100 lb. Club - sooooo disheartening!!!!

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04-08-2008, 04:53 PM
I ran into a secretary who used to work here, about 3 or 4 years ago she lost 140 pounds over the course of 18 months, she was very inspirational to get ME moving and going in the right direction, gave me hope etc. that anything was possible...

Well, she's gained the 140 back PLUS 22 lbs., and I wanted to cry for her. She seemed so sad about it all.

I cannot go thru this again. I'm terrified that's going to happen. Ugh.... makes me break out into a cold sweat.

ok get a grip, focus !!! watch Biggest Loser tonight and stay positive!!

04-08-2008, 04:56 PM
I think this is one of those times where it's best to remember that you and her are not the same person. The ultimate outcome of her situation has NOTHING to do with the outcome of yours. Just because it didn't work out for her this time, that doesn't mean that it won't for you! She's no better than you are, so there's no reason to compare her situation to yours.

It is sad, though. Just let it be a reminder that you have to work just as hard to maintain the weight once you've lost it (maybe harder).

04-08-2008, 04:57 PM
It is disheartening when you see a regain. But let's learn from this. This is journey will last our entire lives. We will always have to watch our food and exercise. That's the plain truth of it.

04-08-2008, 05:53 PM
I cannot go thru this again. I'm terrified that's going to happen. Ugh.... makes me break out into a cold sweat.


I have this same fear and so far it is working to my advantage. I am absolutely terrrified of going back to where I came from... just thinking about it gives me an awful anxious feeling.

Use the fear, Trazey!! :hug:

04-08-2008, 06:01 PM
This happened to my dad...and yeah, it's sad. And he was one of my major inspirations to get my weight and life under control.

It can be so hard to see, but you're right, it DOES remind us that we have to be vigilant to prevent weight regain...period.

So think positively. After all...she didn't have the 3FC maintainers forum, right?

04-08-2008, 06:22 PM
Trazey...yes, I agree - it IS so sad to see someone gain their weight back. I bet we all know someone to whom it's happened (if not ourselves). It only proves once again that it's a lifelong journey - but, luckily, we only have to take it a day at a time. I know that sounds like a "sound bite" - but, it's so so true.

You are not your friend - your journey will be yours.

Take care now.

04-08-2008, 06:36 PM
I can only imagine! I am hoping that once I get a rockin bod I will love and cherish it soooo much ill never go back to chubbyville

04-08-2008, 06:38 PM
It is scary, and having lost and gained prior to this, it's a big fear of mine. I also fear that I am just going to wake up at 250 again one day. Like it would really happen that way, such a silly thing to be afraid of.

Let's face it, statistics are against those who lose weight. All that means is that these are life choices that we must do forever.

04-08-2008, 06:52 PM
You hear about this all too frequently. It is such a shame. I can only hope that when I take this weight off, I will keep it off. However, the adage of "Nothing tastes as good as thin feels" isn't always true. That's why, I think, we have to realize this transformation is mental journey also. That's what I am trying to deal with right now...There is a reason I have been heavy all my life. There is a reason I give in, every single time. There is a reason I have no idea what being thin feels like. I believe I have to figure out this reason or I am never going to take this weight off and I certainly won't be able to keep it off. But how? I got some serious soul-searching (and therapist-searching!) to do.

04-08-2008, 07:10 PM
I know it happens a lot, gaining back weight you lost while dieting, but how does it happen after a dramatic weight loss like 150 pounds?

I mean, I've gained back all the weight I've ever lost, but mostly because I gave up and didn't really care anymore. And I had only lost around 30-40 pounds, so I was only going from very fat to pretty fat, then back to fatter and then super fat. It wasn't as big a deal to me as it should have been, and I wasn't really aware of my body.

But holy cow, if I manage to lose 150 pounds ... oy! That is painful. Do people just give up? Does 150 come back accidentally and you don't ... notice? Howwwwww does it happen?? And how do you make that not be you?

