20-Somethings - The "NOT TALK BAD ABOUT YOURSELF CHALLENGE"
04-21-2008, 09:44 AM
Good Morning All,
I know I have low self-esteem, and want to improve that, so I have came up with this idea. I am going to try to 'NOT TALK BAD ABOUT MYSELF' today. Anyone with me?:D
04-21-2008, 10:00 AM
This is a fabulous idea! There are few things I hate more about 3FC than coming here and reading about people doing nothing but self deprecating. Since when did it become a contest to see who could insult themselves more, who could have the lowest self esteem, or who could whine the loudest? I know we all have rough times when it's tough to even look in the mirror, but we all have to learn how to rise above it and not let it affect us so severely. I've been on 3FC for a few years now, and I've been well over 250 pounds the entire time. I bet if you go back and read through every single post I've ever made, you won't find a single serious disparaging comment about my body (aside from the occasional humorous comment about my upper arm "wings" or my rolls bouncing around while running :p ).
3FC is for support, advice, guidance, friendship, etc. Writing about how much you hate your body doesn't help you, nor does it help anyone else here. In fact, it can be downright hurtful to both yourself and others. I know I feel pretty crappy when I see someone who weighs half what I do complaining about how hideous they are. I know they don't mean to offend and that they are strictly only talking about themselves, but man, I would sometimes give anything to have the body some chicks complain endlessly about!
04-21-2008, 10:38 AM
I'm not 20-something but I think this is an excellent idea!
and I totally agree with Jill - sometimes I wonder what others think of me if they are 175lbs and "disgusting". I would kill to be 175lbs right now! What must *I* be if they are disgusting???
Speaking positively about yourself can only HELP you :)
04-21-2008, 12:12 PM
I completely agree with you ladies and I am IN on the Challenge today!!
04-21-2008, 01:11 PM
Count me in, too.
04-21-2008, 01:33 PM
That is one of the best things any person out there can do for themselves in my opinion!!! And after saying that, I have to admit that I'm one of the worst for following my own advice!
When I officially started a few weeks back, my fiance made me absolutely promise that once I hit 172 lb (weird number, I know) I would stop every single negative comment about my body completely. And this goes for even thinking them - which he said he'd be able to tell when he sees my face as I look at myself in the mirror.
My little secret is that I've been trying to cut the negativity down early - it's sometimes not as easy as it should be - and I'm already feeling a heck of a lot better about myself in general.
04-21-2008, 10:40 PM
Hi all, Thanks for your support!
I really needed it today.
Jilly- I actually caught myself today about to talk about how unhappy I am with my body. Then I corrected my thinking and told myself something positive about myself. Then the evil words never came out-wow imagine that!!! I must have stopped myself 3 or 4 times today!
04-22-2008, 02:13 AM
i know im extra late but i read this this morning and i didnt try it but i need to.
i come from a family full of skinny people and i used to be one so my body image is horrible right now. when i look in the mirror i see a much bigger person than i actually am. and in my head i feel like it affects how people interact with me. my friends think i am crazy i ALWAYS have a comment about how big i am. i think it annoys ppl but i truly cant help it its how i feel.
my biggest fear is that i lose the weight and never see or feel good. even when i was 5'8" 140 lbs i thought i was huge and i was far from it. I look at those pics and wonder why i didnt know i was hot! lol.
i hope i can change my mental issues because otherwise i'll never be able to enjoy the fruits of my labor. so i'll start today with trying to stop myself when i speak or think negative thoughts
04-22-2008, 11:18 AM
This has been a goal of mine for a long time, but i don't think that i've taken it seriously enough. This week, i will start. Thanks.
04-22-2008, 02:07 PM
Ooops I read the title and thought it was a 'Dont talk about yourself challenge' and thought man that would be well hard I wouldn't last an hour.:o
And then read everyone's comments and re-read it and realised all I ever do is talk about myself. In a bad way mostly but general stories about what I'm up to and whats happened recently etc.
I think I may start my own challenge of finding out things about other people and stop talking about myself...wander if I can do it for one day :^:
04-22-2008, 02:27 PM
I like this idea. :)
04-23-2008, 12:45 AM
This is a great idea! I went to my WW meeting today, and I had actually gained some. I'm not really sure how...I think I may have hit a plateau, and I'm bloated from PMS, but enough with the excuses...I almost quit right then and there, I was so upset. I was so mad at myself and couldn't believe how crappy I was for having gained a small amount of weight (compared to what I have lost!!!)...and then I realized I should be proud of myself for what I have achieved and keep thinking positively, and do better this week! So..I refuse to think negatively about me, I will turn this week's gain into a bigger loss next week!
Good idea..thank you, it helped me to get that off my chest because I was embarrassed to tell anyone!!!!