100 lb. Club - how do i not drown in despair?




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avi0903
03-26-2008, 09:21 AM
I'm not usually so down, but it seems I have just woken up to the task at hand - losing 100 pounds. I've read your posts and am so happy to have found this site - so many of you have actually done it! It gives me faith that it can be done.

I am hormonal today (pms) so maybe that's why I'm down. And I'm going on vacation in 3 weeks and feel this pressure to lose a significant amount before my family sees me. I'm feeling totally overwhelmed with this.

How do I calm down and just do it in a reasonable, day by day manner?


Lovely
03-26-2008, 09:30 AM
I actually have a goal each & every day of making sure I do healthy things. Does it always work? No. Does it work 90% of the time? Yep!

Eating well for today. Exercising for today. Drinking my water for today. Definitely helps keep me focused on the now, rather than the entire journey.

And mini-goals. Mini-goals of all kinds! I'm about 5 lbs away from my current mini weight goal at the moment!

Schmoodle
03-26-2008, 09:31 AM
avi, I started 10 months ago with 100 lbs. to lose, so I can understand the view from where you are standing! First of all, I would encourage you to keep reading the stories on 3fc that show that it can be done. Don't focus on the 100 lbs. right now. I am just a little over halfway, but already there are so many benefits. Even at 25 or 30 lbs. lost, my health, energy, and outlook were so much better! Don't put pressure on yourself over the vacation. You are not going to lose 100 lbs. or probably even 20, in 3 weeks. But you could be down a few lbs., and you could be enthusiastic about your progress, feeling great, and well on your way to some great new healthy habits by then. I guess my point here is that it can be done, but it is a process and a journey, and you have to be willing to make a commitment for the long haul. It is SO worth it. Right now you are overwhelmed by the number, but each and every day you make progress toward your goal, your life will improve.


LaurieDawn
03-26-2008, 09:33 AM
The start of the journey can be so hard. It's easy to focus on the distance rather than the rewards along the way. So, maybe it would help to share with you some of the incredible things that I predict will happen to you in the next two or three weeks?

Your body will begin to adjust to eating lower amounts of food. As you begin to turn down food that is not on your plan, you will feel stronger, more confident in yourself. When you slip (as all of us do) and realize that the slips don't define you - the everyday success defines you - you will gain confidence and embrace that this is the new you. The new you recognizes that, as Sandi's signature says, it's about consistency rather than perfection. As you start to eat healthier foods and shun the unhealthy ones, your body will feel so much better.

As you start to exercise, you will embrace it as a way to cope with life's stressors. You will be able to do more things with your friends and family than you could before, and exercise will become a reward in itself. Your body will be stronger, and you will become much more in tune with it as you push yourself to increasing the amount and intensity of the exercise. Even if you're only starting with a 5 or 10-minute walk, you will feel accomplished as you stay on track.

Finally, you will realize that your health has as much value to you as your work and family obligations. Making yourself a priority will benefit every area of your life. There isn't an area of my life that hasn't been touched by the weight loss journey, and almost all of the impact has been positive. (I was grouchy the other day, and my husband asked me why I had stopped exercising. I hadn't, and when I asked him why he thought that I had, he said I was way too mean to still be exercising.)

You don't have to lose 100 pounds. Losing ten pounds will make your life so much better. Then, you might choose to lose another ten pounds and improve it even more after that. Then, you might choose to maintain for a while - or even to lose another ten pounds. I've been working at this for ten months, and still have not lose my 100 pounds. But I feel really great about the seven times I decided to lose 10!

You so can do this. If you haven't done so, I recommend you read the succdess stories of people who have done it. They are amazing people, but then again, so are you, right?

MamaToTomAndAlex
03-26-2008, 09:35 AM
I've been where you are and I know exactly how you are feeling.

Recently I've been inspired by a quote that Mezmerize has in her signature and I'm probably going to steal it and add it to mine! :lol: .... It says... : "I cannot lose 100lbs... but I can lose 10lbs 10 times" ....

It's so true. Break it down into little chunks. Don't overwhelm yourself with the big picture, but see it in small... manageable chunks. Don't let the size of the task stop you from taking it on in the first place.... else before you know it that 100lbs will be 110.... etc. etc.

You CAN do it. This group is phenomenally supportive. Use that support. Use the people here to help you succeed.

Together we CAN.... ;)

*hugs*

WinterStarzz
03-26-2008, 09:36 AM
Take a deep breath. Remember, it took you longer than a few weeks to gain the weight, and it's going to take you longer than a few weeks to lose it. Celebrate the small successes along the way. Make a good decision for breakfast today? Pat yourself on the back! That is one more step in the right direction. Sometimes even taking it day by day can be overwhelming. Break it down. Set even smaller goals for yourself if it helps. Sometimes getting through the day can be a huge task. Remember that each good decision you make is a step closer to your goal. You can't, in a safe way, lose a huge amount of weight in 3 weeks. Don't expect yourself to. Don't feel bad for not being able to. Set small, reasonable goals. Don't weigh yourself all the time, because the fluctuations will drive you nuts. Your family is going to be proud of you for taking control and making a healthier you. And visit often! These girls have helped me through lots of bad days, diet related and life related. This is an inspiring place to be.

findingfawn
03-26-2008, 09:44 AM
You can do this! Set some smaller goals for yourself and don't be too hard on yourself if you fall off the horse from time to time! Just like making a list of things you need to clean or things you need to pack, make a list of things you need to do for you today: eat a healthy breakfast, exercise for X amount of minutes, have a healthy snack, eat a healthy lunch, have a healthy snack, have a healthy dinner, endulge in a light dessert (sugar free jello and fat free cool whip anyone?), drink at least 8 glasses of water... etc. I find if I'm very specific with myself I do the best!

Good luck, and I'm sure you will look great for your family!

sweettart08
03-26-2008, 10:18 AM
I totally know where you're coming from....I am having trouble adjusting too, but it's getting easier every day (I've been at it for 3 weeks). When I feel like I want to skip my 2 mile run on the treadmill (the majority of the time)...I tell myself "That's not an option right now - when the 2 miles is up, you can sit down!!!". I know that if I get off now, I'll have to start over, but if I keep on running....sooner or later it will feel natural.

I just keep at it one day at a time and be sure to talk myself up when I reach even the smallest goal:
*drinking all 4 of my daily bottles of water
*eating healthy all day
*saying no to something I shouldn't have (yesterday I picked up 2 mini Reese's PB cups and walked out of the room so I wouldn't be tempted to eat more...I ate one, and actually went and put the 2nd one back....HUGE accomplishment!!!!)

Something that I've noticed is that now that I am moving myself in a healthier direction physically and emotionally, I am becoming more accepting of the skin I'm in...even now I feel more confident in my clothes just knowing that soon enough, I will look great in them!!

And lastly, I seriously get on 3FC at LEAST 3x/day....this forum has been a huge support and these ladies are wonderful!! Soooo - stick around and you might find that you are having fun sometimes. I said in another thread that calorie counting has become almost a hobby for me :)

If you need anything...ask. Someone will have something to say - if only to give you the encouragment you need to make it through that one day. Remember...one day at a time.....:hug:

Smiling_Sara
03-26-2008, 10:23 AM
I'm not usually so down, but it seems I have just woken up to the task at hand - losing 100 pounds. I've read your posts and am so happy to have found this site - so many of you have actually done it! It gives me faith that it can be done.

I am hormonal today (pms) so maybe that's why I'm down. And I'm going on vacation in 3 weeks and feel this pressure to lose a significant amount before my family sees me. I'm feeling totally overwhelmed with this.

How do I calm down and just do it in a reasonable, day by day manner?

:hug: You have to focus on day to day and make healthy choices. Don't focus at the 100 lbs at hand, like others said, start small, with mini goals. Don't feel pressure to lose a significant amount before your vacation, that isn't a healthy way to lose weight. Slow and steady wins the race. And don't stress about your family seeing you, they love you for you, not what number shows up on the scale.

Trazey34
03-26-2008, 11:25 AM
and everything's relative, right? I'd be excited that you're ONLY 250!!! I didn't have my "moment of clarity" until I tipped the scales at 320!!! so be happy you're waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay under 300 ehhehe that's something to be happy about!! and pretty soon you'll be in the 240's etc. etc.