I never gave it much thought. I've only been focusing on not giving up and not falling back into old habits of overeating and being sedentary.

04-08-2008, 07:20 PM
I was her many times over the course of the years. Sometimes I am terrified of being her again. But, most of the time I'm clear that this time is different for me. I know that this lifestyle change is for life, and my fate as a fat person is not sealed.

The odds are against us--we all know that--but there are successful long-term losers, and we can be among them.

04-08-2008, 07:41 PM
I'm right there..I lost 100 pounds in the course of 2 yrs, and the last 2 yrs I have gained a majority of it back. My body shut right down..said not another, even though I follow the WW plan and exercise, and have hypothyroidism as well. It is so frustrating. I'm under doctor care right now, to see what is going on....

It is so hard to have this happening after being so successful with loosing weight. I keep thinking it is going to come off like before, but it isn't.
It's not nice seeing the almost thin lady...back to the OMG...lady !!!

04-08-2008, 08:04 PM
Trazey, it is a scarey thought....to work so very hard to get this stuff off of our bodies, only to gain it all back...plus more! But, this doesn't have to be our story. There are people here at 3FC who are successful at keeping the weight off. Do you spend much time in the Maintainer's Forum here? I encourage you to drop in there every once in a while and read through the posts. They are paving the way for all of us by learning what it takes to maintain for life. We can learn a lot from them and be ready for to join them on this lifetime journey. We can do this. We can be maintainers.

04-08-2008, 08:19 PM
Do you spend much time in the Maintainer's Forum here? I encourage you to drop in there every once in a while and read through the posts. They are paving the way for all of us by learning what it takes to maintain for life. We can learn a lot from them and be ready for to join them on this lifetime journey. We can do this. We can be maintainers.

I always read the maintainers forum. I wonder if they can feel all the eyes watching them LOL! :eek:

04-08-2008, 08:45 PM
I wonder how many people who lose lots of weight are really confident that they won't gain it back. I know I'm not. I'm very scared of that happening. I would think the gain happens so gradually you can almost convince yourself it's not happening; 10 lbs here, 10 lbs there, you quit weighing - trying to hide from the truth, another 10 lbs here, etc. I could see that happening.

Kellsua, welcome. Hope your doctor can help you start back losing again. I'm hypothyroid also, it does make things a little more difficult, but it can still be done.

04-08-2008, 09:39 PM
I feel for the woman. It's very sad. It does, however, become a reminder to us that we need constant vigilance in order to overcome and maintain. And, of course, a reminder to have compassion for everyone who has lost and regained.

04-08-2008, 09:51 PM
I say be afraid - be very, very afraid.

I know I am. And I'm telling you, it's that fear that, that awareness that is going to keep me on my toes and help to keep me from regaining the weight. So, yeah, I say be afraid. And USE it to your advantage.

I can't help but think though how sad it is for that woman. My heart goes out to her. Hopefully she will muster up the strength to lose the weight again and learn from her experience, thus keeping it off - permenantly.

04-08-2008, 10:44 PM
I am there also. In 2006 I was down to 250 and my lifestyle changed and I have gained all that back plus 20 more pounds and now at almost 290. I have just this week started back on the low carb diet to control my cravings. Your support is so important, when I stopped checking in each day, I lost my motivation. I will try to check each day now for moral support and sheer encouragement.

04-08-2008, 10:46 PM
Hey AuntChuChu! :welcome: Back! Definitely drop in on 3FC whenever you can. These people are fabulous for keeping eachother going & giving eachother support.

04-09-2008, 12:47 AM
That is unfortunate. I don't want to come off as overly confident...but I will NEVER be as big as I was. I have gained five pounds back but then got back on the wagon. I like this new me. I like my new life and I am not giving it up for food. Of course it may be hard to maintain weight loss if the the loss was gotten the wrong way (700 calorie diet and etc...). I take cue from the slender people I know. Most of them work out and dont eat all that bad. I notice that they balance their diet (always eat breakfast...have some treats but not over board and etc). I am sorry to ramble but this is something that is personal to me. I vowed to God and my family (mom and grandma) that I would NEVER be as big as I was. I know life happens and I said I would give myself a 15-20 pound regain/relose weight.

