we're not having anymore kids, so it's time for me to get my body back and get my family healthy.
05-17-2008, 10:44 PM
My motivation comes directly from suffering from multiple sclerosis.
I have spent SO MUCH of the last couple years in bed and or so fatigued I couldnt hold my head up. I have suffered through so much crap that I vowed that if I ever got to a decent remission I would focus on my health so I wouldnt end up sick with regrets again. (I guess the up side is I know I can persevere weight loss because I can get through MS)
I'm proving to all the people that thought- including myself - that I'm not done living.
05-18-2008, 07:43 AM
Motivation: It seems like weddings are a big motivation for many folks. For others, it's wanting to be different--healthier, more active, slimmer, etc. Motivation literally is what gets someone going in the beginning.
But motivation doesn't last forever. Losing weight takes time, unless you only need to lose a few pounds. When motivation starts to wane, that's when you need to have...
Commitment: You have made a contract or promise with yourself to change. You have made losing weight and keeping it off a priority. Therefore, you evaluate your choices in terms of your decision--will you say to heck with it and go out to the fast food place and pig out? Or will you remind yourself that you made a promise, and fast food isn't part of it right now? If you are committed, you'll make the better choice.
Sometimes commitment wanes, too. Losing weight is hard work--it's hard on the body, it's hard to plan all the time, it's inconvenient... And that's when you need to have...
Discipline: This simply means that you have a plan and you stick to it--whether you feel like it or not. The "zombie" approach. What? You want to skip the gym? Hmmm... :chin: If you've established that the gym is something you just do, then you'll go anyway, on automatic pilot. If you know that you can eat two eggs and piece of toast for breakfast, then that's what you'll order--not the "farmer's breakfast" with literally everything.
And so, yes, it's great that you've found motivation in your sister's wedding! I hope that you keep right on going, after the wedding is over. :yes:
05-18-2008, 12:51 PM
I think the thing that motivates me the most is that I live pretty far from most of my family. So I really want to be thinner the next time I see them and surprise them all!
05-19-2008, 03:28 AM
...I want to be healthy. I want to be able to do things, not sit by the side and miss out because I don't have the stamina. I want to feel "normal" not like the fat lady when I walk into a group. (Does anyone else watch to see if there is anyone else your size?) I want to feel good and feel as though I look great!
05-19-2008, 11:27 AM
My motivation is my nieces. I have 3 young nieces (7, 4 & 2) and I want to be able to run & play with them. Right now it's hard for me to actually have fun with them when they come over because I get winded so quickly. I can't chase them around and do the things they (and I) want to do. I want to be there for them and not be the "fat auntie" that I am right now. I know I can do it! :smug: