100 lb. Club - wow so rude!

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05-13-2008, 02:38 PM
my g/f called me upset - at work in her lunchroom, she was telling her girlfriends she's lost 10 lbs. (yay!), and they were all congratulating her, EXCEPT one woman said to her "well, you wouldn't have to lose it in the first place if you hadn't let yourself go" :mad::mad::mad: wow how she didn't slug her in the face i do not know!

05-13-2008, 02:40 PM
That is very rude...I can't believe how unthoughtful people can be at times :devil:

05-13-2008, 02:44 PM
It amazes me how rude people are. Why did she feel the need to put her comments in? No one asked her for her opinion. And if that is how she feels then why does she need to bring your friend down. She should keep her opinion to herself. Dumb lady... People make me so mad... Does she think she is helping the situation by making mean comment..

05-13-2008, 02:45 PM
My favorite response to that kind of thing is to look at the person with a slightly stunned look on my face and then to say "Are you aware that you just said that out loud?"

It's amazing how embarassed and flustered people will get when you call them on their bad manners.


05-13-2008, 02:52 PM
Unfortunately, I think we all know people like this... my DH is one of them and my mom's best friend is another. I can imagine those exact words coming from their mouths. Infuriating!!

My favorite response to that kind of thing is to look at the person with a slightly stunned look on my face and then to say "Are you aware that you just said that out loud?"

Fantastic!!! I am going to have to remember that.

05-13-2008, 02:54 PM
I like Photochicks response.:D People like that lady behave in that manner because they get away with it. But, I believe that what goes around always comes around. One day, she's gonna say something rude to the wrong person...and she better watch out! There's always a bigger bully waiting around the corner somewhere and she could get seriously hurt if she encounters the wrong kind.

05-13-2008, 02:54 PM
Ugh. Some people just shouldn't leave the house. Ever.

05-13-2008, 02:56 PM
yeah i'm like "having problems with that internal censor again aren't you?"

05-13-2008, 02:57 PM
photochick, what a great response. I am going to try to remember to use that one next time I need it!
ooh, good one too Nessa! You guys are quick.

05-13-2008, 03:18 PM
How rude! Good heavens some people need their tongues clipped. "let yourself go..." omg, I would have had to smack her.

05-13-2008, 03:28 PM
Wow...I have no words for that one! Some people have no tact!

05-13-2008, 04:03 PM
Ok, I'm totally gonna be grade-school here, but she could have said "I can fix being overweight, but you'll always be a b*!*h."

05-13-2008, 05:32 PM
^^Oh no, I would have gone there, too. What a jerk.

05-13-2008, 05:38 PM
"Are you aware that you just said that out loud?"

Oh that's very nice. I like that. ^^^


It's such a shame that the woman was so jealous of your friend's moment in the sun for having accomplished a wonderful thing like losing 10 whole pounds, that she had to make some rude remark.

05-13-2008, 07:45 PM
My favorite response to that kind of thing is to look at the person with a slightly stunned look on my face and then to say "Are you aware that you just said that out loud?"

It's amazing how embarassed and flustered people will get when you call them on their bad manners.

That's a brilliant response! Hopefully it might also make her wonder what people are thinking about her and not saying out loud and give her a few tearful moments. It's only fair.

traci in training
05-13-2008, 08:25 PM
My standard reply to anyone's rude remark is, "So manners are optional in your family?" I actually use it on my daughter's friends when they're catty about other girls. And on my daughters, on occasion. I know it's a rude response, but I do say it nicely and with a smile!

05-14-2008, 08:05 AM
Photochick...I LOVE that comeback. I will file that one in the back of my mind.

Trazey - you colleague was very rude. Sometimes people just don't think - are are totally clueless to begin with.

05-14-2008, 09:23 AM
Photochick and Traci - I will have to remember your one liners. They will enable me to have more confidence when I can say something that will hold a person accountable to what they say!

05-14-2008, 09:24 AM
OMG...that's crazy. I can't believe someone would just say that. Sorry Trazey your friend had to go thru that. Totally uncalled for. Photochick nice response :)

05-17-2008, 01:15 AM
They say misery loves company. Some people just like to rain on other's parade...pathetic.

I've had to endure a few rude comments myself in the year and a half I've been trying to lose weight. Most people are supportive, but some make comments that are catty...I chalk it up to plain old jealousy. Maybe they feel threatened because they're afraid I'll look better than them, perhaps I remind them that they should get off their a$$es and fix something in their lives they aren't happy about. For years, I had the "role" of being the biggest staff member...that has changed. They see me losing weight, getting attention, getting confident, and they probably don't like the change. I have been told by some of my coworkers that others at work don't that I'm getting smaller than them. That's their problem and they are going to have to get over it.

Your friend is to be commended on her loss so far.

I'll get off my soapbox now (didn't mean for it to be so long!).

05-17-2008, 03:36 PM
i would have been tempted to kick her butt.... but i probably would have calledc her up on saying it right away.

im a pretty feisty girl and dont take things like that lying down AT all.
i probably wouldnt have been very nice about it to. :D

05-17-2008, 04:10 PM
I love all the ideas for one liners! I'm totally gonna use them. Trazey please tell your friend good job for losing the 10 pounds from us, she totally deserves the praise! That woman is an idiot. I hope your friend realizes that.Your friend and everyone here are embarking on an amazing journey, one that that woman will never have the privilege of knowing. What an idiot, I have mentally punched her in the nose!

05-17-2008, 05:39 PM
I probably would have been really immature about it and said something like "Well, at least I'm not a miserable b*tch like you."

As ookpik said, sometimes people expect others to fullfil a certain role (esp. overweight people) i.e. Office Fatty, Fat friend, Fat Sister, etc. and they actually LIKE YOU FAT because it confirms their superiority (in their own minds). If your friend is able to lose weight, where will that leave the co-worker who depends on your friend being overweight for her own self-esteem?

What DID you friend say to her?

05-17-2008, 05:58 PM
I hope she replied something.... bullies need to be put back in their place and that comment was really out of line.

05-17-2008, 06:49 PM
That is one of the worst things I've ever heard. Jeez, some people.
My response is usually an icy, "Excuse me?" accompanied by dagger eyes. When I'm that shocked, it's all my frozen brain cells can eke out, but it gets the point across.

05-17-2008, 08:32 PM
awesome suggestions!! I cut and pasted them in an email to Tammy to let her know there are some NICE and supportive people out there!!

p.s. she works somewhere else - my coworkers are stellar!!!

05-18-2008, 10:26 PM
My co-workers are great, it is some of my family that can be less then supportive. My typical comeback is

It isn't a mistake unless we fail to correct it

It often stops them in thier tracks

05-19-2008, 12:23 PM
Wow - that is so rude and hurtful! It still amazes me to this day how negative people can be. It seems like when someone shares good news, there's always someone there to say "you could have done better". There's always a nay-sayer.

Your friend is probably hurt by it - but she should know that this woman who made the negative comment probably has a lot of issues that she can't deal with and it probably makes her feel better to say hurtful things to people.

She handled it well.

05-19-2008, 12:43 PM
OMg that is just horrible. We could all wish our lost pounds to find their way to her coworker. :D