04-09-2008, 01:26 AM
OMG....this terrifies me. I feel so bad for her!

Every female in my family is obese...most morbidly obese!!! When I was younger, I use to say I would never let myself get like the rest of my family, but I did. I have lost and gained so many times before. I lost 50 lbs once and gained it all back plus 50 more and I couldn't tell you how it happened!!!

I just keep telling myself this time will be different. I think I have finally realized that I can't eat like other people and be a normal size. I know I have to change more than just my eating habits to break free from this proclivity to be obese.

I need to lose 130lbs. I just pray that if I can get if off this time, I will have the willpower and good sense to keep it off!!

04-09-2008, 02:09 AM
Use the fear as motivation. Make a deal with yourself that you refuse to let that happen to yourself. You have the tools. You know how to make it work. All you need to do is just keep going.

I'd be sad for her too. While I never lost/gained more then 50lbs in a yo-yo I KNOW how heart breaking even that can be.

04-09-2008, 06:00 AM
i lost about 80lbs when i was 29 years old.. ended up gaining it back and then some... what it has taught me is that once i get to my goal, ill check my weight regularly.. and if i gain 5lbs.. ill get more strict till its gone.. would much rather lose 5 at a time. even if its the same 5 lbs over and over.. than to let it get to 150 gained and have to lose that..
and like the others have said.. just because it happened to her, doesnt mean it will happen to you... learn from it... poor woman... ill bet she has

04-09-2008, 08:27 AM
Yep... it is really disheartening to gain weight back. I have done so in the past, because once I lost the weight, I figured everything was OK and went back to my "normal" (aka fat-gaining) habits. I once lost 30 pounds on WW, but skipped the maintenance part of the program. Bad mistake!

I remind myself that the weight loss part of my food program now is NOT forever--what IS forever, though, is paying attention to what I eat and how much. Some people do not need to do this, but evidently I DO! I've seen the consequences of not staying mindful too many times.


04-09-2008, 09:22 AM
That is very sad, but very real. That is exactly why I have come to terms with the fact that I will never be a skinny chick, I will always have to have the mentality of a fat person trying to stay in a skinnier body.

04-09-2008, 09:46 AM
The reality is that we live in an environment where it is easy to eat too many calories of cheap fat-laden, nutrient-poor foods and where exercise must be intentional.

We live in an environment where it is a perfect set-up for obesity.

Eating like "everyone" else, living the status quo= weight gain for most of us.

I'll bet most of us on 3FC have lost and regained in the past, though 150 is very impressive.

It's gotta be forever. Read and read and read the maintenance forum. "Reduced obese" need even more exercise and fewer calories to maintain a healthy weight than those who were never obese.

Successful maintainers keep up the behaviors that lost them the weight. It is scary to think about working so hard and gaining it all back, but like Robin said, use that fear as your ally. Complacency = weight gain.

:hug: to you and your friend. What is lovely is that today is a new day....for you, for her, for me, for each of us to engage in the behaviors that will make us healthier.

04-09-2008, 09:55 AM
Great encouraging words! I called her up last night and gave her this website so I hope she joins - more importantly, we're going for a walk this weekend as she lives about a block away this whole time and i never knew! what the?!? Maybe she won't feel so badly around me since I'm a hefty girl too :)

PS how muchdo i HATE "fitday" ergh I was having a pleasant day, coming in at 1558 until i added that tinnnnnnnnnnnnnyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy little handful of M&M easter death candy, and it told me in no uncertain terms that i was 2100 !?! **stomping foot** hehhehhe

04-09-2008, 11:43 AM
I've often wondered how one can lose so much weight and then put it all back on. You would think if they changed their lifestyle that bad for you foods wouldn't even taste good anymore. Or when they see that they gained 30lbs of it back that they would get back on track bc they can reflect how hard it was to lose it all to begin with. I feel so bad for ppl who go through that. It must be so discouraging. :(

04-09-2008, 11:47 AM
I have lost weight and then gained it all back plus some once and I am never going to get that happen again! This site really does give the motivation to lose and keep it off.