Just concentrate on 10 lbs, you can do that :) and then do it again... and repeat as often as necessary. I've done it 6 times myself :) and I have a bunch more to do yet but I won't let it get me down...so keep the faith girlie and you can do it !

avi0903
03-26-2008, 11:47 AM
Hi -

You are all the most amazing people around. You make me feel that I can really do it this time, and that I can keep coming back for strength.

Since yesterday I think I have come here about 10 times already - either posting and trying to be supportive to others, and just reading your stories. Thank you!!

Your ideas and suggestions make it sound more realistic. I like the idea of just thinking about 10 pounds at a time. And then your right - I can continue, or stand still for a while, my choice. That way of thinking makes me feel less desperate, more empowered. And I love the idea of thinking my family will love me for who I am (though I think they will also look at my fat).

Thank you Faerie, Laurie, Schmoodle, Mama, Winter, Fawn, Sweettart & Born. You all, each and every one, have made my day easier. Seriously, when I got to work today I was in such a funk, such despair. I think I scared my daughter last night. We were out shopping for the trip, nothing fit, I looked in the mirror, and just freaked! And the feeling never left me. Till I came here. Thank you.

gina1221
03-26-2008, 12:02 PM
Trust me, I know exactly how you feel. Starting out I had 160 lbs to lose and it just felt overwhelming. So like most have said, take it slow, set mini goals, and before you know it you'll be surprised at how much progress you have made.

When I started out, I probably spent too much time thinking about how far I had to go... I would look at my ticker and cry. Now I look at my ticker and cry because I'm so happy with how far I've come. I know it's a long journey but it's definitely a journey worth making.

I'm not sure who said this but I keep a list of quotes that motivate and inspire me and I read them often - here's one of my favorites:

"Do you believe in the worth of your own pursuits? If so, then what could possibly prevent you from following them? If you're looking for a sure thing, then here's one -- everything you achieve will come only from the things you attempt. In order to succeed, you must proceed. Today is a great day to start."

ChefsGirl
03-26-2008, 12:04 PM
What a great thread. As someone who has a lot left to go, this is good stuff.

I think the mini-goals are KEY to us that have a significant amount of weight to lose. I set tons of them and reward myself when they are reached. Take advantage of some of the challenges on the message boards, they are a fun way to stay motivated and accountable.

It took me a long time to realize that this isn’t a race to the finish. It’s what I do over the long term that matters, not what I can stick to for a few days or weeks.

I love what everyone keeps saying about looking at it at losing 10 lbs at a time. That seems SO much more doable than the big picture. Thanks for the perspective!

avi0903
03-26-2008, 01:56 PM
I agree about the 10 pounds at a time. I went walking during lunch today with a friend (second time in a row! - yesterday was my first day on this website and it inspired me to walk, and I did it again today) and told her about losing 10 pounds 10 times, and she loved that perspective. I feel like I have gained some wisdom from you all already, and I am sharing it with others.

Gina, I love your quote. Very uplifting and motivating. You have come so far! Can you share your story? How did you start? What gave you the push? Do you have pictures?

valpal23
03-26-2008, 02:27 PM
ha ha I came to this thread to read about how hard sticking to a healthy lifestyle is (it's what I'm feeling like today!) - but instead I got a good reminder about what it takes to succeed :) So much great advice! keep checking in avi - 3fc has a way of picking ya up when things are rough.

avi0903
03-26-2008, 03:49 PM
Thank you Val, I really have found this place to be so supportive and like a family. Everyone caring about each other in this struggle to be healthy. And in such a positive way! I would love to read each of your stories, because it seems many of you are well on your way to health and thinness! Trazey, how did you do it? Do you have pictures? Val, I looked and you are beautiful! How did you do it? How do you start? What makes you start?

Lyn2007
03-26-2008, 04:55 PM
I think everyone has given wonderful advice! I, too, try and think in ten pound segments. At first, even ten pounds seemed impossible, but it did happen, and then another ten, and another. And not long ago I was stuck and stalled at 30 pounds gone, and I got some real inspiration here on this forum. And within 2 and a half weeks I had lost another ten. Now I am working on my fifth ten pounds.

When I started, my "goal" was to lose 110 pounds. But even in my head I knew I would still need to lose more after that. To get to my real goal, I'd have to lose 130 pounds!! That just made me dizzy to think about.

