20-Somethings - dumped!

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05-13-2008, 06:41 PM
today my loved BF decided to tell me that he needed some time for himself. that he needed to discover who he is, or in other words he dumped me, so i'm reallly sad, and i feel like eating everything!!
what can i do to make this hunger go away? help!!

nutrition junkie
05-13-2008, 06:43 PM
Go for a nice long walk in a park, it's so nice out today! Find a friend who doesn't mind walking for hours and talking it out. Or go to the gym and work out your frustration. This will get better, just know that, and don't let it make you think any less of yourself!

05-13-2008, 06:49 PM
I like to journal. I've been doing it for years. Whenever I feel completely down and out I'll find a comforting place to write. For me it's usually outside at a park or in my bedroom. Then I pour out all my emotions onto the paper. It's therapeutic getting it out of my system. Yes there have been times when I want to drown my sorrows in a pint of ice cream, but in the end it only makes me feel worse. Journaling always makes me feel better.

I'm sorry this happened, but stay strong! Someone who needs time away from you is definitely not worth your time anyway.

05-13-2008, 06:51 PM
talking with a friend is the best advice i have... if you can do that while walking as suggested above, even better! you'll get through this - and food isn't the easiest way to do that.

05-13-2008, 06:52 PM
I'm sorry to hear your bad news.
First you need to realize that you're not hungry for food, and that eating will not make your emotions (whether depressed, sad, angry, lonely) better.
Second, think about how you will feel if you go on a wild binge. I feel worse after I do. I feel fat and sick from eating so much, guilty and angry for what I did, and the lonely/sad/whatever emotions are still there too.
Third, choose to do something else. Call a friend to do something with, go for a walk, anything.
Again, I'm sorry. But food is NOT going to help. It will only make you feel worse.

05-13-2008, 06:54 PM
Oh no, I'm so sorry :hug:
Food is definitely not your answer... it'll only make you feel worse after it's all said and done, you know?
Journaling and talking with a friend are great things.. can you hang out with a close girlfriend? Have some fun :D

05-13-2008, 07:00 PM
:hug: Oh I'm so sorry. :hug:

Do not turn to food to comfort. Allow yourself to feel what you're feeling. Work it out in other ways. Are you angry? Hit something (something soft like a pillow). Are you sad? Write through it. Are you lonely? Call a friend to talk about it.

The quick comfort that food gives quickly turns into regret.

05-13-2008, 07:14 PM
thanx all, but i just feel like crap, but something just happened, i saw a photo of the two of us kissing, and all the hunger dissapeared, i don't know why, i just feel like crying for hours.

05-13-2008, 07:15 PM
i just feel like crying for hours.

Then by all means, cry for hours.

There has never been anything wrong with a good, long cry. In fact, sometimes that's what we needed to do in order to think straight again.

05-13-2008, 07:28 PM
Yep. Definately ok to cry.

05-13-2008, 07:28 PM
i second everything said here... im an emotional eater on the opposite scale, i eat when happy... i get thin when im down or single..

go see a girlfriend... and just have some you time... (hugs)

05-13-2008, 07:29 PM
I am so sorry :hug: no, food is not your friend in this situation. Food is there because your body needs it to "live long and prosper". You should try what some of our friends here have already suggested. Long walk...journaling (I find this incredibly helpful to me) and one thing I also find very helpful is to go on a cleaning binge. Instead of eating those feelings I grab a bucket, scrub brush and old clothes and I go scrub a bathroom or kitchen or something to take out all of those emotions and in the end I do feel a little better and the house looks great!

Hang in there dear, we have ALL been there, it hurts like heck but you will survive and be stronger for it in the end!

Take care of yourself...better than ANYONE else ever could!

Jen :write:

05-13-2008, 10:12 PM
Like everyone has been saying, food is not the answer. Your feelings is the one being empty, not your stomach. Eating is not going to fill up your emotion. Try to drink lots of water whenever you feel like eating. Go clean the house. Go for a walk. Call friends..and stay away from kitchen. ;)

We are here for you and he said he needs time to find out who he is. Who knows? Maybe he will really find out who he is and it may work out better for you in the long run. And if he ends up leaving, then it's really his LOSS.

And don't forget June 15!!! You can't be eating all that food, not until I take you to Outback~!! :D

05-13-2008, 10:21 PM
I know you are feeling great pain, but ask yourself if you want such an unkind, uncaring person in your life ?

Happy Penguin
05-13-2008, 10:39 PM
I'm sorry i know how it feels when my ex of 6yrs broke my heart the first time i binged and gained almost 20bs, and the second and last time he broke my heart i gained atleast 50lbs DONT DO IT YOU WILL REGRET IT! I was very sad, hurt, angry, frustrated you name it i felt it. One thing you can do which i did was blast the music in your room or living room and just dance around, i write so i would sit on my floor for hours with music blasting writing or pacing back and forth and dancing to the music and look on the bright side its exercise. I used to also just like to drive quietly think and even cry but with gas prices how they are i wont recommend that. Or if you have a beach near you grab your best buddy or go alone (dont go alone at night) and go sit on the beach and just think and talk and let it all out scream cry kick throw a tantrum just remember your going to find a perfect guy and if he needs to find himself let him but remember your a great person and deserve better

05-13-2008, 11:13 PM
Two for one: find a friend and go for a walk. My friend and I hike up and down a hill every time either of us has boy troubles and continuously gab and complain. Before we know it we've burned a ton of calories so that chocolate cake isn't as tempting by the time I get home.

05-14-2008, 01:42 AM
The first thing that popped into my head.....RUN!!! Hit the treadmill or the track and run it out!

05-15-2008, 01:21 AM
ok so i have to confess that i did binged, i mean i went for a walk with my friend, and he took me to eat, we ate french fries, but i don't feel guilty because i cried like a baby, and i feel a lot better now, today i get back in to the regular diet.
thank you for all your support, i kind of love you all.
and tara, i think i'm on the loosing side this week.

05-15-2008, 01:48 AM
Olga, don't worry... I may be on the loosing side actually. As my TOM is coming up this weekend, I have been having a bad bad craving since yesterday. For example, I had cereal, half peanut butter and banana sandwich, egg plant lasagna, baked potato soup in a sourdough bread bowl, and even brownie! I know the portions were small with exception of the soup and the brownie but I feel FAT today. blah... :p

Well, I'm glad to hear that you are feeling better now. Just remember that we are all here for you and we love you, too! =)