04-09-2008, 11:50 AM
Trazey - Wow it's such a small world isn't it? :) When she joins up, we'll all make sure to give her a HUGE welcome! (usual 3FC-style! ;))

04-09-2008, 11:51 AM
Been there, done that. Lost and regained. I hope I have learned something by coming to these forums. One thing I have learned by those who have lost and maintained that loss for a significant period of time. You keep it off by doing the same thing you did to lose it. Changing your eating habits must become a way of life.

04-09-2008, 11:54 AM
I have lost weight and then gained it all back plus some once and I am never going to get that happen again! This site really does give the motivation to lose and keep it off.

that is so so true. I love this site. I KNOW I wouldn't be able to do it without a site like this with such great encouraging ppl going through the exact same thing.


04-09-2008, 12:02 PM
It is really disheartening to see someone gain it back. I know I have several on here who I adored and I've seen them come and go, gain and lose, lose and gain and it breaks my heart that they haven't found that thing that will help to keep the weight off.

You've been given great advice about how to turn this into a positive. It can be done. We have a forum full of maintainers to prove that. I really like the way Jtammy explained it that it was probably just a few pounds here and there and more here and there before it just all came back. I'm really close (less than 12 pounds) to my lowest weight in over 10 years. This will be the 2nd time for me to reach it. The last time I know I wasn't ready for the mental blocks I hit. It was that 5 pound gain (oh I can get that off) then 10 more pounds (still not much to get off), got pregnant, miscarried and said to **** with weight loss and put on all the weight I'd lost rather quickly. The got pregnant again, had my son in Aug. 06, breastfed for a year and finally got it together. As I'm approaching this milestone, I'm more than aware that the mental part got me last time and I'm determined to succeed and make it not only over my 250 slipup but down to below 200 (Still not sure where my ultimate goal will be yet. :))

04-09-2008, 12:33 PM
I'm happy to hear that the two of you are connecting! It would be great for both of you to take this journey together. It may help both of you, and when you get to goal you can support each other so you don't "relapse".


04-09-2008, 12:56 PM
Thank you Tammy ~
I'm hoping my doctor can help as well. It is very disheartening to have this happen. Not a day doesn't go by that I don't recall the days of being successful with loosing weight.
It will be a forever and ever life long battle.

Much success to all of you !

04-09-2008, 02:06 PM
I kind of think of it both ways -- I'm sure my family still wonders how I could have gained over 100 pounds without "noticing". And, I kind of feel that way -- like it creaped up on me and then one day -- boom -- I was 270 pounds!! I think the more realistic/doable your plan, one that fits into your life, the more likely you are to stick to it forever. Just out of curiosity, do you know how she lost it in the first place?

I'm sure she's glad to have your support -- because we all know how embarassing it is to lose/gain.

04-09-2008, 02:28 PM
I guess that's the scariest part - she didn't lose it in a crazy way, in 15 weeks like on Biggest Loser or something, it was 18 months, calorie-counting and I remember so vividly being amazed at her progress (she came in one day with these weird pants on and then dropped them to the ground revealing her 'new' self underneath, it was awesome!) and asking "how'd you do it" and she said portion control, sensible eating and exercise. GULP. She said after she lost it all and was maintaining it just wasnt' much fun and she lost interest and 20 lbs came back and she thought she'd get to it eventually...then it was 40...60 etc., a gradual thing over 2 years. I'm going to try not to dwell on it, as someone posted - it's HER journey not mine (or any of us) what happens to one doesn't necessarily happen to all.

04-09-2008, 04:45 PM
I've done the yo-yo thing (250 at the heaviest, 120 at the lightest as an adult). Previous losses were quick "diets" mixed with exercise. Now, it's habit changes. Which has been a lot slower, but it's stayed off for the most part, with slight fluctuations here & there.