But recently, I realized that I no longer even have 100 pounds to lose anymore. Even with my "real" goal, I am well on my way and I am so excited. So I just focus on the next 10 pounds.

And as for 30 or 40 pounds making a difference, it sure does. I didn't even see it until I posted the pictures on my blog and got so many great comments about the huge difference. I am finally starting to see it myself!

You can do this!

avi0903
03-27-2008, 08:14 AM
I can't wait to be able to let you all know I've lost my first 10. It sure does seem slow moving, but after finding all of you, I'm finally beginning to believe I can do it.

fiberlover
03-27-2008, 08:15 AM
Avi - of course you can do it! All it takes is patience and a plan!

avi0903
03-28-2008, 10:06 AM
Lori, you seem to have the same stats as me - just you are an inch taller. How do you do it? You've made such progress! I know it's one day at a time, and I've been good since Monday. It just seems to daunting!

fiberlover
03-28-2008, 10:56 AM
Lori, you seem to have the same stats as me - just you are an inch taller. How do you do it? You've made such progress! I know it's one day at a time, and I've been good since Monday. It just seems to daunting!

You can pull how I do it right out of your question one day at a time

I've been at this for 4 years, and to say it has been a struggle at times is putting it mildly. But, I figure there is no choice but to continue - I don't see any other viable alternative that would make me happy.

I am now at a point where I feel it has been soooo worth it. I feel awesome, fit and I eat good food. I understand how my body reacts to different foods now, and what good nutrition is for me.

This isn't to say I don't have those days where I eat bad stuff, but I get back right away on plan. I don't even wait for the next day, I do it the next meal. And I don't feel guilty about it.

avi0903
03-29-2008, 10:07 PM
Thank you Lori. I tend to not realize it takes time. I keep thinking I can lose 100 pounds in a week! What's wrong with me? Anyway, I'm here now. Really ready. And I read your blog and looked at your progress pictures. You look amazing. And inspiring. Thank you.

xtrisaratops
03-29-2008, 11:46 PM
I think the key is remembering that this is NOT a race, by any stretch of the imagination. We didn't gain it overnight, and we surely can't lose it overnight. It takes time, but it doesn't have to be a bad experience.

It's not about the destination as much as it's about the journey. Along the way, we're learning how to make better choices, and how to be healthier people over all, not just thin. I could be thin and just as unhealthy as I am now, and I certainly don't want that.

Just take it day by day, and choice by choice. One meal or one snack isn't going to "make" you lose it all overnight, but it can definitely get you started on the right track. There will be times when it's hard and when you feel like quitting, or when the scale doesn't move...but the scale being still is better than it going up, right?

Come here for support when you need it, and above all else, don't be afraid to be human. We aren't machines, and sometimes we fall down or need help, and that's perfectly OK.

snflrgrl1962
03-30-2008, 12:40 AM
I know how you feel. I have 130lbs to lose and it feels almost impossible. I love the 10 lb mini-goals. I am going to start saying I have 10lbs to lose 13x.

Idealmuse
03-30-2008, 12:45 AM
I'm pretty much on the same wavelength as everyone else... (think small yadda yadda)

Seriously though do yourself a favor and just get started before you know it you'll be looking UP at those old numbers and be just as far away. :)

avi0903
03-30-2008, 10:29 AM
Thank you, all. 10lb. goals. That's what I'll do. I'm so sad, though. It's hard! But I'll come here for support. I look at so many of you who are actually doing it, not just talking about it. Thanks for being here.

Gardenwife
03-30-2008, 01:06 PM
Avi, I'm a longtime 3FC member, but a sporadic poster. I'm right with you on the 100 pounds. In 2005 I got down to 199, but went back to old habits after my husband had back surgery and we had a crazy time of no schedules and lots of time on our hands. I regained 41 pounds of my loss. SO, here I am again. All that is to say, I understand how you're feeling.

Something I wanted to suggest to you, other than the mini goals others have mentioned, is to look at more than just your weight. You are more than just an obese woman. Much more! Skinny or fat, we all tend to compare our worst traits or characteristics to others' best traits and characteristics.