Best advice I ever got was from a former co-worker & echoed by other folks on a bulletin board I was on at the time (not this one). Get rid of the larger size pants (& other clothes) which no longer fit. I have my stretches where I'm not so motivated, but once the pants start getting tighter, I know I need to get my butt in gear & get back on track. Having those larger pants around makes it too easy for me to slack off. Knowing that I'll have to buy bigger pants if I don't get back in the groover helps to keep on track enough to at least maintain things within 10 pounds.

04-09-2008, 05:02 PM
The yo-yo dieting is one reason I try not to look at what I'm doing as a "diet". I am looking at it as a new way of eating. A healthier way. Hopefully I can stay on track with this mind set and not feel that once I've lost the weight I can go back to eating the old way.

traci in training
04-09-2008, 05:44 PM
Here's what I think. Even when I'm not losing, I'm not gaining. I may not be pushing myself to the extreme to keep the pounds coming off, but I just don't eat like I used to, so I maintain.

I guess if eating the old way was attractive, I might do it, but I feel SOOOO much better eating this way. No "emergency" bathroom runs because my gall bladded dumped four pounds of bile on the pile of grease I just ate, no constipation from my 0.05 grams of fiber intake for the day, no more heartburn from just plain overeating.

Sure - I eat cookies once in a while or chips or a handful of M&M's. But the days of eating a package of oreos in one evening are gone. I have absolutely no desire to eat McDonald's grease. That's not what I eat anymore.

04-09-2008, 06:42 PM
I read every one of these posts preceding mine. All I can say is that I copied and pasted all of your comments into a word document titled "Learning from Others". I want to return to what you have all shared and reread that.

Today, I came on to post because I was feeling ify about what I was doing. I needed your warmth, humor, insights, feedback, etc. My eyes lit up when I saw familiar names and comments.

We are in this together. We are not alone. Bring your secretary friend, Trazey, and tell her about us. We will love her thin.:hug:

04-09-2008, 08:15 PM
It is scary as heck!

I think about it a lot and wonder why it happened to me all those years ago. I think it was the idea I made it to goal and so it was all good as a result I could go back to eating as I pleased. I went from 275 to 168 when I was in my late 20s but obviously here we are again at the higher weight. My deal was and still is that I never incorporated exercise and I let depression and basically laziness get in my way. I know this time if it works I have to monitor myself everyday and watch what I do.

I eat out of boredom and loneliness. I know I can see those problems now. So I try to do other things. The weight is not coming off like I like but I am teaching myself a lot about who I am and what I am doing. I have a library of weight loss books which would rival the Library of Congress I thinků. But studying and reading really makes it seem better to me. I also like to see what others are doing. I look at Nelie, Heather, Robin, Meg and many others who are the successes. I like to think I can join those ranks one day.

Mind over matter??? I try to put the bad thoughts out and put a positive spin on it all.

I also have to say this forum and my blog help tremendously.

Keep it positive in your head and I can tell you it helps fight off the fear!

04-09-2008, 09:52 PM
I can so relate and i live this story every day of my life.7 years ago i started dieting and lost 90lbsin about 8 months. I looked great and felt great!! I was sick of the dieting thing...i couldnt stand the taste of the shakes i was drinking anymore and even gagged at jsut the thought of drinking another one.I had been eating healthy meals once a day. Looks like i would have just started eating 3 healthy meals....NO i stopped eating anything at breakfast...then lunch became something i could grab quick..or just something standing up while cooking for the kids. Dinner was a normal meal, which was so good i would have an extra serving of this or that. I have never been a night time snacker. I would eat a few chips here and there. I wear mainly sweat pants in the winter..and you dont notice the first few pounds coming back. I was tired of exercise and took a night off and then it was easier to take the next day off and so on.. It was hubby calling saying he was going to grab something from drive thru and wanted to know what i wanted. It was slow little changes that caused me to gain back my 90 + another 45lbs. I know now I will have to make healthy choices forever. I will have to exercise forever. I will have to eat breakfast forever. Its not a battle I can stop because i won. I have a long way to go to get back to my goal.I plan on this being my last time to ever be this big. I will keep it off by counting calories and journaling forever.

04-10-2008, 11:53 AM
I read all of your responses late yesterday and I had to log off. I shared this with my DH. I would like to also share with you what I also think might shed some light on how "this could happen".

I have always had a debt problem from the first month that I decided to move away from my parents' home when I was 18. I had more month than money most of the time. I was and am still a spendthrift. Give me a nickel and I will spend six cents.

I have filed for bankruptcy once. And, statistically, it has been said that once you file bankruptcy you will also file again. I have come so close again but only my current DH stopped me. I have taken on second jobs and paid off my debts only to turn around and run my credit cards up again. Think I have a problem? I know I do!

Well, by being in debt so much and so often, it has affected my self-esteem, my credit history and I have lost the opportunity to own my own home. I can not blame high medical bills nor even unemployment. I simply overspent. I did not live within my means. Budget was a four letter word.

How can someone go through making the sacrifices of paying off their debts at the expense of not having any free time for six months, getting a four month virus from being run down and foregoing a raise at a primary job because of increased absences and still turn around two years later and not only be in the same boat but worse off???

I have now come to the conclusion that my :devil:twin devils :devil:in my life: my overspending and overeating, are really symptoms of my inability to effectively manage my life. Period. It is both that simple and that complicated.

I suspect that is really at the root of why this woman lost and regained 140 lbs. or why anyone regains weight. It is not just to lose the weight or pay off the debt (as in my case) but if you don't know why you got there in the first place, you will probably regain it back.

The extra weight is the tip of the iceberg. Again, it gets back to: its not about what you are eating but what is eating you (to paraphrase what Geneen Roth has said).

04-10-2008, 01:57 PM
This happened to me - here is my tale, and what I learned from it.

On August 27, 2006 I weighed 229 pounds. I had a 10-month smoking quit going, I was eating healthy, I was working out 90+ minutes 5-6 times a week, and I had lost 53 pounds since February 2006 (76 pounds from my all-time high in 2003). I was in the best shape I'd been in since the mid-90s, and I was sure I was going to go all the way to my goal weight.

On August 20, 2007 I weighed 307 pounds.

How the h*ll did this happen? Well, starting in mid-August 2006 . . .

I spent some time with extended family members who smoke, and felt secure enough in my quit to bum a lot of cigarettes over a long weekend. {BIG MISTAKE #1}

I took a road trip with a close friend I hadn't seen in a while. I decided I could buy and smoke just one pack of cigarettes on this trip. Since I don't much enjoy working out when I'm smoking, I decided I could afford to take the trip off from working out. {BIG MISTAKES #2 & 3}

The "just one pack" turned into many many packs, and I lost the quit. I decided it didn't make sense to get back to exercising until I quit smoking, and it didn't make sense to journal my food intake while I wasn't exercising. {BIG MISTAKES #4 & 5}

After weighing in and being horrified to discover I gained 10 pounds in September, I decided to stop weighing in until I got back on track. {BIG MISTAKE #6}

I took several long business/leisure trips to Northern California, during which I ate lots of restaurant meals and drank lots of wine. Although I didn't weigh in, I believe that I gained another 10-15 pounds or so (to around 255) by the end of 2006, and another 10 pounds or so (to around 265) by the end of April 2007. I knew I was gaining some weight during this period, but most of my clothes still fit and I just didn't let myself think about it much.

I quit smoking again in May 2007, and ate a lot more while getting through the first few months. I knew at this point I was in trouble - I had to get out my old clothes, and I finally got back on the scale in late August when even my biggest old clothes were getting too tight to wear. I "discovered" that I had gained another 40 pounds (to 307).