We think, "if only I were like so-and-so, I would be happy". What we don't know is how so-and-so struggles with her own personal demons and cries out in her heart to be like someone else. It does us no good to compare ourselves among ourselves. The only person you truly have to prove anything to is you.

If you know you're taking the steps to change, what should it matter if others don't see it? I know it does matter to us -- a lot -- but should it? You're doing what's right for you, and though the outward appearance is going to take a while to change, the inward you is a rock star!

Think about the good things you offer to people. You're far more than just a body. You're a whole person and those who truly love you know this.

avi0903
03-30-2008, 09:04 PM
Thank you Garden. It is hard to see more than the fat, and especially now that I finally decided to do something about it, it's all that I focus on. I hope when I see my family, they will be happy that I have started on the road to weight loss, and that they won't drag me down by thinking I haven't lost enough. But I will be strong, and I will persevere, thanks to you all. You all are an amazing, inspiring group of people. Thank you!

ThatsSpify
03-30-2008, 09:24 PM
WOW :hug: Thank you everyone some of the posts totally got my mind in the right place. I can't wait till I can get a signature and post my ticker.... My new motivation speach to myself will be hey girl its just 10 lbs 10 times

dgramie
03-30-2008, 09:51 PM
I think picking out small non food rewards is a good idea. Someone on this site gets charms for a bracelet. i give myself a jumper on the bottom of my signature for every 5lbs I loose. I cant wait to get the next one. I jump on a minitramp daily so it kinds fit me.
I can totally relate to the idea of a hundred pound loss seeming impossible ...but its not it can be a done a day at a time.
My husband teases me because i use the computer so much...he knows im checking out the posts and he said that he is glad i come here and enjoy it so much,,,and its working!!!!!!

cinderpa
03-31-2008, 08:33 AM
When I feel that losing all this weight seems overwhelming, I keep reminding myself that if I keep eating healthy even with the occasional slip, I will lose it little by little. There is no time deadline that must be met. The reason I think I failed in my past attempts to lose weight is because I was very impatient and wanted alot of weight to come off like right now! and got discouraged when that didn't happen. Slow and steady wins the race.

avi0903
03-31-2008, 10:10 AM
I agree with you , Cinderpa. I always want the weight to come off fast and easy. Now I think, I hope, I finally get it. I'm finally ready to take the time to do what I need to do. Eat right, exercise, and keep coming here for support. This place really is the best.

I do have a hard time with night eating, though. I can be great all day. Then, after my daughter goes to bed, I just eat. Now I eat less, and what I eat is healthier than it used to be. But still, I need to find a strategy to cut out the night eating.

Gardenwife
03-31-2008, 11:04 AM
(((Avi))) You can do this.

Nice ticker!

barbygirl43
03-31-2008, 11:21 AM
I hate it when we finally get one of those moments where we know we can tackle our weight issue. I know I was so full of motivation and I can do attitude that it about drown me because I just knew it could all be done with the simple act of admitting it needed to be done and making a few small changes. WRONG!! It is very hard. It's the hardest thing I've ever done but it's so worth it. My big thing is planning. Plan my meals, plan my exercise, plan everything and then try to stick to my plan. Most days it works and that's what's worked for me. I'm sure once you find something that will fit your lifestyle it will get easier and before long, you're going to look back and think, Yeah I did all that. :)

Hopefulpinkangel
03-31-2008, 11:29 AM
You can do it! I can't say anything better than what's already been said. Small goals and non food treats are great ideas!

Someone once told me "You can only eat an elephant one bite at a time" It's so true, take things one day at a time, one step at a time. It's a journey not a race. Good luck!

avi0903
04-01-2008, 09:48 AM
You all are the best!!! I love coming here. Thanks for all the understanding. So last night I went out with my daughter and we bought a big bag of Lays chips with sea salt. Why did I buy it? I don't even know. Then after she went to bed it was like calling to me! I went down with every intention of having some. Instead, I cut a piece of melon. It was a big piece. Actually, it was half the melon! But still, a better choice than the chips. And thinking about all of you and your successes was my motivation. So thank you!

LaurieDawn
04-01-2008, 10:15 AM
But still, I need to find a strategy to cut out the night eating.