It took me a month to collect my wits enough to make a serious effort to get back on track. I lost about 10 pounds between October 1 and mid-November, but got off track during Thanksgiving travel to see family and stayed off track during another extended road trip, through the Christmas & New Year's holidays and through most of January.

By January 28, when I began my current plan, I had gained back that 10 pounds plus another 4, for my all-time highest weight of 311.

So, in the 12 months from September 2006 through September 2007, I gained approximately 1.5 pounds per week. This suggests a calorie excess of approximately 750 per day.

My exercise routine in August 2006 consisted of the following, 5-6 days per week (estimated calories burned by a 230 lb person from caloriesperhour.com):

30-45 min of stretching/pilates type exercise = 150-200 cal
30-45 min elliptical, or 5 miles brisk walk = 500-600 cal
30-45 min of weight training = 150-200 cal

TOTAL = 800-1,000 cal

Those numbers suggest that I could have avoided ALL of the weight gain (maintained at 229) while eating exactly as I did, simply by continuing my full workout routine. Or, I could have avoided 2/3 of the weight gain (gained to 255) while eating exactly as I did, simply by continuing to walk for about an hour a day. I could have maintained my weight loss, without giving up the restaurant meals and drinks with dinner while traveling, as long as I stayed reasonably active . . . and then, when back home and back to normal, returned to healthier/lighter eating habits and continued toward my goal weight.

For me, the conclusion is obvious . . . whatever else may be going on in my life, minimum exercise of walking for an hour on most days is essential to controlling my weight.

04-10-2008, 04:36 PM
I think you make some good points. I am only 2 months into maintenance and so far it's as much work. I am not trying to lose weight so I am actually exercising a bit less, eating about the same. For me I think both things are key, exercise and diet. My diet is for life because of diabetes so I feel like as long as I stay focused on that it will help me control my food. I do think I need to stay relatively active. I do notice I walk less now than I used to but my goal is never to walk less than 3 times a week. So far it's worked.

I had a worry moment about 2 weeks ago. I went on a short trip and it's just like you said, by design you have to eat out more. You can't cook on a vacation. And you try to make the best choices but the best choices aren't as cheap as some not so good choices. I gained maybe 7-10 pounds maybe, clearly that was due to some water retention cause I also wasn't having my required daily water. Anyway, the point is I got right back on my way of eating when I got home and I am now once again at my lowest weight ever and that's only with 3-4 days of walking a week. I did go right back to walking though, can't forget either one.

I think already that I am feeling that maintenance is all about controlling spikes, if you will. You watch that scale daily and get on top of situations as soon as you can. For me this almost always involves a trip. I am going to spend about 2 months away from home this summer and I am very worried about it but I am already making a plan on how to keep active and not eat out so much.

I do feel that keeping the weight off needs as much vigilance as losing it. Sadly that's the way of life for the reduced obese. We can't let out guard down.

04-10-2008, 05:55 PM
Pamatga -- I'm with you -- I had paid off my credit card and low and behold, it's up there again.

I see a direct correlation to my weight/eating and my spending. To me, it's an emotional/control issue. I know what I should be doing, how I should eat/spend, etc. -- but sometimes it's "easier" to let it all go.

But it really isn't easier. Sure, it would feel easier to not control myself and my bad habits but in the long run, the dicipline it takes to lose weight, curb the spending will make me a better, stronger person.

It's going to be a challenge every day but if I'm up to it, it will only reward me.

I have an irritational fear that when I lose weight those around me will point out how fat I was and it will make me feel bad or that I will gain it all back and they will make fun of me. I swear it's my alter-ego trying to get the better of me -- let me tell you -- I'm ready to wrestle her to the ground and beat the crap out of her so she will leave me alone!!! :D

I decided this time it's very important to live through the day -- not think about next week, next month, next year -- If I can go to bed binge free, I always wake up ready to tackle another day. :)

04-10-2008, 06:49 PM
I think already that I am feeling that maintenance is all about controlling spikes, if you will. You watch that scale daily and get on top of situations as soon as you can.

Very, very well said! This time around, that's exactly what I'm going to do.

Congratulations on making & maintaining your goal weight and getting off your diabetes meds.

04-10-2008, 11:53 PM
This is an amazingly good thread. I have to say, in my lifetime of ups and downs on the scale, and even in my 11 months of being relatively successful at weight control, I have related to most everything said on this board.

When I am on plan, I feel so great about what I'm eating and how I'm feeling, I can't ever imagine how or why I would go off plan. When I go off plan for more than a meal or two, it can seem pretty overwhelming to get back on plan and commit to being on plan for life. Then, I can't imagine how anyone could possibly be successful long-term. I like what Traci said, and I wish it were the same for me. I HATE eating a whole bag of Oreos, but I know that I am still - despite all of this - inclined to do that. I have eaten past the point of comfort or even pleasure too many times to believe that the pleasure of food is my motivation for eating it.

For me, when life gets really crazy, I feel like I'm doing everything I can to keep it together and I just can't manage to get the exercise in. Then, I run out of healthy food, and I realize that it's so simple just to buy the inexpensive, nutrient-poor, calorie-dense food that it's so much easier to prepare for a large family or to do the fast food thing. The simple fact is - it's way easy to gain weight. If I don't exercise, I am not at risk of being fired. If I don't fnish a work assignment, I have to start wondering about where my family will live if I lose my house. And when I am working too much, I don't sleep much, so the scale is not my friend, and it's easy to decided that it's not worth the bother.

So, I absolutely see how she could regain it. I actually wonder if I keep sabotaging my last leg of weight loss because it's easier to stay focused on losing weight than maintaining weight loss.

Trazey, good luck to you and your friend. Please let her know that we here in the trenches have nothing but respect for her ability to fight on despite the setback. No one knows how hard it is like we do!

04-11-2008, 09:37 AM
I see a direct correlation to my weight/eating and my spending. To me, it's an emotional/control issue. I know what I should be doing, how I should eat/spend, etc. -- but sometimes it's "easier" to let it all go.

I was watching Suze Orman one night and she talked a little bit about how money and weight relate. She said often times when people get their finances under control, they tend to lose weight (if they had a weight problem). She thought that was an interesting phenomenon.

04-11-2008, 12:33 PM
In the past I worked very hard and lost 35 pounds, three times. I regained it PLUS some each time.

How I Regained Weight:
1. I stopped weighing. Ignorance is bliss.
2. When my clothes got tight I just put on the next higher size and didnt think about it. I wore a lot of stretch pants.
3. I stopped counting calories
4. I stopped exercising.

Turn those 4 things around and you really can't gain too much without effort...

1. Weighing daily and seeing the scale creep up is a reality check, and at some point you say, oh my gosh, I have to stop. It's not a shock of waiting 2 months and weighing in 20 pounds heavier.
2. Wearing jeans or non stretch clothes STOPS you from gaining too much or you'll be walking around naked. I get rid of all the fat clothes so going up a size is just not an option.
3. Counting calories even when you are off plan makes you stop and think. No more mindless packing in the food and ignoring reality.
4. Exercise helps keep you on track and burn those calories. Keep this healthy habit.

That's my plan, anyway!

04-11-2008, 09:30 PM
I was watching Suze Orman one night and she talked a little bit about how money and weight relate. She said often times when people get their finances under control, they tend to lose weight (if they had a weight problem). She thought that was an interesting phenomenon.

I find that really interesting. Before my journey began, I got my finances under control. I began a budget designed to reduce my debt. I started writing down everything I spent and added it all up in an excel sheet. It was wonderful and spending became harder to do when I knew I'd have to account for it later. Slowly but surely, I've climbed out of my debt and I will be debt free by this September, some three years later.

After I began budgeting, I got diagnosed with Diabetes and I found the accountability that had really helped me with money, helped with food. It was easier to avoid food when I knew I'd have to write it down. For a few months, I wrote down everything I ate, trying to figure out what spiked my sugar. Anyway, I found that discipline very helpful during my weight loss.