This is my Achilles heel as well. My strategy - which is all the more doable with spring coming! - is to take a walk or go to the gym when I feel all munchy. Especially at first, I would try to talk myself into going to the store to buy something I didn't need. So my bargain with myself was that I could buy it if I walked to the store (about two miles) to buy it. After I walked there, I had no desire for the item any more, plus I burned a few calories with my strategy.

Other stragegies are to do something with your hands to keep busy, to read health-related material to remind yourself why you're saying no, to drink water, to establish a cut-off time for when you're done eating and commit to it, etc. Lots of things you can do, and once the habits become ingrained, it becomes easier to make the good choices than the bad.

Good job on the melon, BTW! This is hard, but definitely doable. And with each success will come greater motivation to keep going, even when it seems like you've been doing it forever. And since our plan is to do it forever, that will be something that you get used to as well!

Oh - and one more thing - get the garbage out of your house! I always think during the day that I can decide not to eat certain foods (and during the day, I usually can), but by the evening, I want to eat everything. Your daughter will appreciate you helping her avoid the junk food addiction!

Laurie

avi0903
04-03-2008, 03:39 PM
Laurie you are so right! I buy junk food during the day, thinking "oh, it's for my daughter" (although why am I buying her junk?), and I do avoid it during the day. But then at night, after she's in bed, I run to the food!

Walking would be a good alternative, but after she's in bed I'm stuck in the house. I could do an exercise video, and there are some nights I do. But last night I must admit I had 2 peanut butter cups and 2 small bags of Doritos. I felt so disgusted with myself after I ate. Why did I do that? Even now I feel disgusted just admitting it here.

Today's another day. Tonight's another night. I hope I do better! I want my ticker to move down some more.

californiajuls
04-03-2008, 04:20 PM
There will never be a perfect time to start your journey. You just have to decide to do it. I have been playing the old game of I will start on New years, No on Monday, No Next Month and pretty soon you realize that 10 years have gone by and you are still stuck in your routine. Remember if nothing changes, nothing changes.

fiberlover
04-03-2008, 04:26 PM
avi - get that stuff out of your house!! It can't tempt you if it's not there. Seriously, your daughter doesn't need it either :)

Throw it out. It may seem like wasted money, but you already wasted the money when you purchased it. You don't need the added guilt of bingeing on it.

LaurieDawn
04-03-2008, 04:37 PM
In the long run, those 2 peanut butter cups and 2 small bags of Doritos are a pretty small slip-up. It's all a matter of acknowledging that you will never be perfect, of figuring out why you slipped up like that and developing a strategy of how to make better decisions in the future. For me, keeping the stuff out of my house is the biggest indicator of whether or not I will have those slip-ups. I also watch those shows about the morbidly obese and realize that I was on a course to wind up in one of those hospitals one day. Most days, I would rather deprive myself of the peanut butter cups (which are my fave candy, btw) than to deprive myself of the ability to play with my kids, be a productive person and enjoy feeling more "normal."

But, please, please, please don't feel disgusted or ashamed of those bad decisions you've made. We ALL make them. In my experience, shame motivates people to hide and repeat bad behaviors. Forgiving yourself and understanding that you are not a slave to your habits is a much more effective strategy for me.

It's tough, and it's a process. It's all about continuing to try. By examining the behavior and trying to change it, you are doing what you need to do to enjoy lots of continued success!

Lyn2007
04-03-2008, 04:55 PM
How I tackled my night eating problem:

1. I never buy the foods I used to eat at night. I have 5 kids and they dont need it either, although ON OCCASION I will go and buy them each ONE donut, or something. I dont keep it in the house.

2. After dinner I do not eat. I get up from the table and go brush and floss my teeth and use mouthwash. The ONLY exception is I may have a cup of tea in the evening, or if I am hungry (real hunger with a growling stomach) I will eat 6 almonds. That's it. Nothing else. The teeth brushing is a good habit and cue for stopping the eating.

3. Do something. Sew or write or call a friend or read a book, but no eating.

You can do it. Don't give up.

Gardenwife
04-03-2008, 05:50 PM
In my experience, shame motivates people to hide and repeat bad behaviors.

LaurieDawn, you hit the nail on the head with that.

I'm going to try brushing my teeth after dinner, Lyn. Good tip.

Doragone
04-05-2008, 07:54 PM
Hi all,
I'm fairly new to 3fc and found this site and read every single entry! I am very encouraged. I have 100 lbs to lose and the 10X thing is one I will incorporate into my thoughts. I have been in a dieting slump lately, eating like there was no tomorrow. Just before that, I had done quite well and was 25 pounds lighter than I am now (245). I felt better, looked better and I just don't know what sent me off the edge . . .

This group is a good one for me, I identify with Avi so much. Adding back the bottles of water, not eating after dinner, being patient with the pounds lost, etc. are all cues you all have reminded me to keep before me. I will return here to see how everyone's doing and to report my progress as well.

Thanks for all the support and good info.

Dora

avi0903
04-05-2008, 09:04 PM
Welcome Dora - the people here are the best support in the world. Sometimes my daughter comes into the den and finds me here. At first she was like 3 fat chicks? What's that? It's a funny name. And I told her this is the best place for me. It's where I can talk about my eating and ways to get healthy, and really to just talk to a bunch of great people. And now when she sees me here, she tells me how happy she is that I found this place. So thanks!

I need to keep incorporating what you all talk about until it's a part of me. California, you're right. If nothing changes, nothing changes. Fiber, I know. I need to get the crap out of the house. Laurie, you're right. When I feel the shame, I eat more. I wish I could forgive myself. I wish I could let go of whatever it is that drives me to eat. Lyn, it is a good idea to brush my teeth. Today I was thinking I should do that 2 week tooth whitening treatment. Every night I could put on those strips, leave them on for a half hour, and then I won't feel like eating and ruining my teeth. After 2 weeks, maybe I'll have a new good habit.
I had hoped though, that I would be able to move my ticker down. All I've lost is 2 pounds since coming here (which I mark as my new beginning). It's been 2 weeks. I lost 2 pounds the first week, which I really thought I should lose more. And this past week, depending on how I read my scale, I only lost 1 pound. Which really doesn't count. I was hoping for like 10 pounds. So I'm disappointed. I really shouldn't be disappointed, because I keep eating the junk food.
Maybe this week I'll do better. I keep coming here, looking at everyone's ticker moving down. I know you're all working at it, it doesn't just happen. This week I will do better! I know it. Thank you all. You are the best.

Doragone
04-05-2008, 09:52 PM
Thanks Avi for the welcome, I have to get active in the support portion because I think too often, I try to do it all alone. My husband sabotages I think because he is also overweight and doesn't want me to "leave" him in that respect. I don't have much real contact with others because I am a contract RN and make my own schedule, work alone, so no co-workers to diet with or talk to. I'm grateful for this site. Look forward to the time I can have a ticker too and post a picture. Till then you'll just have to imagine a curly-haired, blue-eyed nurse with a weight problem, who is happy to be right here.

Dora

avi0903
04-06-2008, 08:44 PM
Today didn't go so well. I didn't eat all day, literally nothing. I was running around, doing errands with 2 of my kids. We go home around 8:30, decided to do chinese take-out! I was hungry. Had wonton soup, fried chicken wings, and lemon chicken and rice. Why did I do that? Now I'm sitting here, feeling like crying.
Tomorrow's another day.

Doragone
04-09-2008, 12:49 AM
Sorry to hear of your down day Avi, but hope springs eternal, eh? I am doing better, down about 4 lbs. Drinking a lot more water, trying to be aware of why I want to eat when I do, then if I must eat, eating something nutritious, not necessarily diet. I hope I'm gettin' the hang of it, hope you will too. Good luck.

Doragone
04-13-2008, 12:50 AM
Hi,
Where is everyone? I look forward to your encouragement. I spent some time in the vegetable garden (weeding/digging) Doing pretty well on the eating part too, eating a bit less meat, cutting fat and drinking water. 6 lbs lost now and feeling more confident. It'll also help getting my own vegetables here at home and with summer, all the great fruit - this is looking positive! Hope all is going well for you Avi and all.

Dora

Doragone
04-16-2008, 01:14 AM
You are all so inspiring! I love to read your encouraging words, they seem just like they are meant for me. Thank you all for being here and sharing.

I've done better today, wrote down everything I ate and was in my range. Didn't do well with water, but tomorrow . . .

I want to be accountable to someone and this is the place i think . . .